Shift With Beth

Beth Schild
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Change is inevitable, but a "shift" is intentional. Welcome to Shift with Beth, a podcast dedicated to helping you navigate life’s transitions with clarity and confidence. Whether you’re looking to overhaul your career, improve your mental well-being, or simply see the world through a different lens, Beth explores the psychology and practical steps behind meaningful change. Each episode features solo deep-dives and expert interviews designed to help you stop overthinking and start shifting.

  1. 2d ago

    It's Never Too Late to Begin Again: Choosing Yourself After Years of Self-Abandonment with Stephanie

    What happens when the life you've spent decades building no longer feels like a life you can stay in? And what if the thing keeping you there isn't that you don't know what you want, but that your body doesn't yet feel safe enough to make a change? In this episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, I'm joined by my dear friend Stephanie O'Hara, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, coach, and retreat leader, for a conversation about survival, self-abandonment, and what becomes possible when you finally begin choosing yourself. Stephanie and I met during our Somatic Experiencing training in 2024, and I've had the privilege of witnessing her life transform in ways that once felt impossible to her. We also talk about the shame that can come with staying in an unhealthy situation, why survival isn't failure, and how healing can change not only your relationship with yourself but also your relationships with your children and the people you love. If you've ever wondered whether it's too late to change your life, leave something that no longer feels right, or experience a kind of freedom you've never known before, I hope you'll listen to Stephanie's story. Because sometimes what we call starting over is actually beginning again as the person we're finally allowing ourselves to be. In This Episode, We Talk About:Recognizing the freeze response and feeling stuckWhy awareness comes before meaningful changeLeaving a 27-year marriage after years in survival modeHow Somatic Experiencing supported Stephanie's healingReleasing shame and self-judgment about the pastRecognizing childhood patterns of self-abandonmentChoosing yourself without needing everyone's approvalRebuilding your life and career in your 50sFinding freedom through travel and meaningful workLearning to be seen after years of hidingFalling in love again without losing yourselfWhy it's never too late to begin againAbout StephanieStephanie O’Hara, M.Ed., is a speaker, Somatic Experiencing® practitioner, somatic coach, educator, and international retreat leader whose work explores the intersection of the nervous system, trauma, and what it means to reclaim your voice and your life. Through her one-on-one somatic work, Stephanie specializes in supporting individuals navigating trauma, chronic stress, the impact of addiction and family dysfunction, autoimmune conditions, and medical trauma. She has a particular passion for working with women in midlife who are ready to move beyond patterns of people-pleasing, overfunctioning, and putting everyone else's needs before their own. Drawing on her background in education, nervous system healing, and nearly a decade of leading transformational retreats, Stephanie brings her work to life through speaking engagements, private coaching, workshops, and immersive international experiences. Her signature talk, The Things We Swallow, explores the connection between the nervous system, the things we silence, and what becomes possible when women begin to reclaim their voices. Stephanie's work invites women to challenge old patterns, reconnect with their bodies, and make bold choices about how they want to live. Connect With StephanieInstagram Upcoming Retreat: The Art of Receiving | Greece Retreat June 5–12, 2027 An immersive international retreat centered on embodiment, connection, and the art of receiving.

