Episode summary Nate Alley is the owner of Sentinel Homes Waikato, Business & Leadership Coach at Roar Coaching, and a dad to two young girls, Hayden and Carter. From a childhood spent figuring things out without a father figure to building a successful construction business and bringing long-term team members into equity ownership, Nate’s path has been fueled by drive, grit, and a constant pursuit of self-improvement. Recorded over an open-ended conversation about what it means to lead, this episode covers the realities of managing people, why Feedback is a gift, how perspective changes everything when business gets tough, and the importance of stepping outside our comfort zones. Honest, grounded, and packed with practical wisdom for anyone growing a business, a team, or themselves. In this episode • Who Nate Alley is today: balancing fatherhood, running Sentinel Homes Waikato, and stepping into coaching • Core values built from childhood: Manaaki (respect), Tupu (growth), Mahi (effort), Whānau (family), and adventure • Developing deep gratitude and perspective, and why "pressure is a privilege" in business and life • The ongoing apprenticeship of leadership and learning how to lead people as individuals • The 4 A’s feedback framework from No Rules Rules: Aim to assist, Actionable, Acknowledge, Accept or decline • Bringing business partner Ash and her husband Grub into 40% shareholding and why sharing ownership grows the whole pie • Judging ourselves on intent vs. judging others on behavior, and using empathy to navigate hard conversations • Showing up for his daughters and why his own upbringing makes him place top priority on fatherhood • The "Lads and Dads" community: finding psychological safety and deep connections with fellow business owners • "Do hard things": pushing past modern comfort crises, embracing Misogis, and reframing tough times as "happening FOR me, not TO me" • The role of coaching and self-awareness as the ultimate unlock for personal performance Chapters • 00:00 Welcome to the Growing Kiwis podcast • 00:54 Who is Nate Alley today? Fatherhood, Sentinel Homes, and Coaching • 02:17 Nate's values: Manaaki, Tupu, Mahi, Whānau, and Adventure • 05:22 Perspective, gratitude, and top 5% living • 09:44 Early business mistakes, Rich Dad Poor Dad, and learning by doing • 14:04 The hard work of leadership and managing different personalities • 18:39 The 4 A’s feedback model in action • 26:44 Business partnership: Ash's journey from admin to 40% shareholder & director • 33:02 Intent vs. behavior and self-awareness through hardship • 38:06 Being the father he didn't have growing up • 46:00 Friendships, and the Lads & Dads group • 52:56 Relationships, growth, and lessons from divorce • 58:31 Chasing peace and contentment by leaving it all out there • 01:00:42 Comfort Crisis, housing affordability, and doing hard things • 01:07:03 "Happening for me, not to me" mindset in business • 01:11:22 Secret sauce: Caring deeply about what matters • 01:13:34 Self-awareness, and the power of coaching • 01:20:18 Decision making, values, and needing a "chunky" goal About Nate Nate Alley is the owner of Sentinel Homes Waikato, and a father to two young daughters, Hayden and Carter. Starting out as a young entrepreneur, Nate has spent over 11 years growing Sentinel Homes while continuously sharpening his leadership, culture-building, and business skills. Passionate about outdoor adventure, continuous growth (Tupu), and helping others level up through self-awareness, Nate uses his experiences across business, parenting, and endurance challenges to inspire others to throw their bag over the fence and get after it. Links Sentinel Homes Waikato website Roar Coaching Enjoyed this episode? If this one resonated, follow Growing Kiwis wherever you listen, and share it with someone who is building something of their own. We would love to hear your biggest takeaway, so come and say hi over on Instagram!