SAY I'M POSSIBLE The Podcast

Angela Bendeck
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Inspired by my debut single, "Say I'm Possible," I'm to empower everyone to break free from mindset limitations and fulfill your unique purpose on Earth. In each episode, I share my personal experiences and the practical tools I’ve used to become a better human and an outstanding professional. We dive deep into the "game-changer" books that have shaped my life, connecting their life-altering lessons to our everyday dreams. This show serves as an inspiration for anyone ready to believe in themselves, change their mindset, and liberate their potential.

Episodes

  1. Jun 7

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 8: You Know Your Genius. Now Here's How to Actually Live There.

    You already know what your Zone of Genius is—but actually living there is a whole different challenge. In this episode, I get real about what keeps pulling me back: guilt, the dopamine hit of staying “busy,” and the pressure to keep being responsible even when my genius work doesn’t (yet) pay the bills the same way. I break down the key ideas from Chapter 5 of The Big Leap—including why the Zone of Excellence can be so addictive, and how to shift into the “Genius Spiral” on purpose. I also share the 5 practical tools that help me do it: the Wonder Questions, auditing my calendar, practicing the Enlightened No, protecting my Einstein Time, and committing—then recommitting—every time I feel myself slipping back. At the end, I challenge you (and me) to block two of your best hours this week for the work that makes you lose track of time—and to protect it like it actually matters, because it does. 🔑 Key Points Why knowing your Zone of Genius is not the same as living in it — and what gets in the wayThe "dopamine trap" of staying busy with work you're good at, even when it's not your geniusWhy guilt is the invisible barrier keeping us in the Zone of ExcellenceWhy choosing your genius doesn't mean abandoning your responsibilities — and what it actually looks like to delegate with trustThe honest truth about timing: when your genius work doesn't yet pay the bills, and how to hold both realities at onceThe 5 practical tools from Chapter 5 of The Big Leap to permanently shift into your geniusAngela's real story: the guilt she still works through every time she chooses music over the work agenda

  2. Jun 3

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 7: Before Our Children Can Dream, Someone's Already Watching

    In this episode, I share why I stopped posting photos of children online and why I believe protecting a child’s digital footprint is one of the most important forms of care we can offer today. I tell the story of the moment my son and his wife asked me not to post any photos of my granddaughter, and how the videos they showed me opened my eyes to how children’s images can be scraped, reused, and manipulated in ways we can’t control. I explain how “sharenting” can create a permanent digital record that children never consented to—fueling risks like profiling, facial recognition tracking, identity theft, reputational harm, and even deepfakes. I also acknowledge that most of us share out of love, not neglect, but that the internet has changed faster than our habits. To help listeners take action, I offer three practical steps I’m committing to: doing a social media audit of any posts that show children, setting a clear family policy and communicating it kindly, and moving photo-sharing to private channels instead of public platforms. I close by reminding myself—and every parent, grandparent, and family member listening—that protecting a child’s privacy is also protecting their future possibility: their right to grow up and write their own story without a digital trail they didn’t choose.

  3. May 31

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 6: Stop Managing Time. Start Owning It.

    For many years, I was the busiest person I knew — and somehow, I never had enough time for the things that actually mattered to me. Sound familiar? In this episode, I'm sharing the concept that finally cracked the code for me: the difference between Newtonian Time (where time controls you) and Einstein Time (where you control time). I'll walk you through the exact Sunday experiment that changed everything, and the 4-step practice I still use today. I share how I spent years feeling like the busiest person I knew—always rushing, always behind, and still never having enough time for what mattered most. In this episode, I explain the breakthrough that changed everything for me: the shift from Newtonian Time (where time feels scarce and controls me) to Einstein Time (where time is relative and I’m the source of it). --learned from the book The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. I walk through the traps that kept me stuck—complaining that I “don’t have time,” trying to control everything, and living with an invisible plan where I reacted all day instead of building my day on purpose. Then I tell the story of the “Sunday experiment” that proved something to me in real life: when I commit to doing one thing at a time with total presence, time seems to expand and I get more done with less stress. From there, I lay out the 4-step practice I still use: take full ownership of my schedule,block what matters like a non-negotiable client meeting,single-task with total presence, andconnect my time to my bigger vision (using principles from The 12-Week Year).I close with my core message: I’m not actually short on time—I’m short on ownership. And I challenge listeners to try the one-day, one-thing-at-a-time experiment and share what they discover.

