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ThatMom is for the working mom caught between ambition and motherhood — the one who's capable enough to do it all, and tired of being expected to. Each week, host Maria (MBA, JD) sits down with psychologists, therapists, coaches, and fellow high-achieving moms to unpack a simple truth: being capable of everything doesn't mean you should carry everything. Using The Capacity Method — audit what's working, reclaim what isn't, reinvest in what matters — ThatMom gives you permission, clarity, and real tools to stop optimizing for "effortless" and start building a life that actually fits. If you're ready to stop doing it all and start choosing what matters, you're in the right place.

  1. 16h ago

    The Trade-Off Every Working Parent Should Be Making. (ft. Laura Vanderkam, Pt. 2)

    In Part 2 of my conversation with time management expert Laura Vanderkam, we pick up right where we left off: why we so consistently underestimate our own free time. Laura explains the psychology behind it — we overestimate how long the things we don't want to do take, and underestimate how fast time flies when we're enjoying ourselves — and why that gap gets especially wide in the early years of motherhood, before easing as kids grow. The fix starts with a simple trade-off: each parent claims one protected night (or weekend block) that's theirs. We close with Laura's weekly planning ritual, a reframe of "work-life balance", and her favorite mental shift for feeling like you have enough time for what matters. What We Cover: Why we overestimate how long tasks we dread will take, and underestimate how fast time flies when we're enjoying ourselvesWhy moms of kids under two really do have significantly less leisure time — and why that changes as your kids growHow mental overload closes us off to serendipity — the coffee dates, introductions, and stray ideas that can lead somewhereWhy building unscheduled space into your week (like a no-meeting Friday) creates room for things to go right, not just a buffer for when they go wrongLaura's three-part weekly planning ritual: career, relationships, and selfThe real math behind work-life balance — you're awake and not working almost twice as many hours as you workWhy zooming out from a day to a year changes what feels possible, even a weekly hobby is just 1% of your year About the Guest: Laura Vanderkam is a time management expert and bestselling author of several books on productivity and time, including 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, I Know How She Does It, Off the Clock, Tranquility by Tuesday, and her newest, Big Time: A Simple Path to Time Abundance. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Fast Company, and her TED talk on controlling your free time has more than 16 million views. She hosts the podcast Before Breakfast and co-hosts Best of Both Worlds, and lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and five children. Links + Resources: Connect or learn more about Laura Vanderkam: lauravanderkam.comFollow Laura on Instagram: instagram.com/lvanderkamGet Laura's time-tracking spreadsheet: available on her websiteFollow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAILMaria saves time and always has something to wear with her monthly clothing subscription from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off (referral link from which I may receive a benefit) If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who feels like she doesn't have enough time. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  2. 2d ago

    Why You Have More Time Than You Think. (ft. Laura Vanderkam, Pt. 1)

    In Part 1 of my conversation with time management expert and bestselling author Laura Vanderkam, we dig into her new book, Big Time: A Simple Path to Time Abundance, and what it actually means to fall in love with your schedule. Laura explains why she doesn't want people to just pack more into their days — she wants us to feel like we have enough time for work we care about, people we love, and things that light us up. Laura shares why tracking your time for just one week can change the story you tell yourself about how busy you are, and why zooming out to look at a whole week — instead of judging any single day — is the key to feeling like you have more time than you think. We close Part 1 with a preview of what's next: the free time most of us don't realize we have. What We Cover: What Laura means by a "good life," and why time abundance — not just packing more in — is the real goalWhy putting hobbies and social time on the calendar protects them from everyone else's requestsWhy "self-care" like bubble baths keeps getting bumped, and what to do insteadHow to turn a work break into a real mini-vacation instead of doom-scrollingWhy tracking your time for even one week changes how much time abundance you feelHow to use weekday evenings more intentionally, even with young kids at homeWhy high-achieving moms should judge their time by the week, not the day About the Guest: Laura Vanderkam is a time management expert and bestselling author of several books on productivity and time, including 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think, I Know How She Does It, Off the Clock, Tranquility by Tuesday, and her newest, Big Time: A Simple Path to Time Abundance. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Fast Company, and her TED talk on controlling your free time has more than 16 million views. She hosts the podcast Before Breakfast and co-hosts Best of Both Worlds, and lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and five children. Links + Resources: Connect or learn more about Laura VanderkamFollow Laura on InstagramGet Laura's time-tracking spreadsheetBuy Laura's book Big TimeFollow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAILMaria saves time and always has something to wear with her monthly clothing subscription from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off (referral link from which I may receive a benefit) If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who feels like she doesn't have enough time. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  3. Aug 12

