Build it Messy

Kimber Allen
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Because Even Strong Women Have Places That Need Restoring. Build It Messy is the podcast for women who are winning in some areas of life and quietly aching in others. Maybe your career is thriving but your faith feels distant. Maybe you’re a great mom but you’ve forgotten the dreams that used to keep you up at night. Maybe your relationships need tending, your courage needs rebuilding, or there’s a version of yourself you’ve been meaning to get back to. This is that space. Host Kimber Allen believes the most beautiful lives aren’t built perfectly. They’re built honestly, faith-first, and

  1. Oct 22

    Letting Go Isn’t Losing: What to Release and What to Keep

    After a season of family time and reflection, I’ve been asking myself a question that can change how we step into our next season: What have you picked up along the way that you’re still carrying without even realizing it? Inspired by aspen leaves caught in my dog’s fur and the words of Isaiah 43 about forgetting the former things, I’ve been reflecting on what it means to release what no longer belongs in the season ahead. Sometimes, that means letting go of painful experiences, and other times, it means releasing good things that once served us well but now take up space on our runway. I’m inviting you to join me in some honest reflection, strategic surrender, and a deeper trust in God as we make room for what He’s preparing to bring into our lives next. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:34] Aspen Leaves on Henry [00:04:48] Isaiah 43: Forget the Former Things [00:07:24] Releasing Bitterness, Guilt, & Fear [00:08:44] God Makes a Way in the Wilderness [00:11:50] The Runway Principle [00:13:56] Closing Prayer and Invitation Memorable Quotes "A season can be beautiful, right? It can be meaningful, and even God-given. Yet, as we transition into something new, we discover that we have attached ourselves to different things along the way." [00:05:44] – Kimber Allen  "We need to release guilt that we just carry with us, but keep the lesson that maybe comes from having that guilt and release the fear of what others think." [00:06:47] – Kimber Allen  And if you’re ready to keep building the life God has placed on your heart with faith, honesty, and the courage to begin before you feel ready, come join me in the Build It Messy community on Skool: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  2. Sep 25

    Waiting on God: Why It's Not Wasted Time

    I walked into my studio one morning ready to record an episode, and nothing worked. The microphone wouldn’t connect, the camera wouldn’t sync, and the plan I had in my head started falling apart before I could even begin. So, I picked up my phone and recorded anyway. That moment became a picture of what I was learning that morning: giving myself grace when things go sideways, finding courage when I can’t see the whole path, and holding onto faith when I feel faint. Psalm 27:13-14 met me right in that place. David is incredibly honest about despair, yet he chooses to believe that he will see the goodness of God in the land of the living. I reflected on what it means to wait when the path feels like a zigzag, and the next step isn’t always clear. I also share three journal prompts that helped me that morning and invite you to consider where you may need grace to keep going today. Some days, faith looks like taking one small step while you’re tired, discouraged, or uncertain. For me, that meant picking up my phone and recording when everything else had fallen apart. Sometimes courage looks like continuing to build, even when the process is messy, and you can’t yet see where the road is leading. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:15] Grace to Keep Going [00:01:54] Psalm 27:13-14 & God's Goodness [00:03:11] Grace in the Waiting [00:05:09] Journal Prompts for Grace Memorable Quotes "Grace is God's goodness sustaining us while we wait for what we cannot yet see." [00:03:19] – Kimber Allen  "We can take the next faithful step without having the whole path figured out." [00:05:44] – Kimber Allen  If you’re learning to build your life honestly, faith-first, and with the courage to start before you’re ready, I’d love to have you inside my Build It Messy Skool Community, where we’re building the lives that have been waiting for us, one faithful step at a time: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  3. Sep 19

    How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You: Stop Returning the Plate

    A man flips a tray of salad, wine, and dressing onto another passenger mid-flight. The victim stands up, dripping in red wine and balsamic vinaigrette, and says only: “You can't do that.” Then he walks away. I use this shocking story to explore one of the hardest spiritual practices we face: extending grace when someone dumps their anger, criticism, or betrayal on us. This is about refusing to let what hurt me decide who I’m becoming, while still acknowledging the pain. I walk through the difference between grace and poor boundaries, and offer a framework rooted in truth, forgiveness, and wisdom for the next time someone's mess lands on me. You may not control what gets dumped on you. But you absolutely control what comes out of you. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:43] The salad dressing incident [00:08:12] What lands on me vs. what comes out [00:10:56] Grace doesn't erase hurt [00:11:13] Grace vs. lack of boundaries [00:13:37] When God hides us in His tabernacle [00:15:42] Questions to ask when hurt [00:17:28] Don't return the plate Memorable Quotes "Grace doesn't mean I wasn't hurt. Doesn't mean that what someone did to me didn't hurt me. Grace just means that I refuse to let what hurt me decide who I am becoming." [00:10:54] – Kimber Allen  "Don't ask, how do I get this off of me onto someone else? No. Ask God, what do you want me to do with what just landed on me?" [00:17:32] – Kimber Allen  And if you’re ready to build the life that’s been waiting for you with honesty, faith, and the courage to keep building, I’d love to have you inside my Build It Messy community: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  4. Sep 12

