She's Not Done

Kouelee & Andrea
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SHE'S NOT DONE is the podcast for the woman who is rebuilding her life while still showing up for everyone else. Hosted by Andrea and Kouelee, two mothers of two navigating different chapters (one married, one divorced) - this show dives into real conversations about motherhood, identity shifts, healing, ambition, and rebuilding when life doesn't look how you planned. No pretending. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women in their "figure it out" era. If you have ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like you're quietly starting over...you're not broken - and you're definitely not done. If this resonated with you, then this is for you.  New episodes weekly.

Episodes

  1. 3d ago ·  Video

    The Truth About Co-Parenting No One Wants To Say Out Loud

    In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack divorced parenting, co-parenting expectations, and the emotional reality behind what it actually looks like when two people separate but still share children. One host shares openly that she doesn’t fully resonate with the word “co-parenting” in her situation — and that becomes the foundation for a raw, layered discussion about communication breakdowns, emotional triggers, healing timelines, and the difference between intention vs reality after divorce. At its core, this episode is about acceptance — not of perfection, but of reality. And learning how to move forward when the picture you once had no longer exists. “You can’t fix someone else’s experience of divorce — you can only manage your own.” Raw. Honest. Unfiltered. Real life parenting after separation. ⏱️ Episode Time Stamps (56:00)00:00 – Intro: Divorced parenting vs co-parenting 04:10 – What “co-parenting” actually means (vs reality) 08:35 – Default parent dynamic carries into divorce 13:20 – Trying to create “healthy co-parenting” early on 18:45 – Emotional triggers when communicating with an ex 23:10 – Why separation doesn’t equal emotional distance 27:55 – Different expectations of divorce outcomes 32:40 – “You leave before you leave” discussion 37:15 – Why communication styles break down post-divorce 41:50 – Protecting kids while managing adult emotions 45:30 – The hope of peaceful co-parenting vs reality 49:10 – Identity shift: mother, wife, and now single parent 52:00 – Rebuilding life, stability, and emotional independence 55:10 – Final reflections: acceptance, growth, and moving forward #ShesNotDone #CoParentingJourney #DivorcedParents #DefaultParent #MomLifeUnfiltered #MotherhoodUnfiltered #DivorceHealing #SingleMomLife #BlendedFamilies #ParentingAfterDivorce #EmotionalLoad #MentalLoadMoms #ModernMotherhood #RealParentingTalk #HealingJourney #RelationshipTalk #MomPodcast #HonestConversations #WomenSupportingWomen #LifeAfterDivorce #ParentingRealTalk Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    54 min

  2. Jun 16 ·  Video

    The Hidden Cost Of Being The Default Parent

    What does it really mean to be the "default parent"? In this episode, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the invisible responsibilities that often fall on one parent—the mental load, emotional labor, decision-making, and constant availability that come with being the default parent. They discuss how children naturally gravitate toward one parent, why many moms struggle to "clock out," and how carrying the weight of a household can impact marriage, connection, intimacy, and personal identity. From being touched out and exhausted at the end of the day to navigating resentment, communication breakdowns, and the challenge of trusting your partner to step in, this conversation is an honest look at the realities many parents experience but rarely talk about openly. Whether you're married, divorced, co-parenting, or simply feeling overwhelmed by the mental load of family life, this episode will remind you that you're not alone. Timestamps 00:00 – What being the default parent really means 04:30 – Why kids always seem to choose mom first 08:15 – The invisible mental load parents carry 12:00 – Did we unintentionally create the default parent dynamic? 16:30 – The importance of having a strong co-parent 20:45 – Feeling touched out and craving silence over connection 25:30 – How parenting exhaustion impacts marriage and intimacy 30:00 – Resentment, communication, and relationship breakdowns 34:45 – Surviving the toddler years and reconnecting as a couple 38:30 – Choosing a partner: what really matters when life gets hard 42:00 – Trust, reminders, and carrying the mental load 46:00 – Consistency, emotional safety, and why kids keep coming back to mom Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    45 min

