Ern and TaTa

Ernest Holmon
  • 5.0 (2)
  • Relationships

After 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family of 9 kids, Ernest and Tyera bring honest conversations about love, conflict, growth, parenting, and everything in between—without the sugarcoating. From viral relationship debates to everyday situations couples actually face, nothing is off limits. You’ll hear both perspectives—the male and female point of view—sometimes aligned, sometimes completely opposite… but always real. Whether it’s communication issues, trust, finances, modern dating standards, or “who’s really right,” this podcast challenges how people think about relationships today. If you’ve ever said “that’s exactly how it is in my house,” this is the podcast for you.

  1. 22h ago

    Why Did We REALLY Get Married? After 15 Years, We Tell the Truth

    Why did you marry the person you're with—and would your answer today be the same as it was when you said “I do”? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we turn that question on each other. We revisit the beginning of our relationship, Tata's cold feet before getting married, Ern wondering whether he put too much pressure on the decision, and the different experiences from childhood that shaped what each of us thought marriage was supposed to look like. We also talk about past relationships, finding your match, recognizing the signs that someone may—or may not—be right for you, and how a marriage can move through completely different phases as two people grow and change. After 15+ years together, this isn't a conversation about having a perfect marriage. It's about understanding why we chose each other, why we've continued choosing each other, and what we've learned along the way. So we're asking you too: Why did YOU get married?

    Why Did We REALLY Get Married? After 15 Years, We Tell the Truth

  2. 5d ago

    Would You Stay? 👀 The Relationship Questions That Could End a Marriage

    Would you stay… or would you leave? Ern & Tata put their 15+ year relationship to the test with a series of “Would You Stay?” scenarios — and what starts off funny gets real QUICK. Would you stay with someone who's constantly messy or always late? What about a partner who makes significantly more money but still demands everything be split 50/50? Then things get deeper. Secret credit card debt. Liking thirst traps. Following exes. Deleted messages. Jealousy. Losing affection. And the dreaded words: “I love you, but I'm not in love with you anymore.” Ern & Tata give their answers, challenge each other's logic, revisit situations from their own relationship, and debate where compromise ends and disrespect begins. Because it's easy to say what you'd NEVER tolerate…until you're actually faced with it. So play along while you listen: Would YOU stay—or would you leave? Ern & Tata — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.

  3. Sep 8

    How Compatible Are You REALLY? Take This Couples Test With Us 😂❤️

    How compatible are you and your partner REALLY? On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, we're doing something different: a 30-question Couples Compatibility Test — and we want you and your partner to play along. From money and household responsibilities to friendships, jealousy, arguments, family, social media, affection and intimacy, these questions reveal just how much two people actually agree on. Of course, Ern & Tata quickly discover that answering a simple YES, NO, or CAN'T AGREE isn't always so simple. 😂 Some questions lead to instant agreement, while others turn into full-blown debates about communication, friendships, cooling off after arguments, social media likes and what your partner should automatically know about you. After all 30 questions, Ern & Tata finish with 21 YES answers for a 70% compatibility score. Now we want to know YOUR score. Grab your partner, answer along with us, keep track of your YES answers and see where your relationship lands. Are you a Power Couple, a Solid Team, Happy Debaters, Beautiful Chaos, a Work in Progress… or do y'all just Need to Talk? 😂 It's another funny, unfiltered and very real conversation from Ern & Tata — Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.

