Growing Up Late

Jeannie McIntire
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Growing Up Late explores the gap between the impressive lives we build on the outside and who we actually are on the inside. Through honest conversations about betrayal, comebacks, and personal transformation, host Jeannie McIntire shows how the real growth happens when we finally own our role in our own story. A podcast for anyone ready to stop playing small and start living authentically.

  1. 4d ago

    You’re Not Broken, You Adapted: Healing Childhood Trauma at Any Age with Barb Varcl Smith

    What if the strength everyone admires in you is really a survival pattern? Barb Varcl Smith is a trauma recovery educator, therapist, and speaker who grew up in Prague under communist Czechoslovakia and trained as an engineer before becoming a therapist. She joins Jeannie to explain fake resilience, the Ascendance Method, and why healing childhood trauma is possible at any age. KEY TAKEAWAYS What is fake resilience? Barb calls it the fifth trauma response, after fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. It's pushing through on willpower while numbing your emotions, and it often looks like success from the outside. What are the five pillars of self? Inner strength, self-love, intuition, wisdom, and purpose. Childhood suppression distorts them, and they can be restored. What is the Ascendance Method? A four-step framework: recognition, release, absolution (followed by regret and grieving), and acceptance, ending in rediscovery. Barb says most of her clients complete it in about three months. Does trauma define who you are? No. Trauma is an explanation, not an excuse, and your survival responses are not your character. Is it too late to change? Barb shares the story of a client who started at 84. WHERE TO FIND BARB VARCL SMITH Website: https://www.your-steps.co.uk The Ascendance Method: https://www.your-steps.co.uk/ascendance-method Book a call: https://www.your-steps.co.uk/service-page/take-a-step Podcast, Way Out of Childhood Trauma: https://open.spotify.com/show/5AwCt4Ss8AcKNdJQXdbVlH Her new book, Purposeful Parenting: How to Raise the Healthy Mind, is out November 22: https://www.your-steps.co.uk/purposeful-parenting Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/barbsvarclova Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/barbvarclsmith/ ABOUT GROWING UP LATE Growing Up Late is a podcast about reinvention, resilience, and becoming the author of what comes next. Your host, Jeannie McIntire, is a former Sam's Club executive who led a $2+ billion business and is now an entrepreneur, speaker, and podcast host.

  2. Oct 22

    You Cannot Heal in Constant Performance: Why High Achievers Need Permission to Rest and Want More

    What if you checked in with yourself before something broke? In this solo episode of Growing Up Late, Jeannie McIntire takes her own advice. With freshly injected arthritic thumbs and a calendar that looked impossible, she heads to the Florida beach for her annual fall reset. She isn’t in crisis. She feels great and loves her work. That’s exactly why this conversation matters. Jeannie explores why you can’t heal while you’re busy managing how you look, and why high achievers, people pleasers, and the “always there” friend often only stop when something forces them to. She shares a moment from chairing a 1,000-person conference that taught her something about recognition, and makes the case that we’re allowed to want things: a lifestyle, experiences, respect, love, and to be seen. In this episode: Why deciding to rest is harder than restingPerformance vs. healing: why managing appearances keeps you from tending to yourselfThe quiet truth behind overperforming and running on praiseWhy even people who “do it for the love” want to be seenPermission to want things, and why waiting until retirement is a riskHow to check in on your reasons, not just your momentum Quote to remember: “Your reasons matter more than your momentum or the outcome.” Reflection question: Where in your life are you performing wellness instead of tending to it? Mentioned: Jeannie’s interview with Jeff Ellison About Growing Up Late Growing Up Late is a podcast about reinvention, resilience, and becoming the author of what comes next. Your host, Jeannie McIntire, is a former Sam’s Club executive who led a $2+ billion business and is now an entrepreneur, speaker, and podcast host. Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