    Why You Have Nothing to Wear Even Though Your Closet Is Full. (ft. Amanda Vargus, Pt. 2)

    In Part 2 of my conversation with stylist Amanda Vargus, we get tactical: why a closet can be "full" and still feel useless, how to edit it down, and the outfit formulas that make getting dressed effortless. Amanda breaks down the real reasons behind "nothing to wear" — styling gaps, too-bland basics, or too many statement pieces with nothing to ground them — and shares her closet-edit process for fixing it. We also get into why she calls outsourcing styling help a "power move" for busy moms, her go-to sneaker and shoe rotation, and how to mix prints, colors, and unexpected combos without it looking like a mistake. She closes with the real payoff of this work: it's never just about the clothes. What We Cover: The three real reasons your closet feels "full" but unwearableWhat "styling" actually means — pairing, layering, and building a full look, not just picking a topFinding the right ratio of basics to statement pieces (hint: it depends on how loud you like to dress)The handful of items Amanda says almost everyone needs: a strong blazer, a good coat, a clean lifestyle sneaker, a great white teeMaking athleisure and drop-off outfits feel intentionalHer current shoe rotation: retro sneakers, chunky New Balances, sambas, and the "sneakerina" trendBuilding a shoe capsule: a few flats, a couple of heels, an elevated sandal, a go-to sneakerWhy she calls hiring a stylist a "power move" — and what her closet-edit process actually looks likeRules of thumb for mixing prints, colors, and unexpected style combosWhy having a personal "outfit formula" makes getting dressed so much easierThe real payoff of this work — it's rarely just about the clothes About the Guest: Amanda Vargus is the CEO and founder of Wave and Woven, a personal styling company based in Boston. Before styling, she built a career in luxury sales and advertising, working for iHeartRadio and Pandora. She's been featured in USA Today and Glam Weekly, and specializes in transformational styling for women navigating changing bodies, careers, and life stages. Links + Resources: Follow Wave & WovenLearn more about Amanda and her ProcessMaria feels confident with monthly outfits from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off (referral link from which I may receive a benefit)Follow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  4. Aug 10

    Confidence Is a Fit: The Real Psychology of Personal Style (ft. Amanda Vargus, Pt. 1)

    Ever feel like your closet is full but you have nothing to wear? In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I sit down with Amanda Vargus — luxury sales pro turned personal stylist and founder of Wave and Woven — to unpack what's really going on. Amanda made the leap from a corporate sales career at iHeartRadio and Pandora into styling during the pandemic, all while navigating a divorce and raising a young son. Now she helps women, especially moms, rebuild their style from the inside out. We break down the three things every wardrobe needs to work — aesthetic, lifestyle, and body type — plus Amanda's honest take on why confidence isn't something a stylist can promise, how to actually explore your personal style without falling down a Pinterest rabbit hole, why she has clients try (not buy) with rental services, and her real talk on jeans and bathing suits. What We Cover: Amanda's career pivot from luxury sales to personal styling, and the pandemic "shit moment" that sparked itWhy confidence isn't the goal a stylist promises, but the byproductThe three pillars of a working wardrobe: aesthetic, lifestyle, and body typeHow to find your personal style without over-shopping or falling into the Pinterest rabbit holeWhy renting is a smart, low-risk way to test new styles and trendsBody type basics: working with your proportions instead of fighting themAmanda's real talk on jeans (yes, you may need to try on 20 pairs) and bathing suits About the Guest: Amanda Vargus is the CEO and founder of Wave and Woven, a personal styling company based in Boston. Before styling, she built a career in luxury sales and advertising, working for iHeartRadio and Pandora. She's been featured in USA Today and Glam Weekly, and specializes in transformational styling for women navigating changing bodies, careers, and life stages. Links + Resources: Follow Wave & WovenLearn more about Amanda and her ProcessMaria feels confident with monthly outfits from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off (referral link from which I may receive a benefit)Follow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  5. Aug 5