  2. Oct 20

    You May Not Realize What the Highest Form of Love Is

    Have you ever been in a relationship where you loved someone deeply, but didn't feel considered by them? Maybe they rarely asked what you needed. Maybe they made decisions without thinking about how those decisions would affect you. Or maybe you became so used to taking care of everyone else that you stopped expecting anyone to take care of you. In this episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, my fiancé Randy is back, and we're talking about something that has become one of our favorite ways to understand love: consideration. This conversation started after I shared a reel about consideration being the highest form of love. It reached so many people, and the comments were heartbreaking. Women and men sharing what it felt like to go years without being considered, or to experience that kind of care and then lose it. Randy and I both know what that feels like. And we also know how healing it can be to finally experience a relationship where someone notices you, thinks about you, remembers what matters to you, and genuinely wants to know how they can support you. We're sharing some of our favorite personal stories, including the moment Randy refused to leave me behind at an airport, the little notes I hide in his suitcase, and how we've learned to communicate and validate each other without trying to fix everything. We also talk about an important distinction: consideration isn't people-pleasing. It isn't putting someone else's needs above your own or constantly anticipating what will keep them happy. Healthy consideration means you matter, and I matter too. If you've spent years feeling unseen in your relationships, or you've been the person who considers everyone except yourself, I hope you'll listen to this conversation. Because sometimes the first person who needs more of your consideration is you. In This Episode, We Talk About:Why consideration can feel like a powerful expression of loveWhat it means to feel seen and rememberedLearning to receive care without feeling like a burdenConsideration versus people-pleasingHow self-trust supports healthy considerationThe airport story that changed how I experienced loveSmall gestures that make someone feel importantHonoring your partner's history and emotional needsWhy validation doesn't require agreementHow honest communication shows considerationTeaching consideration to childrenLearning to consider your own needsConsideration Isn't Self-AbandonmentOne of the most important things we discuss is the difference between caring for someone and losing yourself in the process. Consideration isn't doing everything someone wants. It isn't avoiding conflict. It isn't walking on eggshells. And it isn't anticipating every need so someone won't become upset. That's where consideration can become people-pleasing. Healthy consideration is being able to say: You matter, and I matter too. You can notice someone's needs without ignoring your own. You can support your partner without becoming responsible for their emotions. And you can love someone deeply while still staying connected to yourself.

  3. Oct 13

    How to Make Big Decisions and Trust Yourself With the Outcome

    What if the hardest part of making a big decision isn't choosing what to do, but trusting yourself with whatever happens next? We spend so much time trying to make the "right" decision. We overthink, ask everyone else for advice, weigh every possible outcome, and wait for certainty before moving forward. But what if confidence isn't knowing everything will work out? What if it's knowing you'll be there for yourself even if it doesn't? In this solo episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, I'm sharing what I've learned about making big decisions, letting go of regret, and trusting myself after spending much of my life following a blueprint of what I was supposed to do. From growing up with religious expectations around marriage and motherhood to leaving my church, ending my marriage, learning to be alone, and eventually choosing love again, I've had to learn the difference between what I genuinely want and what I've been conditioned to believe I should want. I also share a few moments from a recent trip with Randy that reminded me how many unnecessary rules we create for ourselves, even around something as simple as drinking orange juice or allowing ourselves to stay on vacation a little longer. We talk about why a decision can be right for you and still bring grief, how fear doesn't always mean no, and why listening to your body can help you reconnect with what you actually want. Most importantly, I share five practices for approaching big decisions with more clarity, self-trust, and compassion. If you're standing at a crossroads, questioning a past decision, or waiting until you feel completely certain before taking your next step, I hope you'll listen to this one. You don't have to know exactly where the road leads. You just need to trust that you'll meet yourself there. In This Episode, I Talk About: How conditioning influences our biggest decisionsChoosing what you want versus what you're supposed to wantWhy you don't need certainty before making a decisionRebuilding self-trust after leaving my church and marriageWhy the right decision can still feel painfulChoosing love again without abandoning yourselfUnderstanding fear versus intuitionListening to your body when making decisionsReleasing regret and judgment about past choicesFive practices for making big decisionsFinding peace with whatever happens nextA Gentle Reminder You can make a decision that changes your life and still grieve what you're leaving behind. You can choose something that feels aligned and still experience fear. You can look back at a choice you wouldn't make today without continuing to punish yourself for it. Self-trust isn't about never making a decision you wish had gone differently. It's about knowing you can learn, change course, and keep choosing yourself. You don't need to have the entire future figured out. You just need to stop abandoning yourself along the way.

