NDA: No D*cks Allowed

Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
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Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

  1. 4h ago

    Not Wrong, Just Different

    Send us Fan Mail Type A is treated as the standard for what responsible, prepared, and successful should look like. When someone operates differently, their process is frequently mistaken for disorganization, procrastination, or a lack of commitment. In this episode, Elizabeth talks honestly about what it feels like to be a Type B person in a world that does not always understand or appreciate her way of working. We explore time optimism, flexibility, structure, trust, and the tension that can surface when different operating styles depend on one another. We also unpack the assumptions placed on women who do not fit the expected mold of always being organized, early, and in control. Different ways of working can still be effective, but making those differences work requires self-awareness, communication, and a willingness to stop treating one style as the only right one. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  2. Aug 4

    When Feelings Become Facts

    Send us Fan Mail Content note: This episode includes a detailed account involving a firearm and a perceived threat of gun violence. Listener discretion is advised. Self-doubt is not always proof that we are unqualified. Sometimes it points to a real opportunity to learn, prepare, or grow. Other times, it's old criticism, conditioning, and fear that we view through a self-created filter as objective truth. In this episode, we challenge the way imposter syndrome is often discussed and examine why so many women are quick to question their competence, minimize their accomplishments, and treat uncertainty as evidence that they do not belong. We explore how to separate useful self-doubt from the stories that keep us small and why confidence is built through evidence, not empty reassurance. Because the answer is not to stop questioning ourselves. It's to get better at questioning our questions. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  3. Jul 28

    The Competence Curse

    Send us Fan Mail You're the one everyone depends on. The one who always steps up, solves the problem, picks up the slack, remembers the details, and gets things done. Those qualities make you incredibly valuable. But they can also become the very things that keep you stuck. In this episode, we unpack what Amanda calls the competence curse: the pattern where women become known for their reliability and execution, only to find themselves overlooked for opportunities to lead, influence, and grow. But this pattern doesn't just show up at work. It shows up in our friendships, our families, our relationships, and even in the expectations we place on ourselves. The more capable we become, the more people come to rely on us, until solving everyone else's problems starts to feel like part of our identity. Together, we explore why so many women learn to equate their "place" in life and work with being indispensable, how that mindset quietly reinforces itself over time, and what it takes to stop being seen as the person who fixes everything and start creating space for yourself, and the people around you, to grow. Because competence shouldn't be a cage, it should be the foundation upon which you build your next chapter. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  4. Jul 21

    Love on an Allowance

    Send us Fan Mail Financial abuse is one of the most common forms of abuse, but it's one that can often be tougher to recognize when you're in it. Many women don't realize it's happening because it rarely starts with dramatic financial betrayal (secret credit cards, draining a bank account). Instead, it often looks like one person taking over the finances, discouraging questions, controlling access to money, requiring purchases to be justified, or slowly convincing someone they "just aren't good with money." Over time, those patterns don't only control finances, they erode confidence, independence, and trust in your own judgment. In this episode, we're joined by Buffalo, NY-based Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® Gina Phillips to unpack what financial abuse really looks like, why so many capable, intelligent women don't recognize it until much later, and how financial control bridges over into emotional control. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, preparing for marriage, navigating a marital transition, or simply want to build a healthier financial partnership, this conversation will help you recognize red flags, ask better questions, and take practical first steps toward reclaiming ownership of your financial life. Because financial confidence isn't about becoming an expert. It's about knowing you deserve transparency, partnership, and the freedom to make informed choices about your own future. *Please note that some of the scenarios/legalities Gina discusses in this episode are specific to New York state, so may not be applicable everywhere. We encourage you to consult with a CDFA who is based in your home state for the most relevant-to-you information.  You can search a list of certified providers by location here: https://institutedfa.com/find-a-cdfa Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  5. Jul 14

