The Original Her Experience

Sharonda Shantelle
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Welcome to The Original Her Experience 🤍 Let’s talk healing.. The kind that happens while you’re still figuring things out. This is a space for honest conversations about the journey of learning, unlearning, healing, and becoming who God created us to be. I don’t have it all figured out. I’m healing too so let’s sit down together & just have a conversation. Here, we talk about: • Faith and identity in Christ • Healing from trauma and past experiences • Breaking generational cycles • Becoming the woman God designed you to be Subscribe and join the journey of returning to HER—the original you. Socials: Instagram | Tiktok| YouTube @sharonda.shantelle Resources: https://linktr.ee/sharonda.shantelle

  1. 2d ago

    The People Pleasing Wound: Why You Feel Guilty Saying No

    Ever find yourself saying YES when everything in you wants to say NO? Or feeling guilty for setting boundaries, even when you know they’re necessary? Girl, we need to talk about the people-pleasing wound! Sometimes what we call being nice, understanding, or keeping the peace is actually rooted in something deeper: fear of rejection, the need for approval, or the belief that love has to be earned. In this episode of The Original Her Experience Podcast, we’re unpacking how people-pleasing behaviors can quietly affect our identity, self-worth, relationships, and even how we experience God’s love. We’re talking about: 💕 Recognizing the hidden signs of people pleasing. 💕 Understanding how childhood wounds and fear of rejection influence our behaviors. 💕 Why saying NO can leave us feeling guilty. 💕 Setting healthy boundaries without feeling selfish. 💕 Breaking unhealthy patterns and learning that love doesn’t have to be earned. 💕 Finding our worth and identity in Christ instead of seeking validation from others. Because here’s the thing: Keeping everybody else happy shouldn’t require abandoning yourself. Healing begins when we start recognizing the patterns we’ve normalized and asking ourselves where they came from. So, my favorite people, grab your coffee, get comfortable, and let’s have an honest conversation about the people-pleasing wound. We’re not just surviving anymore. We’re learning, healing, and becoming. 💕 Let’s stay connected beyond the podcast! Follow me on social media for more faith, healing, lifestyle, and behind-the-scenes moments as we continue learning, growing, and becoming together. Linktree:  https://linktr.ee/sharonda.shantelle Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sharonda.shantelle?igsh=aW42bzk0MmlpNXZo&utm_source=qr⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@theoriginalherletters⁠ Tiktok⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sharonda.shantelle?_r=1&_t=ZP-95FtYMdJ6Wk⁠ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@sharonda.shantelle?si=MNT5WqYdkrP_iWPA

  2. Oct 23

    Stop thinking you weren't enough | The truth about rejection

    Rejection is not a reflection of your worth—it's often a redirection towards your true path. In this powerful episode, host Sharonda dives deep into the emotional turmoil of the rejection wound, exploring how experiences of rejection shape our self-worth and relationships. If you've ever felt like a door slammed shut on your dreams, this episode is your guide to understanding the hidden blessings in those moments. Sharonda shares her personal journey, including a heart-wrenching miscarriage that challenged her self-image and forced her to confront her feelings of inadequacy. She reveals how this painful experience, initially seen as a loss, ultimately became a catalyst for growth and healing. You'll discover how to reshape your perspective on rejection by recognizing it as a form of protection rather than punishment. In this episode, you’ll learn: - **The importance of perspective**: Sharonda discusses how reframing rejection can lead to empowerment and healing. - **Real-life examples**: Through anecdotes, she illustrates how missed opportunities can pave the way for better paths, emphasizing that sometimes, what feels like a setback is really a setup for something greater. - **Practical strategies**: Sharonda provides actionable steps to help listeners process their feelings of rejection and learn to see the bigger picture. The stakes are high—living in the shadow of rejection can cloud your judgment and keep you from pursuing what you truly desire. This episode challenges you to rethink your relationship with rejection and to embrace the possibilities that lie beyond closed doors. Perfect for anyone grappling with feelings of inadequacy or loss, this episode is a must-listen if you're ready to reclaim your power and embrace the journey ahead. Tune in and discover how to transform rejection into a stepping stone for your future!

