NDA: No D*cks Allowed

Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
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Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

Episodes

  1. 1D AGO

    "I'm Fine": The Lies We Tell to Keep the Peace

    Send us Fan Mail We say it constantly. To our partners, our kids, our coworkers, our friends. "I'm fine." But what are we actually saying? We're saying: my feelings are too much. My needs are inconvenient. It's easier if I just disappear a little. In this episode, we get into one of the quietest and most costly shrinking behaviors women do, swallowing their real emotions to preserve relationships, keep the peace, and avoid being labeled dramatic, difficult, or too much. Because somewhere along the way, we learned that being easy to deal with was more important than being honest about how we actually feel, what we need, and what we're afraid of. We dig into why emotional suppression becomes a survival strategy, what it costs when we abandon ourselves to manage everyone else's comfort, and why, by the time the lid finally blows off, it was never really about that one moment anyway. If you've ever held it together so long you scared yourself when you finally didn't, this one's for you.

    25 min

  2. MAY 12

    The Making of a Mean Girl

    Send us Fan Mail Mean girls don’t appear out of nowhere. They’re created inside systems that teach women there is limited space, limited approval, limited success, and limited safety available to them. In this episode, we unpack the scarcity mindset that quietly turns women against each other and explore why competition between women is often less about cruelty and more about survival, conditioning, fear, and learned self-protection. We talk about what happens when women are taught to see other women as threats instead of community, how comparison and exclusion become normalized, and why authentic vulnerability can feel dangerous in environments built on performance and scarcity. This conversation is not about excusing harmful behavior or blaming women. It’s about understanding the systems and experiences that shape it and what becomes possible when women stop guarding the door and start building bigger tables instead. Because women were never meant to do this alone.

    31 min

  3. MAY 5

    The Waitlist for Worth

    Send us Fan Mail Content Note: This episode contains a brief mention of suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised.  Rachel Artise didn’t wait to feel ready, chosen, or validated. She walked into a location of The UPS Store as a part-time employee. Then she became the manager. Then the owner. In this first-ever NDA guest episode, Rachel gets honest about what it actually took to stop waiting for someone else to recognize her value and start moving like it was already true. At franchise network meetings, other owners dismissed her as “just a manager.” She didn’t try to win them over. She paid attention. She realized their behavior had nothing to do with her worth and everything to do with theirs. Then she started asking a different question: want to sell? That’s how one location became six. This is a conversation about getting off the waitlist for worth. It's about what changes when you stop looking for permission and start making moves. It's about not letting rejection be a signal to shrink but a green light for momentum.

    44 min

  4. APR 28

    The Good Girl Tax

    Send us Fan Mail You may not get billed for it upfront, but you pay for it constantly. In this episode, we’re breaking down The Good Girl Tax: the hidden cost women carry when boundaries are weak, unclear, or nonexistent. It shows up as burnout you can’t shake, a version of success that doesn’t feel like yours, simmering resentment you don’t say out loud, and a life that feels overcommitted but under-aligned. This isn’t about blaming women for “not setting boundaries better.” It’s about naming the conditioning. Most of us were taught—explicitly or subtly—that being agreeable, accommodating, and endlessly capable is what makes us valuable. So we overextend. We say yes when we mean no. We anticipate needs before they’re spoken. And then we wonder why we’re exhausted, disconnected, and quietly angry. We’re unpacking: What the “good girl” pattern actually looks like in real life (it’s not always obvious)The less-talked-about costs: identity loss, decision fatigue, chronic stressWhy high performers are often the most vulnerable to this patternHow this dynamic shows up in leadership, relationships, and day-to-day decisionsIf you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but it still feels off, this is likely part of the equation. Because the truth is: the more you contort to meet expectations that were never yours, the more it costs you. And eventually, the bill comes due.

    32 min

  5. APR 21

    Running On Empty and Calling It Drive

    Send us Fan Mail You're doing all the things you're supposed to do. The things that are supposed to make you feel fulfilled. And yet — something's still missing, and you can't quite put your finger on it. In this episode, Amanda gets real about her own experience with exactly that feeling: checking all the boxes, staying busy, keeping up with it all, and still coming up empty. We dig into how busyness can masquerade as a pursuit of fulfillment — how it mimics purpose, creates a sense of control, and keeps you just distracted enough to avoid the harder, more uncomfortable question underneath: what needs do I have that aren't being met? This is one of those episodes that might make you look at your own life a little differently — not at how much you're doing, but at what you might be using all that "doing" to avoid.

