Things I want my kids to know

Ted Bradshaw
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As a therapist and as a parent, these are the things I want my kids to know. By Ted Bradshaw, Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, Honorary Assistant Professor of Psychological Therapies at the University of Nottingham, and father of three. cbtted.substack.com

  1. 8h ago

    Flexibility and the middle ground

    This is a central part of most of the work that I do with people: trying to find a balance in the middle ground somewhere. With anxiety, that might be recognising that being vigilant and on the lookout can be helpful, but taken to far can feel overwhelming. In our expectations of ourselves with people-pleasing or perfectionism, some of that is useful but taken too far can make life feel very stressful. Peace lies somewhere in the middle ground: in the ability to be flexible with yourself and your expectations. Here’s all the usual links: Apple: Spotify: Youtube: This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

  2. Jul 24

    Anger

    Anger is a feeling. It is not inherently good or bad. It is the emotion that is there to drive us to defend ourselves. When we describe anger as a problem, or as “bad,” most of the time it is not anger itself that we have the problem with - it is how the anger is expressed. In the form of aggression, holding things in all day until they explode, or going passive-aggressive and wielding anger in a cold kind of way. In this episode we talk about what anger is, where it comes from, and what to do about the fact that sometimes it can feel like it goes from 0-10 in a flash. We talk about ways in which you can catch it early and do things that help. And why sometimes the job is not about being less bothered by things - but instead allowing yourself to speak up earlier, before things get on top of you. Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more: You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there: https://substack.com/@cbtted If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at pod@cbtted.co.uk @cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube. www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks. Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/cbtted Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

  3. Jul 17

    Red Flags

    Red flags. This is not an easy topic as I think part of the point of red flags is that they are only usually obvious in hindsight. I think we would all like to think that we wouldn't ever be taken in, but the truth is that anybody can be taken in by someone who turns out to be manipulative or dishonest. However, there are some things that are worth thinking about when it comes to paying attention to signs that things might not be quite right.This is not an easy topic and I know can be a sensitive one, so I hope I have done it some justice here.The request for this topic came in from a listener. If you wanted to make a suggestion or ask a question, then drop me a message at pod@cbtted.co.uk. I can't promise you that I will be able to answer it, but I can promise I will read it and do my best if I can. As always, below are the links for listening or watching in whatever way suits you best. And a reminder that there is more content available with a subscription. £3.50 a month with a 7-day free trial if you just fancy giving it a go. Links: Apple: Spotify: This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

  4. Jul 10

    Fixed beliefs about yourself

    I've been watching my kids at sports days and it has made me think about the kinds of beliefs we can develop about ourselves. "I am no good at running / maths / painting / dancing..." Beliefs that are black-and-white, with the assumption that things are never going to change. In this episode I talk (slowly - I was mega-hot) about how this can be limiting, and how we can look at things in a more helpful, flexible way. Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more: You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there: https://substack.com/@cbtted If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at pod@cbtted.co.uk @cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube. www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks. Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/cbtted Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

  5. Jun 26

    Practical Gratitude

    Gratitude. To be honest, I have always been a bit sceptical of gratitude as an approach to mental health, because it felt to me like another way of getting someone to dismiss their feelings: "Ah don't feel that way, just be grateful."That isn't my take on it any more and I am grateful for that (see what I did there). Here's my take, with some practical ways you can use it that might be helpful. Links to where you can listen or watch: Apple: Spotify: Youtube: This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

    Practical Gratitude

  6. Jun 19

    Health Anxiety

    This episode is all about health anxiety: what it is, how it plays out and what you can do about it. I hope it is helpful! As always, you can listen or watch in a few different places: Apple Spotify Youtube: This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

    Health Anxiety

  7. Jun 5

    All the ways of dealing with anxious thoughts

    I asked for a few suggestions for podcast topics over on Instagram and overwhelmingly the strongest theme was "dealing with anxious thoughts" so here's my crack at summarising all of the ways I know of to do just that. Which ones work best for you? Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more: You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there: https://substack.com/@cbtted If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at pod@cbtted.co.uk @cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube. www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks.  Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/cbtted Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

    All the ways of dealing with anxious thoughts

  8. May 29

    Expressing and holding boundaries

    Expressing and holding boundaries can be tricky sometimes. That might be because you don't feel like you have the right words to use, it might be because you are uncomfortable with conflict or don't know what to do if someone pushes back, or it might even be that ultimately, you don't know what you really want or perhaps don't feel like you have the right to ask for it or to have it. Either way, I hope there's something in here for you. Thank you for listening. Here are some useful links if you want to learn some more:  You can sign up for bonus episodes on Substack, where you can find my free 40-page anxiety guide and my weekly newsletter while you are there: https://substack.com/@cbtted If you have a question, a comment or a suggestion for a topic, drop me a line at pod@cbtted.co.uk @cbtted is where you can find me on social media (Instagram in particular) and the video versions of this podcast can be found on Youtube. www.cbtted.co.uk is where you can find all the info about the courses that I run, or how to book me for 1:1 work and talks. Finally, if you are getting something from this and you just want to buy me a coffee, you can do so here: https://ko-fi.com/cbtted Thanks again, and I’ll see you next time. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit cbtted.substack.com/subscribe

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As a therapist and as a parent, these are the things I want my kids to know. By Ted Bradshaw, Cognitive Behavioural Therapist, Honorary Assistant Professor of Psychological Therapies at the University of Nottingham, and father of three. cbtted.substack.com

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