Our House with The Smylies

Jason Smylie and Malia Smylie

We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

  1. 5d ago

    How to Tithe When You Can't Afford It

    Tithing 10% of your income sounds crazy until you realize none of it was ever really yours to begin with. This one is just the two of us, working through what The Treasure Principle Bible study is doing to our hearts, our budget, and our bank account anxiety. Because most people want to be generous, they just don't feel like they can afford it yet. So we get honest about what changed. The 10% pay cut question that reframed tithing for us, and what it forced us to look at in our spending. Why 10% makes you feel it at every income level, even through a layoff year. What it means to steward money that was never ours, instead of acting like the CEO of it. Why Malia calls the tithe "the bare minimum," and what she means. How a guy who thinks in investments learned to see generosity as one, with a return we can't outlive. And the difference between a want and a need in a house with four kids in a consumer-everything world. If you want to give but you just don't feel like you can yet, this one is for you. It was never about the math. In the episode we mention a family assessment with a QR code on screen. Here's the link: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment CHAPTERS 00:00 Money fights, and what ended ours 02:02 What a Bible study did to our budget 02:28 Everything is God's, even the scary parts 04:59 Not the CEO of the money 05:45 The 10% pay cut question 08:03 An investment with infinite return 11:35 "The tithe is the bare minimum" 12:28 Tithing 10% when the math doesn't work 13:44 Wants, needs, and the consumer trap MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn Our episode with Ashton, the young Bible student who followed God to Peru FREE FROM US Join the Peaceful Home Challenge waitlist: https://ourhouse.faith/challenge/#waitlist Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://ourhouse.faith/assessment Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ourhousefaith Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Inspired by Joshua 24:15

  2. Sep 24

    The Part of Human Trafficking No One Talks About

    Most of us think a rescue is the end of a human trafficking story. Our friend Jess has spent years inside what actually comes after. Jess leads True ID, a Las Vegas ministry that walks with women rebuilding their lives after trafficking and exploitation. We asked her the questions most people are afraid to ask. Why do rescued women so often go back? What does it take to rebuild a life when the record, the name, and the trust are all broken? She says the studies show it can take seven rescues before a woman is finally free. And what happens the first time a woman steps into a safe bedroom of her own? Then, in the middle of the conversation, Jess told us about the season she calls the dark night of her soul, when hearing these women's stories made a lifelong believer question everything, and the single sentence in a sermon that brought her back. Jason cried on camera for the first time in 31 episodes. If you have ever felt God tugging on your heart to help but thought you had nothing to offer, this one is for you. Jess would tell you that showing up is the whole job. SUPPORT TRUE ID Website: https://mytrueid.org Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/trueid.lv Bowling for Restoration fundraiser, November 7 in Boulder City, details at their site. CHAPTERS 00:00 INTRO 03:14 What reintegration really means 05:54 Why she goes back 06:08 Seven rescues 09:30 The first safe bedroom 14:03 Why it's called True ID 24:44 Jess's testimony: the dark night of her soul 48:21 How to actually help FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Inspired by Joshua 24:15 #humantraffickingawareness #antitrafficking #christianministry #christianpodcast

    The Part of Human Trafficking No One Talks About

  3. Sep 17

    You Have the Same Fight Over and Over Again

    We keep having the same fight over and over. A week after saying we'd never quit this podcast, that fight almost made us quit. This one is just the two of us, days after one of the bigger blowups we've had in a while, walking through exactly how the same argument keeps finding us after almost 16 years of marriage. Because what couples fight about is almost never what the conflict is actually about. So we get honest about our pattern. Where the tension starts before either of us says a word. What happens when one spouse shuts down and goes quiet while the other pushes harder to connect. How our anxious and avoidant attachment styles turn a stressful week into a blowup. Why Malia said "I can't be his Holy Spirit," and what she does instead. And the iceberg picture our coach drew that showed us what's really underneath, and why resolving conflict in our marriage used to take a week and now takes less than a day. Which one of you goes quiet? If you know this loop, this episode is for you. There is a way out, and it's not learning to argue better. Not sure where the fighting is actually coming from? Take our free 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment CHAPTERS 00:00 We almost cancelled this episode 03:52 Why couples have the same argument on repeat 07:23 Where the fight starts before it starts 08:28 When one spouse shuts down and one pursues 09:29 The moment stress becomes a blowup 12:45 “I can’t be his Holy Spirit” 19:17 The iceberg under every fight 22:27 How the fight finally ends WATCH NEXT Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (Attachment Styles): [LINK] Marriage and the 5 Love Languages: [LINK] FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Inspired by Joshua 24:15 #christianmarriage #marriageadvice #resolvingconflict #attachmentstyles