  3. Jun 9 ·  Video

    The Mom Friends Who Become Family

    Mom friends can be lifesavers—or leave you completely drained. In this episode, Kouelee and Andrea dive into the complicated world of mom friendships: how they're formed, why some last a lifetime, and why others fade away. From awkward playground small talk and birthday party anxiety to finding the people you trust with your children, they explore what makes a true mom friend. The conversation touches on parenting differences, trust, sleepovers, raising kids in Europe versus America, friendship after divorce, and the challenge of making meaningful connections as an introvert. Most importantly, they discuss how the best mom friendships often evolve into something much deeper: real friendship. Whether you have one trusted mom friend or a whole village, this episode is a reminder that the right people make motherhood a little less lonely. 00:00 – Welcome back + the mom friend who recharged your battery 04:30 – Trust, playdates, and parenting differently than we were raised 09:00 – What makes a truly great mom friend? 13:00 – Why making mom friends as an adult feels so hard 18:00 – The different roles mom friends play in our lives 22:00 – Losing friendships, outgrowing people, and friendship after divorce 27:00 – Sleepovers, trust, and finding your parenting village 30:00 – Making mom friends as an introvert 31:30 – Final thoughts on friendship, community, and motherhood #MomFriends #MotherhoodUnfiltered #MomsSupportingMoms #VillageMindset #FriendshipAfterKids #FindingYourVillage #IntrovertMom #RealMotherhood #MomConversations #ShesNotDonePodcast Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    31 min

  4. Jun 2 ·  Video

    Is The Village Gone Or Are We Afraid To Ask For Help?

    In this episode of She's Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee tackle a topic that resonates with so many parents and women: the village. We often hear people say, "It takes a village," but what happens when asking for help feels impossible? Is the village really gone, or have life experiences, disappointment, trust issues, guilt, and the pressure to be strong made it difficult to lean on others? Andrea shares how divorce, single parenting, and years of being let down taught her to do everything herself—until life forced her to start asking for help. Through small moments of people showing up consistently, she learned that trust can be rebuilt and that accepting support doesn't make you weak. Kouelee opens up about her struggle with vulnerability, control, and the fear of being perceived as anything less than strong. As a working mom, she discusses the guilt that comes with asking for help, the challenge of trusting others, and why she feels she hasn't fully built her own village yet. Together, they explore the many forms a village can take—from family and friends to neighbors, fellow moms, schools, daycare providers, and community connections. They discuss how villages are often built intentionally over time and how support looks different for every family. This conversation is an honest look at motherhood, trust, independence, and the courage it takes to let people show up for you. Timestamps 00:00 – Welcome back to She's Not Done 01:15 – Is the village gone, or are we afraid to ask for help? 03:30 – Why asking for help can feel like weakness 06:00 – Being let down and learning not to rely on anyone 08:45 – Trust issues, control, and doing everything yourself 11:30 – The mental load of motherhood and partnership 14:00 – Why some women struggle to be seen as vulnerable 17:15 – Building a village versus expecting one to appear 20:00 – Community, friendship, and finding support outside family 23:00 – Divorce, trust, and relearning how to lean on people 26:00 – Mom guilt and the difficulty of accepting help 28:30 – Different parenting styles and different definitions of support 30:15 – How do you build a village when trusting people is hard? 31:30 – Final thoughts: You may not have a village, but you're not alone #TheVillage #MentalLoad #MomGuilt #MotherhoodUnfiltered #MomSupport #WorkingMomLife #SingleMomLife #WomenSupportingWomen #AskingForHelp #ParentingPodcast #ShesNotDonePodcast #CommunityMatters #VulnerabilityIsStrength #TrustIssues #YouAreNotAlone. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    32 min

  5. May 26 ·  Video

    The Mental Load Nobody Sees

    In this deeply honest episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee unpack the invisible mental load women carry every single day — from motherhood and marriage to divorce, intrusive thoughts, burnout, resentment, and survival mode. The conversation explores how emotional overwhelm impacts both mental and physical health, why so many women feel like they have to “do it all,” and the moment many women describe as “the switch” — when they finally stop accepting less and choose peace instead. They also open up about intrusive thoughts in motherhood, feeling alone even while married, asking for help, the shame surrounding mental health struggles, and how resentment quietly builds in relationships when one partner carries the majority of the emotional labor. This episode is a reminder that mental health struggles don’t always look like a diagnosis. Sometimes it looks like exhaustion, survival mode, constant anxiety, or feeling mentally tapped out. Most importantly, it’s a reminder that you are not alone. 00:00 – Mental load, relationships, and how resentment builds 03:10 – Open tabs in motherhood and emotional overwhelm 06:25 – When stress starts affecting physical health 09:40 – “The switch” women talk about after burnout 13:20 – Mom guilt, work commitments, and balancing everything 17:15 – The school pickup story and worst-case-scenario thinking 21:40 – Intrusive thoughts in motherhood and why nobody talks about them 27:05 – Feeling alone while overwhelmed and needing help 32:15 – COVID burnout, breaking points, and survival mode 36:50 – How mental overwhelm can spiral into mental health struggles 41:10 – Scorekeeping, resentment, and carrying too much in relationships 44:20 – Supporting others through mental health struggles and reminding people they’re not alone #MentalLoad #MentalHealthAwareness #MotherhoodUnfiltered #MomLife #MentalHealthMatters #EmotionalBurnout #OverstimulatedMom #IntrusiveThoughts #MomMentalLoad #WomenSupportingWomen #MarriageTalk #DivorceHealing Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    46 min

  6. May 19 ·  Video

    Should Married Women Maintain Financial Independence?