  3. Oct 16

    Signs Your Betrayal Wound Is Sabotaging Your Happiness

    How does betrayal shape your relationships and your perception of yourself? In this powerful solo episode, Sharonda Williams dives deep into the emotional scars left by betrayal and reveals the surprising ways they can distort your view of love and trust. If you've ever felt haunted by someone else's dishonor, this episode is a must-listen. Sharonda shares critical signs that betrayal may still be influencing your life, including how we often treat minor disappointments as major traumas and the tendency to keep emotional distance from others. She challenges listeners to recognize that someone else's betrayal does not define their worth or judgment of character. With raw honesty and deep insights, she encourages you to confront these wounds and embrace a healing journey. You'll discover how to break free from the emotional tests we put others through, the importance of leading with love despite past hurts, and why healing begins when you stop allowing someone else's actions to dictate your self-perception. Sharonda emphasizes that betrayal reflects more about the betrayer than the betrayed, helping you reclaim your narrative and restore your trust in relationships. Understanding these dynamics is crucial—failing to address the impact of past betrayals can keep you trapped in a cycle of pain and isolation. This episode opens the door to self-reflection and potential healing, illuminating the path toward healthier connections. Join Sharonda on this transformative journey, essential for anyone grappling with the aftermath of betrayal. Perfect for those seeking to understand their emotional triggers and cultivate deeper, more trusting relationships. Hit play and begin your healing today! Resources & Socials Link tree: https://linktr.ee/sharonda.shantelle Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sharonda.shantelle?igsh=aW42bzk0MmlpNXZo&utm_source=qr⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@theoriginalherletters⁠ Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sharonda.shantelle?_r=1&_t=ZP-95FtYMdJ6Wk⁠ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@sharonda.shantelle?si=MNT5WqYdkrP_iWPA Find community & get support below: www.herpromisecircle.org/getsupport https://herpromisecircle.org/

  4. Oct 9

    Word Wound| Who told you that?

    Who Told You That? — Genesis 3:11 Some wounds don’t need stitches—they need God’s truth. In this episode of The Original Her Experience, Sharonda Shantelle unpacks the "Word Wound"—the labels, criticisms, predictions, and painful silences that shape how we view ourselves. When you hear a lie long enough, it stops sounding like the person who said it and starts sounding like your own voice. Through Genesis 3:11, the story of Gideon, and key biblical truths, discover how to check the source of your inner soundtrack, break free from childhood words, and let God’s truth have the final WORD over your life. Key takeaway: You don’t have to keep agreeing with a word God never spoke. 💬 Reflection Question: What is one lie you've been carrying that you're ready to give back to God today? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 🔔 Follow & Rate: If this episode blessed you, don't forget to tap the follow button and leave a 5-star rating to help reach more women walking their healing journey! Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sharonda.shantelle?igsh=aW42bzk0MmlpNXZo&utm_source=qr⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@theoriginalherletters⁠ Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sharonda.shantelle?_r=1&_t=ZP-95FtYMdJ6Wk⁠ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@sharonda.shantelle?si=MNT5WqYdkrP_iWPA

  5. Oct 2

    The Wounded Turned Wounder

    What happens when you enter motherhood carrying wounds you never stopped to heal? In this episode, I get honest about realizing I was trying to create the family I never had while still carrying the pain of what I experienced. I loved my child, but I didn’t yet understand how to parent from a healed place. This is a conversation about motherhood, accountability, grief, healing, and restoration—and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes the wounded can become the wounder. But the story doesn’t end there. God met me in the broken places, got to the root, and began teaching me how to heal, rebuild, and parent from a whole place. Because breaking generational cycles starts with being willing to face what we’ve carried. ✨ If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Original HER Experience. Socials Resources & More: https://stan.store/SharondaShantelle Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sharonda.shantelle?igsh=aW42bzk0MmlpNXZo&utm_source=qr⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@theoriginalherletters⁠ Tiktok⁠: https://www.tiktok.com/@sharonda.shantelle?_r=1&_t=ZP-95FtYMdJ6Wk⁠ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@sharonda.shantelle?si=MNT5WqYdkrP_iWPA Tune in next week as we chat about the Word Wound!

