High Five Hot Mess Podcast

High Five Hot Mess Podcast

High Five Hot Mess: the podcast for midlife women and the questions stuck in their group chat. We’re Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith, longtime friends and 30-year veterans of the “it’s fine, we’re fine” mantra. Every week, we say the quiet parts out loud and ask the questions women are already thinking about marriage, friendship, relationships, family, therapy, pop culture, identity, and whatever fresh nonsense life dropped in our laps this week. Sometimes it’s just the two of us trying to figure it out. Sometimes we bring in someone who actually knows what they’re talking about. Either way, nobody is getting a lecture, and nobody is pretending to have it all figured out. We see you. Come hang out. We’re in this together. New episodes every Thursday.

  1. 2d ago

    When the World Feels Out of Control: What Can We Actually Do About It?

    When the World Feels Out of Control: What Can We Actually Do About It?The world is on fire, but dinner is still at six. This week, we’re asking the question that keeps coming up every time we open our phones: What can we actually do about any of this? From terrifying headlines and AI anxiety to comfort murder, apocalypse prepping, K-pop and some highly questionable self-soothing techniques, we’re figuring out where the line is between paying attention and completely losing our minds. No grand solutions. No pretending everything is fine. Just two women trying to figure out how the hell we’re supposed to live our normal lives when nothing feels particularly normal. You are not alone. ❤️ Chapters00:00 The Year of the Villain 01:41 Okay, What Are We Supposed to Do? 05:19 Let’s Look at the Headlines 09:35 Do I Still Buy the Toothpaste? 13:35 The World Is on Fire, Dinner Is Still at Six 17:42 What If You Just Stop Watching the News? 20:27 Why Are We Comfort-Watching Murder? 22:18 Wait… Are We All Preppers Now? 26:32 Emergency Salt for Demons 29:58 So What CAN We Actually Control? 31:43 Parenting in the Age of “Is This Even Real?” 35:48 Remember When Nostradamus Traumatized Us? 37:38 The Robots Are Protesting. Seriously. 38:25 Okay, But How Are We Self-Soothing? 40:15 When the Spa Isn’t Cutting It Anymore 42:10 K-Pop vs. Something Much, Much Darker 😂 43:30 So… What Can We Actually Do About It? Come hang out with us: 🎧 Apple Podcasts 🎧 Spotify ▶️ YouTube 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok 💬 Facebook Tags: midlife women, women over 40, women over 50, Gen X women, feeling overwhelmed, doomscrolling, news anxiety, self soothing, finding control, mental load, female friendship, midlife humor, women’s podcast, funny women, information overload, protecting your peace, coping with stress

  2. Sep 17

    Are We Really Sorry? | Why Women Can't Stop Apologizing

    Are We Really Sorry? | Why Women Can't Stop Apologizing If you've ever apologized for taking up space, asking a simple question, or just existing in someone's way — this one's for you. This week Lisa W and Lisa S go head-to-head on two completely different relationships with the word "sorry." One of them almost never apologizes. The other says it so often it's basically background noise — she tried counting her own reflex apologies over one afternoon and lost track. By the end, they're asking the real question underneath it all: are we actually sorry, or do we just feel like we're supposed to be? If you're a chronic over-apologizer, a recovering people pleaser, or you're ready to make "sorry, not sorry" your new personal policy — you're going to see yourself in this one. In this episode: Why "sorry" has become a reflex instead of a real apologyThe hidden cost of over-apologizing — it's not politeness, it's powerA homework challenge: track your own "sorry"s for a day and see what you findTwo opposite apology styles — which one is yours?Come hang out with us: 🎥 YouTube: youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast 🎧 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/2Q4hSMzZMwilO1S81NLFT7 📸 Instagram: @highfivehotmess 🎵 TikTok: @highfivehotmesspod 💌 hello@highfivehotmesspod.com 🌐 highfivehotmesspod.com High Five Hot Mess — you are not the only one.

