The Modern Matriarch

Sara Putney
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What if the thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your strategy... it's your nervous system? Welcome to The Modern Matriarch, the podcast for ambitious mothers who refuse to choose between career, motherhood, and purpose, and who are done burning out trying to have it all. Hosted by Sara Putney, a somatic finance coach and Trauma-Informed Somatic Breathwork Facilitator, each episode goes where most motherhood podcasts won't: into the body.  You'll learn to regulate stress in real time, release the inherited patterns running your money and your marriage and your patience, and trust your body's wisdom as the leadership tool it's always been. This isn't hustle culture in softer clothing.  It's a re-patterning, of how you work, how you earn, how you mother, and how you feel in your own skin at the end of the day. Guest interviews feature women building meaningful careers and rich family lives on their own terms, without the crash-and-burn ending.   Whether you're navigating a career transition, scaling a business, or quietly unraveling and ready to rebuild, you'll find real tools, honest conversations, and a host who's lived it. Come as you are: overwhelmed, ambitious, healing.  Leave regulated, resourced, and rising.

  1. 2d ago

    23. Addiction Recovery That Actually Fits Real Life

    The fastest way to lose someone in recovery is to make help feel scary, cold, or impossible.  I sat down with Victoria Gore, a licensed addiction therapist, entrepreneur, and mother, to talk about what compassionate addiction treatment looks like when it’s built for real life not perfection.  Victoria shares pieces of her motherhood journey, including navigating school and career building as a single mom, and how her own recovery shaped her decision to specialize in addiction counseling. We get honest about the gaps in traditional treatment models: why abstinence-only expectations can leave people without coping skills, how co-occurring mental health challenges change the picture, and why harm reduction can be a safer, more realistic bridge for many clients.  Victoria also makes a powerful case that the “best modality” is often the one delivered inside a trusting relationship, because clients heal when they feel seen and understood. Then, we turn the lens toward the helpers. Therapist burnout, back-to-back scheduling, and the weight of carrying clients’ pain can quietly wreck care quality.  Victoria explains what helps her reset between sessions, including grounding practices like time outside and creating intentional space. She also shares how she supports other clinicians through mental fitness coaching and energy-focused retreats that may include nature immersion, Reiki, and inner child healing in places like Arizona. If you care about recovery, trauma-informed therapy, harm reduction, and sustainable mental health work, this conversation will give you language and ideas you can use right away.  Victoria's Website: https://www.holisticrecoveryservices.org/ Email:  victoria@holisticrecoveryservices.org Call or Text: 701-680-5207 Check her out on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@holisticrecoveryservices Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  2. Oct 23

    22. How Everyday Parent Phrases Shape Kids’ Beliefs

    Your toddler repeats everything, but the part that hits hardest is when they repeat your beliefs.  Shellie Davis, a pediatric speech-language pathologist with over a decade of experience and the founder of the Abundant Baby Method, joins me to unpack a simple truth: we’re not only modeling words, we’re modeling the inner voice our kids will live with for decades.  When a child starts saying “I can’t” or spirals into whining, it’s not just a behavior to fix, it’s a window into what they’re learning about themselves, support, and safety.  We get practical about parenting language that builds a growth mindset and real agency, including why “you did it” can land differently than constant “good job.”  Shellie also explains how children’s self-talk develops over time and why what they hear at home becomes the script they run later.  We talk about “ambient” messages kids absorb from our body image comments, stress talk, and the way we narrate everyday life.  Then, we shift into money beliefs in children and the subtle ways scarcity mindset gets passed down through throwaway phrases like “we can’t afford that” or “money doesn’t grow on trees.”  If you want calmer days now and fewer limiting beliefs for your kids later, this conversation is your roadmap. Connect with Shellie here: https://www.instagram.com/theshelliedavis/ Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  3. Sep 11

