Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly

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Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly Naming the dynamics we feel yet can’t always explain. Welcome to a space dedicated to the gray areas of healing, relationships, and self-discovery. I believe that personal growth starts with better language for our internal world. Whether we’re deconstructing the difference between an apology and true accountability or exploring the hidden costs of "pretending" in our relationships, this is a place for quiet authority and deep introspection. New reflections are shared weekly Tuesdays & Thursdays. Subscribe to join our community of thinkers as we navigate the nuance of being human, together.

  1. 6h ago ·  Bonus

    No Contact, No Shame: Protecting Self While Loving Family | Thinking Out Loud

    In this episode, Kimberly sits down with Daesha Cates to discuss the intricate web of family relationships and the powerful journey of estrangement. Daesha shares her personal story of navigating a strained relationship with her father, the impact it had on her self-worth, and the importance of setting boundaries for her mental health. They explore the difference between love and acceptance, and how finding peace in difficult family dynamics can lead to personal growth. Tune in for a candid conversation that emphasizes the significance of self-love and the journey toward healing. Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube Kimberly - YouTube Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  2. 1d ago

    How Do We Tell the Difference Between Support & Control? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP 27: Is It Support…or Control? When you’ve grown up in unhealthy or enmeshed relationships, control can feel like love and safety can feel suspicious. In this episode of Thinking Out Loud, Kimberly unpacks the subtle but powerful difference between genuine support and control—and why telling them apart can be so confusing. She explores how healthy support expands your choices, strengthens your self-trust, and celebrates your growth, while control shrinks you, creates self-doubt, and ties love to obedience. Through examples of everyday dynamics in families, friendships, partnerships, and culture, Kimberly offers language and questions to help you notice what you’re actually experiencing in your relationships. In this episode, we explore: How to tell if someone is supporting you or managing youThe difference between codependency and healthy interdependenceWays control can sound “loving” while undermining your autonomyWhy healing your own patterns is as important as spotting others’Key questions to ask: Who am I becoming in this relationship?This podcast is for reflection and conversation, not professional advice. Take what resonates, leave the rest, and give yourself space to hear your own voice. Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube Kimberly - YouTube Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  3. 6d ago

    What Do We Mean When We Say We Want a Ride Or Die? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP26: Would You Love Me If I Was a Worm? What are we really asking for when we say we want a “ride or die”?  Is it loyalty?  Or is it the hope that someone will stay beside us when life becomes heavy, messy, painful, or lonely?  In this deeply personal episode, Kimberly explores loneliness, emotional exhaustion, grief, friendship, unconditional support, trauma, and the human need to feel emotionally safe with other people. Through stories about her grandfather, postpartum struggles, friendships, heartbreak, and healing, she reflects on the difference between possession and presence—and why so many people are starving for genuine connection.  This episode explores:  the loneliness epidemic  emotional safety and human connection  grief and losing safe people  kindness during difficult seasons  support versus enabling  trauma, shame, and emotional isolation  friendship, loyalty, and unconditional care  the fear of being “too much”  learning to receive love without earning it through performance  What if “ride or die” was never really about someone dying for you…  but about someone refusing to abandon you while you’re alive?  Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube Kimberly - YouTube Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  4. Jul 7

    When Did Communication Become About Perfection Instead of Honesty? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP25: You Communicate Someone into Caring What if healthy communication isn’t actually about saying things perfectly?  In this episode, Kimberly explores the pressure many people feel to communicate “correctly” in order to deserve being heard. From overexplaining and emotional self-erasure to boundaries, accountability, emotional capacity, and the difference between honesty and impulsivity—this conversation dives into what healthy communication actually looks like in real life.  This episode talks about:  overexplaining and people pleasing  emotional neglect and feeling unheard  boundaries and emotional capacity  trauma dumping vs. healthy processing  accountability and repair  why some conversations stop being productive  the difference between connection and control  Because sometimes communication isn’t failing because you said it wrong.  Sometimes the issue is that the other person was never willing—or able—to truly hear you in the first place. Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube Kimberly - YouTube Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  5. Jul 2

    What Does It Mean for People to Act Out of Character? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP24: 80/20 in Relationships What happens when a relationship slowly stops feeling emotionally safe? Most relationships don't fall apart overnight. The shift is often gradual—a little less consistency, a little more tension, a little more uncertainty. Until one day, you realize you're spending more energy managing the relationship than enjoying it. In this episode, Kimberly explores the idea of the "80/20 relationship" and why emotional safety depends more on predictability than perfection. She discusses how trauma, burnout, grief, resentment, attachment wounds, and survival mode can change the way people show up in relationships—and how to recognize the difference between a difficult season and a harmful pattern. Topics include: • Emotional safety vs. emotional instability • Why predictability matters more than perfection • Walking on eggshells and hypervigilance • Trauma, burnout, and personality changes • People-pleasing, over-functioning, and hyper-independence • Difference between growth and chaos • Grieving who you were inside a relationship • Learning to trust yourself again Kimberly also shares personal reflections on emotional abuse, fertility struggles, abandonment fears, and the painful realization that love should never require self-abandonment. Because relationships are allowed to change. People are allowed to change. You should not have to disappear in order to keep the relationship alive. 🎙️ Thinking Out Loud with Kimberly is a podcast about boundaries, healing, identity, relationships, and the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. #Relationships #Attachment #MentalHealth #SelfWorth #PersonalGrowth #ThinkingOutLoudPodcast Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube www.youtube.com/@thinkingoutloudkimberly Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  6. Jul 1 ·  Bonus