    In this deeply honest conversation, we unpack one of the most important and often avoided topics in relationships: financial independence in marriage and motherhood. What does it really mean to be financially independent in a partnership? Should couples keep money separate, combine everything, or build a hybrid system based on income percentages? We explore real-life experiences of balancing careers, motherhood, and marriage—and what happens when financial structures aren’t clearly discussed. From stay-at-home motherhood and unpaid labor, to divorce, 401Ks, and financial insecurity, this episode opens up the conversations many couples never have until it’s too late. We also dive into: The emotional impact of not earning an income while raising childrenHow financial control (or lack of transparency) affects relationshipsDivorce realities and rebuilding financial independenceThe importance of financial literacy for womenWhy “hard conversations” about money should happen early in relationshipsThis is not about right or wrong—it’s about awareness, preparation, and empowerment. Whether you're married, divorced, a parent, or building your financial future, this episode will make you rethink how money, value, and partnership truly connect. #momlife #momstruggles #workingmom #momtruth #financialindependence  00:00 – Feeling financially “less than” in a relationship Opening reflection on self-worth and not contributing financially. 04:00 – Should women be financially independent in marriage? Debate on separate accounts vs shared money systems. 08:00 – Percentage-based financial systems in relationships How couples split expenses based on income ratios. 12:00 – The reality of being a stay-at-home parent Sacrifice, home building, and invisible labor. 16:00 – Divorce and the financial shock afterward Loss of security, income reduction, and rebuilding life. 20:00 – Unpaid labor and feeling undervalued Emotional toll of raising children without financial recognition. 24:00 – Resentment, imbalance, and communication breakdown How emotional and financial imbalance affects marriages. 28:00 – Financial literacy gaps women face Credit cards, mortgages, and lack of financial education. 32:00 – Divorce, 401Ks, and legal financial complexity Negotiations, retirement accounts, and legal systems. 36:00 – Society’s pressure on working vs staying home Judgment, expectations, and conflicting standards for women. 40:00 – Value, control, and emotional labor in relationships Feeling unseen when contributions aren’t monetary. 44:00 – Advice: financial independence & hard conversations early Why couples should plan financially for “what if” scenarios. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    35 min

  7. May 12 ·  Bonus Video

    Introduction of Andrea & Kouelee

    In this introductory episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee share who they are, where they come from, and why this podcast exists. From divorce and motherhood to marriage, identity, and the unspoken realities women carry, this conversation sets the tone for what’s to come: honest, unfiltered discussions about life, relationships, and everything in between. They open up about the shame and silence often surrounding divorce, marriage struggles, mom guilt, intimacy, and emotional honesty — and why they believe these topics need to be talked about more openly. The goal is simple: to create a space where women feel seen, understood, and less alone. This is not about having it all figured out — it’s about sharing life as it is. Because we’re not done. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    5 min

  8. May 12 ·  Video

    Why Modern Women are Mentally Exhausted From Doing It All

    In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee get brutally honest about the kind of exhaustion no one really prepares women for — the mental load, emotional burnout, motherhood guilt, relationships, divorce, marriage, and the pressure to “do it all.” From being touched out by toddlers to carrying the invisible weight of everyone’s schedules, emotions, and needs, this conversation dives into what modern motherhood really feels like behind closed doors. They unpack the difference between traditional and modern women, why so many moms feel emotionally drained before physically tired, and how communication can either save a relationship or slowly destroy it. The episode also explores friendships in adulthood, learning to say no without guilt, why women struggle to relinquish control, and the emotional role moms play as the “safe place” for their children. This is the conversation every exhausted woman needs to hear — honest, validating, funny, emotional, and deeply relatable. Because being exhausted doesn’t mean you’re failing…  00:00 – Intro + “Women entered the workforce, but men didn’t fully enter the home” 01:15 – Feeling exhausted and finally taking time to rest 03:10 – The difference between modern women and traditional women 05:45 – The pressure of carrying financial, emotional, and household responsibilities 07:30 – Mom guilt, needing breaks, and learning to say no 10:15 – Feeling emotionally “on” 24/7 as a mother 13:00 – Doing everything yourself and the resentment that builds 16:20 – Trust issues in relationships when help never follows through 19:10 – Marriage, communication, and how honest conversations saved their relationship 22:00 – Emotional exhaustion vs. physical exhaustion 25:15 – Mental overload and constantly thinking about the next task 28:40 – Learning to walk away, regroup, and stop fixing everything 31:20 – Friendships as adults and how exhausting one-sided relationships can be 35:00 – Isolation, shutting down, and overstimulation as a mom 38:10 – Being “touched out” and struggling to stay present with kids 41:00 – The invisible mental load moms carry every day 44:15 – Raising daughters differently and breaking generational patterns 47:00 – Double standards for moms vs. dads in parenting 49:10 – The shift happening in younger generations and relationships 51:00 – Final thoughts: learning to say no and remembering you’re not alone Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    34 min

