The Unconscious Flyness Show

Patrick Lee & Chad DeShawn
  • 4.0 (4)
  • Self-Improvement

Hosts Pat Lee and Chad Deshawn offer insights from a Black man’s perspective, but never in isolation. Conversations about pop culture, politics, and the Black experience in America move with the understanding that Black women are also in the room, shaping the dialogue, challenging the thinking, and influencing the culture just as much as the men speaking. This is about identity, relationships, culture, and the way forward. As they reflect on life experiences they dare to say the quiet part out loud. Sometimes it’s funny. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable. But it's always honest.

Episodes

  1. Is Misogyny Poisoning Masculinity?

    May 26

    Is Misogyny Poisoning Masculinity?

    What if I told you that true healthy masculinity was rooted in accountability and not misogyny? Welcome to Flyness U, a special 9 episode series hosted by Pat Lee where he shares some helpful teachings and words of affirmation designed to help unite Black men who and Black women to build a united front as a collective. Pat unpacks a difficult but necessary conversation: how misogyny is poisoning masculinity and preventing men from experiencing true freedom, connection, healing, and purpose. For generations, many men have been taught that masculinity means suppressing emotions, controlling women, avoiding vulnerability, and equating power with aggression. But that version of masculinity has created emotional isolation, broken relationships, unhealthy gender dynamics, and internal conflict. The truth is, misogyny doesn’t just harm women, it also damages men by disconnecting them from empathy, accountability, emotional wellness, and authentic self-worth. In this conversation, he breaks down how misogyny has been normalized in media, music, dating culture, social media, podcasts, and everyday conversations. Pat explores how toxic ideas about manhood are often passed down through trauma, survival tactics, peer pressure, and societal conditioning. More importantly, the discussion reveals what healthy masculinity actually looks like and why redefining masculinity is necessary for the future of relationships, families, and community. If you’ve ever questioned the messages society gives men about power, dating, emotions, gender roles, or relationships, this conversation is for you. Whether you agree, disagree, or are still figuring it out, the goal is to create honest dialogue around misogyny, masculinity, and healing. Growth starts with self-reflection, and redefining masculinity starts with truth. If this video resonates with you, make sure to LIKE, COMMENT, and SUBSCRIBE to Unconscious Flyness for more conversations centered around culture, healing, relationships, emotional intelligence, Black identity, and healthy masculinity.

    20 min
  2. Kevin Hart Said WHAT?

    May 20

    Kevin Hart Said WHAT?

    Our hot topics of the week is now its own segment! Every week, hosts Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee discuss the trending topics of the week and share our thoughts only as we can! This week, we discuss the questionable credentials of Cheyenne Bryant, Drake's Iceman release, and The Roast of Kevin Hart! It's an informative and comedic episode, so don't miss out!

    24 min
  3. Are Men The REAL Gold Diggers?

    May 20

    Are Men The REAL Gold Diggers?

    What if we told you that men are the real gold diggers? We know that women have been given this unfair label for decades, but what stops us from calling men the same? How are they taking advantage of women financially? Learn the reasons plus more on this week's episode of the Unconscious Flyness Show!

    24 min
  4. Why Black People Experience Imposter Syndrome Differently

    May 8

    Why Black People Experience Imposter Syndrome Differently

    Imposter Syndrome hits different when you’re a Black man trying to navigate spaces that were never built with you in mind. In this episode of The Unconscious Flyness Show, Chad DeShawn and Pat Lee get into how imposter syndrome shows up in corporate America, content creation, code-switching, respectability politics, and the constant pressure to shrink yourself just to make other people comfortable. We talk about the penalty for being yourself, why Black professionalism is judged through a different lens, and how hair, beards, tattoos, personality, and even the way we speak can become “problems” depending on who’s looking. But the truth is simple: you can play the game without becoming the game. Then it's on to the hot topics of the week, including Tamara Mowry catching that Threads smoke, Usher and Chris Brown allegedly taking the “Black and Blue Tour” on the road, Sneako catching a Dr. Pepper-flavored fade, and Chad officially entering free agency as an NBA fan because the Chicago Bulls ain't worth a damn. Same show. Same shenanigans. Same necessary conversations. Tap in, laugh with us, argue with us, and let us know in the comments: How has imposter syndrome shown up in your life? Like, comment, subscribe, and share this with somebody who needs to hear it.

    33 min
  5. Women are Confusing!

    Apr 14

    Women are Confusing!

    Women are confusing. And sometimes it feels like we’re speaking a different language. In this episode, we playfully discuss the things women do that confuse us. From expectations to communication, we take you inside the cigar room and right into the conversations we’re having. It’s all love and laughter. So let’s have fun with it. Are women confusing to you? How about the men? Tap in and share your most confusing moments from the opposite sex in the comments. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. Contact us through the channels below! Our socials: https://beacons.ai/unconsciousflyness For Bookings/Promo: Chad@UnconsciousFlyness.com Pat@UnconsciousFlyness.com

    58 min
  6. The Truth About High Value Men REVEALED! Are They Misunderstood Or Just REALLY Toxic?