  3. Sep 10

    Are We Too Old to Fangirl? | BTS, Fandom & Finding Joy After 50

    Are We Too Old to Fangirl? | BTS, Fandom & Finding Joy After 50 When did women supposedly get too old to completely lose their minds over something they love? Men can scream at football games, spend a fortune on tickets and build weekends around their fandom. But when grown women fangirl over BTS, K-pop, a TV show or celebrity crush, we're supposed to be embarrassed? Absolutely not. This week on High Five Hot Mess, Lisa Smith takes us inside her BTS ARMY era — concerts, 70,000 screaming fans, light sticks, fan gifts, biases, bias wreckers and the question of how much is too much for a few hours of pure joy. Meanwhile, Lisa Wilson has fallen down her own rabbit hole thanks to K-dramas, C-dramas and the Instagram girlies who convinced her 40 subtitled episodes were reasonable. Why does fandom feel different at 21 than 51? Why are women embarrassed by things that make us happy? And when does "I want to marry him" become "Has he eaten? He looks tired." 😂 Welcome to the Auntie Zone. We're talking BTS ARMY, fangirling after 50, female friendship, K-pop, K-dramas and midlife joy. Maybe we didn't age out of fangirling. Maybe we earned it. 💜 IN THIS EPISODE 00:00 Can You Be Too Old for BTS? 02:50 Why Are Women Embarrassed to Be Fangirls? 06:12 Fangirling at 21 vs. Fangirling at 51 10:04 From “Marry Me” to “I Hope He Ate Today” 13:05 Why BTS ARMY Feels Like a Community 17:01 How Much Would You Spend on a Concert? 18:46 BTS Bias, Bias Wreckers & Fan Gifts Explained 24:30 What 70,000 BTS Fans Feel Like 27:54 This Girl LOVES a K-Drama! 31:26 When a Celebrity Crush Becomes Auntie Mode 33:18 Why We Love the Things We Love 36:12 Is There an Age Limit to BTS ARMY? 💜 BTS & ARMY Weverse: https://weverse.io/bts BTS Notices: https://weverse.io/bts/notice US BTS ARMY: https://www.usbtsarmy.com/ BTSx50STATES: https://btsx50states.com/ 💜 HIGH FIVE HOT MESS Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1883400763 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Q4hSMzZMwilO1S81NLFT7 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@highfivehotmesspod Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/highfivehotmesspod What are YOU unapologetically fangirling over? BTS ARMY: Who's your bias and bias wrecker? 💜 Tell us in the comments. We support the light stick. 😂 High Five Hot Mess is a comedy comfort podcast for women navigating midlife, friendship, aging and pop culture. #BTS #BTSARMY #Fangirl #WomenOver50 #MidlifeWomen #KPop #Fandom #WomenOver40 #KDrama #HighFiveHotMess

  4. Sep 3

    Should We Join a Cult?

    We’ve both been in things that felt a little cult-y. You probably have too. You just called it your job, your book club or your weekly mahjong game. This week, we’re breaking down why smart, high functioning, skeptical women can still get pulled into cult like situations. From a retail kickoff that had us singing Eye of the Tiger on chairs in boxing robes to the extremely real cult like energy of Twilight opening weekend. Then we turn the question on ourselves: could two smart, skeptical, high functioning women actually get pulled into a cult? And what would it take? A charismatic leader? The promise of a better life? Or maybe something much simpler: a group of women who make you feel like you finally found your people. Somewhere between Tony Robbins, Twilight, wellness gurus, better hair and our own questionable life choices, the question gets a lot more complicated than we expected. Chapters00:00 — Should We Join a Cult?01:27 — Why Are Cults So Fascinating?03:01 — Why Are Women Drawn to Cults?04:32 — Was Our Retail Career Basically a Cult?06:30 — Rocky, Eye of the Tiger & Corporate Brainwashing08:17 — Tony Robbins & "I Can Make Your Hands Clap"09:46 — Could Smart Women Actually Join a Cult?10:14 — What Would It Take to Recruit Us?13:17 — A Charismatic Leader—or Women Who Make You Feel Seen?15:00 — Female Friendship, Trust & Finding Your People17:08 — Maybe Cults Don't Sell Belief. They Sell Belonging.17:42 — When Fandom Starts Looking a Little Culty21:38 — The Twilight Experience: A Cult of Fandom22:41 — Prince, BTS & When Fandom Feels Like Belonging23:54 — Super Culty, but Super Fun25:39 — Wellness Culture, Gurus & the Midlife Rabbit Hole28:35 — Would You Join a Cult for Better Hair?31:02 — Are We Too Suspicious to Join a Cult?31:42 — Fine. We'll Just Start Our Own Cult.36:40 — Tony Robbins, Celebrity Retreats & the Ultimate Scam39:36 — The Cult Red Flags We'd Actually Pay Attention ToPlatforms & SocialsListen: 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1883400763 🎧 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Q4hSMzZMwilO1S81NLFT7 📺 YouTube: youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast Follow: 📸 Instagram: @highfivehotmess 🎵 TikTok: @highfivehotmesspod Say hi: ✉️ hello@highfivehotmesspod.com