  4. May 31

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 5: Why Being "Good" is Keeping You from Being Great (Finding Your Zone of Genius at 50)

    I share how I spent 15 years being “excellent” at things that looked like success—negotiating deals, managing cash flow, being the dependable one—while my real dream (music) slowly died in the background. When I hit 50, I didn’t feel proud—I felt physically sick, because I realized my greatest talent had become my greatest cage. In this episode, I break down Gay Hendricks’ The Big Leap and the Four Zones—Incompetence, Competence, Excellence, and Genius—and I explain why the Zone of Excellence is the most dangerous place to live: it’s safe, rewarded, and respected, but it drains the soul and keeps me from the work that makes me feel truly alive. I also talk about what kept me stuck: the Upper Limit Problem—the fear that choosing my genius (music) would make me “irresponsible,” and the fear of letting go of control and trusting other people to carry what I’d always carried. Then I share the turning point: I made a deliberate “Big Leap” by committing to songwriting again, joining a program, and building a real system around it—waking up at 6:00 AM for sessions with my UK producer and proving to myself that my genius doesn’t drain me, it energizes me. I end by giving my simple framework: spot what puts me in flow, audit my calendar with ruthless purpose (using Einstein Time to make space), and practice the “Enlightened No” so I stop giving my best energy to tasks that don’t align with my purpose. My core message is this: my genius is not a hobby—it’s my life’s purpose. And I challenge listeners to identify one “excellence” task that drains them, delegate or remove it, and start noticing what they do when time flies—because that’s their genius calling.

  5. May 31

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 4: The 5 "Sneaky" Ways We Sabotage Our Happiness (And How to Stop)

    Why do we criticize people in traffic? Why do we get sick right after a big celebration? And why can't we just take a compliment? It turns out, these aren't random. They are some of the 5 specific ways we self-sabotage. In this episode, I'm sharing my own very personal stories for all 5—from jumping for joy to getting COVID—and the exact strategies we can use to finally stop blocking our joy. In this Episode I share the 5 “sneaky” ways I’ve learned I sabotage my own happiness—especially right after something good happens—and how I’m actively interrupting those patterns so I can stay expanded instead of shrinking back down. I start with a moment that exposed it perfectly: the first time my song played on a UK radio station, I was overflowing with joy… and then my mind immediately tried to poison it with a critical thought (“You’re 52. You look ridiculous.”). That’s when I realized these reactions aren’t random—they’re predictable habits connected to the Upper Limit Problem (ULP), the part of me that tries to keep me “safe” by keeping me small. In this episode, I walk through each of the five manifestations and the strategies I’m using to break them: Useless worry — when my mind invents negative scenarios to contaminate happiness. I practice catching the thought and redirecting it, choosing joy on purpose. Criticism and blame — especially in everyday moments like traffic. I’m learning to stop, reframe, and even replace criticism with a blessing, so I don’t spread negativity to myself or my kids. Deflecting compliments — I tell the story of how I used to shrink when asked if I was a good singer, and how I learned that true humility isn’t denying my gift—it’s receiving compliments with presence and gratitude. Illness or accidents after a high — I share how I got sick right after a beautiful, joy-filled milestone trip, and how I’m learning to recognize the emotional “pattern” behind the crash so I can take my power back. Distraction and procrastination — my hardest one, fueled by wanting to do everything. I’m working on prioritizing, delegating, and using tools like The 12-Week Year to stay focused. I close with the message that these habits aren’t “who I am”—they’re learned patterns. My job isn’t to fix everything overnight; it’s to notice the pattern in real time and choose differently in that small pause. And my challenge for the week is simple: celebrate every win—every redirected worry, every moment I choose kindness over criticism, every time I accept a compliment with a genuine “thank you.”