  4. Sep 3

    $5,000 a Month Isn’t Enough?! The Marriage Debate Got HEATED! | Ern & Tata

    Is $5,000 a month enough when somebody else is already paying ALL your bills? Ern brings the viral conversation surrounding Joy Taylor to Tata and asks a simple question: If your man handled every bill and gave you $5,000 a month for yourself, would that be enough? Tata says NO—and says she might need closer to $10,000 a month to live comfortably. 😂 That answer sends Ern & Tata down a rabbit hole about shopping, eating out, the “soft girl” lifestyle, financial responsibility, and what it really means for one partner to take care of another. But underneath the money conversation is a much deeper discussion about marriage and reciprocity. Ern explains why he believes some men feel like they're constantly expected to provide while receiving less understanding for what they need emotionally. Tata pushes back with her own experiences and perspective, leading the couple into a passionate debate about gender roles, independence, double standards, traditional marriage, and whether husbands and wives have moved too far away from working together as a unit. Eventually, the conversation comes back to what Ern & Tata believe marriage should really be about: helping each other when one person needs it, challenging each other to grow, raising the family together, and appreciating what your spouse DOES instead of constantly focusing on what they don't do. Funny, heated, personal, and definitely debatable—this is another real conversation from the Ern & Tata Podcast: Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us.

    $5,000 a Month Isn’t Enough?! The Marriage Debate Got HEATED! | Ern & Tata

  5. Sep 1

    We Fell for the Image: When Social Media Love Turns Out to Be a Lie

    ⚠️ Listener discretion: This episode contains discussion of alleged domestic violence and abuse. On this episode of the Ern & Tata Podcast, Ern and Tata revisit their previous conversation surrounding Yada Awakening after serious allegations involving his relationship with Divine Queen Yada surfaced. Tata shares why hearing Divine Queen Yada's story affected her personally after previously watching and supporting Yada's relationship content. Ern takes the conversation in another direction, questioning how easily people can become invested in the version of someone's life they see online. Can someone say all the right things publicly while being a completely different person privately? Are we sometimes attracted to the lifestyle someone represents instead of paying attention to their character? And when someone presents the relationship we've always wanted to see, do we become more willing to ignore the warning signs? Ern and Tata discuss manipulation, love-bombing, control, money, relationship expectations, social-media personas, and why the real test of a relationship isn't always the good days—it's how two people handle the bad ones. The conversation later shifts to the story of a man accused of posing as an NFL player and allegedly scamming women, sparking a funny but revealing debate between Ern and Tata about dating, appearances, money, research, and how easily an image can influence what we believe. It's serious, funny, uncomfortable, and unmistakably Ern & Tata. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or abuse, please reach out to someone you trust or an appropriate support organization for help.

    We Fell for the Image: When Social Media Love Turns Out to Be a Lie

  6. Aug 27

    Ern and Tata Reactions (Sarah Fontenot)

    Can withholding intimacy hurt a marriage—or is sex being given too much importance in relationships? Ern and Tata react to Sarah Fontenot of the “It’s Giving” Podcast and her comments about women withholding intimacy from their husbands. The reaction quickly becomes a personal conversation about sex, rejection, different sex drives, weaponizing intimacy, and one question couples may not talk about enough: Who should be responsible for initiating sex? From there, Ern challenges Tata to think about how they actually show love to one another after years of marriage. They realize that many of the things they consider quality time—talking, laughing, watching shows and sending each other videos—aren’t necessarily things they only do with each other. So what makes a spouse different from everyone else? The conversation gets even deeper as Ern and Tata discuss whether their relationship has become “boring,” what happens when their children eventually leave home, and whether simply being comfortable together is enough to sustain a marriage for decades. Of course, this is Ern & Tata, so somehow the conversation eventually lands on Allen Iverson, the 2001 Philadelphia 76ers, Tata’s basketball memories, and a challenge involving AI that could help Tata get her own shop again. One reaction turns into a completely unexpected conversation about intimacy, love, marriage, comfort, friendship, family and growing together. Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. Listen, follow, rate and share the Ern & Tata Podcast—and tell a friend to tell a friend: Ern & Tata did it again. #ErnAndTata #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipPodcast #BlackLove #CouplesPodcast #Intimacy #Marriage #Relationships #Philadelphia #fyp #ernandiso4president

    Ern and Tata Reactions (Sarah Fontenot)