  4. Oct 6

    How to Trust Your Intuition and Rebuild Self-Trust

    Have you ever known something deep down... and then immediately talked yourself out of it? You feel the pull. Something feels off. You know it's time to move, say no, make a change, or finally do the thing you've been thinking about. Then fear, people-pleasing, overthinking, and everyone else's opinions get louder than your own voice. In this solo episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, I'm talking about how I've learned to trust my intuition and rebuild self-trust after years of questioning my own knowing. Because self-trust isn't something you either have or you don't. It's a relationship you build. I share some of the moments that taught me this firsthand, from unexpectedly knowing it was time to take out my hair extensions to feeling called to start this podcast and getting an intuitive hit about TikTok years before I was actually ready for what that visibility required. We also get into an important distinction: intuition isn't the same as every story your mind creates. "Something feels off" is information. "They're lying to me and something terrible is going to happen" is a story. Learning to trust yourself means hearing the signal without immediately dismissing it or turning it into a conclusion. I also talk about rebuilding self-trust after gaslighting, the difference between intuition and hypervigilance, how people-pleasing can disguise itself as confusion, and why setting boundaries can become a powerful way of telling yourself, I believe you. I hear you. I'm staying with you. Trusting your intuition doesn't mean you'll always make the "right" decision. It means trusting yourself enough to listen, discern, take the next step, and know that whatever happens, you won't abandon yourself. If you've been second-guessing yourself, looking outside of yourself for answers, or feeling disconnected from your own knowing, I hope you'll listen to this one. You don't have to have everything figured out. Maybe this episode can simply be an invitation to get a little quieter and start listening to yourself again. In This Episode, I Talk About: Rebuilding self-trust after years of self-doubtHow fear and people-pleasing can drown out intuitionFollowing intuitive hits before you feel readyTrusting the timing instead of forcing an outcomeIntuition vs. fear, anxiety, and hypervigilanceSeparating your inner knowing from the stories your mind createsRebuilding self-trust after gaslightingUsing boundaries to strengthen trust in yourselfHow people-pleasing can disguise itself as confusionLetting go of stories about what others think of youA somatic practice for releasing perceived judgmentTrusting yourself even when others disagreeWhy self-trust doesn't mean always being rightIf this episode resonated, follow and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next.  Learn more at shiftwithbeth.com

  5. Sep 29

    Coming Back to Your Authentic Self: How to Stop Abandoning Who You Are

    What if becoming more authentic isn't about finding yourself at all? What if it's about coming back to the version of you that existed before you learned to edit yourself to be loved, accepted, safe, or understood? In this solo episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, I'm talking about what it has felt like to finally experience the freedom of being my fully expressed, authentic self. During my Practicing Being Seen challenge, I had a moment where I could physically feel something shift. There was this expansiveness and freedom in my body, and I realized I wasn't hiding anymore. I wasn't constantly editing myself, playing small, or trying to manage what other people thought of me. I was just being me. And it made me realize that authenticity isn't something we need to go out and find. We were born with it. The work is recognizing where we learned to abandon it. Maybe you learned that speaking up caused conflict. Having needs made you needy. Your emotions were too much. Saying no made someone angry. Being easygoing kept the peace. Or being perfect earned you love and approval. Those patterns may have once helped you feel safe and connected. But eventually, they can become so automatic that you don't even realize you're abandoning yourself. In this episode, I'm sharing the practices that have helped me come back home to myself, from recognizing self-abandonment and getting curious about the parts of me that learned to hide, to practicing being seen and staying with the discomfort that comes with showing up differently. Because authenticity can feel uncomfortable before it feels freeing. If you've been making yourself smaller, editing who you are, or wondering how to feel more like yourself again, I hope you'll listen to this one. You don't need to become someone new. You may simply need to start coming back to who you've always been. In This Episode, I Talk About: Why authenticity is about coming home to yourselfHow self-abandonment disconnects us from who we areThe freedom I felt during my Practicing Being Seen challengeRecognizing where you've learned to hide or play smallGetting curious about the parts of you that learned to protect youPracticing being seen without managing others' perceptionsWhy discomfort doesn't always mean something is unsafeClimbing your own "cringe mountain"Asking, "What wants to emerge through me?"Using your body and intuition to reconnect with yourselfCreating space for authenticity with your childrenWhy authenticity can sometimes cost you relationshipsComing back to the playful, unedited parts of your inner childAuthenticity Isn't Something You Have to Find Think about yourself as a little kid. Before you learned what made people uncomfortable. Before you learned which emotions were acceptable. Before you worried about being too loud, too sensitive, too needy, too excited, or too much. That version of you didn't need to learn authenticity. It was already there. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned to edit ourselves to belong. Coming home to yourself is about noticing those patterns and slowly creating enough safety to choose differently.

