Real Love - Built NOT Broken

Paula Landes
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Real conversations about identity, structure, and rebuilding your life from the inside out. This podcast is rooted in faith but lived out in real life—through growth, discipline, leadership, and truth. No perfection, no performance—just alignment and ownership. You’re not broken. You’re being built.

Episodes

  1. 1d ago

    You Can’t Change What you Refuse to See

    Season 2, Episode 2 of the Real Love Podcast is all about the mirror. Everybody wants growth, healing, better relationships, better communication, and a better life—but what happens when the thing standing in your way isn’t always somebody else? In You Can’t Change What You Refuse to See, we’re talking self-awareness, accountability, triggers, survival patterns, boundaries, betrayal, grace, faith, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes the version of ourselves we keep defending is the exact version we need to outgrow. This episode isn’t about blaming yourself for what happened to you. It’s about taking your power back by asking a different question: What part of this belongs to me now? We’ll talk about why your intentions and your impact are not always the same, why awareness without action is just information, why not every trigger means somebody harmed you, and how to recognize your own patterns without collapsing into shame. We’re also getting personal about Mirror Talk, learning to give yourself the same grace you’ve given everyone else, surrendering the closure you may never receive, and understanding that being wrong does not make you a bad person—it gives you a choice to grow. Because grace is not permission to stay the same. Grace is room to become different. And if this episode makes you uncomfortable? Good. Get curious. Because you cannot change what you refuse to see. Next week, we take the mirror one step deeper and talk about manipulation—how to recognize it, why it works, and the uncomfortable ways we may participate in it ourselves. Follow the Real Love Podcast and share this episode with someone who is doing the work too.

  2. Aug 3

    S2. Episode-1 :Why Great Leaders Aren’t Defined by Their Title

    What if the problem isn’t your industry… What if it’s the people leading it? In today’s rabbit hole, I’m sharing the leadership lessons I learned after working under incredible leaders, emotionally immature leaders, and everything in between. We dive into: Why authority amplifies character instead of changing it.The difference between leadership and control.Why accountability builds trust.How one person’s attitude can change an entire team.Why grace and boundaries belong in the same room.And the one promise I made to myself before I ever built my own business.If you’ve ever left a job because of leadership, struggled to lead your own team, or you’re building something bigger than yourself… This episode is for you. Because around here, we don’t just build businesses. We build people. 🎙️ If this episode challenged the way you think about leadership, share it with someone who’s building a team, growing a business, or becoming the kind of leader people actually want to follow.

  3. May 8

    EPISODE 7 — Did We Forget How Jesus Actually Moved?

    In this episode of Real Love: Built Not Broken, we’re talking about the difference between conviction vs condemnation, healthy relationships vs people-pleasing, boundaries, forgiveness, faith, and emotional healing. Too many people confuse shame with conviction, avoidance with peace, and performance with Christianity. But Jesus didn’t lead with condemnation—He led with relationship. In this episode, we unpack: ✨ Christian boundaries & healthy relationships✨ Conviction vs shame-based condemnation✨ Forgiveness without unlimited access✨ People-pleasing, self-abandonment & emotional healing✨ Conflict avoidance vs healthy communication✨ Faith, leadership & personal growth If your version of truth pushes people deeper into shame instead of closer to transformation… this episode is for you. “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through Him.” — John 3:17 🎧 New here? Start with Episode 1. This podcast is a full journey through identity, healing, boundaries, faith, leadership, and becoming Built Not Broken™.

  4. Apr 28

    Episode 0: Welcome to Real Love — Built Not Broken™

    Welcome to Real Love: Built Not Broken™. This podcast is not about surface-level mindset, fake confidence, or “just think positive” advice. This is where we go deeper. If you’ve ever felt like you keep starting over…like you know what to do but can’t seem to follow through…like something just isn’t clicking… You’re not broken. You’ve been trying to build a life on top of patterns that were never addressed. Inside this podcast, we focus on: Identity workCapacity buildingPattern recognitionReal, sustainable transformationThis is the work that changes how you show up—consistently. You don’t rise to your goals.You fall back to your identity. And here? We rebuild it. — Scripture: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”— 2 Corinthians 5:17

  5. Apr 27

    Episode 6: You Don’t Need Motivation — You Need Capacity

    You keep telling yourself you just need more motivation…more discipline…more consistency. But that’s not the real problem. In this episode, we’re breaking down why you keep starting over—and why it has nothing to do with laziness or lack of effort. This is the part most people aren’t explaining: You are trying to hold a life your current identity and capacity were never built to sustain. Inside this episode, we go deeper into: Why motivation always fadesWhat capacity actually is (and why it matters)How your nervous system responds to growthWhy you fall back into old patterns—even when you “know better”The truth about self-abandonment and how it’s keeping you stuckThis isn’t about doing more.This isn’t about pushing harder. This is about becoming someone who can actually hold what you’re asking for. “You’re not here to prove anything. You’re here to stop abandoning yourself.” — Scripture: “No one who puts a hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God.”— Luke 9:62 If this hit for you… you already know there’s more.

