She's Not Done

Kouelee & Andrea
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SHE'S NOT DONE is the place where difficult conversations begin. It is the podcast for the woman who is rebuilding her life while still showing up for everyone else. Hosted by Andrea and Kouelee, two mothers of two navigating different chapters (one married, one divorced) - this show dives into real conversations about motherhood, identity shifts, healing, ambition, and rebuilding when life doesn't look how you planned. No pretending. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women in their "figure it out" era. If you have ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like you're quietly starting over...you're not broken - and you're definitely not done. If this resonated with you, then this is for you.  New episodes weekly.

  1. 2d ago ·  Video

    Are We Parenting Our Kids… or Trying to Be Liked by Them?

    Are parents today too afraid of being disliked by their kids? In this episode, we talk about the uncomfortable side of modern parenting: the pressure to keep our kids happy, the guilt that makes us say yes when we really want to say no, and why being a good parent sometimes means being okay with your child being mad at you. We get into the difference between wanting a close relationship with your children and trying to be their friend, why consistency actually makes kids feel safer, and what happens when “no” slowly turns into “fine.” Andrea opens up about how divorce guilt affected the way she parented, while Coley shares why one of her biggest fears isn’t her daughters disliking her today—it’s wondering whether togetherness will still matter to them when they’re grown. We also talk about social media, taking away TikTok and YouTube, parent guilt, emotional validation, apologizing when we get it wrong, and the reality that we’re parenting ages and situations we’ve never experienced before. At the end of the day, maybe the goal isn’t to raise children who are always happy with us. Maybe it’s to raise capable adults who know they were loved enough for us to say no. Timestamps  00:00 Are parents too afraid of being disliked by their kids? 02:30 The fear that your kids won’t want a relationship with you when they’re older 05:30 “You can dislike me”—why parenting isn’t about being their friend 08:15 Divorce guilt and saying yes to make up for what kids have lost 11:00 Can parents accidentally try to buy connection with their kids? 14:00 Giving kids emotional safety without validating absolutely everything 17:00 Breaking generational parenting patterns 19:45 Taking away TikTok, YouTube and holding boundaries they hate 22:30 Parents make mistakes too: apologizing and asking your kids for grace 25:00 Happy children vs. capable adults 28:00 Why consistency matters—and what happens when “no” becomes “fine” 31:30 The strict parent, the fun parent, and what kids really need Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  2. Aug 11 ·  Video

    When Did We Learn to Hate Our Bodies?

    How much of the way we see our bodies is actually about our bodies… and how much of it is about how we feel inside? In this episode of She’s Not Done, we get honest about body image, confidence, aging, motherhood, food, comparison, and the years many women spend believing they’re somehow not “good enough.” We talk about looking back at photos from our 20s and realizing we were criticizing bodies we’d now call incredible, the unhealthy eating habits that can start young and follow us into adulthood, and what happens when body image keeps us from fully participating in our own lives. We also get into why commenting on someone’s weight—even as a compliment—can do more harm than we realize, how raising daughters has changed the way we speak about ourselves, and why taking the picture matters even when you don’t feel your best. And maybe confidence has much less to do with what we see in the mirror than we think. Because sometimes your body can look exactly the same… and you can feel completely different inside.  Timestamps 00:00 – Body image: how do we feel about ourselves today? 03:15 – Looking back at our 25-year-old bodies 06:20 – When unhealthy eating habits start young 10:00 – Trying to achieve the “perfect” body 13:00 – Gaining weight after motherhood & avoiding pictures 16:00 – Take the picture: your kids won’t see what you see 19:30 – Can we blame social media for body image issues? 23:00 – Stop commenting on women’s bodies 26:30 – Raising daughters changes how we talk about ourselves 30:00 – Missing events because you don’t feel good in your clothes 33:45 – Confidence: does it come from peace or appearance? 37:15 – Movement, routines & healthier coping mechanisms 40:30 – Loving yourself without needing to love every part of your body 43:00 – Final thoughts: does every woman struggle with body image? Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  3. Aug 6 ·  Video

    Do Kids Make a Marriage Stronger... or Just Expose the Cracks?

    Everyone says having kids changes your marriage—but does it make it stronger, or does it simply reveal what's already there? In this honest conversation, we unpack one of the biggest myths about marriage and parenting. We discuss why children don't create relationship problems, how they amplify communication issues, the pressure of parenting styles, and why so many couples stay together "for the kids." Andrea shares the heartbreaking reality of realizing divorce also meant giving up the dream of another child, while Coley reflects on how working through relationship struggles before having a second child changed her marriage. Whether you're newly married, raising little ones, or wondering if your relationship is surviving the chaos of parenthood, this episode will remind you that you're not alone. Timestamps  00:00 Cold open: "I've never heard anyone say a baby fixed their marriage." 01:20 Do people secretly believe another baby will save their relationship? 04:10 Why kids don't create problems—they expose them. 07:15 The exhaustion, stress, and pressure that change a marriage. 10:40 Andrea shares how divorce meant letting go of having another child. 14:05 Why parenting styles become the real source of conflict. 17:15 The resentment that builds when one partner isn't reliable. 20:30 Staying together "for the kids" and ignoring relationship problems. 24:15 Communication: when repeated conversations stop leading to change. 28:00 What healthy marriages do differently after kids. 31:10 Looking back: what we'd do differently before having children. 33:00 Final thoughts: Do kids bring couples closer—or expose the cracks? Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  4. Jul 28 ·  Video