    Stop Carrying Shame: How to Finally Forgive Yourself Today

    There’s a difference between being forgiven and actually forgiving yourself. One is a gift already given, while the other is a choice I can keep avoiding. In this episode, I’m sharing the uncomfortable truth about the shame we can carry long after we’ve been released from it. I tell a story about my golden retriever Henry and a very smelly walk, and somehow that moment helped me see what it looks like to stop adjusting my life around old mistakes and start living in the freedom that’s already mine. If you’ve been replaying the same failure, pushing away the people who speak truth, or living like your past is louder than your purpose, I hope this episode meets you right where you are. Sometimes we have to finally let the wash finish so we can move forward. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:02:11] Henry’s Stench & Shame [00:04:59] What You’re Carrying [00:09:17] Grace & the Thorn [00:10:50] When Disappointment Crushes [00:18:16] Let Them Bring You Back [00:20:19] The Aroma of Grace Memorable Quotes "Why must we still beat ourselves up over something that Christ has already forgiven?" [00:10:36] – Kimber Allen  "You are not the smell of your mistakes. You are not the stench of your shame." [00:19:32] – Kimber Allen  And if you’re ready to build your life honestly, faith-first, and with the courage to start before you’re ready, come build it messy with me inside my Build It Messy Skool community: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  5. Sep 2

    Who Is God? The Truth That Doesn't Change When Your Life Does

    At 12 years old, I was sitting on a stoop overlooking the North Carolina mountains when I found myself asking a question that would shape so much of my faith: God, who are you anyway? It’s the same question Moses asked in Exodus 3, and God’s answer was simple and profound: “I am.” He didn’t say, “I was,” or “I’m becoming.” He is self-existent, eternal, dependent on no one, and yet He continues to pursue us. As I’ve grown in my faith, I’ve come back to that question again and again, especially in seasons when I’ve been hiding, hardened, or simply too tired to ask. There is something powerful about encountering a God who doesn’t need us to define Him yet still makes a way for us to know Him through grace. In this episode, I walk through what it means when God says, “I am,” why grace always makes a way back, and how the mess of our lives can distort the way we see God. When everything around us feels uncertain, His Word gives us a clearer lens through which to see who He truly is. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:12] The question that shapes your life [00:02:34] A 12-year-old’s question at summer camp [00:05:47] Exodus 3:13-14: I Am Who I Am [00:07:57] God is self-existent [00:09:45] Moses’ authority came from God [00:11:28] You are enough because He is in you [00:13:34] God defines Himself [00:16:27] God came looking when we hid [00:19:23] Don’t let the mess become the lens Memorable Quotes "I think God is just trying to tell us, you are enough, but I am the one inside of you that makes you enough." [00:11:02] – Kimber Allen  "I just want to say the mess doesn't get to become the lens through which I see God. God's word becomes the lens through which I see the mess." [00:20:27] – Kimber Allen  And if you’re ready to build a beautiful life honestly, faith-first, and with the courage to start before you’re ready, I’d love to have you join me inside my Build It Messy Skool Community, where we remind each other that we are not broken; we are building: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  6. Aug 24

    Childlike Faith Isn't Naive: The Strength You Forgot You Had

    There’s a text from my younger son that can change the direction of a week. He made a simple observation that brought me back to something I had almost forgotten: when we’re children, we often talk about Jesus as though He is right beside us. Somewhere along the way, that sense of closeness can fade, and God can begin to feel distant, mysterious, or harder to reach. As I reflected on this, I kept coming back to what Jesus meant when He placed a child in front of His status-seeking disciples and said, “Unless you turn and become like this, you won’t enter the kingdom.” That word, turn, has stayed with me because it calls us to pivot away from comparison, self-reliance, and the noise that can drown out His voice. In this episode, I walk through four practices rooted in the way children naturally move through the world: learning to hear the voice that matters most, staying present instead of rehearsing tomorrow, remaining curious enough to ask better questions, and recovering quickly without carrying yesterday’s wounds into today. I’m learning that faithfulness doesn’t require perfection; it begins with a posture of openness and one simple question: Father, what are You trying to show me right now? Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:24] Why children stay close to Jesus [00:03:53] Matthew 18: Becoming like children [00:05:49] Hearing your Father’s voice [00:09:08] The “Be present” basket [00:10:35] The Brio train set & staying present [00:12:22] The In-N-Out question: “Are you a Christian?” [00:15:27] Recovering quickly after stumbling [00:17:20] 1 John 1:9 & confession [00:19:10] Four practices for childlike faith Memorable Quotes "Lord, let your voice be the loudest voice in their head. Let them hear you above all other chatter." [00:08:23] – Kimber Allen "Childlike faith just gives us permission to stumble without staying down." [00:15:39] – Kimber Allen And if you’re ready to build a life that’s honest, faith-first, and brave enough to begin before you feel ready, I’d love to have you inside my Skool Community, where we’re building the life that’s been waiting for us, one courageous step at a time: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  7. Aug 7