    29 min

  6. APR 14

    All Roles. No You.

    Send us Fan Mail Most women don’t notice when it starts. You step into a role at work, at home, in relationships. You get good at it. You’re relied upon. You’re rewarded for it. You feel...useful. Over time, it stops being something you do and starts becoming who you are. This episode isn’t just about your job. This is about the roles we are constantly expected to carry—mom, partner, caregiver, leader, the one who holds it all together. In this episode, we unpack how those roles slowly become identity and what it costs when they do. Because when your sense of self is built around roles:  • You lose clarity on what you actually want and who you really are  • You struggle to step outside of what’s expected of you  • You feel pressure to perform, even when it’s no longer aligned  • And any shift—at work or in life—can feel like losing yourself entirely We talk about how this shows up across both professional and personal life, why it’s so normalized for women, and how it limits us. And then we get into the work of separating the two. Not by abandoning your roles but by recognizing they were never meant to define you. You can show up fully in your life without disappearing inside the roles you play.

    25 min

  7. APR 7

    The Con Artist in Your Head

    Send us Fan Mail You know the voice. The one that questions you right as you’re about to speak up. The one that rewrites your confidence into doubt, your clarity into hesitation, your instinct into overthinking. You've got a scam running in your head, by a voice that's masquerading as your protector. In this episode, we go straight at the internal critic—the one that’s been quietly (and sometimes loudly) shaping how you show up at work, in relationships, and in your own life. We break down:  Where that voice actually comes from (and why it’s not random)  How it disguises itself as “logic,” “preparation,” or “being realistic”  The subtle ways it keeps you small, even when you know better  Why awareness alone isn’t enough to change it This isn’t about silencing your inner critic or pretending it doesn’t exist. It’s about understanding it well enough that it stops running the show. Because when you can see it clearly, you can start choosing differently—mid-thought, mid-conversation, mid-pattern. And that’s where things start to shift. Welcome to the first real confrontation: not with your boss, your partner, or your circumstances—but with the voice that’s been narrating all of it.

    25 min

  8. MAR 31

    Done Shrinking

    Send us Fan Mail Welcome to NDA (No D*cks Allowed) — the podcast for women who are done shrinking and ready to rise. This first episode sets the foundation for everything that follows. We’re not starting with surface-level empowerment or recycled advice. We’re starting with the behavior itself — the subtle, normalized ways women learn to shrink, accommodate, and override themselves in order to be accepted, liked, or “easy to work with.” We unpack what “shrinking” actually looks like in real life:  Downplaying your opinions in a room where you’re the most qualified  Softening your language so you’re not perceived as “too much”  Taking responsibility for other people’s emotions  Staying quiet when something doesn’t sit right  Over-preparing, over-explaining, over-functioning These aren’t personality quirks. They’re learned behavioral patterns — and they’re costing more than most women realize. We also introduce ourselves as your co-hosts and give you a clear sense of how we approach this work. Our perspective is grounded in behavioral awareness and real-world application — not theory for the sake of theory. This is not therapy, and it’s not performative empowerment. It’s about understanding what you do, why you do it, and how to actually shift it. You’ll hear a bit about our own experiences with shrinking, what pulled us into this work, and why we built this space the way we did — direct, honest, and grounded in reality. This episode also introduces a core concept you’ll hear throughout the podcast: the difference between awareness and change. Most women already know where they’re shrinking. That’s not the issue. The issue is having the tools, support, and willingness to do something different in the moment it matters. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t I just say what I meant?” — this is for you. If you’ve outgrown the version of yourself that keeps playing small — this is for you. If you’re ready to stop managing perception and start operating in alignment — you’re in the right place. Welcome to the rise.

    32 min

  9. SEASON 1 TRAILER

    NDA: No D*cks Allowed Trailer

    Send us Fan Mail NDA: No D*cks Allowed is a podcast for women who are ready to look at the behaviors that have kept them small—and change them. This isn’t about blaming men. It’s about calling out the patterns—people-pleasing, over-accommodating, over-performing, staying silent—that we’ve learned, reinforced, and lived inside of. Each episode breaks down the “shrink traps” that show up in real life and gives you a way to see them, name them, and choose differently. No fluff. No performative empowerment. Just honest conversations and practical shifts that actually hold up in the moments that matter. This is the podcast for women who are done shrinking and ready to rise.

    1 min

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About

Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

Information

  • Creator
    Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 NDA: No D*cks Allowed
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