Actually Not Dumb

Liz Lindenmeier
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Welcome to Actually Not Dumb, where we overthink everything so you don't have to. I'm Liz Lindenmeier, NYC entrepreneur and certified yapper behind Lit & Lean and Coffee & Chill. Both gave me a mic. Neither let me truly just talk. This is the space for thoughts you're too embarrassed to say out loud. Everything is valid before we walk through the door. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs, like chatting with your most self-aware, slightly chaotic best friend. If you can't laugh at yourself, what are we even doing? 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode.

Episodes

  1. May 7

    It's Actually Not Dumb to Still Not Follow Your Sister in Law

    The couch has a new guest and he has never watched a single episode. Not one. We are starting there. Liz is joined by Sean Gispert, her hairdresser, her friend, and apparently someone who needed four days of reminders and still showed up completely unprepared. They met four years ago at a salon in Tribeca through what can only be described as two loud people recognizing each other across a room and deciding that was enough of a reason to be friends. This episode covers everything. RBF as a personality trait and a protection mechanism. The time Liz cut her own bangs at five years old and blamed it on a friend who was not even at school that day. Why you should be cutting your hair every 10 to 12 weeks. Sean's journey from Marrero Louisiana to New York City and 18 years with his husband. The Miss USA girl who didn't have maps and why she is actually not dumb. Why guys in Brooklyn smell. Public libraries. OnlyFans feet. And toes. A lot of toes. Then we open the submissions for another round of am I actually dumb for and things get immediately unhinged. A birthday butt plug. An expert one not a beginner one. A sister in law who still has not been followed on Instagram years after the wedding. Spicy content and targeted Google ads. And the first guest in Actually Not Dumb history to show up without watching a single episode and somehow still pull it off. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs and Sean gave a compliment on air which apparently makes him the only guest to ever do that. These are our unfiltered thoughts. ☕ Fueled by Jolene Coffee. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Submit your "am I actually dumb for..." to actually not dumb pod on socials. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #ActuallyNotDumbPodcast #LizLindenmeier #NYCPodcast #GirlTalkPodcast #UnfilteredThoughts #AmIActuallyDumb #FunnyPodcast #PodcastForWomen #QueerPodcast #GayBestFriend #ComingOutStory #LoveIsLove #QueerLife #Hairdresser #GirlyPop #NYCLifestyle #PrideCommunity #GayLife #OverthinkingPodcast #NewPodcast2026 #PodcastCommunity #Storytime2026 #RelationshipAdvice

    25 min

  2. Apr 24

    It's Actually Not Dumb to Look Like Shit in Public

    Welcome to the Outtakes!! Liz just got out of a mosh pit. She has thoughts. Zero filter as always. This week we open on something that cannot be unseen once you see it — guys who date girls who look like their family members. You know who you are. We are not naming names. Then we get into the Devil Wears Prada era war stories. The time she threw a sweater at a coworker and said hey bitch wrap this like it was a normal thing to do. The office tradition of hiding in boxes and trash bags to jump scare each other that escalated faster than anyone anticipated. Getting pulled into HR for only talking about Billy Joel with the one person who got it. No regrets on any of it. Then she girls out for exactly as long as she needs to about getting her nails done, requesting lilac milky chrome, sitting through four consecutive rounds of pink, and accidentally being mistaken for a celebrity because she showed up to the salon looking like she had absolutely nowhere to be and somehow that was enough. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs and a reminder that in New York City you either look like a crackhead or you look famous. Confidence is the only difference. These are our unfiltered thoughts. ☕ Fueled by Jolene Coffee. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Submit your "am I actually dumb for..." to actually not dumb pod on socials. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #ActuallyNotDumbPodcast #LizLindenmeier #SoloEpisode #NYCPodcast #GirlTalkPodcast #UnfilteredThoughts #DevilWearsPrada #WorkStories #NailStory #NYCLifestyle #FunnyPodcast #PodcastForWomen #Storytime #GirlyPop #OverthinkingPodcast #HotGirlSummer #NewPodcast2026 #FashionIndustry #OfficeStories #CoolGirl #NoFilter #Oversharing #PodcastCommunity #MainCharacter