  6. Apr 20

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 3: The 3-Step Cure I Used to Dismantle My Deepest Fears for Good

    In this episode, "The 3-Step Cure I Used to Dismantle My Deepest Fears for Good," I dive into how our oldest, deep-rooted fears—like the fear of rejection or not being good enough—are the only things holding us back. These fears are hardwired and create what I call the "Upper Limit Problem," which is built on four key "Hidden Barriers" or false beliefs. Key Points of the Message: The foundation of our self-sabotage is built on these four barriers, which we revisited from the last episode: Feeling Fundamentally Flawed: The belief that something is wrong with us.Disloyalty and Abandonment: The fear that success betrays our family or roots.Believing Success Brings a Bigger Burden: The idea that more success equals more stress.The Fear of Outshining: Playing small so others don't feel bad or resentful.I emphasize that these feelings don't just disappear; the difference is awareness and having a tool to interrupt the pattern. The practical, powerful tool I share is a 3-Step Process rooted in Mindfulness to actively dismantle these fears: Step 1: Get Conscious of the Signal (Mindfulness). I use mindfulness to notice the physical sensation—the "alarm bell"—of worry in my body, like a tight belly. Your job is simply to notice where you feel the worry, whether it's a tight chest or tense shoulders. Step 2: Reframe and Reprogram (Visualization). Once the signal calls my attention, I consciously shift my mindset by closing my eyes and visualizing a successful, hopeful outcome, reprogramming my brain to expect positive results. Step 3: Commit to the Feeling (Embracing Faith). I let go of the fear and consciously embrace the faith that everything will be alright, replacing the old, fear-based belief with a new, empowering one. The Main Takeaway:The most important thing to remember is that Awareness is the cure. Our fears and their physical signals are not our enemies; they are our teachers and signals telling us it's time to do the work, pause, visualize a better outcome, and commit to our own growth. My challenge to you this week is to simply find your signal—just notice the physical place in your body where you feel anxiety or worry.

  7. Apr 15

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 2: The 15-Year Procrastination: I Realized Guilt Was Sabotaging My Dreams

    The episode, "The 15-Year Procrastination: How I Realized Guilt Was Sabotaging My Dreams," centers on the host's 15-year struggle with guilt that prevented her from writing music after becoming a mother and taking on new financial responsibilities. She reveals that the self-justification of being a "good mother" was a lie, and the true, invisible barrier was the feeling of being selfish for doing what she loves—a phenomenon known as the Upper Limit Problem (ULP). The ULP, sourced from Gay Hendricks’ book The Big Leap, is an unconscious "thermostat" for happiness. It suggests that when a person experiences too much success, happiness, or love, they subconsciously self-sabotage—often through procrastination, allowing interruptions, starting arguments, or getting "sick"—to return to a lower, familiar comfort zone. The host realized she had spent 15 years doing this by burying herself in work. The ULP is defined as an "unconscious ceiling" that forces self-sabotage right as one approaches a new level of fulfillment, proving that the magical "right time" never comes because the individual is actively pushing it away. Hendricks identifies this as "the only problem we need to solve" to stop sabotaging the talent and time we already possess. The ULP is rooted in four main false beliefs or barriers that cause self-sabotage: Feeling Fundamentally Flawed: A deep belief in being inherently unworthy of success.Disloyalty and Abandonment: A fear that success will betray or abandon one's family or roots.Believing Success Brings a Bigger Burden: The conviction that achievement will simply lead to increased stress and responsibility.Fear of Outshining: Holding back one's potential to avoid making others feel resentful.Step 1: Get Conscious and Catch the Thought: Pause the moment a symptom of the ULP, like a spike of guilt or an urge to procrastinate, occurs.Step 2: Name It and Write It Down: Journal the negative thoughts (e.g., 'I’m being selfish'). By recognizing and writing them down, their power is stripped away, exposing them as harmless habits trying to keep one "safe" and "small".Step 3: Actively Exchange the Thought: Consciously replace the negative thought with a positive, creative statement (e.g., 'Doing what I love gives me more energy for my family'). This is a necessary, active practice for un-learning the guilt.The host identified her personal struggle as a combination of barrier #1 (feeling fundamentally flawed/selfish if she took time for music as a mother) and barrier #3 (leaning into the 'Bigger Burden' of financial tasks and training salespeople as a "responsible" excuse). She notes that a common mistake is not just procrastination, but allowing interruptions when finally trying to pursue a goal, as if hoping for an external event to 'save' them from doing what they love. The Solution is rooted in Conscious Commitment and recognizing that guilt is merely a habit or a story being told. The episode outlines a three-step practical process to break the ULP pattern: The host concludes by affirming that joy is not a betrayal of responsibilities and that guilt is merely a symptom of the ULP, not a sign that one is "selfish" or "bad". The final message is that listeners are not broken, but simply need the right tool to see and tear down the invisible ceiling they have constructed. The challenge is to become a 'ULP detective' by using a notebook for a few days to write down the exact thought that arises when feeling the spike of guilt or the urge to procrastinate. The host emphasizes that simply catching and writing down the thought is the most powerful first step to turning the lights on. Find the book "The Big Leap" on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/0huZSyYd‪ @hendricksinstitute‬ TODAY SPONSOR: ​‪@globalformulas‬ Find out more in the following link and get 10% off your purchase with code SHOWUP10 https://globalformulas.com/?rfsn=7621971.21d5e78