    Maybe Work-Life Balance Doesn't Exist

    Does work-life balance actually exist… or are we chasing a fantasy? Everyone talks about finding work-life balance—but what if it's something we'll never truly achieve? In this episode of She's Not Done, we unpack the pressure women face to "do it all" while juggling careers, marriages, motherhood, friendships, and the endless mental load that comes with it. We share our very different experiences—one married, one divorced—and explore how balance looks different in every season of life. We dive into mom guilt, why women struggle to put themselves first, teaching kids to help around the house, the invisible mental load, and why saying "yes" to one thing often means saying "no" to another. Maybe the goal isn't balance at all. Maybe it's building a life that reflects your priorities. 0:00 – Introduction: Does work-life balance exist? 02:15 – Married vs. divorced: Does balance look different? 05:20 – The trade-offs nobody talks about 08:45 – There aren't enough hours in the day 11:30 – Getting kids involved instead of doing everything yourself 15:00 – Chores, independence, and raising capable kids 18:00 – The mental load mothers carry 21:15 – Why making time for your marriage is so difficult 24:30 – Mom guilt and putting yourself last 27:00 – Self-care, habit stacking, and realistic routines 29:45 – Delegating and asking for help 32:00 – Why women are judged differently than men 34:30 – Letting go of guilt and redefining balance 36:00 – Final thoughts: Maybe balance isn't the goal Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  5. Jul 21 ·  Video

    Are We Raising Independent Kids... or Dependent Adults?

    As parents, our instinct is to protect our children. But when does protecting them start holding them back? In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest parenting challenges—raising confident, independent kids while still wanting to hold onto their childhood. We share honest stories about school buses, learning to ride bikes, Montessori education, letting go of control, teaching confidence, financial independence, and the little parenting moments that shape our children into capable adults. We also open up about our own parenting mistakes, the fears we've accidentally passed down to our daughters, and why independence isn't just about tying shoes—it's about teaching kids to advocate for themselves, trust themselves, and believe they're capable. Whether you're raising toddlers, school-age kids, or teenagers, this conversation will make you think differently about what it really means to prepare our children for the real world. 00:00 – Introduction & today's conversation: Are we raising independent kids? 02:15 – The school bus debate: freedom vs. fear 06:45 – When other kids introduce conversations you're not ready to have 10:10 – Every household teaches independence differently 13:15 – Why I chose Montessori (and why it helped me as much as my kids) 16:20 – Teaching kids to pack their own suitcase 18:45 – Eye contact, ordering food, and building confidence 22:10 – "Do you want me to listen or help you solve it?" 25:20 – Healing our own childhood while raising our children 28:30 – Letting go without letting fear win 31:00 – How overprotection affected my daughter's confidence 33:40 – Learning to ride a bike—and believing she could 36:00 – Life skills vs. academics: What matters most? 38:00 – Teaching financial independence from a young age 40:00 – Final thoughts: Are we preparing our kids for adulthood? Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  6. Jul 14 ·  Video

    Why Couples Keep Having the Same Fight Over and Over

    Why do we fight about the cup in the sink, the forgotten text message, the dirty laundry, or someone being five minutes late? The truth is… most arguments are never about the actual thing we’re arguing about. In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the hidden meaning behind small fights in relationships and why tiny moments can create huge emotional reactions. They talk about how repeated behaviors can make someone feel unheard, unimportant, or like their needs don’t matter. From the mental load of managing a household to the frustration of feeling like your time isn’t respected, they unpack how resentment builds when communication breaks down. They discuss the difference between a one-time mistake and a repeated pattern, why apologies without change can become exhausting, and how couples can learn to separate the action from the meaning they attach to it. They also explore compromise in marriage, accepting the things about your partner that may never change, and knowing the difference between something you can lovingly accept and something that continues to hurt you. Because sometimes it’s not about the cup in the sink. It’s about what that cup represents. This episode is a conversation about communication, resentment, emotional triggers, partnership, and finding your way back after conflict. Chapters / Timestamps 00:00 — Introduction: Why We Fight Over Small Things Andrea and Kouelee introduce the topic of communication breakdown and why small arguments often represent something deeper. 02:30 — It’s Not About the Cup in the Sink Why everyday frustrations are usually about feeling unsupported, unseen, or unheard. 06:45 — When Repeating Yourself Creates Resentment The emotional impact of asking for the same thing over and over again. 10:30 — When Being Late Feels Like Disrespect How time, reliability, and broken expectations can affect trust in a relationship. 14:30 — Is It the One Minute… or All the Minutes Before? Why small moments can trigger big emotions when they represent a pattern. 18:30 — Learning to Manage Your Own Emotions Taking responsibility for your reactions while still acknowledging your partner’s behavior matters. 21:45 — The Mental Load and “Helping” vs Doing Your Part Why household responsibilities are about partnership, not one person helping another. 25:30 — Different Backgrounds, Different Expectations in Marriage How culture, childhood, and family dynamics shape how we communicate. 29:00 — When Do You Accept Someone or Decide You’re Done? Understanding unconditional love, compromise, and when repeated issues become too much. 32:00 — Finding Your Way Back After a Fight How couples repair after conflict and rebuild connection. 35:00 — Communication Breakdown: You’re Not Alone Final thoughts on conflict, growth, and remembering that relationships take work. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  7. Jul 7 ·  Video

    Marriage vs Divorce: When Do You Stay and When Do You Leave?