    21. When High Achievement Meets Motherhood & ADHD

    Motherhood can be the moment you realize your “I can handle anything” identity was built on invisible overtime.  In this episode, I talk with therapist and business owner Alyssa Desroches, a neurodivergent mom who supports ADHD and autistic adults, especially high-performing women navigating burnout, identity shifts, and the constant demands of parenting. Alyssa shares what it was like becoming a mom during the COVID era, how anxiety and overwhelm can spike when sleep disappears, and why so many capable women discover ADHD only after motherhood stretches every coping system to its limit.  We dig into the difference between capability and capacity, the hidden work of masking with rigid systems, and what changes when you start naming your needs instead of judging them. We also get practical about EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and nervous system regulation. We talk sensitive nervous systems, how capacity can change day to day, what realistic EMDR timelines look like for single-incident trauma versus complex trauma, and the early stage burnout “superhero mode” that can sneak up on high achievers. If you’ve been searching for ADHD burnout help, EMDR for complex trauma, or strategies for neurodivergent moms, this conversation offers language you can use and options you can explore.  Learn more about Alyssa's work here: https://seedoftruthcounseling.com/ Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  4. Sep 4

    20. What If Postpartum Lasts Longer Than You Think

    In this episode, I sit down with my good friend, Hallie Mancini to talk sisterhood, new motherhood, postpartum, the protective instincts that flare at family parties, and how intrusive thoughts after birth can be terrifying, and are far more common than most moms feel safe admitting.  We also zoom out to the relationships that change alongside the baby. Female friendships often get quieter in early motherhood, not because the love disappears, but because energy, time, and bandwidth do.  We talk about what support actually looks like when you’re touched-out and running on broken sleep, why handing your baby to a trusted friend can feel like oxygen, and how boundaries around “passing the baby” can be both necessary and emotional.  If you’ve ever felt guilty for taking days to reply or unsure how to ask for help, you’ll feel seen here. Hallie brings her perspective as a doula and new mom, including why postpartum anxiety and postpartum depression are underreported, how stigma shapes what parents share on screening surveys, and what a better system could look like.  She also shares details about Postpartum Together, a Connecticut postpartum support group designed to create real community for moms and babies, with space for honest conversation and practical support. If this resonates, share it with a mom who needs less shame and more support. You can connect with Hallie here: https://www.instagram.com/_hallie.elizabeth/ Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  5. Aug 28

    19. From Tech Executive To Financial Coach For Working Moms

    You can have a great title, a strong salary, and even “flexibility” on paper and still feel like your life isn’t yours.  This is the tension I unpack with Alana D’Angelica, a finance pro and former tech executive who now coaches women on building wealth that translates into real choices at home and at work. We start with Alana’s career path from Morgan Stanley to high-growth tech, then into motherhood and the moments that made her question the tradeoffs.  She shares what changed when she finally had more control of her time, why a layoff can become a launchpad if you’ve built a financial runway, and how she now helps ambitious women get clear on what they actually want their days to look like. From there we get practical. We talk about why women often over-save, how inflation chips away at cash, and what investing in the broad US stock market can do for long-term financial freedom.  We also dig into emergency funds with a smarter lens than one-size-fits-all rules of thumb, plus the unsexy money moves that matter: capturing your 401(k) match, understanding performance and raise cycles, reviewing benefits, and making intentional health insurance choices including HSAs and high deductible plans. If you’re a working mom who wants less hustle and more optionality, this is the episode for you. Connect with Alana here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanadangelica Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  6. Aug 21

    18. EMDR, Nervous System Clues, And Holistic Mental Health For Moms

    You can be “high functioning” and still feel like you’re carrying something heavy everywhere you go.  I sit down with Amy Arruda, a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in trauma, anxiety, depression, and ADHD, to talk about what it looks like to stop managing symptoms and start healing what’s underneath.  The thread running through everything is the nervous system: how stress, emotional patterns, and old memories can get stored in the body, then show up later as reactivity, shutdown, perfectionism, or chronic overwhelm. Amy breaks down EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) in a way that actually makes sense, including how charged memories can link to beliefs like “I’m not good enough” or “I have to be perfect.”  We widen the lens into holistic mental health and lifestyle: clean inputs, what “nutrition” really includes (yes, scrolling counts), and simple grounding tools you can use in the middle of a chaotic day.  Amy also shares why dance has been a powerful form of embodiment and emotional release, plus the mindset shift that makes change possible: the best parts of life often sit on the other side of fear. Check out Amy here: https://apluslifestylesct.com/home Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  7. Aug 14