    Apr 1

    The Truth About High Value Men REVEALED! Are They Misunderstood Or Just REALLY Toxic?

    In this episode, we unpack the controversial topic of “high value men” and explore whether they are genuinely misunderstood or if the term has become a cover for toxic behavior. With the rise of social media discussions around masculinity, dating standards, and relationship roles, the idea of the high value man has sparked major debate. Some view it as a symbol of discipline, success, and leadership—while others see red flags, control, and unrealistic expectations. We break down the key differences between confidence and toxicity, discuss common relationship dynamics, and challenge popular narratives around modern dating. This episode is perfect for anyone interested in dating advice, relationship discussions, masculinity, and cultural conversations shaping today’s dating landscape. Join the conversation and decide for yourself: Are high value men misunderstood… or just really toxic?

    11 min
  7. Being Black in the 90s: The Good, The Bad, and the HILARIOUS!

    Mar 23

    Being Black in the 90s: The Good, The Bad, and the HILARIOUS!

    The viral question “What was it like in the 90s?” has everyone talking—but this episode goes beyond surface-level nostalgia to explore the real experiences behind it. We dive into what it truly meant to grow up in the 90s, especially as Black kids navigating culture, community, and identity before the rise of social media (and thank God we didn't have social media back then!) From unforgettable childhood moments to the raw humor of roast culture, we unpack how those experiences shaped who we are today. Whether you lived it or are just curious about it, this conversation offers humor, honesty, and perspective on a generation that was raised a little tougher...and laughed a little louder.

    39 min
  8. It’s a Divorce, Not a Separation. The TRUTH On Why The Target Boycott Will NEVER End!

    Mar 16

    It’s a Divorce, Not a Separation. The TRUTH On Why The Target Boycott Will NEVER End!

    Pastor Jamal Bryant has stated that the Target Boycott is over. But is it really over or are folks really trying to spend their hard earned dollars at the retail giant again? In this segment, we discuss the Target boycott from our perspective. We share our thoughts on why the boycott won’t end and why this will impact the landscape of corporate spending as we know it. Welcome to “Off the Flyness”. These segments don’t count as normal full length episodes, but rather serve as an “off the fly” discussion that needs to be addressed to the community. If you like what you see, hit that subscribe button! Spread the love by sharing our content with your friends and family!

    13 min
  9. Sinners is Going for Blood, But Can it Win BIG at the Oscars?

    Mar 14

    Sinners is Going for Blood, But Can it Win BIG at the Oscars?

    In this episode, we dive into the growing awards season buzz surrounding Sinners and ask the big question: can this masterpiece actually go all the way at the Oscars? From its viral momentum to the cultural conversation surrounding the film, we break down why Sinners has what it takes to dominate the covered awards ceremony. Plus listen to us analyze, roast, and critique the viral Pretty Ricky video that's sweeping the internet right now! If you love movie analysis, awards season predictions, pop culture commentary, and Oscars debates, this episode is for you! Tap into the eliticism and subscribe today!

    34 min
  10. Don’t Choke on the Red Pill: The TRUTH About Toxic Masculinity

    Mar 1

    Don’t Choke on the Red Pill: The TRUTH About Toxic Masculinity

    The red pill movement claims to “wake men up.” But what if it’s actually poisoning minds? In this episode of Unconscious Flyness, CookingWithPatLee and Chad DeShawn confront the rise of red pill ideology, manosphere culture, and dominance-driven masculinity narratives that are reshaping how young men think about women, relationships, power, and identity. We break down how red pill content: • Encourages emotional suppression and grievance-based thinking • Frames women as adversaries instead of partners • Promotes dominance as the foundation of masculinity • Exploits male frustration for profit • Reinforces isolation under the disguise of “strength”. We examine how rigid masculinity norms contribute to depression, loneliness, relationship breakdown, and hostility — while influencers package resentment as empowerment. This isn’t an attack on men. It’s a call for accountability. It's a call for collective understanding. It's a call to shift your mindsets from blame to self reflection. Because when masculinity becomes a performance built on control and superiority, everybody loses — especially men. We believe masculinity can be strong without being oppressive. Confident without being insecure. Disciplined without being cold. If you’re tired of rage marketing disguised as self-improvement, this conversation is for you. The red pill isn’t truth. It’s a trap. And we’re breaking it down — piece by piece. 🎙 Subscribe and join the movement toward conscious masculinity.

    1h 16m
  • 10 Episodes

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Hosts Pat Lee and Chad Deshawn offer insights from a Black man’s perspective, but never in isolation. Conversations about pop culture, politics, and the Black experience in America move with the understanding that Black women are also in the room, shaping the dialogue, challenging the thinking, and influencing the culture just as much as the men speaking. This is about identity, relationships, culture, and the way forward. As they reflect on life experiences they dare to say the quiet part out loud. Sometimes it’s funny. Sometimes it’s uncomfortable. But it's always honest.

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  • Creator
    Patrick Lee & Chad DeShawn
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    10
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Patrick Lee 2026
  • Show Website
    The Unconscious Flyness Show

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