    Leaving the Label, Keeping the Good: A Hopeful Roadmap | Thinking Out Loud

    In this episode Kimberly talks with Audra Phelps — coach, former LDS member, and mom — about the messy, courageous work of disentangling faith, identity, and family life. Audra shares her journey leaving the Mormon Church, how she rebuilt community and purpose, and practical tools for emotional regulation, boundary-setting, and deciding what to keep or let go. Whether you’re questioning, staying, or already out, this conversation offers compassionate, middle-ground guidance and hope for creating a life aligned with your values. Find Audra at: Mama Audra - Coach for Ex Mormon Moms  Mama Audra - YouTube  Mama Audra (@mamaaudra) | TikTok  Facebook Instagram Free Masterclass: https://mamaaudra.com/training If you're interested in collaborating email Kimberly @ thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  7. Jun 30

    When Did Resilience Start Meaning You're Not Allowed to Be Disappointed? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP23: When Life Gives You Lemons… Now What? “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” But what happens when you don’t want lemonade? What happens when the lemons represent grief, infertility, disappointment, burnout, loss, or a life that didn’t turn out the way you imagined? In this episode, Kimberly explores the pressure to “look on the bright side” and how resilience has slowly become confused with emotional suppression. Through personal reflections on infertility, motherhood, disappointment, and healing, she talks about the importance of allowing yourself to feel pain without rushing to turn it into something inspirational. This episode explores: toxic positivity and forced gratitudeinfertility and emotional griefthe difference between resilience and suppressionholding joy and disappointment at the same timewhy people rush others out of painlearning to process emotions honestly instead of performing strengthBecause maybe resilience isn’t pretending you like the lemons. Maybe it’s giving yourself permission to decide what comes next after admitting you don’t. Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud. #Podcast #MentalHealthPodcast #SelfReflection #EmotionalGrowth #DeepConversations #HonestConversations #HealingJourney #KimberlyRoller Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube www.youtube.com/@thinkingoutloudkimberly Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud Blog Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly | Substack For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

  8. Jun 25

    Should We Bring Mom Shaming Back? | Thinking Out Loud

    EP22: Mom Shaming  “Should we bring mom shaming back?”  It’s a question that’s been showing up more and more online—usually from people carrying real pain from childhood. But does shame actually create better parenting… or just better hiding?  In this episode, Kimberly explores the difference between accountability, punishment, and projection. She talks about the emotional weight mothers carry, the pressure of parenting under constant public judgment, and how shame can quietly make struggling parents spiral instead of grow.  Through personal stories and reflection, this episode unpacks:  the rise of “soft” mom shaming online  generational pain and unresolved childhood wounds  the difference between harmful patterns and human mistakes  how shame impacts parenting in real time  why accountability and cruelty are not the same thing  what actually helps parents grow and children thrive  This is a conversation about parenting, healing, accountability, support systems, and what happens when mothers are expected to carry the weight of everyone else’s pain.  Because maybe the real question isn’t whether moms should be judged more harshly—  maybe it’s what actually creates change.  Welcome back to Thinking Out Loud. #Podcast #MentalHealthPodcast #SelfReflection #EmotionalGrowth #DeepConversations #HonestConversations #HealingJourney #KimberlyRoller Subscribe & Follow Thinking Out Loud YouTube www.youtube.com/@thinkingoutloudkimberly Facebook www.facebook.com/thinkingoutloud.kimberly/ Instagram Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/5nXzTR38voNLUuoP0pHbDm?si=c9c54c6d869248f3 Apple Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinking-out-loud/id1883286710 Deezer https://link.deezer.com/s/332FJxgr8rpT3wbeQTDew Amazon Music https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/f6413887-cf19-4113-bed1-45e3f31d636c/thinking-out-loud For questions, collaborations, or guest inquiries: 📧 thinkingoutloudkimberly@gmail.com

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Thinking Out Loud | Kimberly Naming the dynamics we feel yet can’t always explain. Welcome to a space dedicated to the gray areas of healing, relationships, and self-discovery. I believe that personal growth starts with better language for our internal world. Whether we’re deconstructing the difference between an apology and true accountability or exploring the hidden costs of "pretending" in our relationships, this is a place for quiet authority and deep introspection. New reflections are shared weekly Tuesdays & Thursdays. Subscribe to join our community of thinkers as we navigate the nuance of being human, together.

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