LET’S TALK WITH BEN, BRAD & COIT

LET'S TALK
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This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

  1. 6d ago ·  Video

    YOU HAVE NO SECOND-CLASS CALLING

    Built for Influence: Calling, Purpose, and Why There’s No Second-Class CallingThis episode of Let’s Talk brings together Ben, Brad and Coit for a practical conversation about calling, purpose, and identity for men. They open with some hilarious job stories, then move into a serious question many men wrestle with: how do you know what God is calling you to do, and how do you avoid confusing your job, title, or season with your real purpose?In this episode, Brad and Coit share a clear framework for thinking about calling, the pressures that keep men stuck, and how to discern whether a transition is God-led. It’s a grounded, faith-centered conversation for men who want more than a career. They want direction, influence, and purpose. Timestamps00:00 - Welcome to the series and the calling conversation begins 01:58 - Funny job stories: dairy farm mishaps and asbestos removal 05:05 - Why men spend so much of life trying to figure out who they are 06:03 - Defining calling as both general and specific 08:06 - Identity, purpose, and not letting career define you 09:02 - Fatherhood as a deeper form of calling 10:31 - Drawing identity from calling instead of titles or hobbies 12:11 - How confirmation and inner prompting help reveal calling 14:06 - The pressure of leaving security to follow a clear call 16:55 - Why career, finances, and family pressure make transitions hard 18:24 - Calling beyond ministry: police, fire, medicine, education, business 19:29 - “You don’t have a second class call” 20:10 - Salt and light in every place, not just church 21:52 - When grace lifts and transition may be ahead 23:07 - Identity, calling, and purpose all working together 24:17 - Don’t run someone else’s race 26:13 - What keeps men from calling: attack, comparison, fear 27:27 - Comfort, distraction, and why growth is uncomfortable 29:50 - Past success can keep you from the next assignment 31:50 - Discovering calling by moving instead of waiting 33:32 - What moves your heart and points toward purpose 34:35 - Surrounding yourself with men who speak truth and life 35:37 - Start with God, not opportunity 36:29 - Final encouragement: no second-class callings Action itemsPray specifically about your calling and purpose this week.Write down where you’ve been confusing identity with occupation.Ask two trusted men what gifts, burdens, or callings they see in you.Identify one step of movement you can take instead of waiting for perfect clarity.Recommit to being faithful in your current season.Call to actionIf this conversation challenged you, take time this week to seek God about your identity and purpose, then talk with a trusted man who can help confirm what you’re hearing. Keep walking, keep listening, and keep trusting that God has a specific race for you to run. Marriage conference - Thousand Hills Church - OCT 24