    6 min

  3. Apr 16

    I Catfished My Boyfriend as Madison From Miami | Actually Not Dumb Pod

    The solo episodes are back and Liz is coming in hot. This week she is opening the submission box for the first time and reading your "am I actually dumb for..." confessions live with zero preparation and zero filter. But first — Viktor attended a rave at One Hotel Brooklyn Bridge entirely by accident, and it turns out a semi-attractive man carrying a cute dog is basically a cheat code with women. Liz had to intervene. Then she binged two seasons of Jury Duty in seven days and has officially started assuming everyone around her is an actor. NASA sent back photos of Earth from space and somewhere in those photos there is a girl overanalyzing a text from a mediocre man. Liz has thoughts. She also danced to Sk8er Boi alone in her living room and has no regrets. Then we open the submissions and things get chaotic fast. A fake Instagram named Madison from Miami who loves hot yoga. A boyfriend who got exposed by a screen time notification. A girl who accidentally sent a 12 minute voice note rating her date to the actual date. A birthday dinner that lost a guest over a boyfriend named Tyler. And a man who found out his girlfriend's group chat calls him mid and now cannot unknow it. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs and your most unhinged confessions read out loud. These are our unfiltered thoughts. ☕ Fueled by Jolene Coffee. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Submit your "am I actually dumb for..." to actually not dumb pod on socials. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #ActuallyNotDumbPodcast #LizLindenmeier #AmIActuallyDumb #NYCPodcast #GirlTalkPodcast #UnfilteredThoughts #CatfishStory #MidBoyfriend #DatingIn2026 #RelationshipAdvice #FunnyPodcast #PodcastForWomen #Storytime #DatingRedFlags #GeminiSeason #OverthinkingPodcast #NYCLifestyle #HotGirlSummer #NewPodcast2026 #GirlyPop #PodcastCommunity #SoloEpisode #Oversharing #NoFilter

    15 min

  4. Apr 9

    It's Actually Not Dumb to Hate Your College Roommate

    The first solo episode of Actually Not Dumb is here and we are opening the burn book. Nobody was brave enough to sit on the couch and tell their horror roommate story in person, so Liz did what any good host would do and collected them from the community instead. But first, she shares her own: a freshman year college roommate who borrowed her shoes and returned them muddy, stole her lunch money, invited a random man to sleep in her bed, and had her fully convinced she was the crazy one the entire time. Then we get into your submissions. A roommate who left passive aggressive Post-it notes and secretly blogged about her on Xanga. A 1980 summer roommate who banned her from the living room for men she was bringing home and then confiscated the TV as punishment. And the one that will make you never share a toothbrush holder again. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs, and one deeply unhinged toothbrush story. These are our unfiltered thoughts. ☕ Fueled by Jolene Coffee. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Want to submit a story? Send your roommate horror stories our way. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode.

    19 min

  5. Apr 2

    It's Actually Not Dumb to Work the Devil Wears Prada Job

    Actually Not Dumb | Ep. 3 ft. Alex Paget — Friendship Breakups, Crash Outs & The Devil Wears Prada Era Some friendships are forever. Some crash out first. Alex Paget joins Liz on the couch for one of the most honest conversations yet. They get into the friendship breakup nobody talks about, what it actually takes to come back from one, and why sometimes losing a friend hits harder than losing a relationship. They also revisit their shared Devil Wears Prada era working in NYC fashion, drop every celebrity encounter you didn't know you needed, and answer the real question: is it actually not dumb to crash out publicly? IN THIS EPISODE The friendship breakup that almost ended everything and how they came back from it four years later. What a crash out actually looks like from both sides. Working in NYC fashion in your early 20s and yes, it is exactly as Devil Wears Prada as it sounds. Celebrity encounters including LeBron James, Kristen Stewart, Mandy Moore, Ellen Pompeo, Anthony Porowski and more. Being in the same building as Tristan Thompson the morning the Khloe Kardashian scandal broke. Why friendship breakups deserve the same work as romantic ones. The cerulean belt monologue, performed live and mostly from memory. THIS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY JOLENE COFFEE The coffee we drink on this couch. Every episode. Jolene is a New York City based coffee brand and honestly if you haven't tried it yet, what are you doing. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Want to be on the couch? Send your questions, dilemmas, and marriage hot takes our way. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #FriendshipBreakup #CrashOut #NYCPodcast #DevilWearsPrada #GirlPodcast #FriendshipAdvice #NewYorkCity #LizLindenmeyer #UnfilteredThoughts #20sinNYC #PodcastLife #TristanThompson #LeBronJames #KristenStewart #CelebEncounters #MentalHealth #Friendship #GrowingUp #NYCFashion

