Intrusive Kindness

PJ

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Intrusive Kindness explores how care disrupts, repairs, and reshapes us. Through immersive storytelling and reflective conversations, PJ dives into human connection, self‑compassion, healing, and the emotional labour of practice. Stories of rupture, repair, and the unexpected ways kindness changes a life. New episodes every two weeks. DISCLAIMER: All reflections are personal and not representative of any organisation or individual.

May 25

How Starting Over Made Me a Better Social Worker

In this episode, I take you back to the moment I left Australia to become a social worker in the UK the leap, the fear, the uncertainty, and the unexpected lessons that shaped my entire career. This story explores what it really feels like to start over in a new country, navigate a collapsing job market, and rebuild your professional identity from scratch. From airport panic to the harsh reality of UK social work cuts, to door‑knocking agencies out of desperation, this episode dives into the emotional and practical challenges of working overseas as a social worker, finding your first job abroad, and starting again when everything feels uncertain. Along the way, I reflect on the fault line between empathy and authority, the fear beneath every big life change, and how these early experiences became the foundation of my practice helping me understand the families I work with, the systems we navigate, and the courage it takes to begin again. If you’re a social worker, social work student, or anyone considering working overseas, this episode offers an honest look at the realities, the doubts, and the unexpected growth that comes with stepping into the unknown.

20 min
May 11

The First Interview: The First‑Year Social Work Stories We Don’t Talk About Enough

A first‑year social worker joins me to reflect on their first twelve months in practice the values they walked in with, the moments that shaped them, and the emotional labour of early career social work. Elle shares how her own family, who work in the profession, inspired her to pursue social work and helped shape her understanding of what this work can be. In this episode, we explore themes familiar to anyone in the field: psychological safety, boundaries, supervision, reflective practice, and finding your place in a team. If you’re a social work student, new graduate, or someone who loves honest social work stories, this conversation offers insight into the realities of frontline practice — the surprises, the challenges, and the identity that forms in the first year. This conversation reflects personal experiences and perspectives, not those of any employer, organisation, or service. All examples are de‑identified to protect privacy. This episode is for reflection and learning, not professional advice.

51 min
Apr 27

Never the Main Character: The NPC Truth of Social Work

In this season finale of Intrusive Kindness, PJ reflects on his first year in social work — not from inside it, but years later, with the hindsight that only lived experience can offer. This episode explores the truth that one person’s story is never a singular story, and that social workers are rarely the main characters in the lives they enter. Through the lens of intrusive kindness, narrative therapy, and the “NPC” metaphor, PJ unpacks what it means to step into someone else’s world, hold their story with care, and accept that we may never see the ending. This is a conversation about humility, autonomy, emotional labour, and the quiet impact social workers have without ever being at the centre of the narrative. As PJ closes the chapter on his first year, he opens the door to what’s coming next: working overseas in the UK, cultural shock, isolation, danger, supporting a refugee soccer team, major system upheaval, returning to Sydney for the Social Benefit Bonds scheme, the Northern Territory fault line that pushed him to the edge of the profession, and the eventual return to NSW where he now works across statutory practice, training and consultation. This episode is for social workers, students, helpers, and anyone who has ever wondered what really happens behind the scenes of this work the stories that shape us, the ones that stay with us, and the ones we never get to finish. If this episode resonates, join the conversation on Instagram at Intrusive Kindness, and leave a rating or comment on your streaming platform to help this community grow.

15 min
Apr 13

The Prequel (the real first)

This is the real beginning the moment my social work practice cracked open for the first time. The Prequel (the real first) traces the early shocks of my first placement: a messy removal, the emotional labour of ED social work, the collapse no one saw coming, and the hidden skill that surfaced before I had language for it. Inside the chaos of hospital corridors, crisis work, and the unpredictability of emergency departments, this episode sits with the instincts that shape a social work student long before confidence arrives. It’s a story about learning on placement in real time the fault lines, the room‑reading, the quiet knowing, and the collision of personal and professional worlds that becomes an origin story. For anyone who remembers their own first placement, or is walking into one now, this is where the work begins.

17 min
Mar 30

First Legacy: From Side Quest to Main Quest

In this episode, PJ returns to his first year of social work and the “small idea” he thought was just filling a gap a side quest he wasn’t sure he was ready for. What he didn’t realise was that this little program would become the first legacy of his career, teaching him what social work truly is: backing yourself before anyone else does, trusting young people as experts in their own lives, and creating spaces where their voices are centred. Through honest storytelling and reflective practice, PJ revisits the moment he unknowingly stepped into program design, pushed through doubt, and built something that restored autonomy to young people. A story about self‑belief, creative beginnings, and how side quests become main quests. For anyone who’s ever started before they felt ready or wondered whether their small ideas matter.

