NDA: No D*cks Allowed

Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
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Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

  1. 13h ago

    Love on an Allowance

    Send us Fan Mail Financial abuse is one of the most common forms of abuse, but it's one that can often be tougher to recognize when you're in it. Many women don't realize it's happening because it rarely starts with dramatic financial betrayal (secret credit cards, draining a bank account). Instead, it often looks like one person taking over the finances, discouraging questions, controlling access to money, requiring purchases to be justified, or slowly convincing someone they "just aren't good with money." Over time, those patterns don't only control finances, they erode confidence, independence, and trust in your own judgment. In this episode, we're joined by Buffalo, NY-based Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® Gina Phillips to unpack what financial abuse really looks like, why so many capable, intelligent women don't recognize it until much later, and how financial control bridges over into emotional control. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, preparing for marriage, navigating a marital transition, or simply want to build a healthier financial partnership, this conversation will help you recognize red flags, ask better questions, and take practical first steps toward reclaiming ownership of your financial life. Because financial confidence isn't about becoming an expert. It's about knowing you deserve transparency, partnership, and the freedom to make informed choices about your own future. *Please note that some of the scenarios/legalities Gina discusses in this episode are specific to New York state, so may not be applicable everywhere. We encourage you to consult with a CDFA who is based in your home state for the most relevant-to-you information.  You can search a list of certified providers by location here: https://institutedfa.com/find-a-cdfa Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  2. Jul 14

    The "No" You Made Up

    Send us Fan Mail How many opportunities have we missed because we assumed the answer would be no? Assuming a no before asking for a raise. Before applying for the job. Before speaking up in a meeting. Before asking for help. Before ordering our meal the way we actually wanted it. In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common ways women hold themselves back: negotiating against themselves before anyone else has the chance to respond. We explore where this pattern comes from, why it feels so protective, and how it costs us confidence, opportunities, and experiences. From salary negotiations and career decisions to apologizing for taking up space, asking for what we need, and even convincing ourselves we can't do something before we've ever tried, we unpack the many ways we create a "no" that may have never existed. Because the goal isn't to hear "yes" every time. The goal is to stop answering for other people before they've had the chance to answer for themselves. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  3. Jul 7

    The Performance of Authenticity

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when being yourself starts to feel like another performance? In this episode, we're unpacking the tension between hiding and oversharing, and why neither one is actually authenticity. Some women carefully edit themselves, keeping their opinions, needs, and emotions tucked safely away.  Others share everything, hoping that vulnerability will create connection. But both behaviors often come from the same place: self-protection. We explore:  • Why oversharing and undersharing are emotional response tools, not personality traits  • The fears that drive each end of the spectrum  • How workplace experiences, relationships, and past hurts shape how much of ourselves we reveal  • The difference between seeking connection and seeking relief  • What genuine authenticity actually looks and feels like Because authenticity isn't giving everyone unlimited access to you, it's knowing what belongs in the room and choosing to bring it there on purpose. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  4. Jun 30

    Impossible by Design

    Send us Fan Mail For decades, women have been told they can have it all. A successful career. A thriving family. A clean house. A full social life. Time for self care. Time for everyone else. And when it all feels impossible, the advice is almost always the same: get organized, manage your time better, set better boundaries, become more resilient. But what if the problem isn't your planner? In this episode, we sit down with Amanda Duncan, founder of Chiara Consulting, to unpack a difficult truth. The systems women live and work within were never designed with them in mind, or even with their participation. We explore the invisible labor women carry, the mental load that follows them everywhere, and the damaging belief that struggling means you're somehow failing. We discuss why so many women blame themselves for circumstances that were impossible from the start, and what becomes possible when we stop treating systemic problems like personal shortcomings. This conversation is not about becoming more efficient. It's about recognizing when you've been asked to succeed inside conditions that were never designed to support you. The goal isn't to adapt endlessly to broken systems. The goal is to stop blaming yourself for them. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  5. Jun 23

    When Awareness Becomes Avoidance

    Send us Fan Mail You know your attachment style. Your Enneagram number. Your communication tendencies. Your childhood wounds. Your triggers. Your patterns. So why are you still stuck? In this episode, we're unpacking a modern trap that many women fall into: confusing self-awareness with actual change. Somewhere along the way, reflection became a substitute for action. We learned to analyze ourselves, understand ourselves, and explain ourselves in incredible detail. But awareness alone doesn't transform your life. Action does. We're talking about why insight can feel safer than change, how endless processing can become a form of avoidance, and the subtle ways we convince ourselves we're making progress when we're really standing still. If you've ever found yourself collecting personality assessments, saving podcast episodes, filling journals, and waiting for one more breakthrough before you make a move, this conversation is for you. You don't need more proof. You need more progress. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  6. Jun 16

    Chasing Gold Stars

    Send us Fan Mail TW: This episode includes discussion of burnout, serious medical events, and brief references to suicidal thoughts. Listener discretion is advised. We’re taught that perfectionism is a sign of ambition. That it means we care. That it’s what separates high performers from everyone else. But what if perfectionism isn’t really about excellence at all? In this episode, we unpack the hidden fear beneath perfectionism and explore how many women learn to tie their worth to achievement, productivity, and getting everything "right." We discuss the childhood gold stars, workplace praise, and societal expectations that reinforce the belief that mistakes are dangerous and rest must be earned. We're taking a look at the difference between excellence and perfectionism, why perfectionism often starts as protection, and how the very behaviors that once helped us succeed can eventually leave us exhausted, anxious, and disconnected from ourselves. Because the opposite of perfectionism isn't mediocrity. It's self-trust. If you've ever felt like your value depends on your performance, this conversation is for you. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  7. Jun 9

    Body Image: Appreciation Sold Separately

    Send us Fan Mail TW: This episode includes discussion of body image, weight, eating disorder recovery, sexual abuse, medical procedures, and women's experiences with body-based judgment and objectification. Listener discretion is advised. Women are taught early that our bodies are projects. Something to improve. Something to shrink. Something to manage. Something to earn approval through. In this deeply personal episode, we unpack the complicated relationship women have with their bodies and the messages that shaped it from childhood comments and beauty standards to workplace expectations, intimacy, confidence, and self-worth. We share our own experiences with body image, weight, health, trauma, and the realization that so much of life can be spent waiting to become "acceptable." This isn't a conversation about loving every part of yourself every second of every day. It's a conversation about what changes when you stop treating your body like a problem to solve. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  8. Jun 2

    Inconveniently Complex

    Send us Fan Mail We love to talk about generations. Boomers don't like change. Millennials are entitled. Gen Z doesn't want to work. At least that's what we're told. In this episode, we're unpacking why generational stereotypes have become one of the most socially accepted forms of bias and what gets lost when we reduce complex human beings (especially women) to labels. The moment we start using those labels to explain someone's entire personality, we stop being curious about who they actually are. We explore: • Why generational stereotypes feel so easy to believe • The fear and uncertainty often hiding underneath them • How these assumptions show up in workplaces and leadership • The hidden cost of replacing curiosity with judgment • Why women have an opportunity to learn from, not compete with, women in different generations Human beings are inconveniently complex, but maybe that's not a problem to solve. Maybe that's the point. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

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Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 NDA: No D*cks Allowed
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