  5. Aug 27

    Why Are We Always Ready to Throw Hands?

    Why Are We Always Ready to Throw Hands? This week, Lisa and Lisa are asking why midlife women are so ready to fight, flee, or freeze over the smallest things. Have years of chronic stress, Gen X trauma, menopause, and being the responsible one left us permanently stuck in fight mode? Or have we simply had enough? Honestly, it could be all of the above. Along the way, Lisa S becomes the angry Amazon customer she used to hate, Lisa W explains exactly what happens when somebody hurts Doug's feelings, someone makes the mistake of telling us to smile, Lisa runs away from Trent Reznor, and we revisit the time the two of us sat in an airplane exit row studying the evacuation instructions like the fate of America depended on us. And then there's the storage container. Because sometimes you're furious about the Amazon package, the Teams message, the Tupperware, or the couch. And sometimes it was never about the couch. If you've ever caught yourself thinking, “Why am I so angry?” or “Why did that tiny thing set me off?” — pull up a chair. You're among friends. High Five Hot Mess is the comedy comfort podcast for midlife women — the questions stuck in your group chat, said out loud. Chapters00:00:00 — Everything Feels Urgent 00:09:39 — Fight, Flight or Freeze 00:18:31 — Living on High Alert 00:28:29 — Menopause and Anger 00:33:35 — What Actually Helps 00:40:58 — Friendship and Boundaries Find High Five Hot MessListen on Apple Podcasts: High Five Hot Mess on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify: High Five Hot Mess on Spotify Watch on YouTube: High Five Hot Mess on YouTube Follow on Instagram: @highfivehotmess Follow on TikTok: @highfivehotmesspod

  6. Aug 20

    Are We Better Off Alone? Team Companionship or Team Leave Me Alone?

    Have you ever wondered if you're actually happier alone… or if you've just gotten really good at protecting your peace? This week on High Five Hot Mess, Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith tackle a question more women seem to be asking than ever before: Are we better off alone? From dating before cell phones to navigating relationships after 50, we talk honestly about the expectations Gen X women grew up with, why so many women are choosing to stay single, and whether companionship is something we truly need—or simply something we've always been told we should want. In this episode:Why loving your alone time isn't something to apologize forThe relationship rules Gen X women grew up believingDating after 50 (and where do you even meet people?)The "Swamp Witch Era" and protecting your peaceWhy more women are choosing to stay singleWhy separate bedrooms aren't a relationship problemThe difference between wanting a partner and needing oneWhy independence changes the way we think about relationshipsTeam Companionship vs. Team Leave Me Alone This isn't an episode about convincing you to stay single or find a partner. It's two lifelong friends asking an honest question—and discovering that there isn't one right answer. 💛 We want to hear from you! Are you Team Companionship or Team Leave Me Alone? Let us know in the comments or send us a message! 🎧 Listen & Follow High Five Hot Mess 🍎 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-five-hot-mess/id1759165758 🎥 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMess 🌐 Website https://highfivehotmesspod.com/ 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess/ 💙 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/highfivehotmesspod 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@highfivehotmess 🧵 Threads https://www.threads.com/@highfivehotmess