    Same Mess, Different Standard: The Truth About the Mental Load (ft. Dr. Anne Welsh, Pt. 2)

    There was a half day at school and I didn't realize it. The office called, my son was waiting, and my husband joked later: "How could you forget the half day?" It got me thinking — why does it always land on mom to remember, even when both parents are home? Psychologist and executive coach Dr. Anne Welsh returns to unpack the data behind that gap: why women are held to a stricter standard than men, both at work and at home, and why the mental load defaults to us so often it barely registers as a choice. We get into the research — women promoted for proven performance while men get promoted on potential, the "mom gets the call" pattern even when dad's the listed emergency contact, and the same messy room rated dirtier when it's labeled a woman's. Anne explains why closing that gap isn't about lowering your standards, and how redefining what "good enough" looks like can protect your time and health. She also breaks down Fair Play, the system she's certified to teach, which makes invisible labor visible enough to divide fairly. We close with her own scripts for bringing this up with a partner — without anger, without a list of grievances, and without a fight. What We Cover: Why women are punished more than men for the same mistakesThe workplace promotion gap: men on potential, women on proven performanceWhy "mom gets the call" even when dad's the listed emergency contactThe Tim's-room-vs-Amy's-room study on gendered double standardsFair Play's two premises: invisible labor is real, and everyone's time is valuableThe four-hours-a-week leisure gap between moms and their partnersScripts for dividing labor without triggering defensiveness About the Guest: Dr. Anne Welsh is a licensed clinical psychologist and certified executive coach based in Cambridge, MA. Previously at Harvard University, she now runs her own practice supporting ambitious women navigating career and motherhood at the same time. She is a Certified Fair Play Facilitator through the Fair Play Institute, with additional certifications in perinatal mental health and parental leave coaching. Her book, Ambitious Mother: From Surviving to Thriving in Your Career and at Home, is out August 2026. Links + Resources: Dr. Anne Welsh's Book: Ambitious Mother: From Surviving to Thriving in your Career and at HomeLearn More or work with Dr. Anne Welsh: https://www.drannewelsh.com/Follow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL Maria's Style Pick: One thing helping me simplify life as a working mom? Renting instead of buying. This episode's outfit is from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  6. Aug 3

    The Ambition Paradox: Why Moms Can't Win Either Way (ft. Dr. Anne Welsh)

    In Part 1 of my conversation with clinical psychologist and motherhood researcher Dr. Ann Welsh, we dig into what she calls the ambition paradox: the impossible bind where showing up fully at work gets you criticized as a mother, and showing up fully as a mother means you're not "performing" at work. Ann shares her own journey from a high-achievement household, through leaving a dream job at Harvard, to grappling with how much of her self-worth was tied to titles and accomplishments. We talk about why achievement-oriented moms in particular struggle with the unpredictability of motherhood, why society sets an unachievable standard for both "good mother" and "good employee," and Ann's practical "closet clean-out" exercise for sorting through which expectations are actually yours to keep. What We Cover: Ann's path from clinical psychology researcher to motherhood coach, and why her own research didn't prepare her for becoming a momWhy achievement-oriented women in particular struggle with the unsolvable problems of parentingAnn's story leaving her dream job at Harvard, and the identity crisis that followedThe ambition paradox: why you can't be the "perfect mother" and the "perfect employee" at the same timeThe impossible-test analogy: why failing an unpassable test isn't a personal failureGrief and identity loss that comes with letting go of "doing it all"The "closet clean-out" exercise for sorting which expectations to keep, and which to releaseA preview of Part 2: the fair play framework for dividing invisible labor at home About the Guest: Dr. Ann Welsh is a clinical psychologist, motherhood researcher, and executive coach. She holds a doctorate in clinical psychology, is certified in perinatal mental health, and runs a clinical practice focused on perinatal mental health alongside an executive coaching practice for working mothers. She also consults with companies on supporting parents in the workplace. Her book, Ambitious Mother, is out this August. Links + Resources: Dr. Anne Welsh's Book: Ambitious Mother: From Surviving to Thriving in your Career and at HomeLearn More or work with Dr. Anne Welsh: https://www.drannewelsh.com/Follow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL Maria's Style Pick: One thing helping me simplify life as a working mom? Renting instead of buying. This episode's outfit is from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  7. Jul 29

    The 1971 Veto That Created America's Childcare Crisis (ft. Susan Douglas, Pt. 2)

