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Your Comfort Zone: Are You Pursuing What Makes You Happy? | No Small Talk with Richard Harrison

Host Chris Melville returns with October’s monthly check-in on No Small Talk with Entrepreneur and Mentor Richard Harrison, from Caldera Investments. They focus on the wins for the month, getting out of your comfort zone, and next month’s accountability. Richard shares wins including starting with a new coach, preparing for an upcoming event, and handling key business admin despite a cancellation. Chris celebrates returning from Happy Startups Summer Camp where she gained ideas, reconnected with playfulness, clarified a passion project by learning it is ok to start small. Plus, in looking at the numbers she realized No Small Talk Podcast nearly doubled in downloads. They discuss how the brain resists change for survival, why repeated small steps matter, and how the right community makes vulnerability easier. Chris introduces a reframe from keynote speaker Tamu Thomas: ambition as “life force energy” guided by purpose rather than achievement. Accountability: Richard commits to going ahead with his event whilst noticing his real obstacle may be pride and embarrassment, not fear. Chris commits to organising a curated lunch/dinner in November. Timestamps: 00:00 Trigger Warning 01:20 Monthly Check In Begins 01:44 Celebrating Wins Big and Small 03:30 Richard’s Wins and Wobbles 05:04 Chris’s Summer Camp Takeaways 08:36 Time Feels Expansive 10:28 Comfort Zone Science 11:55 Richard’s Thrill of New Challenges 16:52 Summer Camp Vulnerability 21:46 Find People Who Push You 25:41 Ambition as Life Force 31:23 Accountability Commitments 33:14 Pride Not Fear Closing Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Richard Harrison Website Instagram Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Sep 24

Miscarriage: The Guilt and Loss of Self NO ONE Talks About | No Small Talk with Lisa Baker-Murray

Trigger Warning: Miscarriages, loss, and adoption Host Chris Melville welcomes Lisa Baker-Murray, founder of BakerMurray Consulting, for a conversation about miscarriage, loss of self, and adoption. Lisa shares how she and her husband began trying for a baby in 2006, experienced seven miscarriages, and faced the physical and emotional toll. They experienced limited support after early losses, guilt and self-blame. Despite the strain on their desire to start a family , they remained committed to becoming parents while keeping their relationship intact. . After deciding not to pursue IVF and exploring adoption in the UK, they entered an assessment process that took about 18 months. It was briefly paused when her husband became unwell. They were matched with their daughter Amber, placed at 11 months, and later fostered-to-adopt their son at three months. Lisa reflects on identity, nature vs nurture, and that family can be created in many ways, advising listeners to take care of themselves and seek shared support. Timestamps: 00:00 Trigger Warning 03:22 First Miscarriage Reality 05:22 Support and Silence After Loss 09:24 Keeping Going Through Repeats 10:31 Impact on Marriage and Self 16:09 Choosing Adoption Over IVF 18:14 Adoption Process and Setbacks 22:51 Meeting Baby Amber 26:35 Life as New Adoptive Parents 28:24 What the Journey Took 30:43 Welcoming Their Son 33:47 Lessons and Final Advice Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Lisa Baker-Murray Instagram Website Facebook Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast HostNicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Sep 17

How To Recognize Unhealthy Boundaries | No Small Talk with Chris Melville

Host Chris Melville explains what makes a healthy boundary and how it differs from requests, negotiated agreements, avoidance, and control. She argues that boundaries can’t force another adult to change or prevent you from being upset, and they don’t remove your responsibility to examine why certain situations trigger you. Chris outlines why boundaries matter (clarity, honest relationships, the ability to say no), gives examples of boundaries framed around your own actions, and warns that “protect your peace” can become a way to avoid vulnerability or punish others. She offers self-check questions to evaluate whether a boundary is proportionate, protective rather than punitive, and about your choices rather than managing someone else, while noting these prompts don’t apply the same way in abusive or coercive relationships. Timestamps: 00:25 What Boundaries Really Do 01:08 Protecting Your Peace Myth 02:12 Why We Need Boundaries 03:50 Boundaries vs Requests 05:31 Signs of Healthy Boundaries 06:47 When Boundaries Become Control 08:58 Avoidance and Vulnerability 10:25 Triggers Aren't Proof 12:22 Boundaries Can't Heal Wounds 13:56 Self Check Questions 16:38 Prompts for Doing the Work 18:05 Safety Exception for Abuse 18:45 Final Takeaway Connect with Chris Email Instagram Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Sep 10

