While I've Got You

Gabrielle Turner | Culture Commentator
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While I've Got You is a podcast about the moments, the people, and the cultural conversations worth slowing down for. Hosted by Gabby Turner with monthly episodes of real conversation and a little room to breathe. The point isn't to heal you — it's to hold you. Pull up a seat and let's start the show!

  1. 9h ago ·  Video

    Because You've Been Conditioned

    You can know a behavior is conditioned, rooted in systems you don't agree with, and still watch yourself do it anyway. This week's episode starts on the sidewalk — a decades-old protest of not stepping aside for men who expect the space — and follows that thread through proxemics, the mechanics of over-apologizing, a bartender whose pronouns you have to actively fight your own instincts to get right, and the uncomfortable math of whether any of it is enough to matter. It isn't a resolved conversation. It's not supposed to be. In this one: A lifelong pet peeve with spatial awareness, and the sidewalk rule that started it in college. Proxemics, and what it means that socially dominant groups are conditioned to expect more physical space. Driving somewhere so familiar your mind checks out entirely. The difference between actually being wrong and just being conditioned to apologize anyway. A bartender, a pronoun, and the real-time labor of getting it right. What it means that Band-Aids were never made with your skin in mind. Boycotting one store while still ordering from Amazon, and whether that counts as doing your part. Crawling before you walk, walking before you run — and why the small stuff is the foundation, not the consolation prize. "Why would I apologize? I have not moved. You wanna know why you apologize? Because you've been conditioned that way." New episode is up — pull up a seat. Follow @whileivegotyou for more. Full episode wherever you listen.

  2. Sep 24 ·  Video

    Victim of the Same System

    In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby Turner sits with the tension of benefiting from and being harmed by the same systems, from the patriarchy to higher education to the weight of being perceived as racist. Sparked by a misattributed Ted Lasso quote that turns out to be Dumbledore's, she traces the ways privilege and oppression can live inside the same person at once, and what it actually takes to dismantle a system you also depend on.

  3. Sep 17 ·  Video

    Messy or Mute?

    In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby asks whether a messy, imperfect version of allyship is still better than staying mute altogether. She digs into the blurry line between performative allyship and virtue signaling — why a regular person posting about their volunteer work gets read as fake, while someone with real influence can stay silent until it costs them nothing. She lands on a reframe that cuts through both conversations: the question was never whether people saw you do the good thing, it's whether there's a gap between what you show and what's real. Along the way, she catches herself living the exact fear she's naming, and closes not with a verdict, but an invitation — messy still beats mute, as long as it's rooted in something true.

  4. Sep 10 ·  Video

    Good Uninformed People

    Have you ever met someone who said something a little off and instantly clocked them as a risk to your reputation before you'd learned a single other thing about them? That's the tension sitting at the center of this episode. In Good Uninformed People, Gabby Turner gets into something that's been on her mind since a conversation on Drew Afualo's podcast The Comment Section, where Afualo and comedian Ida Osman talked about how quickly we've all defaulted to canceling instead of extending grace. Between that conversation and her own experience moving to LA at 24 essentially knowing one person, plus a close friend now doing the same thing in New York, Gabby started wondering whether cancel culture itself is part of why building adult friendships feels so hard right now. This episode is not about predators, racists, or the people who genuinely should stay at arm's length — it's about good, uninformed people, the ones capable of actually changing once they have the information in front of them. Gabby unpacks the "LA transplants are fake" narrative and catches herself making the exact same snap judgment she's arguing against in real time, tells the story of a comment at a Super Bowl party that ended a new friendship before it started, and admits to a recurring fear of her own that traces back to a middle school Facebook message signed hashtag no skittles. The episode doesn't land on a clean answer — it ends on the question of how much of our difficulty building community is really just our own relationship to the fear of being canceled.

  5. Sep 3 ·  Video

    To Be Palatable or Annoying?