14 min
Mar 16

The First Boss Fight

PJ returns to the early days of group facilitation those first uncertain sessions where the goal was simply to stay steady, learn the rhythm, and build confidence one group at a time. Working alongside colleagues with different styles, he slowly found a way of holding the room that felt genuine. But just as things began to feel familiar, real life delivered a left‑field moment no guidebook could prepare anyone for. Through honest storytelling and reflective practice, PJ explores how these unexpected “boss fights” expose our instincts, assumptions, and steadiness, and how authenticity not performance becomes the real skill in group work. This episode sits with the chaos, humour, and emotional labour that shape practitioners long before they feel ready.

17 min
Mar 2

The First Lessons in Advocacy

In this episode, PJ returns to the early days of practice the first impressions, first challenges, and the first colleague who quietly reshaped his understanding of advocacy. What began as confusion and avoidance becomes a defining lesson in confidence, integrity, and standing firm for families. Through honest storytelling and reflective practice, PJ explores how kindness and authority can coexist, how early mentors shape our voice, and how these moments reveal the emotional labour of social work. This episode invites listeners to reflect on the beginnings that formed them and the lessons that continue to guide their practice.

15 min
Feb 16

The Firsts That Shape Us

The early years of social work are full of firsts — uplifting, humbling, and unforgettable. In this episode, PJ explores the moments that shape practice: gratitude, mistakes, overwhelm, boundaries, and the emotional labour of walking alongside people in their hardest seasons. Through honest storytelling and reflective practice, he traces how these firsts reveal the tension between rupture and repair, and how they quietly teach us to listen, hold space, and stay grounded in self‑compassion. Listeners are invited to reflect on their own beginnings and the experiences that shaped their path into care, creating a shared space for connection, honesty, and the stories that stay with us.

15 min
Feb 2

The First Visit

In this episode, PJ returns to the moment every social worker remembers: the first visit to a family. From the weight of the referral to the tension of the knock, he traces the uncertainty, imagination, and quiet fear that shape our earliest encounters in practice. Through honest storytelling and reflective practice, PJ explores how expectations collide with reality, how we learn to listen differently, and how these first visits reveal the emotional labour of social work. This story sits at the intersection of human connection, self‑compassion, and the beginnings that shape a career grounded in rupture, repair, and intrusive kindness.

19 min
Feb 2

The First Day

The journey into social work often begins long before the first day. In this opening episode, PJ returns to a Tasmanian car park where a quiet phone call set his path in motion. Through immersive storytelling and reflective practice, he traces the childhood moments, community influences, and early acts of care that shaped his understanding of human connection. What follows is a raw account of the shock of stepping into practice: the emotional labour, the weight of responsibility, and the humbling realisation that no training fully prepares you. This episode explores rupture, repair, self‑compassion, and the “hilltop moment” where the scale of the work becomes clear. A story for anyone reflecting on their own beginnings, their reasons for choosing this work, and the experiences that formed them. A ritual of remembering. A reckoning. A beginning. Welcome to Intrusive Kindness.

12 min
Trailer

Intrusive Kindness: The Trailer

This is your invitation. Intrusive Kindness is a different way to tell our stories in the care profession through the eyes of a social worker, where empathy and authority collide. This trailer offers a glimpse into the emotional terrain, narrative rituals, and quiet power of reflective practice. Whether you’ve walked these corridors or never stepped inside, you’re welcome here. Pause. Reflect. Feel seen. The fault line begins.

1 min

Trailer

Intrusive Kindness: The Trailer

This is your invitation. Intrusive Kindness is a different way to tell our stories in the care profession through the eyes of a social worker, where empathy and authority collide. This trailer offers a glimpse into the emotional terrain, narrative rituals, and quiet power of reflective practice. Whether you’ve walked these corridors or never stepped inside, you’re welcome here. Pause. Reflect. Feel seen. The fault line begins.

Jan 18

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Intrusive Kindness explores how care disrupts, repairs, and reshapes us. Through immersive storytelling and reflective conversations, PJ dives into human connection, self‑compassion, healing, and the emotional labour of practice. Stories of rupture, repair, and the unexpected ways kindness changes a life. New episodes every two weeks. DISCLAIMER: All reflections are personal and not representative of any organisation or individual.

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PJ
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