  7. Aug 13

    High Five Hot Mess | Help! I Need an Adult: Family Conflict During a Crisis

    Family emergencies don't just test your plan—they test your family. Most of us prepare wills, insurance, and paperwork. Very few of us prepare for what happens to our relationships when someone gets sick, a parent needs care, or life suddenly changes. This week, Lisa sits down with licensed marriage and family therapist Ryan Wynder, LMFT, to talk about the conversations every family should have before a crisis, why siblings often fall into familiar roles, how to navigate conflict without destroying relationships, and why the crisis doesn't create family dynamics—it simply turns up the volume. Whether you're caring for aging parents, supporting a loved one through illness, or simply want to prepare your family before life changes, this episode will give you practical tools you can use today. In this episode:• Why families avoid difficult conversations • The 3 conversations every family should have before a crisis • Why one sibling often becomes "the responsible one" • How to stay curious instead of defensive • Ryan's favorite communication tool: "The story I'm telling myself..." • Setting healthy boundaries without guilt • Caregiver burnout and why you can't pour from an empty cup • Why winning the argument isn't the same as saving the relationship • One conversation every family should have this month Connect with Ryan Wynder🌐 Website: https://www.ryanwynder.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thevegastherapist 🎙️ Podcast: The Vegas Therapist with Ryan Wynder https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-vegas-therapist-ryan-wynder/id1457074143 Books Mentioned📖 Finding Meaning — David Kessler https://www.grief.com/books/finding-meaning/ 📖 Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Glover Tawwab https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/647316/set-boundaries-find-peace-by-nedra-glover-tawwab/ More from High Five Hot Mess🌐 Website: https://highfivehotmesspod.com 🎧 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-five-hot-mess-podcast ▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMess 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess 👍 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/highfivehotmesspod 💬 Threads: https://www.threads.com/@highfivehotmess If you've ever thought, "Help! I Need an Adult," this series is for you. Every episode brings in trusted experts to help us navigate life's biggest challenges.

  8. Aug 6

    Help! I Need an Adult: My Mom Has Dementia with Dr. Natali Edmonds (Dementia Careblazers)

    High Five Hot Mess Podcast Nobody prepares you for the moment you realize you're becoming the adult. When a parent begins showing signs of dementia, families are suddenly faced with impossible questions: Is this normal aging or dementia?When should we step in?How do we help without taking away independence?What happens when siblings don't agree?When is it time for memory care?In this episode of Help! I Need an Adult, Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith sit down with Dr. Natali Edmonds, founder of Dementia Careblazers, board-certified geropsychologist, dementia expert, and author of The Dementia Care Toolkit, to talk about what every family wishes they knew before becoming a caregiver. Together they discuss: Early signs of dementiaThe biggest mistakes families makeWhen to ask for helpCaregiver burnoutSibling conflictMemory careLong-term planningHow to prepare before a crisisHow to care for someone you love without losing yourself in the processWhether you're caring for a parent today or simply know this day may come, this conversation will help you feel more prepared—and a little less alone. Connect with Dr. Natali Edmonds & Dementia Careblazers📚 The Dementia Care Toolkit https://www.amazon.com/dp/1394389639 🌐 Website https://careblazers.com ▶️ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/DementiaCareblazers 📘 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/DementiaCareblazers 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dementia_careblazers 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dementia_careblazers Connect with High Five Hot Mess🎙 Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-five-hot-mess-podcast/id1883400763 🎧 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2Q4hSMzZMwilO1S81NLFT7 ▶️ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@HighFiveHotMessPodcast 📸 Instagram https://www.instagram.com/highfivehotmess 🎵 TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@highfivehotmesspod 🌐 Website https://highfivehotmesspod.com

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High Five Hot Mess: the podcast for midlife women and the questions stuck in their group chat. We’re Lisa Wilson and Lisa Smith, longtime friends and 30-year veterans of the “it’s fine, we’re fine” mantra. Every week, we say the quiet parts out loud and ask the questions women are already thinking about marriage, friendship, relationships, family, therapy, pop culture, identity, and whatever fresh nonsense life dropped in our laps this week. Sometimes it’s just the two of us trying to figure it out. Sometimes we bring in someone who actually knows what they’re talking about. Either way, nobody is getting a lecture, and nobody is pretending to have it all figured out. We see you. Come hang out. We’re in this together. New episodes every Thursday.

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    2026
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