  6. Apr 20

    Episode 5 - You Don’t Have a Discipline Problem — You Have an Alignment Problem

    You don’t have a discipline problem. You have an alignment problem. If you’ve been feeling off, disconnected, inconsistent, like you’re trying to get it together but something just isn’t clicking, this episode is for you. Because the truth is, you’re not lazy. You’re not broken. And you’re not lacking motivation. You’re trying to build a life that no longer fits who you’re becoming. In this episode, we go deeper into why you feel disconnected from yourself, why you keep starting over even when you’re trying, how your nervous system keeps pulling you back to what’s familiar, and what alignment actually looks like in real life. We also break down why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong and how to start making decisions that actually move your life forward. This isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what actually fits. If something in your life feels off, it probably is. You already know what needs to change. You’ve just been avoiding it. We’re not fixing you. We’re rebuilding you. Around here, we’re Built Not Broken™.

  7. Apr 13

    Episode 4- Why You Keep Attracting the Same People (It’s Not What You Think)

    You don’t have a people problem. You have a boundary problem. And before you get defensive—this episode is not about blaming you. It’s about helping you see what’s actually keeping you stuck. Because if you keep attracting the same type of people, the same situations, and the same outcomes… it’s not coincidence. It’s a pattern. In this episode, we go deeper than surface-level advice and break down: • Why you were conditioned to tolerate what hurts you • The difference between real forgiveness and self-abandonment • Why saying “it’s okay” is keeping you stuck in cycles • How your nervous system confuses familiar chaos with safety • Why boundaries are not rejection—they’re protection • How to stop repeating patterns and start rebuilding your life This isn’t a soft conversation. It’s a real one. If you feel triggered at any point, pause, breathe, and come back—because that’s where the shift happens. You’re not broken. You were conditioned. And now it’s time to change it. Around here, we’re Built Not Broken™.

  8. Apr 7

    Why You Can’t Stay Consistent (And What Actually Fixes It)

    You’re not inconsistent. You’re unstructured. And every time something small goes wrong, you let it decide what happens next. In this episode, we break down: • Why your consistency keeps falling apart • How emotional reactions are controlling your actions • The real reason you keep starting over • What discipline actually looks like in real life • How to stay steady when life hits you Because life is going to happen. The question is— are you going to fall apart every time it does? Or are you going to learn how to take the hit… and keep moving? This isn’t about perfection. This is about self-trust. And if you’re done letting small moments take you out… this is where it shifts. I’ll be the mirror so you can straighten your crown. Built Not Broken™ La la love you 🫶💋

  9. Apr 6

    Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging (And Don’t Even Realize It)

    You’re not stuck because you don’t know what to do. You’re stuck because a part of you is still choosing what’s comfortable over what’s required. In this episode, we break down: • What self-sabotage actually is (and what it isn’t) • How avoidance shows up as overthinking, hesitation, and delay • Why you keep repeating the same patterns • The truth about fear, identity, and emotional avoidance • How to interrupt the cycle in real time This is where awareness turns into ownership. Because once you see it… you can’t unsee it. Around here, we don’t avoid. We rebuild. Follow for more truth-driven conversations on identity, discipline, and real transformation. Built Not Broken™ La la love you 🫶💋

  10. Apr 6

    You Don’t Have a Confidence Problem — You Have an Identity Problem

    You don’t lack confidence — you lack self-trust. And until you fix that, you’ll keep starting, stopping, overthinking, and calling it a mindset problem when it’s really a pattern. In this episode, we break down: • Why confidence isn’t the real issue • How inconsistent behavior destroys self-trust • The truth about identity vs intention • What actually creates lasting change This isn’t motivation. This is structure. If you’re tired of getting in your own way, this is where it shifts. Around here, we don’t stay stuck. We rebuild. Follow along for more truth-driven episodes on identity, discipline, and real transformation. Built Not Broken™ La la love you 🫶💋

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Real conversations about identity, structure, and rebuilding your life from the inside out. This podcast is rooted in faith but lived out in real life—through growth, discipline, leadership, and truth. No perfection, no performance—just alignment and ownership. You’re not broken. You’re being built.

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