  9. May 12 ·  Video

    Mom Guilt: Working Moms vs Stay-At-Home Moms

    In this episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the reality of modern motherhood, partnership, and the constant mental load that comes with trying to “do it all.” From working moms to stay-at-home moms, they unpack the invisible expectations, the guilt that follows every choice, and the impossible standard of being everything to everyone. They talk openly about intimacy in long-term relationships, the struggle of balancing career and parenting, and the emotional weight of never feeling fully “caught up” at home or work. The conversation moves between personal stories and honest reflections on divorce, marriage, identity, and what it really means to be present. At the heart of it all is one message: no matter what path you choose—working, staying home, or somewhere in between—you’re still not done figuring it out, evolving, and redefining what success and motherhood look like for you. 0:00 – 1:18 – Exhaustion, intimacy, and introduction to motherhood realities + hosts 1:18 – 4:14 – Mom guilt: real vs taught + expectations vs reality of motherhood 4:14 – 8:50 – Working mom vs stay-at-home mom + mental load and identity 8:50 – 12:32 – Parenting styles, judgment, and “I could never do that” comparisons 12:32 – 18:23 – Identity pressure, sacrifice, and the reality of doing everything imperfectly 18:23 – 24:20 – Mental overload, social media comparison, and constant judgment 24:20 – 30:11 – Career gaps, missed opportunities, and long-term trade-offs 30:11 – 38:20 – “She’s Not Done” mindset + emotional load in relationships and divorce dynamics 38:20 – end – Redefining guilt, presence, family life, and what quality time really means Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    45 min

  10. May 12 ·  Video

    Motherhood Has A Way Of Bringing Back Our Past

    In this emotional Mother’s Day episode of She’s Not Done, Andrea and Kouelee dive into the complicated feelings motherhood can bring — pride, guilt, grief, healing, disappointment, and unconditional love. They open up about the pressure and expectations surrounding Mother’s Day, the pain of feeling unseen, and how becoming mothers changed the way they viewed their own parents. From difficult mother-daughter relationships to breaking generational cycles, this conversation explores how childhood wounds can shape adulthood — and how healing begins when we choose to self-reflect instead of repeat patterns. The episode also touches on learning to let go of unhealthy relationships, parenting with emotional awareness, apologizing to your children, and raising kids differently than we were raised ourselves. This is an honest conversation about motherhood in all its forms: the beautiful, the heartbreaking, the messy, and the healing. Because sometimes becoming a mother forces you to finally confront the child within yourself. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

    28 min

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    SHE'S NOT DONE is the podcast for the woman who is rebuilding her life while still showing up for everyone else. Hosted by Andrea and Kouelee, two mothers of two navigating different chapters (one married, one divorced) - this show dives into real conversations about motherhood, identity shifts, healing, ambition, and rebuilding when life doesn't look how you planned. No pretending. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women in their "figure it out" era. If you have ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like you're quietly starting over...you're not broken - and you're definitely not done. If this resonated with you, then this is for you.  New episodes weekly, starting May 12th, 2026. Thank you for being here! And remember, you are NOT alone and you are Not done. xxx Andrea & Kouelee Here is where you can find us online: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shesnotdonepod/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shesnotdonepod Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@Shesnotdonepod Linktree: https://linktr.ee/Shesnotdonepod?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

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SHE'S NOT DONE is the podcast for the woman who is rebuilding her life while still showing up for everyone else. Hosted by Andrea and Kouelee, two mothers of two navigating different chapters (one married, one divorced) - this show dives into real conversations about motherhood, identity shifts, healing, ambition, and rebuilding when life doesn't look how you planned. No pretending. No sugarcoating. Just honest conversations for women in their "figure it out" era. If you have ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or like you're quietly starting over...you're not broken - and you're definitely not done. If this resonated with you, then this is for you.  New episodes weekly.

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  • Creator
    Kouelee & Andrea
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    11
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    © 2026 She's Not Done
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