  8. Apr 14

    Angela Bendeck - Episode 1: The Happiness Thermostat: Why We Self-Sabotage

    We all have an "inner happiness thermostat"—and it's probably set too low.The moment you get that big win, find real joy, or achieve a new level of success, we subconsciously find a way to sabotage it. That's what Gay Hendricks call the "Upper Limit Problem."In this episode, we dive into the four hidden beliefs that cause us to self-sabotage right when things are going great. We'll learn how to spot the sneaky signs (like procrastination, worry, and picking fights) and, most importantly, we'll get the one simple tool we all need to finally reset your thermostat for good. It's time to stop holding ourselves back and finally expand into our full potential. Find the book "The Big Leap" on Amazon here: https://a.co/d/0huZSyYd @hendricksinstitute  TODAY SPONSOR:​ @globalformulas  Find out more in the following link and get 10% off your purchase with code SHOWUP10 https://www.globalformulas.com/?rfsn=7621971.21d5e78 I introduced "The Happiness Thermostat: Why We Self-Sabotage" by revealing that the only thing stopping us from pure, lasting success is a subconscious, built-in self-sabotage switch called the Upper Limit Problem (ULP). I explained that this pattern gets flipped precisely when things are going incredibly well—such as landing the dream client or hitting a financial milestone—causing us to pick a fight, get sick, or bury ourselves in "busywork". The ultimate goal of the episode is to help us break through the ULP to find what Gay Hendricks calls our Zone of Genius. Key Points: The Inner Thermostat (The ULP Defined): I described the ULP as an inner happiness thermostat, set in childhood, that dictates our comfort zone. When life expands past this familiar level—say, from 70 to 80 degrees of happiness—the thermostat panics, signaling that the success is "too good... unfamiliar... unsafe". It then kicks on the "A/C" of self-sabotage to cool us off and return us to our habitual level of joy.The 4 Hidden Barriers (Why We Sabotage): The self-sabotage boils down to four limiting core beliefs:Feeling Fundamentally Flawed: The quiet belief that we can’t be both successful and flawed.Fear of Disloyalty: The worry that rising too high will betray or leave behind struggling family or friends.Believing Success is a Bigger Burden: The association of achievement with crushing responsibility or unbearable stress.The Fear of Outshining: Dimming our light to avoid making others feel resentful or "less than".What Sabotage Looks Like (The Symptoms): I noted that the ULP is sneaky and manifests as excessive Worry about future failure right after a success, Criticism and Blame (starting petty arguments), Procrastination (engaging in "busywork"), Deflecting Compliments, or even Getting Sick (hitting an emergency brake after crushing a huge goal). Takeaway: The Cure and Challenge The solution to resetting our thermostat involves three steps to move into our Zone of Genius: Awareness: Catch the ULP in the act and name it (e.g., "Ah. There it is. That's my Upper Limit Problem").Reframing: Welcome the anxiety we feel as a sign that we are growing and expanding past our old limits.The Mantra: Retrain the brain to accept abundance as a gift by repeating this phrase from The Big Leap: "I expand in abundance, success, and love every day, as I inspire those around me to do the same".My challenge for this week is to be a detective. When something truly great happens, I want you to notice the very next thing you do or think. When you catch the ULP, simply smile, say, "I see you," and repeat the mantra. This act of awareness is the first and most powerful step to breaking these ceilings together.

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Inspired by my debut single, "Say I'm Possible," I'm to empower everyone to break free from mindset limitations and fulfill your unique purpose on Earth. In each episode, I share my personal experiences and the practical tools I’ve used to become a better human and an outstanding professional. We dive deep into the "game-changer" books that have shaped my life, connecting their life-altering lessons to our everyday dreams. This show serves as an inspiration for anyone ready to believe in themselves, change their mindset, and liberate their potential.

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