  3. Oct 15

    You Are the Value: Finding Yourself in the Empty Nest

    Empty nest identity and the dream sheet, with Kelly Salmons “You are the value.” Kelly Salmons says it plainly: when the kids leave and the daily needing slows, it can feel like your worth left too. It didn’t. Kelly, founder of The Nest Evolution, explains how she found that out the hard way, starting with ten minutes, a blank page, and one dream: a trip to Antarctica. Kelly had a plan. She moved to Florida, bought the house next to her sister and parents, and went back to teaching, expecting it to fill the space her daughters left. Something still wasn’t right. When a personal development exercise asked what she wanted, she wrote one thing, a trip to Antarctica, and nothing else. It took her two or three tries before the list began to fill. Then she had to remember who she was. In seventh grade, Kelly decided she was going to the Naval Academy and planned her way in. Years later, she couldn’t think of a time she’d felt powerful, until a classmate told her the whole class had been scared of her. And “become who you are” had been engraved on a swim trophy she’d owned for 40 years. Try this before you press play: Set a timer for ten minutes and write down what you want, not what your family needs. Key ideas Your worth isn’t tied to being neededYou’re not starting from scratch: skills from motherhood and past careers carry forwardA dream sheet is a running list of what you want, even if it’s smallWell-meaning support can feel like pressure, and stillness helps you hear yourselfPool time: a daily 20 to 30 minute phone-free reset for couplesFew decisions are life or death, so decide, revise, and keep moving Questions this episode answers Why do I feel lost after the kids leave, even with a good life? “You are the value,” Kelly says. Many mothers tie their worth to being needed, so when the needing slows, it can feel like the worth left too.Where do I start? Write a dream sheet, then find regular time to be still.How do I find myself again? Try small experiments Kelly calls a joyfulness quest: a new coffee shop, an old hobby, a class, a call to a friend you’ve lost touch with.How can couples reconnect? Protect a short, regular, phone-free time together. Kelly and her husband call theirs pool time. Timestamps 0:00 Welcome, Kelly Salmons 0:45 When the empty nest felt bigger than a quiet house 2:00 The dream sheet: “I wrote Antarctica and nothing else” 8:45 The Naval Academy story and “we were scared of you” 14:30 “Become who you are” 19:30 Pool time: staying connected in marriage 26:00 Where to start: the dream sheet and stillness 32:30 From a $17 class to ten new friends 36:30 What Kelly has learned: decide, revise, design with intention About the guest Kelly Salmons is the founder of The Nest Evolution, a number one best-selling author, and a coach who helps women through the empty nest transition. A former naval officer and educator, she is also a real estate investor and will return for a full episode on that journey. Find her at The Nest Evolution link: https://thenestevolution.com/ About Growing Up Late Growing Up Late is a podcast about reinvention, resilience, and becoming the author of what comes next. Your host, Jeannie McIntire, is a former Sam’s Club executive who led a $2+ billion business and is now an entrepreneur, speaker, and podcast host. Connect with Jeannie here: https://linktr.ee/jeanniemcintire

  4. Oct 8

    Being Chosen Is Overrated: Flattery, Boundaries, and Choosing Yourself First

    Being picked feels like proof you’re worth something. It isn’t. A story about flattery, people-pleasing, and what happens when you say no to an offer you were supposed to be grateful for. For most of my life, if someone told me I was the right person for something and said it warmly, I said yes. In this episode of Growing Up Late, I take apart the idea that being chosen is the same as being valued. I start with a too-fitted outfit and a salesgirl who said I looked amazing, move through a promotion I turned down three times before the division president made it personal, and into a marriage where I gave up what I wanted because it was dressed up as something I’d said I wanted. Then I'll tell you what happened when I recently said no to a board seat, and what the reaction taught me. The idea in one paragraph: Being chosen can work like borrowed value. Someone else’s enthusiasm fills a gap I should have been filling myself. It feels like currency, but it’s really their yes standing in for my own. Being chosen isn’t the problem. The expectation that you owe gratitude for it, whether or not the offer serves you, is the thing to outgrow. Key takeaways: Flattery can feel like proof of worth, but it’s someone else’s enthusiasm, not your own self-regard.The most persuasive offers are personal and specific, and they’re often dressed up as prestige and purpose, which makes them harder to spot.Going along isn’t the same as choosing. You can spend years watching your life instead of making the hard decisions yourself.Saying “no, thank you” without apology is a skill, and it can take years to build. Notice: Who gets warm when you say yes and who goes cold when you say no, and when something good happens to you, who isn’t clapping? You don’t have to do anything about it. Just notice. Quotable lines: “Being picked felt like proof I was worth something, so I skipped the other question: Do I actually want this?”“It felt like obligation dressed up as something I had said I wanted.”“A no does not need a follow-up.”“The prize is choosing yourself first.” Listen if you’ve ever wondered why you say yes to things you don’t want, or why declining a flattering offer can feel like breaking a rule.

