Collaborative Hardball

Susan Coleman

We are building a more peaceful, sustainable, and gender-equal world; one negotiation at a time. And we are not taking no for an answer. Explore how negotiation operates across every level of life, and how women’s leadership can help reshape the way power is expressed and shared. Because the future will not be built through domination. It will be built through courageous and collective conversations, thoughtful negotiation, and a willingness to reimagine how power works in our world.

Episodes

  1. Jul 15

    Get Comfortable With Conflict w/ Scilla Elworthy

    We reflect on how the world has changed since our original 2018 conversation (Ep. 31 of the Peacebuilding Podcast), and consider the intensifying global challenges we face alongside powerful reasons for hope: the growing influence of Indigenous wisdom, deeper understanding of trauma, the rise of renewable energy, and increasing awareness of the systems of patriarchy that shape our lives and institutions. Drawing on decades of experience negotiating with political leaders, military officials, and communities affected by violence, Scilla shares practical tools for navigating conflict with clarity and presence. She explains why staying grounded through the breath and listening deeply enough to truly reflect what others are saying can transform even the most difficult conversations. A remarkable story from a meeting with a Chinese military general in Beijing reveals the surprising power of empathic listening to shift hostility into genuine dialogue. We also explore the difference between collaborative and competitive negotiation, why listening for underlying needs is more effective than arguing over positions, how anger can reveal what we care most about, and the essential role women have played in peacebuilding—from Northern Ireland to the Greenham Common peace movement. This conversation is an invitation to see conflict not as something to avoid, but as an opportunity for connection, creativity, and lasting change. More from Scilla:  Website: https://scillaelworthy.com/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scilla-elworthy-b79244161/  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scilla_elworthy/  TED Talks: https://www.ted.com/speakers/scilla_elworthy  More from Susan Coleman:  Website: https://www.susancoleman.global/  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanwcoleman/  Substack: https://substack.com/@susancolemanglobal  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanwcoleman  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susancolemanglobal  Purchase the book, Collaborative Hardball: Using the Power of a New Negotiation as Women to Change the World https://a.co/d/08AWQWsC Episode Chapters: 00:00 Welcome and Setup 00:51 Why Conflict Matters 02:53 Meet Scilla Elworthy 04:27 Host Background and Roots 07:54 Eight Years Later 09:08 Bleak Trends and Patriarchy 11:03 Signs of Hope and Change 13:53 Women and Conflict Skills 16:29 Breathe for Authority 17:25 Listen to Disarm Bullying 18:39 Beijing General Story 21:49 Great Hall Arrival Twist 23:01 Embodied Presence in Conflict 23:50 Cake and Aftermath 24:14 Humanizing the Other 24:38 Listening Without Overlistening 25:26 Reflecting Back in Conflict 27:18 Needs Over Positions 29:45 Women as Peacebuilders 30:59 Stories of Women Stopping Wars 34:09 Courage to Speak Up 36:31 Sisterhood and Self Belief 41:35 Heart Led Courage Practice 42:56 Closing and Next Steps Produced by: Rome Esmaili https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Get Comfortable With Conflict w/ Scilla Elworthy
  2. Jun 18

    The Patriarchy Hex w/ Starhawk

    For this conversation, I am joined by Starhawk, a writer, activist, permaculture designer, teacher, and leading voice in eco-feminism and earth-based spirituality. I have long admired her ability to connect history, spirituality, ecology, power, and social change. She brings a depth of knowledge to the question ‘where did patriarchy come from’?  We trace some of its roots through the rise of organized warfare, conquest, hierarchy, and cultures built around domination. We also explore the costs of patriarchy for all of us: Women have been diminished, controlled, and conditioned to question our divinity and authority. Men have been cut off from tenderness, vulnerability, care, and many of the qualities that make all of us fully human.  The result is a power-over paradigm that continues to shape our politics, relationships, conflicts, institutions, and negotiations. But patriarchy is not inevitable. Human beings have organized themselves differently before, and we can do so again.  So, we turn to what matters most now? What kind of world do we want to build together? Because dismantling domination requires more than resisting what is wrong. It asks us to develop a compelling vision of what could be right. A culture rooted in partnership with each other and the entire living world. Power-with rather than power-over. Communities capable of holding differences without escalating conflict into violence. And systems that value creativity and all life.  Starhawk is the author of thirteen books, including The Spiral Dance, The Earth Path, The Empowerment Manual: A Guide for Collaborative Groups and, most recently, The Movement We Need (Substack). She also directs Earth Activist Training, where she teaches regenerative design, organizing, activism, and social permaculture.  Website: http://starhawk.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starhawk_spiral  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StarhawkAuthor/ Substack:  http://Starhawk.substack.com Earth Activist Training: http://earthactivisttraining.com/  More from Susan Coleman:  Purchase Collaborative Hardball, the book: https://a.co/d/08AWQWsC Website: https://www.susancoleman.global/  LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/susanwcoleman  Substack: https://substack.com/@susancolemanglobal  Instagram: https://instagram.com/susanwcoleman  Facebook: https://facebook.com/susancolemanglobal  Produced by: Rome Esmaili https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    The Patriarchy Hex w/ Starhawk
  3. Apr 24

    Negotiation is Power! w/ Zoe Chance

    From gender based disadvantages and externally imposed childhood limitations, to high self worth and "bigger and better" trades, this discussion zooms in on what it is to be a woman empowered in actions, influence, and negotiation. Zoe’s approach to influence aligns with a vision of gender equality, framing it not as control or domination but as something generous, human, and expansive. Although unplanned, our conversation quickly becomes personal, reinforcing the eternal truth that meaningful change starts at home. Our discussion also challenges transactional thinking and highlights how limiting assumptions about others can shrink what’s possible.  Key Takeaways: Empowering women is central to solving global challenges Influence should be collaborative, not coercive People are often more willing to help than we assume Expanding how we see others expands what becomes possible I hope you enjoy, and please like, share, and subscribe to my channel for more empowering content. Zoe Chance is a Yale professor and bestselling author of Influence Is Your Superpower (published in 28 languages). Her work has shaped food policy at Google, climate negotiations at the UN and White House, and leadership at Fortune 500 companies. Before academia, she managed $200M of the Barbie brand at Mattel. More from Zoe: Website: https://www.zoechance.com/ Buy her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Influence-Your-Superpower-Science-Sparking/dp/198485433X More from Susan: Website: https://www.susancoleman.global/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/susanwcoleman/ Substack: https://substack.com/@susancolemanglobal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanwcoleman/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/susan.coleman.5688 Produced by: Rome Esmaili https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Negotiation is Power! w/ Zoe Chance

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We are building a more peaceful, sustainable, and gender-equal world; one negotiation at a time. And we are not taking no for an answer. Explore how negotiation operates across every level of life, and how women’s leadership can help reshape the way power is expressed and shared. Because the future will not be built through domination. It will be built through courageous and collective conversations, thoughtful negotiation, and a willingness to reimagine how power works in our world.