    YOU HAVE NO SECOND-CLASS CALLING

  2. Sep 23 ·  Video

    TRUTH BEATS POLICY EVERY TIME

    This episode features Marty Bryan of Marty B's Restaurant alongside Ben, Brad, and Coit on Let's Talk. Marty shares how personal pain shaped his leadership, why he sees his business as ministry, and how he builds a culture of hospitality through standards, truth, and accountability.If you lead people, hire people, or want to make your faith visible through your work, this conversation is packed with practical insight. It is especially useful for men trying to turn influence into real kingdom impact.Key topics Marty shares how his childhood shaped his drive, including his parents’ divorce, poverty, and his father’s long recovery after a devastating car accident.Marty explains why humility and dignity matter deeply to him, especially after experiencing food stamps, welfare, and public embarrassment as a kid.We discuss how he sees Marty B's as ministry, not just business, and why the business opens with prayer.Marty shares the hospitality framework he lives by: selection, truth, and accountability.He explains why hiring for heart matters more than just skill.The conversation explores why he prefers standards over policy and discretion over rigid corporate rules.Marty talks about confronting issues quickly and speaking truth in love.He reflects on culture as something modeled by example, not just written down.The episode closes with a call for men to use their gifts with purpose and make people feel valued.Marty shares why the long game matters in leadership and relationships.Timestamps00:00 — Mic check and opening banter 00:34 — Welcoming Marty Bryan and introducing Marty B's 01:34 — Gift hats and intentional branding 02:58 — Why the show centers on influence and ministry 03:43 — Marty’s story starts with pain and childhood upheaval 04:14 — Parents’ divorce and instability at home 05:29 — Father’s accident and six months of uncertainty 06:29 — Becoming a caregiver at age 12 09:45 — Food stamps, free lunch cards, and lost dignity 10:45 — Why poverty pushed him toward independence 11:49 — Fear of the Lord and living with purpose 13:15 — Hospitality as kingdom impact 14:46 — Jesus washing feet as the model for service 15:27 — Hiring people with heart first 16:57 — The business is about people, not just tasks 18:15 — Culture is built by example 19:42 — Why kindness came from lived experience 20:21 — Using giftedness to glorify God 21:23 — Selection, truth, and accountability 22:53 — Why bad fits need to be identified quickly 24:01 — Truth without accountability fails 25:51 — Why confrontation is necessary for growth 26:28 — Standards instead of policy and rules 27:51 — Manager discretion over corporate bureaucracy 28:53 — Why having fun is the last value 30:06 — How HR can miss the point of real leadership 32:31 — The four-day hiring test 33:30 — Parents thanking him for shaping their kids 34:04 — Personality profiles and the “gas tank” idea 36:08 — Advice to young men about finding passion 38:07 — Choosing the right career fit 39:04 — Leadership lesson: play the long game 40:36 — What leaders should stop doing: avoiding truth 42:07 — How to make people feel valued 44:36 — Living faith at work 45:58 — Faith expressions inside Marty B’s culture 47:21 — What a man built for influence is 48:12 — Learning to apologize and use the mouth wisely 49:29 — Influence is about impact and legacy 50:46 — Closing charge to go be an influencer today

    TRUTH BEATS POLICY EVERY TIME

  3. Sep 16 ·  Video

    CHARACTER BEATS REPUTATION EVERY TIME

    This episode of Let's Talk centers on a question every man has to face: who am I becoming? The conversation with Ben, Brad and Coit digs into character, reputation, pressure, influence, and why real change starts with a decision, not just better behavior.We discuss how character is formed in private, revealed under pressure, and tested by success. If you want a practical, no-fluff conversation about integrity, accountability, and spiritual growth, this one hits the mark. Key topicsIn this episode: the hosts frame character transformation as a process, not a quick fix, using the ups and downs of real life as the backdrop.Brad shares the line that gifts can open doors, but character determines what happens after you walk through them.The conversation contrasts reputation, what people think about you, with character, who you actually are when nobody is watching.They unpack how pressure exposes what is really inside a man, especially in moments of stress, disappointment, temptation, or moral compromise.The group talks through why success can reveal character rather than create it, and how money and promotion magnify what already exists.A practical hiring framework from the church comes up: character, competency, chemistry, and capacity, with character placed first.A Miles Austin story illustrates humility and quiet integrity when a famous athlete followed the rules without making a scene.The hosts connect character change to Romans 12 and the renewing of the mind, emphasizing that external behavior changes flow from internal transformation.A major theme is decision: real growth begins when a man admits the issue and chooses change instead of deflecting or minimizing it.They discuss why men get stuck in repeated patterns, including strongholds, addiction, community influence, and the need for vulnerability and accountability.The episode closes on influence and responsibility, warning that character flaws in influential people can damage families, churches, and even a believer’s witness.Timestamps00:00 - Opening the Built for Influence series and the call to matter 01:27 - Character growth is rarely linear 03:28 - Personal story of trying to quit smoking and failing fast 05:11 - Gifts open doors, but character decides what happens next 06:04 - Character versus reputation 07:21 - What pressure reveals about a man 08:34 - Why success exposes character 09:41 - Money magnifies who you already are 10:28 - Character built in private becomes the qualifier for growth 11:46 - The four C's: character, competency, chemistry, capacity 13:27 - Miles Austin and quiet humility at the club door 16:00 - Romans 12 and the renewing of the mind 17:16 - Change starts with a decision 19:21 - Why men stay stuck in the same patterns 20:01 - Naming anger and lust in community 21:20 - What comes out sideways under stress 22:35 - Managing fruit versus fixing roots 23:34 - Influence without character becomes dangerous 24:44 - How public failure disillusions others 26:14 - Your character affects your children 28:04 - Who do I need to become to reach my goals? 30:10 - King David, promotion, and the need to guard integrity Call to actionIf this conversation challenged you, take inventory of one area where your character needs attention, then bring it into the light with someone trustworthy. Keep growing, keep building, and keep your life aligned with what you say you believe.