    1,100 Miles & the Lesson She Taught Me

    Sometimes the very thing you're asking God to remove is the thing He's using to strengthen you. In this episode, I share a chance encounter with a Pacific Crest Trail hiker who had already walked 1,100 miles on foot, and how that unexpected conversation on a mountain trail led me to reflect on endurance, struggle, and the growth that comes from pressing on. This episode weaves together stories of marathon runners, triathletes, butterflies emerging from cocoons, and the quiet, unglamorous work of stacking bricks when you can't yet see what you're building. It's about the mental load, the moments you want to quit, and the people who meet you at 3 a.m. to run alongside you. If you've ever wondered why the hard things don't just go away, or you're in the middle of a long training season in life and can't see the finish line yet, I hope this episode encourages you to keep going. The struggle may be shaping you more than you realize. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:22:00] Meeting Wink, a PCT Hiker [04:55:00] The Butterfly and the Cocoon [09:01:00] Sarah's Marathon: Stacking Bricks [10:01:00] Megan's Triathlon Comeback [12:30:00] Luke's First Marathon [14:45:00] Parenting and Endurance [16:15:00] Bringing Wink Home Memorable Quotes "Have you ever wondered why God just doesn't simply remove the hard things from our lives? It's because sometimes that very thing that we're asking God to remove is the very thing He's using to strengthen us." [00:05:25] – Kimber Allen  "If someone were to cut that cocoon open to make that process easier, the butterfly might emerge, but its wings would not develop properly. And it would likely never fly." [00:04:59] – Kimber Allen  If you're looking for a place to keep building your faith, courage, and purpose alongside others, I'd love to have you join my Build It Messy Skool Community, where we build beautiful lives honestly, faith-first, and before we feel ready: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

  8. Jul 31

    The Conversations Stealing Your Joy: How to Take It Back

    There's a story about an art class where students were asked to paint joy on the first day. The winning painting wasn't memorable because of the sunset or the wildflowers. It showed two women at an outdoor café, laughing over coffee, and it captured the beauty of genuine connection. In this episode, I share why that image has stayed with me and how it reminds me that joy isn't something we manufacture. I believe joy is painted into our lives through the choices we make each day, the conversations we have with ourselves, others, and God, and our willingness to let Him hold the brush. I also talk about the difference between rehearsing lies in our minds and anchoring our thoughts in what is true, honorable, and praiseworthy. If you've been too busy to notice the butterflies, too overwhelmed to change the conversation in your mind, or too isolated to gather with others, I hope this episode encourages you to start painting again. Key Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:31] Painting joy [00:05:12] Three joy conversations [00:07:54] Rehearsing truth [00:08:36] Changing your words [00:11:49] Talking with God [00:13:54] Joy in daily strokes Memorable Quotes "Joy isn't usually formed in one dramatic moment. It is painted into our lives through daily choices that we make." [00:14:18] – Kimber Allen  "Our mouths often reveal where our hearts have been living." [00:06:31] – Kimber Allen  And if you're looking for a place to keep building a beautiful life with others who are choosing to live honestly, put faith first, and have the courage to begin before they're ready, I'd love to have you join my Build It Messy Skool Community: https://www.skool.com/build-it-messy-3088 Links Mentioned In This Episode: 30-Minute Discovery Call: ⁠https://calendly.com/kimberlyaproductions   Connect with Kimber Allen: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlya.co Produced by Evolved Podcasting: www.evolvedpodcasting.com

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Because Even Strong Women Have Places That Need Restoring. Build It Messy is the podcast for women who are winning in some areas of life and quietly aching in others. Maybe your career is thriving but your faith feels distant. Maybe you’re a great mom but you’ve forgotten the dreams that used to keep you up at night. Maybe your relationships need tending, your courage needs rebuilding, or there’s a version of yourself you’ve been meaning to get back to. This is that space. Host Kimber Allen believes the most beautiful lives aren’t built perfectly. They’re built honestly, faith-first, and

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    Kimber Allen
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    2026
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