Struggling Can Be Skipped | No Small Talk with Anna Carina Berkman

Host Chris Melville welcomes Anna Carina Berkman (Architect Anna), a qualified architect and former CMO turned AI strategist, trainer, and founder of Markitect, to discuss what it takes to come out of prolonged survival mode and why external stability doesn’t automatically create internal safety. Anna recounts leaving architecture, moving into inconsistent film work, landing a demanding CMO role, then being fired 30 minutes before probation ended, which triggered financial collapse, universal credit, debt, and unsafe living conditions that harmed her health. A pivotal September 2024 conference introduced the idea that “struggling can be skipped,” prompting non-negotiables like daily posting and an intense podcast schedule, alongside her AI-supported “Impossible Framework” for reverse-engineering goals. They explore resilience vs “flogging a dead horse,” the long aftermath of a harassing client, why the mind lags the bank account in leaving survival mode, and Anna’s ongoing focus on health, fulfilment, and joy. Timestamps: 00:25 Survival Mode Story 02:02 Meet Architect Anna 03:45 From Architecture to Fired CMO 05:31 Universal Credit and Housing Crisis 09:21 Struggling Can Be Skipped 10:57 The Impossible Framework 13:37 Resilience Under Pressure 15:48 The Nightmare Client Fallout 17:28 Resilience vs Dead Horse 21:43 Thousand Doors Mindset 24:14 Energy Limits and Health OS 29:24 Achievement vs Fulfillment 32:18 Where to Find Anna 33:29 One Breath at a Time Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Anna Carina Berkman Instagram LinkedIn Website Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Sep 3

The Difference Between Ego & Arrogance | No Small Talk with Richard Harrison

Host Chris Melville returns with September’s monthly check-in on No Small Talk with Entrepreneur and Mentor Richard Harrison, from Caldera Investments, to discuss personal and business wins, decision-making, and asking for help. Richard shares how opening up with fellow entrepreneurs helped him reset after a rough week, celebrates taking a spontaneous Tuesday afternoon to race MX-5s at Brands Hatch as a lifestyle win, and confirms a venue for a long-delayed networking dinner he’s been planning. Chris reflects on grief after her children’s father’s sudden death, the physical toll of stress (shingles and infection), and learning to slow down, alongside exploring a potential business pivot to better serve solopreneurs selling into corporates. They unpack ego versus arrogance, how emotional weight and too much information can delay decisions, and how sharing problems reduces stress, before wrapping due to time. 01:26 September Check-In Begins 02:13 Richard’s Personal Wins 05:09 Lifestyle Wins Matter 08:03 Ego vs. Arrogance 10:58 Chris’s Wins and Grief 12:46 Pivoting the Business 14:52 Decision Making Under Pressure 21:17 Hardest Decisions and Alignment 26:57 Leaving Corporate Behind 30:16 Asking for Help and Advice 33:58 Wrap Up and Next Month Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Richard Harrison: Website Instagram Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Aug 27