  6. Sep 22

    Healing Trauma Through the Nervous System with Sophie Arambula

    What if healing isn't about pushing yourself to finally "get over it," but learning how to move at the pace your nervous system can actually hold? In this episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, I'm joined by someone who has had an enormous impact on both my healing and my life: Sophie Arambula. This conversation is especially meaningful to me because Sophie didn't just teach me about this work. She walked beside me through it. In This Episode, We Talk About:How Sophie and I originally met through my businessThe moment she recognized that I needed support more than another business strategySophie's traumatic postpartum experience and how it led her to Somatic ExperiencingWhy healing doesn't necessarily mean returning to who you were beforeWhat trauma can look like beyond major catastrophic experiencesHow neglect and the absence of safety, affection, or connection can affect usWhy you can't always think your way through traumaHyperarousal, anxiety, busyness, and the need to constantly keep movingWhy slowing down can reveal exhaustion or emotions underneath the busynessHypoarousal, collapse, shutdown, and freeze responsesWhy trauma work needs to honor your actual capacityThe danger of trying to force big cathartic releasesWhy healing is often slow, steady, and gentleBuilding trust with a practitioner and with yourselfHow safety allows deeper healing to happen over timeLearning to recognize your internal boundariesWhy boundaries aren't simply all-or-nothingHow appeasement can disconnect us from knowing when a boundary has been crossedLearning that you're allowed to dislike something or have an opinionThe guilt and shame that can come with setting boundariesWhy we sometimes turn anger inwardHealthy ways to begin working with suppressed angerWhy processing anger doesn't have to mean screaming or hitting a pillowWorking with the freeze response instead of forcing your way through itWhat shame can feel like in the nervous systemThe difference between "I did something bad" and "I am bad"Why shame often has to be addressed before the emotion underneath itThe power of being safely witnessed in something you've hiddenSelf-forgiveness, accountability, and learning to respond differentlyHow nervous system work has influenced Sophie as a motherRegulating your own emotions while helping your child move through theirsHow healing ourselves can create a ripple effect through our familiesAbout Sophie: Sophie Arambula is an entrepreneur, digital marketing strategist, and trained Somatic Experiencing Practitioner based in San Diego, California. She is the founder of SAS and SEO, a digital marketing agency focused on building long-term SEO systems, sustainable infrastructure, and lasting growth for service-based businesses. Sophie’s path into somatic healing began after a difficult postpartum experience in 2020 led her into her own deeper trauma work. She went on to complete the three-year Somatic Experiencing professional training, with her work focusing on complex trauma resolution, relational and developmental trauma, nervous system regulation, and boundary repair. Connect with Sophie: Instagram YouTube Facebook Website If this episode resonated, follow and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next.  Learn more at shiftwithbeth.com

  7. Sep 15

    Sexual Intimacy Without Self-Abandonment

    What if better sexual intimacy has less to do with sex and more to do with how safe, seen, and connected you feel with your partner? Randy is back with me for a conversation we knew we needed to have after recording our last episode on intimacy. This time, we're going deeper into sexual intimacy and the things couples often don't talk about: expectations, pressure, desire, boundaries, communication, receiving, and the ways we may abandon ourselves to maintain connection. We also introduce one of my favorite relationship practices: the conscious date. I first learned about conscious dates from my friend and former coach Nick, and when Randy and I started dating, it was something I couldn't wait to bring into our relationship. A conscious date creates intentional space outside of emotionally or sexually charged moments to talk about how you're actually doing, what you appreciate about each other, where your relationship is growing, what has been difficult, what you're dreaming about together, and yes, sex. In this episode, I share how something as simple as Randy telling me he wanted me later could create pressure in my body, even though his intention was to make me feel desired. Having the safety to tell him that allowed him to understand my internal experience without making either of us wrong. This isn't a conversation about how often couples "should" have sex. It's about creating a relationship where neither person has to abandon themselves to stay connected to the other. Because great sexual intimacy doesn't begin in the bedroom. It begins with how you treat each other everywhere else. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why sexual intimacy is about much more than sexThe conscious date practice Randy and I started early in our relationshipCreating intentional space to talk about your relationshipWhy expressing appreciation mattersLearning how your partner actually wants to receive loveTalking about your personal wins and strugglesCreating shared one-, three-, and five-year visionsHow to talk about sex outside of a sexual momentExpressing sexual desires, preferences, and boundaries without shameWhy your partner's boundary doesn't mean your desire is wrongHonoring your partner without abandoning yourselfWhy discomfort and triggers during deeper conversations can actually reveal opportunities for healingWhy arousal is not an obligationSeparating physical responses from expectationsHow pressure can create physical and emotional distanceBeing able to hold each other without expecting sexWhat I was taught about sex, marriage, and keeping a husbandHow those messages taught me to abandon myselfWhy you are never responsible for someone else's fidelityTeaching our children something different about their bodies and boundariesWhy keeping score creates transactional intimacyDoing loving things because you want to connect, not because you expect something in returnWhy presence matters more than performanceGetting out of your head and into your bodyWhy great sexual intimacy starts outside the bedroom Download my free guide with the 7 powerful questions to go deeper with your partner and get past the surface level intimacy.