  6. Sep 25

    The Wounded| Survival Tactics May Be Holding You Back

    What happens to the little girl who had to adapt to an environment that didn’t give her everything she needed? In this episode, we move from the wounder to the wounded and explore how childhood experiences can shape the behaviors we carry into adulthood. The Mother Wound doesn’t always stay in one place. Unmet needs can teach us to survive by becoming overly independent, staying quiet, seeking affirmation, people-pleasing, accepting the bare minimum, keeping people at a distance, or constantly preparing for the other shoe to drop. And sometimes those survival behaviors open the door to other wounds: The Word Wound.
The Betrayal Wound.
The Rejection Wound.
The People-Pleasing Wound.
The Security Wound. This is not about blaming the mother or excusing the impact. It’s about understanding. Because sometimes we don’t realize that the things we learned to do to survive as children are the same things affecting how we love, communicate, trust, choose relationships, set boundaries, and even see ourselves today. In this episode, I share personal experiences while also exploring what this can look like for others who grew up with emotional absence, unmet needs, painful words, abandonment, instability, or a lack of safety and nurture. And eventually, we have to ask: What if the wounded little girl is now a woman carrying those wounds into the life she’s building? This episode sets the foundation for our next conversation: When the Wounded Becomes the Wounder. Socials & Resources Stan store: https://stan.store/SharondaShantelle Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sharonda.shantelle?igsh=aW42bzk0MmlpNXZo&utm_source=qr⁠ Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@theoriginalherletters⁠ Tiktok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sharonda.shantelle?_r=1&_t=ZP-95FtYMdJ6Wk⁠ Youtube: https://youtube.com/@sharonda.shantelle?si=MNT5WqYdkrP_iWPA

  7. Sep 18

    Mother Wound | The Wound(er)

    In this episode, we talk about the wounder: the mother. We explore what it looks like to understand the woman behind the wound without excusing the hurt she caused. We’ll unpack generational cycles, emotional unavailability, what was missing in the home, forgiveness, boundaries, and the things I carried with me into adulthood. Because understanding where the wound came from can bring clarity, but healing requires us to acknowledge what it did to us too. Next episode: The Wounded — What if your childhood is still affecting you? Book recommendation: Adult Children of emotionally immature parents by Linday C. Gibson on amazon and also audio with spotify Additional resources: https://stan.store/SharondaShantelle ✨ If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend, leave a review, and subscribe so you never miss an episode of The Original HER Experience. Instagram & TikTok: @ sharonda.shantelle Substack: ⁠@theoriginalherletters⁠

  8. Sep 11

    Mother Wound | The Wound

    This episode is a call to recognize how our upbringing affects our subsequent relationships and self-perception. "It's hard to fix a thing when you don't know that a thing is affecting you." I illustrates how our experiences can lead us to become the wounders in our own households. "There's the wound, then there's the wounder, then there's the wounded. And then there's the wounded turned wounder." As we uncover these layers, the aim is for awareness that leads to wholeness, remembering that our journeys are intertwined with those of others. Reflect on your experiences and consider how they have shaped who you are today. If you’re curious to dive deeper, tune in to the full episode. Unpacking the Mother Wound: A Path to Healing How Early Relationships Shape Our Identities Discovering the Impact of the Mother Wound Healing Begins with Awareness: The Mother Wound Understanding the Cycle of Wounds and Healing NEXT WEEK Mother Behind the Wound Understanding the Wounder Without Excusing the Wound Workbook + resources https://stan.store/SharondaShantelle Like / Share / Follow Comment: What did home feel like?

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Welcome to The Original Her Experience 🤍 Let’s talk healing.. The kind that happens while you’re still figuring things out. This is a space for honest conversations about the journey of learning, unlearning, healing, and becoming who God created us to be. I don’t have it all figured out. I’m healing too so let’s sit down together & just have a conversation. Here, we talk about: • Faith and identity in Christ • Healing from trauma and past experiences • Breaking generational cycles • Becoming the woman God designed you to be Subscribe and join the journey of returning to HER—the original you. Socials: Instagram | Tiktok| YouTube @sharonda.shantelle Resources: https://linktr.ee/sharonda.shantelle

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  • Creator
    Sharonda Shantelle
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Sharonda Shantelle
  • Show Website
    The Original Her Experience