    You Have the Same Fight Over and Over Again

  4. Sep 10

    Get Your Kids to WANT to Do Chores

    Every parent wants their kids to do chores without being asked. We wanted more than that, so we made up The 4 Levels of Service to change their hearts, not just their habits. For years our nightly kitchen cleanup was a fight. Somewhere along the way it stopped being one, and in this episode we walk through exactly what changed. The four levels we teach our kids, and the level most families never get past. What a study of nearly 10,000 kindergartners found about chores that surprised us. The Post-it note trick that got our whole house clean in 20 minutes with worship music on. And the laundry rule that means we never remind anybody about laundry. We also get honest about the part that had to change first, and it was not the kids. If it feels easier to just do it yourself, or you would settle for them doing it without complaining, this one is for you. The goal is a servant's heart, and it starts with ours. Get The 4 Levels of Service one-pager: https://www.ourhouse.faith/4levels CHAPTERS 00:00 Every Parent Wants This 02:06 “It’s Easier to Just Do It Myself” 03:13 What the Studies Actually Say 04:42 The 4 Levels of Service 06:06 The Level Most Families Live In 07:52 From Nightly Fight to Actually Helpful 12:14 The Post-it Note Power Clean 18:19 The Laundry Rule FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Inspired by Joshua 24:15 #christianparenting #choresforkids #raisingkids #servantheart

    Get Your Kids to WANT to Do Chores

  5. Sep 3

    This Podcast Makes No Money. We're Not Stopping.

    Six months ago God nudged us to start a podcast with no plan and no paycheck. It has not made a dollar. We are not stopping We get into what it costs, in money and in time we do not have. What we do when the numbers say stop. The rule we made so this never consumes our family. And the one sentence our pastor said that settled whether we would ever quit. If God has put something on your heart and you keep waiting until you feel qualified, take the leap. This episode is for you. Timestamp: 00:00 Intro 01:28 Six Months of Our House 02:13 Malia’s Layoff and What Came Next 07:57 Why the Podcast Is a Ministry 12:35 Obedience When You Feel Unqualified 17:56 Following God Without Knowing the Plan 20:25 Protecting Their Family From the Work 22:16 The Advice That Helped Them Keep Going FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15 #christianpodcast #leapoffaith #calledbygod #startingapodcast

    This Podcast Makes No Money. We're Not Stopping.

  6. Aug 27

    I Was Destroying My Marriage and Didn't Know It

    Erica LeMarr was having her best year in business while her marriage quietly fell apart. What saved it is the last thing our culture wants to hear. If your life looks successful on paper and feels empty at home, this conversation is for you. She sat down with us and held nothing back. The night her husband finally said the thing that woke her up. Hear how a wife who says "I just obey my husband" ended up with more peace, more friends, and a business that doubled. We asked her the questions you are probably yelling at the screen right now. Isn't that weakness? Where is the line between obedience and being walked on? And what does she say to the strong-willed woman who hears the word submit and wants to say nope!? Timestamp: 00:00 Introduction 01:40 The last straw 03:59 “What could I learn from a stay-at-home mom?” 06:09 “This is weird. Who are you?” 09:27 The phone call she can't explain 22:07 “I just obey” 31:54 The Bible as a constitution 44:05 Letting Jesus be the CEO CONNECT WITH ERICA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ericalemarrhomes Her podcast: Intentional Improvement FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesmylies Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four kids, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for our house, we will serve the Lord. Joshua 24:15 #christianmarriage #godlywife #marriageadvice #christianpodcast