  8. Sep 8

    The 4 Layers of True Intimacy: How to Feel Seen, Heard, Received and Connected in Your Relationships

    When you hear the word intimacy, what do you think of? For a lot of us, the answer is sex. I thought that way for a long time too. But what Randy and I have learned through our relationship and our own healing is that physical intimacy is actually an expression of something much deeper. Real intimacy starts with safety. It grows when you feel safe enough to tell the truth, let someone see the parts of you that aren't polished or perfect, and trust that you'll be met with curiosity, compassion, and presence instead of judgment, defensiveness, or someone trying to fix you. In this episode of The Shift with Beth Podcast, Randy is back with me to talk about what intimacy actually looks like beyond sex and the layers that create deep, meaningful connection in a relationship. We walk through a framework that starts with emotional safety, moves into being seen and received, and ultimately creates the connection so many of us are actually craving. Randy shares how he had to learn to sit with his own emotions so he could stop immediately trying to fix mine. We also share a recent experience where our roles were completely reversed, and I realized I was trying to solve his difficult day instead of simply letting him have it. We talk about what it means to let your partner into your internal world, why conflict can actually create deeper intimacy when you know how to repair, and how receiving love requires a level of trust that giving doesn't always ask of us. And yes, we talk about physical intimacy too, but probably not in the way you're expecting. Because sometimes intimacy is holding hands. It's sustained eye contact. It's lying in bed having a deep conversation. It's being held without wondering what your partner expects in return. It's being weird together. It's sharing your fears. It's feeling completely known without having to perform for love. In This Episode, We Talk About: Why intimacy and sex aren't the same thingWhy physical intimacy is an expression of connection rather than the foundation of itThe first layer of intimacy: emotional safetyLearning to hold space instead of immediately fixing your partner's emotionsWhy defensiveness and dismissal can shut down connectionA recent moment when I tried to fix Randy instead of hearing himHow to ask your partner what they actually need from youWhy letting someone see the real you is deeply intimateBeing seen in your emotions, insecurities, weirdness, and imperfectionsGetting to know your partner's inner child and past versionsWhy receiving love requires trustThe difference between vulnerability and true intimacyHow curiosity and compassion deepen connectionEmotional intimacy and knowing your partner's internal worldIntellectual intimacy and sharing ideas, dreams, and curiositySpiritual intimacy through shared values, meditation, nature, and purposeWhy conflict can create intimacy when you know how to repairThe danger of treating "we never fight" as a relationship goalPhysical intimacy beyond sexCreating physical affection without expectation or pressureWhy some people may actually be craving connection when they think they're craving more sexWhat it means to feel seen, heard, held, and fully known If this episode resonated, follow and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next.

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Change is inevitable, but a "shift" is intentional. Welcome to Shift with Beth, a podcast dedicated to helping you navigate life’s transitions with clarity and confidence. Whether you’re looking to overhaul your career, improve your mental well-being, or simply see the world through a different lens, Beth explores the psychology and practical steps behind meaningful change. Each episode features solo deep-dives and expert interviews designed to help you stop overthinking and start shifting.

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  • Creator
    Beth Schild
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    38
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    © 2026 Beth Schild
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