    This week, Gabby is thinking through a question that started somewhere unexpected: content creation discourse. Between scrolling Substack and watching the internet's collective exhaustion with cookie-cutter content, pastel fonts, and everyone posting the same thing, she started to wonder if the fatigue went deeper than social media. If people are tired of performance online, are they tired of performing everywhere else too? Gabby traces the question through her own life — the movies and shows she wants someone to watch with her so they can really know her, the difference between the ocean of her emotions and the puddle she usually lets people see, and the years she's spent being told she's "so social" without anyone knowing how much practice that took. She gets specific about the tightrope between being palatable and being called too much, and what it's meant to carry that as a Black woman navigating both content and community. This isn't a lesson on how to stop performing. It's a real-time attempt to notice where the performance is doing something useful, where it's costing something, and whether either of those has to be resolved at all. While I've got you, ask yourself: who are you when you're not performing?

  6. Aug 28 ·  Video

    Object in Motion

    Gabby is riding a wave of motivation she hasn't felt in years, juggling three jobs, a growing podcast, and a brand she's building from scratch, and it feels incredible. It also feels familiar in a way that scares her a little. The last time she moved at this pace, in college, it took years to recover from the burnout that followed. This episode sits inside that tension instead of resolving it. Gabby turns to Keke Palmer's TED Talk on hyper-functioning as a survival skill, and to the parable of the Tortoise and the Hare, not for answers but as mirrors for the questions she's actually asking herself: where is the line between driven and burned out, and would she even recognize it before she crossed it. It's a conversation about rest, ambition, and the moments, like a quick drive for a third espresso, where the questions actually show up.

  7. Aug 16 ·  Video

    Feed the Love We Desire

    In this episode of While I've Got You, Gabby sits with the tension underneath so many friendships: knowing whether to address what's wrong, or just adapt around it. Drawing from months of friends reaching out to her for help navigating their own friendship conflicts, she turns the question back on herself, why is this so much harder to work through in her own relationships than the way she helps others work through theirs. She traces the idea of "outgrowing" a friendship and lands somewhere more honest: growing differently, or at a different pace, rather than one person moving forward and the other staying behind. From there she works through what's actually salvageable in a friendship and what isn't, and why the guilt of a quiet fade can sit heavier than a dramatic falling out ever does. The episode moves through real, specific stories, a friendship that ended cleanly and never came back, another that went quiet for years before she stood in that friend's wedding, and a much more recent moment where choosing to ask instead of assume changed everything. Gabby also turns the lens inward, naming the parts of her own personality, and the patterns underneath them, that make staying in vulnerability harder once it's met with anything less than full acceptance. Feed the Love We Desire is out now on While I've Got You.

  8. Aug 8

    Separating the Art from the Artist

    Gabby's been sitting with this one since March, when Sean "Diddy" Combs was sentenced to 50 months and Usher followed up with comments many read as an endorsement — call it a "legacy" over a conviction. Weeks later, Usher announced a co-headlining tour with Chris Brown, whose own charges are recent and ongoing, not old history. In this episode, Gabby digs into what it means to keep loving music made by people you have real moral objections to — not as an abstract debate, but as someone who grew up on this exact era of R&B and hip hop and still has all of it wired into her memory. She unpacks Usher's exact words, questions what "misrepresented" means next to the footage everyone's already seen, and draws out the distinction between an enabler and someone doing direct harm. From there, the conversation widens: is there any actual standard for who gets canceled and who gets a pass? Why does connection to art seem to outlast our objections to the artist, especially when they're still here, still profiting, still selling out shows in real time? A Shakespeare thought experiment gets floated and mostly abandoned, but it opens the door to a bigger question about legacy, memory, and whether accountability changes shape once someone's no longer alive to benefit from it. No conclusions here — just Gabby thinking out loud about a genuinely uncomfortable gray area, and inviting you to sit in it with her.

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While I've Got You is a podcast about the moments, the people, and the cultural conversations worth slowing down for. Hosted by Gabby Turner with monthly episodes of real conversation and a little room to breathe. The point isn't to heal you — it's to hold you. Pull up a seat and let's start the show!

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  • Creator
    Gabrielle Turner | Culture Commentator
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    16
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 While I've Got You
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