    I Was Destroying My Marriage and Didn't Know It

  7. Aug 20

    The SIMPLEST Way to Start a Gospel Conversation

    There is a way to start a gospel conversation without needing the right words. Scott Edlin found it the day before a Super Bowl. Jason was an atheist three years ago, and he still freezes when a stranger asks about his faith. So we sat down with Scott, founder of the Luke 2 Project, and asked what we actually wanted to know. What do you say when you do not have a verse ready? Why does he believe Christians push more people away from God than they bring in? And what does a box of t-shirts in his trunk have to do with any of it? He also told us something about getting saved that we had never heard anyone say out loud. If you believe but go quiet the second somebody asks you why, this one is for you. CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro 04:44 What happens when you wear one 10:22 32 years in the flesh 12:52 The day before the Super Bowl 25:41 The part of getting saved nobody talks about 29:14 Why Christians push people away 31:46 Just plant a seed 39:45 “Dad, I’m bored” on December 26th THE LUKE 2 PROJECT Website: https://luke2project.org Connect with Scott: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottedlin FREE FROM US Take our 4-minute family assessment: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ourhouse.faith Sponsorship: info@ourhouse.faith We're Jason and Malia. Four boys, almost 16 years married, helping families bring God to the center of their home every week. As for Our House, we will serve the Lord. #sharethegospel #sharingyourfaith #evangelism #christianpodcast

    The SIMPLEST Way to Start a Gospel Conversation

  8. Aug 13

    We Put God at the Center of Our Home. Everything Changed.

    Jon and Danielle Mackin were already Christians, but looking back, they realized God was not truly at the center of their home. Their kids had seen conflict, their marriage lacked grace, and faith was mostly something they practiced on Sundays. In this episode of Our House with The Smylies, Jon and Danielle share how that began to change when they surrounded themselves with people who lived out their relationship with Jesus every day. Prayer, worship, grace, and repair slowly became part of their marriage and parenting. Now their kids still see disagreement, but they also see forgiveness, restoration, and a marriage they can feel secure in. Jon also shares how putting God at the center changed the way he approaches his business and trusts God with what comes next. If you want faith to become part of everyday family life, this conversation is a practical place to start. CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Intro 04:08 - Finding Peace in a Chaotic Home 05:22 - Raising Four Kids 08:34 - Discipline, Consequences, and Self-Control 14:57 - Why Repair After Discipline Matters 18:00 - Bringing Faith Into Everyday Family Life 22:10 - Helping Kids Build Their Own Faith 30:54 - Putting God at the Center of Marriage 35:38 - From Sunday Christianity to Everyday Faith 38:31 - How Grace Changed Their Marriage 41:09 - Letting Your Kids See Conflict and Repair 44:11 - Why Marriage Comes Before the Kids 53:49 - Putting God at the Center of Business 59:27 - Praying Over Clients and Surrendering Work 1:05:36 - The Importance of Christian Friendship Want to know where you can start bringing God to the center of your home? Take the 4-Minute Home Assessment Find out what’s quietly stealing the peace in your home, and discover the first step toward something healthier: https://www.ourhouse.faith/assessment Start Your First Faith-Filled Family Meeting This Week Download your free guide here: https://www.ourhouse.faith/ SUBSCRIBE for new episodes every week: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVv_2EP7ghi1VLKcFIceslA?sub_confirmation=1 We're Jason and Malia Smylie. We've been married over 15 years, have 4 boys, and we help families bring God to the center of their home, their marriage, and their business. #GodCenteredHome #ChristianMarriage #ChristianParenting #FaithAndFamily #ChristianFamily #MarriageAdvice #PuttingGodFirst #OurHousePodcast

    We Put God at the Center of Our Home. Everything Changed.
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We're Jason and Malia, married parents of four boys. We help families build the rhythms and rituals to bring God to the center of their home. Everything we share comes from our own living room, not a textbook. This podcast is for any family that's tired of surviving and ready to start thriving together.

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  • Creator
    Jason Smylie and Malia Smylie
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Clean
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