  5. Oct 1

    Burnout Recovery & People-Pleasing with Morrighan Lynne

    Burnout recovery, people-pleasing, and the mother wound: Morrighan Lynne, trauma-informed coach and author of The Spirited Human, shares how burnout came in to save her life and what she learned about self-abandonment along the way. In this episode of Growing Up Late, host Jeannie McIntire talks with Morrighan Lynne about the moment everything collapsed at the end of 2022, the mother wound underneath her people-pleasing, and the grief of losing her identity when she had nothing left to give. Morgan also explains why she calls self-abandonment a million micro-betrayals, why women are trained to see caring for themselves as selfish, and how she keeps her spirituality grounded in real life. If you're functioning, showing up, and quietly running on fumes, this conversation is for you. In this episode: - The 2022 collapse: doing everything right and still falling apart - Reformed people-pleaser: "Please like me. Please want me." - The mother wound and where people-pleasing really starts - The grief nobody talks about: losing your identity to burnout - Checking your battery and learning to disappoint people - A million micro betrayals: how self-abandonment builds over years - Selfish vs. sovereign: centuries-old programming - Burnout as an intervention: "This stepped in to save you." - Spirituality with your feet on the ground - Trauma-informed coaching and why small-t trauma counts - Closing message: life is hard, there are ways through it, and you're not alone Timestamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:00 The collapse at the end of 2022 2:30 Reformed people-pleaser 5:15 The mother wound 6:40 The grief of losing your identity 7:50 Checking your battery and disappointing people 11:00 A million micro betrayals 13:15 Selfish, sovereign, and centuries-old programming 14:50 Permission for the woman running on fumes 16:20 Burnout as an intervention 18:45 Spirituality with your feet on the ground 22:20 Coaching: removing what's in the way 25:15 Trauma-informed work and small-t trauma 27:30 The Spirited Human 30:20 Closing thoughts: possibility About Morrighan Lynne: Morrighan Lynne is a trauma-informed coach, intuitive guide, author, speaker, and spiritual mentor with nearly two decades of experience helping women move from burnout and overwhelm to clarity, confidence, and self-trust. She is the author of The Spirited Human: Proactive Tools for a Reactive World and the creator of the Sovereign Path Oracle Deck. Her work focuses on emotional resilience, nervous system regulation, and reclaiming your voice after trauma. Website Books Sovereign Path Oracle Deck A Gift from Morrighan About Growing Up Late: Growing Up Late is a podcast about reinvention, resilience, and becoming the author of what comes next. Your host, Jeannie McIntire, is a former Fortune 500 executive who led a $2+ billion business and is now an entrepreneur, speaker, and podcast host. Connect / Follow Jeannie Content note: This episode discusses burnout, people-pleasing, identity loss, and dark moments, including thoughts of not wanting to exist. If you are struggling, in the U.S. you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) at any time. This conversation is for education and inspiration and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.

  6. Sep 24

    I Wasn't Out of Time, I Was Out of Order: The Fallacy of Rushing

    I fell down an entire flight of stairs rushing to impress my mentor. Cut up, adrenaline through the roof, and I still walked in late and unable to focus. That's the day I learned speed doesn't equal care, competence, or forward motion. I wasn't out of time. I was out of order. This episode is about the fallacy that rushing gets things done faster, and what actually works instead: the 168-hour audit I run on my own calendar every week, an old Gaelic proverb about mentorship and doing your own growing, no matter how tall your grandfather was, everyone's got to do their own growing, and why hiring experts only helps once you already know where you're going. Busy is not neutral. It depletes you and gets you no closer to what matters. This one ends on the question I keep coming back to: are you moving toward something that matters, or are you just moving? The 168-hour audit worksheet mentioned in this episode is available in the show notes and on the newsletter. Timestamps: 0:00 Falling down the stairs on the way to my mentor 2:00 The fallacy of rushing 5:00 Busy is not neutral 6:00 The 168-hour audit 9:00 No matter how tall your grandfather was 10:00 Time takes care of everyone 12:00 Parkinson's Law: alignment vs. panic 13:00 What rushing costs 16:00 Why I started this podcast 18:00 Hiring experts, or getting lost faster 20:00 Are you moving toward something that matters, or just moving? 168 Hour Reality Check