    CHARACTER BEATS REPUTATION EVERY TIME

  4. Sep 9 ·  Video

    WHY DEFENSIVENESS IS KILLING YOUR GROWTH

    In this episode, the guys continue the "Built for Influence" series by talking about blind spots — those hidden areas in our lives that we often can’t see ourselves, but that others notice right away. The conversation moves from funny real-life examples into a deeper discussion about humility, feedback, accountability, and growth. Key Topics CoveredWhat blind spots are and why everyone has themA hilarious story about not noticing toilet paper stuck to the back of your shortsWhy humility is essential for personal growthHow feedback from trusted people can reveal what we missThe difference between helpful correction and defensive reactionsWhy timely, specific feedback matters in marriage, parenting, and leadershipHow blind spots can affect influence, relationships, and long-term successWhy anger and defensiveness often point to deeper issuesThe role of confession, repentance, community, and counseling in growthNotable MomentsA funny story about walking across a public area with toilet paper hanging out of a pair of shortsThe reminder that “what you can’t see can hurt you”The idea that humility is the “seedbed for all other virtues”The reflection that truth is still truth, even when it comes from someone rudeThe closing challenge from Psalm 139:23–24Main TakeawaysWe usually don’t identify our own blind spots on our ownTrusted people help us see what we cannotGrowth requires humility, openness, and a willingness to receive correctionDefensiveness often protects the very issue we need to addressThe goal is not just to be right, but to be transformedScripture MentionedPsalm 139:23–24: “Search me, O God, and know my heart...”Guest/Host HighlightsBrad shared a memorable and funny blind-spot storyThe discussion emphasized the value of trusted accountabilityThe episode closed with a practical challenge to invite honest feedbackCall to ActionFind someone you trust and ask them: “What do you see in me that I may not see?”

    WHY DEFENSIVENESS IS KILLING YOUR GROWTH

  5. Sep 2 ·  Video

    THE TOWEL BEFORE THE TITLE

    The conversation explores the concept of servant leadership and its contrast with worldly leadership. It delves into personal stories and practical applications of servant leadership, emphasizing the balance between authority and servanthood. Takeaways Servant leadership involves leading by serving othersBalancing authority and servanthood is essential for effective leadership Chapters 00:00 Built for Influence01:21 Servant Leadership03:07 Worldly View of Leadership04:03 Servant Leadership vs. Worldly Leadership05:01 Personal Stories of Servant Leadership07:24 Balancing Servant Leadership and Authority28:39 Practical Application of Servant Leadership