    17. I Stopped Proving My Worth and Started Healing

    Hustle can look like confidence while your nervous system is quietly screaming.  I’m sharing my story with the parts I usually only say in rooms where I feel deeply held: being raised by a single mom who worked nonstop, being the sensitive kid who learned to stay “tough,” and carrying adoption and abandonment wounds that shaped how I chased safety through achievement. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t rest because everything will fall apart, you’ll recognize yourself here. I talk about why the “self-made” myth can be a trauma response, how millennial “cry it out” culture impacts attachment and regulation, and why becoming a mother in 2022 cracked me open in ways no productivity system ever could.  Along the way I share about trauma-informed somatic breathwork, receiving without guilt, and setting boundaries without burning bridges.  This is the heart of my work... you can’t build a life of receiving from a foundation of survival, and you don’t have to hustle to be worthy. Thank you for tuning into this deeply meaningful and vulnerable episode with me. Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

  8. Jul 24

    16. Resting On Purpose Makes You Stronger

    Burnout can look like a motivation problem, but what if it’s actually a rhythm problem?  I sit down with Gigi Hunt, a cycle and flow mentor and registered nurse, to talk about the real connection between the nervous system, hormones, and the menstrual cycle and why so many women feel stuck in overwhelm when they try to live like their energy should be the same every day.  Gigi shares her honest journey through motherhood, postpartum anxiety, and the moment she realized that what started as a weight loss goal was really a call to come back home to her body. From breathwork and meditation to deeper cycle awareness, she explains how self-trust is built through small, repeatable choices instead of willpower and hustle.  We break down cycle syncing using a seasonal framework: inner winter (menstrual), inner spring (follicular), inner summer (ovulation), and inner fall (luteal). You’ll learn what tends to shift in mood, energy, and focus across each phase, how ignoring low-energy cues can fuel dysregulation, and how rest becomes a strategy, not a setback.  If you’ve wondered whether you’re “hormonal,” “lazy,” or even “perimenopausal,” we offer a different lens: hormones are messengers and the nervous system is the conductor, so chronic stress and poor recovery can mimic bigger problems. Connect with Gigi on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/gloflo.withgigi/ Support the show Subscribe to the podcast's weekly email love notes here. Tap here & join the list to be the first to know when The Turning Point Bundle becomes available!

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What if the thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your strategy... it's your nervous system? Welcome to The Modern Matriarch, the podcast for ambitious mothers who refuse to choose between career, motherhood, and purpose, and who are done burning out trying to have it all. Hosted by Sara Putney, a somatic finance coach and Trauma-Informed Somatic Breathwork Facilitator, each episode goes where most motherhood podcasts won't: into the body.  You'll learn to regulate stress in real time, release the inherited patterns running your money and your marriage and your patience, and trust your body's wisdom as the leadership tool it's always been. This isn't hustle culture in softer clothing.  It's a re-patterning, of how you work, how you earn, how you mother, and how you feel in your own skin at the end of the day. Guest interviews feature women building meaningful careers and rich family lives on their own terms, without the crash-and-burn ending.   Whether you're navigating a career transition, scaling a business, or quietly unraveling and ready to rebuild, you'll find real tools, honest conversations, and a host who's lived it. Come as you are: overwhelmed, ambitious, healing.  Leave regulated, resourced, and rising.

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  • Creator
    Sara Putney
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 ReMothering Mamas | Sara Putney
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    The Modern Matriarch