  7. Sep 17

    Reclaiming Your Choices: Self-Worth, Trust & Love with Jennifer Benson

    What happens when the story you tell about yourself changes, and the world starts responding differently? In this episode of Growing Up Late, transformational life coach and author Jennifer Benson (host of The Impossible Shift) shares how she moved from self-silencing and survival mode to a more open, grounded way of seeing herself, relationships, and love. Jennifer talks candidly about the period in her life when shame took over her self-image, and the small, deliberate choice, as simple as choosing to smile, that started to shift how people treated her. We also dig into how childhood trauma shaped her early beliefs about trust and men, how that showed up in her relationships, and what changed when she met her husband. The heart of this conversation is Jennifer's framework for change: that lasting transformation starts with reclaiming your agency through small, consistent choices, and that many of us, especially women, are conditioned to give our choices away without realizing we still carry the consequences. In this episode: How changing how you show up can change how the world treats youThe link between invisibility, childhood conditioning, and self-protectionHow early trauma shapes trust, safety, and relationship patternsJennifer's "Impossible Shift" framework: why small choices compound into big changeThe difference between intuition and an old wound talkingWhy "you choose" is often us giving our power away, and how to take it backOne simple daily practice to start rebuilding self-trust and confidence About the guest: Jennifer Benson is a transformational life coach, author, and storyteller, and the host of The Impossible Shift podcast. Her work focuses on helping people examine the beliefs and stories that shape their self-image, and what becomes possible when those stories change. Connect with Jennifer: Jennifer's Website Connect with Growing Up Late: Jeannie's Website. Subscribe to Jeannie's YouTube Channel

  8. Sep 10

    Why Aren't You Living Your Dream Life Yet? A Birthday, a DNA Test, and What I Found

    Almost exactly a year ago, a DNA test I almost didn't take turned up a brother I never knew I had. On the eve of my birthday, I'm telling the story and the harder truth I found on the other side of it. This is a birthday episode, but it's not really about turning a year older. It's about what happened when a chance DNA test (thank you, ex-boyfriend convinced I was a Viking princess) turned into an email from a full biological brother, then a sister, then an entire family I'd spent my life wondering about. I went to Massachusetts and Maine to meet them. I'm sharing what I found, the reunion, the small uncanny things we had in common, a glass bottle that undid me, and the one sentence my brother said that changed how I think about my whole life. This isn't an adoption exposé. It's about the fantasy of the "what if" life, and what happens when you finally get close enough to it to find out you were never missing from the one you actually have. In this episode: Taking a DNA test years after wondering, and why I waited until my adoptive mother had passedThe awkward, honest emails that finally got a response from my biological brotherMeeting my biological family in Massachusetts, and the moment that could have become a story about rejection, but didn'tA small glass bottle that made my biological mother real to me for the first timeMeeting my other brother in Maine, and the one sentence that broke a lifelong "what if"What actually changed and what didn't after meeting the family I spent my life wondering aboutWhy I put off recording this episode, and what finally got me to do it anyway If you've got something in your life you keep waiting to feel ready for — this one's for you. #GrowingUpLate #DreamLifePodcast #IntentionalLiving #PersonalGrowth #midlifereinvention #happybirthday

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Growing Up Late explores the gap between the impressive lives we build on the outside and who we actually are on the inside. Through honest conversations about betrayal, comebacks, and personal transformation, host Jeannie McIntire shows how the real growth happens when we finally own our role in our own story. A podcast for anyone ready to stop playing small and start living authentically.

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  • Creator
    Jeannie McIntire
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    2026
  • Episodes
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    © Copyright 2026 Jeannie McIntire
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