    The "No" You Made Up

    Send us Fan Mail How many opportunities have we missed because we assumed the answer would be no? Assuming a no before asking for a raise. Before applying for the job. Before speaking up in a meeting. Before asking for help. Before ordering our meal the way we actually wanted it. In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common ways women hold themselves back: negotiating against themselves before anyone else has the chance to respond. We explore where this pattern comes from, why it feels so protective, and how it costs us confidence, opportunities, and experiences. From salary negotiations and career decisions to apologizing for taking up space, asking for what we need, and even convincing ourselves we can't do something before we've ever tried, we unpack the many ways we create a "no" that may have never existed. Because the goal isn't to hear "yes" every time. The goal is to stop answering for other people before they've had the chance to answer for themselves. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  6. Jul 7

    The Performance of Authenticity

    Send us Fan Mail What happens when being yourself starts to feel like another performance? In this episode, we're unpacking the tension between hiding and oversharing, and why neither one is actually authenticity. Some women carefully edit themselves, keeping their opinions, needs, and emotions tucked safely away.  Others share everything, hoping that vulnerability will create connection. But both behaviors often come from the same place: self-protection. We explore:  • Why oversharing and undersharing are emotional response tools, not personality traits  • The fears that drive each end of the spectrum  • How workplace experiences, relationships, and past hurts shape how much of ourselves we reveal  • The difference between seeking connection and seeking relief  • What genuine authenticity actually looks and feels like Because authenticity isn't giving everyone unlimited access to you, it's knowing what belongs in the room and choosing to bring it there on purpose. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  7. Jun 30

    Impossible by Design

    Send us Fan Mail For decades, women have been told they can have it all. A successful career. A thriving family. A clean house. A full social life. Time for self care. Time for everyone else. And when it all feels impossible, the advice is almost always the same: get organized, manage your time better, set better boundaries, become more resilient. But what if the problem isn't your planner? In this episode, we sit down with Amanda Duncan, founder of Chiara Consulting, to unpack a difficult truth. The systems women live and work within were never designed with them in mind, or even with their participation. We explore the invisible labor women carry, the mental load that follows them everywhere, and the damaging belief that struggling means you're somehow failing. We discuss why so many women blame themselves for circumstances that were impossible from the start, and what becomes possible when we stop treating systemic problems like personal shortcomings. This conversation is not about becoming more efficient. It's about recognizing when you've been asked to succeed inside conditions that were never designed to support you. The goal isn't to adapt endlessly to broken systems. The goal is to stop blaming yourself for them. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

  8. Jun 23

    When Awareness Becomes Avoidance

    Send us Fan Mail You know your attachment style. Your Enneagram number. Your communication tendencies. Your childhood wounds. Your triggers. Your patterns. So why are you still stuck? In this episode, we're unpacking a modern trap that many women fall into: confusing self-awareness with actual change. Somewhere along the way, reflection became a substitute for action. We learned to analyze ourselves, understand ourselves, and explain ourselves in incredible detail. But awareness alone doesn't transform your life. Action does. We're talking about why insight can feel safer than change, how endless processing can become a form of avoidance, and the subtle ways we convince ourselves we're making progress when we're really standing still. If you've ever found yourself collecting personality assessments, saving podcast episodes, filling journals, and waiting for one more breakthrough before you make a move, this conversation is for you. You don't need more proof. You need more progress. Thank you for listening to NDA! If this episode made you think, challenged a perspective, or helped you recognize a pattern in yourself, consider sharing it with someone else who might need the conversation. You can connect with us on Instagram at @nda_pod, where we continue the discussion between episodes. Until next time, notice the pattern. Then decide what happens next.

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Most NDAs keep people quiet. Ours does the opposite. On this podcast, NDA stands for No D*cks Allowed — not men, but the behaviors that keep women small. Each episode explores the patterns women experience in work and life, and the moments when they decide they’re done shrinking and ready to rise.

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  • Creator
    Amanda Kochirka & Elizabeth Cippola
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 NDA: No D*cks Allowed
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