    THE TOWEL BEFORE THE TITLE

  6. Aug 26 ·  Video

    WHY SELF-CONTROL IS THE REAL TEST

    This episode follows a men’s conversation about what it really means to walk in the fruits of the Holy Spirit. The guys move from the tension between self-effort and surrender into a practical, honest look at love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. If you’ve ever tried to manage your life by willpower alone, this one pushes straight into the root issue. Key topicsIn this episode, the guys set up the contrast between striving in the flesh and organic growth through the Holy Spirit.They discuss why “fruit” is singular in Galatians 5 and how the qualities of the Spirit work as an interconnected whole.They unpack how bad fruit often points back to deeper roots like anger, unforgiveness, bitterness, rejection, or abandonment.They share why accountability and trusted feedback help men see blind spots they cannot see themselves.They break down the first cluster of fruit - love, joy, and peace - as internal markers that come from trusting God rather than chasing circumstances.They talk about love as the foundation, not an emotion, and as something that should flow from God into us and out to others.They contrast worldly happiness with Spirit-led joy, especially in seasons of pain, loss, pressure, and uncertainty.They discuss peace as more valuable than the appearance of safety, status, or control.They move into patience, kindness, and goodness as signs of maturity, not weakness.They close with faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control as character traits that show real spiritual stewardship, especially over the mouth, temper, and impulses.Scripture referencesGalatians 5:22-23Galatians 5, the contrast between the works of the flesh and the fruit of the SpiritPhilippians, especially Paul’s emphasis on joy in prisonJames, on the power of the tongue and self-control1 Corinthians 13, on love as the essential foundationJames 1:4, on letting patience have its perfect workPractical takeawaysStop trying to manage only the visible behavior and ask God to deal with the root.Invite trusted people to speak into your life and point out blind spots.Pray specifically for love, joy, and peace to become internal foundations.Treat patience as part of spiritual maturity, not as an optional extra.Practice kindness and goodness with strength, not as weakness or passivity.Pay attention to your words, because self-control over the mouth is a major test of spiritual growth.Yield to the Holy Spirit daily instead of trying to produce fruit by sheer effort.Timestamps00:00 - Introducing the fruits of the Spirit and the battle between flesh and Spirit 01:43 - Why self-effort and sin management miss the root issue 05:47 - Why Paul says “fruit” singular, not “fruits” plural 08:30 - How other people can often see our fruit more clearly than we can 11:08 - Love as the foundation of Christian life 14:09 - Joy that survives prison, pressure, and uncertainty 19:19 - Peace as more valuable than safety, status, or control 21:31 - Patience, kindness, and goodness as signs of maturity 27:06 - Gentleness as power brought under control 29:20 - Self-control, especially over the mouth and impulses 32:28 - Surrounding yourself with people who can speak truth and life 35:15 - Closing encouragement to be filled with the fruit of the Spirit Call to actionAsk God to expose the root, not just the symptom. Then invite one trusted person to speak honestly into your life this week about the fruit they see.

    WHY SELF-CONTROL IS THE REAL TEST

  7. Aug 19 ·  Video

    9 GIFTS THAT CHANGE HOW YOU HEAR GOD

    This episode of Let’s Talk continues the Holy Spirit series by moving from baptism in the Spirit to the gifts of the Spirit. The conversation is practical, funny, and rooted in real-life stories of healing, discernment, and how spiritual gifts are meant to strengthen other people, not spotlight the one operating in them.Brad and Coit share examples from Scripture and their own lives, then get specific about how believers can use spiritual gifts with humility, love, and order in everyday ministry, family life, and church community. Key topicsThe guys open by framing the episode as part of their ongoing Holy Spirit series and explain that this conversation is about the gifts of the SpiritWhy these are called gifts at all, and how God gives them by grace to empower believers for victorious livingThe difference between natural gifts and the supernatural manifestation gifts listed in 1 Corinthians 12A simple breakdown of the nine gifts into three groups:discerning giftsdynamic giftsdeclaring giftsThe discerning gifts:word of wisdomword of knowledgediscerning of spiritsThe dynamic gifts:faithhealingmiraclesReal testimony from Brad about a seed wart disappearing after prayerAnother healing testimony about a hole in the esophagus being healed after prayer from a grandmother of faithThe declaring gifts:prophecytonguesinterpretation of tonguesWhy spiritual gifts are for the good of the body, not personal status or spiritual braggingWhy prophecy should be tested with Scripture, godly counsel, and trusted communityThe importance of using gifts decently and in order, especially in church settingsFive practical ways to operate in spiritual gifts:awarenessblessing othersearnestly desiring the right gift for the momentmotivation by loveorder and humilityTimestamps00:00 - Opening the Holy Spirit series and introducing spiritual gifts 02:01 - The BB gun story and the joking tone of the conversation 04:06 - Why believers need the gifts of the Spirit 06:06 - Natural gifts versus supernatural manifestation gifts 07:25 - The three categories: discerning, dynamic, and declaring gifts 08:10 - Word of knowledge, word of wisdom, and God still speaking 08:37 - Paul’s shipwreck example as a word of knowledge and wisdom 10:07 - Faith, healing, and miracles as dynamic gifts 11:01 - Brad’s seed wart healing testimony 13:17 - The esophagus healing testimony and God’s power to heal 14:58 - Prophecy, tongues, and interpretation as declaring gifts 16:14 - The gift is for the recipient, not the performer 17:23 - Testing prophecy and weighing words carefully 21:38 - Five practical ways to use spiritual gifts well 22:44 - Use your gifts to bless others, not yourself 23:44 - Desire the best gift for the situation 25:01 - Asking God for the gifts you need in your calling 27:27 - Gifts must be motivated by love 29:16 - Operate decently and in order 30:22 - Final charge to seek the Spirit and bless others