  7. Aug 25

    **Ern & Tata React to Yada Awakening: Is He Helping Women or Dividing Us?**

    Ern & Tata are back with another reaction, and this one turns into a REAL conversation. In this episode, the couple reacts to Yada Awakening and his message about women having standards, avoiding “weak men,” recognizing jealousy and sabotage in relationships, and refusing to settle for men who aren't adding value to their lives. But Ern has a major question: If you're going to tell people what the problem is… where is the solution? While Tata sees truth in some of Yada’s points, Ern challenges whether messages like these actually help relationships—or simply reinforce the growing divide between men and women. The conversation quickly expands into jealousy between partners, financial expectations, choosing the wrong person, supporting your partner’s dreams, accountability, men suffering in silence, and whether relationship advice online sometimes does more harm than good. Things even get personal when Ern & Tata discuss moments in their own marriage when support may not have been felt equally, the difference between someone sabotaging you and someone simply struggling, and why support has to go both ways. The bigger question becomes: Can we hold men AND women accountable without turning relationships into another battle of the sexes? Ern makes it clear that he isn't against Yada Awakening or everything he says—he questions what happens when an audience is fired up about a problem but isn't given a path toward fixing it. 🔥 Do you agree with Yada Awakening? 🔥 Is Ern being too critical of his message? 🔥 Does Tata have the better interpretation? 🔥 Can relationship content become dangerous when it only presents one side? Drop your thoughts in the comments—we definitely want to hear both sides. Like, comment, subscribe and share the episode. 🎙️ Ern & Tata Podcast Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. #ErnAndTata #YadaAwakening #Relationships #RelationshipAdvice #MarriagePodcast #MenVsWomen #MarriageTalk #CouplesPodcast #BlackLove #DatingAdvice #Accountability #Podcast #fyp #ernandiso4president

    **Ern & Tata React to Yada Awakening: Is He Helping Women or Dividing Us?**

  8. Aug 20

    Breaking Down the Marriage Vows PT. 2

    Breaking Down the Marriage Vows PT. 2 | Ern & Tata Podcast We left Part 1 at the one word that changed the entire conversation: OBEY. 😂 Now Ern and Tata are back to finish breaking down the traditional marriage vows—and Part 2 starts right where the confusion began. What does it actually mean for a wife to “obey” her husband? Is that idea outdated, or is there a deeper meaning behind it? Does being the husband automatically make you the leader? And what's the difference between obedience, submission, respect, compromise, and partnership in a modern marriage? From there, Ern and Tata continue through “forsaking all others,” “keeping myself only unto thee,” and “till death do us part.” That opens up an even bigger conversation about loyalty, emotional connections outside the marriage, boundaries with other people, fidelity, and what “forever” really means once you've actually experienced marriage. It's easy to repeat vows on your wedding day—but after years of marriage, do those same words mean something completely different? And after everything you've experienced together, would you make those exact same promises again today? Join Ern & Tata for Part 2 and tell us in the comments: Should “OBEY” still be part of marriage vows? And what does “till death do us part” mean to you? ❤️ Real Love. Real Talk. Real Us. #ErnAndTata #MarriageVows #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipPodcast #LoveAndMarriage #BlackLove #CouplesPodcast #MarriageTalk #HusbandAndWife #fyp #ernandiso4president

    Breaking Down the Marriage Vows PT. 2
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After 15 years of marriage and raising a blended family of 9 kids, Ernest and Tyera bring honest conversations about love, conflict, growth, parenting, and everything in between—without the sugarcoating. From viral relationship debates to everyday situations couples actually face, nothing is off limits. You’ll hear both perspectives—the male and female point of view—sometimes aligned, sometimes completely opposite… but always real. Whether it’s communication issues, trust, finances, modern dating standards, or “who’s really right,” this podcast challenges how people think about relationships today. If you’ve ever said “that’s exactly how it is in my house,” this is the podcast for you.

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  • Creator
    Ernest Holmon
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Ernest Holmon
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