The Intentional Family

Acton Academy Victoria

If you don’t build your family on purpose… the world will do it for you. The Intentional Family is a podcast by Andrew and Shannon Haws, founders of Acton Academy Victoria, about rejecting autopilot parenting and creating a family culture that actually shapes the future. We’re not experts—we’re in it. Raising four kids, launching a school, and learning how to form a home where courage, conviction, confidence, and competence aren’t accidental—they’re built. This is for families who want more than just getting by.

Episodes

  1. Jun 23

    Building a School Without Losing Our Family S01E08

    Episode Description: Building a School Without Losing Our Family Note: Andrew was recovering from a cold during this recording, so if his voice sounds a little rough, that's why! Launching a school sounds exciting—and it is—but behind every big dream is a reality that is often far messier, more exhausting, and more demanding than most people realize. In this episode, Andrew and Shannon pull back the curtain on what it has actually looked like to launch Acton Academy Victoria in British Columbia. From navigating regulations and facilities to hiring staff, meeting families, and building systems from the ground up, they share some of the challenges, surprises, and lessons they've encountered along the way. But this conversation quickly becomes about something bigger than starting a school. As the demands of launching a new venture have increased, so has the pressure on family life. Shannon shares some of the tensions she has felt during this season, and together they reflect on a question many parents face: How do you continue investing in the things that matter most when life becomes increasingly busy? Drawing on ideas explored throughout this season—including values, rhythms, intentionality, and community—they discuss what has helped anchor their family during a season that has often felt chaotic and overwhelming. In this episode, you'll hear: What it actually takes to launch an independent school in British ColumbiaSome of the biggest surprises and challenges of building something from scratchThe tensions of balancing work, vision, family, and marginHow values help guide decisions when everything feels urgentWhy rhythms become even more important during busy seasonsWhat Andrew and Shannon are learning about maintaining intentionality when life doesn't slow downWhether you're launching a business, leading a ministry, pursuing a dream, or simply trying to stay present with your family during a busy season, this conversation is an honest look at what it means to hold onto what matters most. Because intentionality isn't tested when life is calm. It's tested when life is full. Reflection Question What values or rhythms help keep your family grounded when life becomes busy, stressful, or uncertain?

  2. May 27

    The Lost Art of Healthy Childhood S01E07

    🎙️ Episode Description: The Lost Art of Healthy Childhood Movement, Screens, and the Humans We’re Forming Something about modern childhood feels different. Children are spending less time outdoors, less time moving, less time taking risks, and more time immersed in screens, algorithms, and constant stimulation. Anxiety is rising, attention spans are shrinking, and many parents are left wondering: What is all of this doing to our kids? In this episode, Andrew and Shannon explore the growing conversation around technology, health, movement, and human formation. Drawing on the work of Jonathan Haidt and others, they discuss how the “great rewiring of childhood” is reshaping attention, emotional regulation, resilience, and the everyday experience of growing up. Together, they unpack: Why modern childhood feels increasingly disconnected from the real worldThe impact of screens, social media, and the attention economy on developing brainsWhy boredom, outdoor play, movement, and manageable risk are essential for healthy developmentThe connection between physical health, emotional regulation, and resilienceHow modern convenience—both digital and physical—may be shaping us in ways we don’t fully understandWhy they’ve chosen rhythms like regular hikes, outdoor play, restricted screen access, and no TV in their main living spaceThey also share how these ideas deeply connect to their vision for Acton Academy Victoria—including their long-term hope of building outdoor exploration and nature-based learning rhythms into the younger years of the school experience. This episode isn’t about fear or perfection. It’s an invitation to think more intentionally about the environments shaping our children—and the kinds of humans we hope they become. Because maybe healthy childhood isn’t about optimizing kids for performance. Maybe it’s about helping them become deeply human. 📚 Show Notes & Resources Mentioned in This Episode Jonathan Haidt — The Anxious GenerationJonathan Haidt — The Coddling of the American MindKey Ideas Discussed “We have overprotected children in the real world and underprotected them online.”The shift from a play-based childhood to a phone-based childhoodWhy children need movement, challenge, boredom, and free playThe relationship between risk, resilience, and emotional regulationHow environments shape attention, identity, and nervous system developmentWhy intentional family rhythms matter more than ever in a hyper-stimulating world🎧 Reflection Question What environments are shaping your child’s body, attention, imagination, and emotional world right now—and are they helping them become the kind of human you hope they’ll become?

  3. May 13

    Educational Choice Is About More Than School S01E05

    What Kind of Human Are We Forming? When most parents think about education, they think about grades, graduation, and future opportunities. But what if the deeper question isn’t “What school is best?” but rather: 👉 What kind of human is this environment forming my child to become? In this episode, Andrew and Shannon explore why educational choice is ultimately a conversation about values, formation, and the future our children are growing up in. Drawing on recent articles, social media conversations, and their own parenting journey, they unpack the tension many families are beginning to feel: Why does something feel “off” with modern childhood?How are technology and constant stimulation shaping our kids?What skills will actually matter in the future?And what kind of educational environment helps form resilient, thoughtful, purposeful humans?Along the way, they discuss: The shift from information to formationWhy independent thinking matters more than memorizationThe difference between raising compliant kids and responsible humansWhy educational choice is deeply connected to family valuesThis isn’t a conversation about fear or perfection. It’s an invitation to slow down, think intentionally, and ask what kind of people we hope our children become. Because in the end, we’re not just choosing schools. We’re choosing formation. 📚 Show Notes & Resources Cody Jefferson’s Instagram A number of the ideas discussed in this episode were inspired by recent content from Cody Jefferson around education, formation, attention, and the future our kids are growing up in: https://www.instagram.com/codyjefferson?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Mentioned in This Episode Reflections on AI, attention, and human formationConversations around learner-driven education and the future of workThe importance of raising children who can think, build, lead, and live with purpose🎧 Reflection Question What kind of human is your child’s environment forming them to become?

About

If you don’t build your family on purpose… the world will do it for you. The Intentional Family is a podcast by Andrew and Shannon Haws, founders of Acton Academy Victoria, about rejecting autopilot parenting and creating a family culture that actually shapes the future. We’re not experts—we’re in it. Raising four kids, launching a school, and learning how to form a home where courage, conviction, confidence, and competence aren’t accidental—they’re built. This is for families who want more than just getting by.