    20 min

  6. Mar 26

    It's Actually Not Dumb to Marry Your Coworker

    The first man has officially taken a seat on the Actually Not Dumb couch, and it had to be him. Xavier, aka X, is my husband, my best friend, and the person who is somehow both the easiest and hardest person to schedule as a guest despite living in the same apartment. We have been together for 10 years, married for two, and met as co-workers at the most iconic department store in New York City. We cover all of it: what it actually takes to stay together through your entire 20s, why we don't think marriage is that hard, how communication is the only real secret, and what the brand Viktor and Rolf has to do with our love story and our dog. We also get into how we would hypothetically murder each other (inspired by a movie trailer, for legal purposes), red flags we have learned about each other after a decade, why X does not watch sports and why that is actually a gift, and a live mansplaining lesson on how to open a can of coffee. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs, and the first time my husband has been on a podcast in his own living room. These are our unfiltered thoughts. Special Offers Mentioned: This episode is brought to you by Jolene Coffee, the coffee we are actually drinking on the couch. Use code ACTUALLYNOTDUMB at jolenecoffee.com/ACTUALLYNOTDUMB for a discount. 📩 Want to be on the couch? Send your questions, dilemmas, and marriage hot takes our way. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #MarriagePodcast #LizLindenmeier #HusbandAndWife #NYCCouple #MarriedLife #RelationshipAdvice #CoupleGoals #MarriageIsNotHard #DatingInYour20s #UnfilteredThoughts #FunnyPodcast #PodcastForWomen #NYCPodcast #NewPodcast2026 #OverthinkingPodcast #CommunicationIsKey #MarriageGoals #ActuallyNotDumbPodcast #GirlyPop

    20 min

  7. Mar 19

    Dating in NYC is Actually Not Dumb (But Some of the Men Are)

    The first full episode of Actually Not Dumb is here, and we are not starting slow. I called in two of my closest girls, Keely and Kelly, two smart, beautiful, single women navigating dating in New York City. I am very much out of the dating game, but somehow between their situationships and my married life, we always have something to talk about. Turns out womanhood is the great equalizer. We sat down for two hours (don't worry, the episode isn't two hours long) and unpacked all the things we thought were dumb but actually aren't. From keeping a dating diary in your notes app, to not knowing how to pronounce your Hinge date's name even when it's spelled T-O-M, to the art of canning at a sports bar, to the Southern gentleman who waited outside in the cold and Ubered her home fully out of his way. This one is for anyone who has ever overthought a text, stalked someone before a first date, or stared across a bar hoping a guy would just come over already. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs. These are our unfiltered thoughts. 📩 Want to be on the couch? Send your questions, dilemmas, and dating disasters our way. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode. #ActuallyNotDumb #DatingInNYC #NYCDating #DatingPodcast #GirlTalk #UnfilteredThoughts #DatingDiary #HingeDating #DatingAdvice #WomensPodcast #NYCLifestyle #SingleInNYC #DatingStories #OverthinkingPodcast #LizLindenmeier #NewPodcast #PodcastForWomen #DatingIn2026 #SouthernGentleman #Canning #RelationshipAdvice #GirlyPop #FunnyPodcast #PodcastCommunity #NewYorkCity

    27 min

  8. Season 1 Trailer

    So I started a podcast | Actually Not Dumb

    Actually Not Dumb | Meet Liz & Why This Podcast Exists Welcome to Actually Not Dumb, the podcast where we overthink everything so you don't have to. I'm Liz Lindenmeier, a New York City-based entrepreneur, chronic overthinker, and certified yapper. Before landing on this white couch, I built two businesses: Lit & Lean (a nightlife-inspired silent disco workout) and Coffee & Chill (a social wellness events community bringing 100–1,000 people together in NYC). Both gave me a mic. Neither let me truly just talk. So here we are. Actually Not Dumb is the space for all the thoughts you're too embarrassed to say out loud, the life decisions, the situationships, the crash-outs, the "that was actually kind of dumb but it got me exactly where I needed to be" moments. Nothing is off the table. Everything is valid before we even walk through the door. Expect honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs, and the kind of chat you'd have with your most self-aware, slightly chaotic best friend. If you can't laugh at yourself along the way, what are we even doing? 📩 Want to be on the couch? Send your questions, dilemmas, and unfiltered thoughts our way. 📍 Based in NYC | Community everywhere 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode.

    7 min

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Welcome to Actually Not Dumb, where we overthink everything so you don't have to. I'm Liz Lindenmeier, NYC entrepreneur and certified yapper behind Lit & Lean and Coffee & Chill. Both gave me a mic. Neither let me truly just talk. This is the space for thoughts you're too embarrassed to say out loud. Everything is valid before we walk through the door. Honest conversations, zero script, a lot of laughs, like chatting with your most self-aware, slightly chaotic best friend. If you can't laugh at yourself, what are we even doing? 🔔 Subscribe so you don't miss an episode.

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  • Creator
    Liz Lindenmeier
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
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    © Liz Lindenmeier
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