    In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee explore marriage and divorce as two sides of the same coin—how relationships can start with connection and slowly shift into distance, resentment, or clarity about leaving. They talk openly about what it looks like when a marriage enters a “roommate phase,” where couples are living together but no longer emotionally connected. From communication breakdowns to emotional and physical disconnect, they unpack how relationships don’t usually fall apart overnight—they fade through stages. The conversation also dives into the reality of divorce: not as failure, but sometimes as peace, clarity, and rebuilding. They discuss what it feels like to create a new home dynamic, focus on the kids, and rediscover stability after leaving a relationship that no longer works. A big part of the episode focuses on children—staying for them versus leaving for them—and how both decisions come with emotional weight and long-term impact. They also touch on how judgment from others often makes it harder for people to speak honestly about what they’re going through. At its core, this episode asks the hard questions: When is it time to stay and work through it, and when is it time to walk away? No matter where you are in your journey—married, divorced, or somewhere in between—you’re not alone in asking those questions. You might be married. You might be divorced. But you’re definitely not done. Timestamps 00:00 – Intro + Welcome Back Meet the hosts: “Still married” vs “still divorced” and setting up the conversation. 02:10 – What Makes Marriage Feel Good (Team Dynamic) Being polar opposites, balancing each other, and why “being a team” matters. 05:40 – Dating, Early Relationship Memories & Evolution Workplace memories, early relationship dynamics, and how people change over time. 08:30 – What Divorce Feels Like: Peace vs Chaos Divorced perspective on peace, clarity, and emotional relief after leaving. 11:20 – Home, Safety, and Creating Stability for Kids Why creating a safe home environment becomes a core focus after separation. 14:50 – The Divorce Process: Trying Everything First Emotional breakdown of trying, failing, and knowing when enough is enough. 18:10 – Roommate Phase in Marriage When couples become coexisting roommates instead of connected partners. 22:00 – Emotional vs Physical Connection in Relationships Different needs in intimacy, communication gaps, and mental connection importance. 25:30 – Unconditional Love & Relationship Expectations What unconditional love means (and what it doesn’t), and marriage expectations. 29:00 – Kids, Staying vs Leaving, and Breaking Cycles How children impact decisions and shifting perspectives on staying “for them.” 34:10 – Judgment, Advice, and Why People Struggle to Open Up Friendship support, judgment around divorce, and learning not to project. 38:20 – Closing Thoughts: Marriage, Divorce & “Not Done” Final reflections: love, growth, and the reminder that you’re still not done. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

  8. Jun 30 ·  Video

    Couples Therapy: Too Late Or Best Way To Save Your Marriage?

    This week on She's Not Done, we're having an honest conversation about couples therapy—what it is, who it's really for, and why so many couples wait until they're on the brink of divorce before asking for help. We talk about our own experiences with marriage, divorce, communication, accountability, and why therapy isn't always about saving a relationship—it can also help you understand yourself better. Whether you're happily married, struggling, dating, or divorced, this episode offers an honest perspective on what healthy relationships really require. We'd love to hear from you: 👉 Did couples therapy help your relationship? 👉 Would you go before things got bad? 👉 What's one thing that helped you reconnect with your partner? Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Chapters (33-minute episode)00:00 Intro & Would You Ever Get Married Again? 02:35 Why Couples Therapy Has a Bad Reputation 05:20 Two Different People, One Shared Life 08:05 Our Personal Experiences with Marriage Counseling 11:10 Why Therapy Only Works If Both People Want It 14:15 Accountability vs. Blame 17:00 Therapy as Prevention, Not Punishment 20:05 Losing Connection After Kids 23:00 Why Date Nights Matter More Than You Think 26:10 The Fear of Divorce vs. Fear of Being Alone 29:15 Why Communication Is Everything 31:30 Final Thoughts: Is Couples Therapy Worth It? Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

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SHE'S NOT DONE is the place where difficult conversations begin. It is the podcast for the woman who is rebuilding her life while still showing up for everyone else. Hosted by Andrea and Kouelee, two mothers of two navigating different chapters (one married, one divorced) - this show dives into real conversations about motherhood, identity shifts, healing, ambition, and rebuilding when life doesn't look how you planned. No pretending. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women in their "figure it out" era. If you have ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like you're quietly starting over...you're not broken - and you're definitely not done. If this resonated with you, then this is for you.  New episodes weekly.

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  • Creator
    Kouelee & Andrea
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    19
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 She's Not Done
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