    What We Cover: How WWII-era nurseries proved government-funded childcare could work — and why it disappeared after the warThe Red Scare backlash that rebranded daycare as dangerous and un-AmericanThe bipartisan childcare bill that reached Nixon's desk in 1971 — and why he vetoed itWhy America still has no federally funded, licensed daycare system todayThe 1980s McMartin daycare scandal, media sensationalism, and how manufactured fear reshaped parenting for goodWhy kids had far more freedom in the '50s and '60s despite a more dangerous worldThe new, harder-to-solve version of that fear: phones, social media, and online safetySusan's grounding advice for perfectionism: "Cut yourself a break"Susan's newest book, In Our Prime, on older women rewriting the rules of aging — and why building bridges across generations matters About the Guest: Susan J. Douglas is the Catherine Neafie Kellogg Professor and Arthur F. Thurnau Professor of Communication and Media at the University of Michigan. She's the co-author (with Meredith Michaels) of The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined All Women, and author of In Our Prime: How Older Women Are Reinventing the Road Ahead, Enlightened Sexism, and several other books on media and culture. Her writing has appeared in The Nation, Ms., and The Washington Post, and she's been featured on The Today Show, NPR's Fresh Air, and The Oprah Winfrey Show. Links + Resources: The Mommy Myth by Susan Douglas & Meredith MichaelsFollow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL Maria's Style Pick: One thing helping me simplify life as a working mom? Renting instead of buying. This episode's outfit is from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

  8. Jul 27

    The Mommy Myth": Why Smart Moms Still Feel Like They're Failing (Pt. 1 ft. Susan Douglas)

    What if the mom guilt you carry every day isn't a personal failing — it's a cultural script you were handed decades ago? In this episode, I sit down with Susan Douglas, co-author of The Mommy Myth, to pull apart the impossible standard of "intensive mothering" — and why even the smartest, most self-aware women can't fully out-think it. Susan explains how magazines, social media, and decades of "expert" advice have quietly sold moms a fantasy of perfection, why seeing through the myth doesn't stop it from getting under your skin, and how the mommy wars, COVID, and the pressure to be five different people before breakfast all trace back to the same broken standard. What We Cover: What "the new momism" is, and why intensive mothering became the cultural defaultSeeing through the myth doesn't stop it from working on youThe "fragmented subjectivity" of motherhood: why you feel like five different people in one day, and why that's normalThe real story behind the "mommy wars" — working moms vs. stay-at-home moms — and who benefits from that framingHow COVID intensified the pressure on working mothers specificallyWhy letting your partner do things "his way" is a practice in letting go, not losing controlA preview of Part 2: how "Mother Knows Best" became government policy About the Guest: Susan J. Douglas is the Catherine Neafie Kellogg Professor and Arthur F. Thurnau Professor of Communication and Media at the University of Michigan. She's the co-author (with Meredith Michaels) of The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined All Women, along with several other books on media and culture, including Enlightened Sexism and In Our Prime. Her writing has appeared in outlets like The Nation, Ms., and The Washington Post, and she has been featured on The Today Show, NPR's Fresh Air, and The Oprah Winfrey Show. Links + Resources: The Mommy Myth by Susan Douglas & Meredith MichaelsFollow ThatMom: InstagramJoin the ThatMom Community: EMAIL Maria's Style Pick: One thing helping me simplify life as a working mom? Renting instead of buying. This episode's outfit is from Rent the Runway. Try it here with 50% off If this episode resonated, share it with a mom who has been carrying too much for too long. And if you're enjoying these conversations, follow That Mom for more thoughtful discussions about motherhood, identity, ambition, happiness, emotional well-being, and building a life that feels aligned with what matters most.

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ThatMom is for the working mom caught between ambition and motherhood — the one who's capable enough to do it all, and tired of being expected to. Each week, host Maria (MBA, JD) sits down with psychologists, therapists, coaches, and fellow high-achieving moms to unpack a simple truth: being capable of everything doesn't mean you should carry everything. Using The Capacity Method — audit what's working, reclaim what isn't, reinvest in what matters — ThatMom gives you permission, clarity, and real tools to stop optimizing for "effortless" and start building a life that actually fits. If you're ready to stop doing it all and start choosing what matters, you're in the right place.

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