The Masks We Forget To Take Off | No Small Talk with Camilla Collins

TRIGGER WARNING: This is a frank discussion of eating disorders, self-harm, alcohol and cocaine addiction, suicidal thoughts, and the impact addiction can have on families. Host Chris Melville welcomes Camilla Collins to discuss the hidden cost of becoming who we think we need to be to survive, belong, or succeed. Camilla shares her path into alcohol and cocaine addiction, earlier experiences with eating disorders and self-harm, and entering rehab shortly after her 21st birthday when life became unmanageable. She explains how environment normalizes behaviour, how addiction and other compulsions develop gradually, and how similar patterns can resurface in socially acceptable forms like overachieving, constant reinvention, and chasing goals. They explore identity “masks” (performer, pleaser, achiever), burnout, and the key question of whether growth is driven by genuine desire or avoidance. Camilla recommends support meetings and stream-of-consciousness journaling, and shares where to find her work, including #NoFilterNeeded and her “Unmask” scorecard. 00:00 TRIGGER WARNING 02:55 Camilla's Background 04:54 Hidden Cost of Success 06:55 Visibility and Environment 10:52 Addiction and Rehab Story 17:27 Awareness and Identity Shift 20:10 Masks and Reinvention Cycle 22:07 Overachieving and Burnout 28:26 Growth Drivers and Stillness 30:42 Gratitude for Recovery 32:51 Where to Find Camilla 34:18 Advice and Closing Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Camilla Collins Instagram Website Threads Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Aug 20

How To Make Easier Decisions | No Small Talk with Chris Melville

Host Chris Melville explains why decisions get harder the longer you sit in them, the brain prefers familiar options because they feel safer, and too much research creates confusion that stalls action. Using examples from business (pricing, launching, changing offers) and personal life (jobs, relationships, opportunities), she argues that more thinking often adds noise rather than clarity, and that research can become a form of avoidance. Chris offers four questions to simplify decision-making: 1. whether you are truly unsure or just resisting the unfamiliar, 2. what specific information you actually need, 3. how to shrink the choice into a clear “this or that” container, and 4. what one small action you can take now to generate real information. She emphasises that certainty comes after action, not before, and that most decisions are adjustable. 00:53 Overthinking the Big Choice 03:04 Your Brain Hates Unfamiliar 06:06 Too Much Information Trap 10:10 Make the Decision Smaller 12:52 Action Creates Clarity 15:54 Four Questions Recap 16:34 Trust Yourself After Choosing Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast HostNicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager
Aug 13

High-Performing Anxiety, Mom Guilt & Self-Compassion| No Small Talk with Amanda O’Rourke

TRIGGER WARNING: Anxiety, loss of a loved one, mental health, motherhood Host Chris Melville welcomes Amanda O’Rourke, a multi-award-winning business owner, coach, and founder of the Manifest Like Magic Retreat. Amanda describes years of high-performing anxiety-masking emotions, overthinking, and waking at 3 a.m. with racing thoughts rooted in fears of loss, family bereavements, and losing her mother soon after having children. Anxiety intensified when she bought a cleaning franchise during the recession, especially around staff sickness and control, leading to sleep deprivation and reactive, compassionless leadership and a victim mindset that affected employees. She discusses mom guilt, external validation, and not being fully present at home, then shares tools that helped her find peace: challenging thoughts, pattern interrupts like saying “bogus,” insights-based understanding of team personality differences, and ideas from The Chimp Paradox about nighttime fear responses. 01:05 Meet Amanda O'Rourke 02:25 What High-Performing Anxiety Is 04:03 Roots in Loss and Grief 09:11 Starting a Business in Recession 12:27 Working Mom Guilt 16:23 Reactive Leadership and Victim Mode 23:27 Unmasking High Functioning Anxiety 27:44 Tools to Break the Anxiety Cycle 31:12 Finding Peace and Final Advice Connect with Chris Melville Email Instagram Connect with Amanda O’Rourke Instagram Website LinkedIn Producer’s credits: Chris Melville - Podcast Host Nicole George - Podcast ExecutiveAriane Lim - Podcast Producer + EngineerSara Wagle - Audio Efficiency & Flow Manager

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Chris Melville
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2026
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