    9 GIFTS THAT CHANGE HOW YOU HEAR GOD

  8. Aug 12 ·  Video

    WHY MEN NEED THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR BATTLE

    Carrying the Fire: Holy Spirit, Power, and BattleThis episode of Let's Talk with Ben, Brad, and Coit centers on the Holy Spirit and why spiritual power matters for men who want to live ready for battle. They unpack the baptism in the Holy Spirit, the meaning of tongues, and why Jesus told his followers to wait for power before going out.Brad shares his own powerful encounter with the Holy Spirit after salvation, and Coit explains how the Spirit equips believers for witness, prayer, and endurance in everyday spiritual warfare. Key topicsIn this episode, Ben opens the series connection to being built for battle and explains why Holy Spirit power is essential, not optional.Coit defines the Holy Spirit as the third person of the Trinity and frames baptism in the Spirit as a separate work from salvation and water baptism.Brad shares his testimony of being radically saved in 1995, then later being filled with the Holy Spirit and speaking in tongues.The hosts walk through Acts 1 and Acts 2, emphasizing Jesus' instruction to wait in Jerusalem for power before ministry.They discuss Joel 2 and the promise that God would pour out His Spirit on all flesh, including sons, daughters, young men, and old men.The episode breaks down different uses of tongues, including public tongues with interpretation and private prayer language.Coit highlights Romans 8 and the Spirit's role in intercession when believers do not know how to pray as they should.The conversation addresses cessation theology and why the hosts believe tongues and Spirit baptism are still for today.Brad and Coit both point to the personal, edifying effect of praying in the Spirit daily as preparation for spiritual battle.The episode closes with prayer for listeners to receive the fire, power, and presence of the Holy Spirit.Timestamps00:00 - Opening the built for battle series and introducing Holy Spirit power 00:38 - Why the Holy Spirit is the central piece of spiritual readiness 01:37 - Who the Holy Spirit is as the third person of the Trinity 02:03 - The three baptisms and why the Spirit baptism matters 02:52 - Brad's salvation story and first radical encounter with God 04:45 - Being filled with the Holy Spirit without human prompting 06:02 - Jesus' command to wait for power in Jerusalem 06:58 - Joel 2, Acts, and the promise poured out on all flesh 08:09 - Why the baptism in the Holy Spirit is for believers today 09:09 - Public tongues, private tongues, and the question of who receives them 10:21 - Why public tongues need interpretation in church settings 11:08 - Two public uses and two private uses of tongues 12:16 - Romans 8 and intercession through the Spirit 12:46 - A story of intercession while a missionary was held at gunpoint 13:44 - Personal prayer in tongues as direct prayer to God 14:38 - How praying in the Spirit builds you up like a house 15:27 - False fire, deception, and protecting the real move of God 16:39 - Why cessation theology misses the ongoing work of the Spirit 17:44 - "Face to face" means Jesus' return, not the closing of gifts 19:15 - Eagerly desiring spiritual gifts with biblical balance 20:20 - Why it is short sighted to close yourself off from God's gifts 21:03 - Jesus baptized and led by the Spirit into the wilderness 21:59 - Brad's story of receiving the Spirit at age 11 and then witnessing 24:14 - Camp testimony and students physically sensing the Spirit 25:39 - Why the church cannot become Father, Son, and Holy Bible only 26:35 - The Holy Spirit as counselor and guide for witness 27:22 - Praying for listeners to receive the fire of the Holy Spirit

    WHY MEN NEED THE HOLY SPIRIT FOR BATTLE
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This isn’t just another men’s podcast. It’s real conversations. Real laughter. Real growth. Hosted by Ben De Boef, Brad Dorethy, and Coit Willis, this show blends lighthearted humor with honest discussions about the issues men actually face — faith, leadership, marriage, fatherhood, struggles, purpose, and everything in between. Whether you’re saved, searching, skeptical, or somewhere in the middle, this podcast creates space for men to talk openly, grow intentionally, and pursue becoming fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ. We’ll make you laugh. We’ll challenge you. We’ll move you forward. Because men were never meant to do life alone. New episodes weekly. Pull up a chair and join the conversation.

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