Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves

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Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind is where you come when your brain won’t stop. Hosted by Lisa Tarves, this podcast blends real-life conversations, emotional insight, and a touch of humor to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. From overthinking and anxiety to relationships and self-doubt, each episode is honest, relatable, and grounding. Some will make you laugh, some will go deeper—but all are here to remind you you’re not alone.

  1. 2d ago

    Are You Anxiously Attached — Or Just With the Wrong Person?

    What if they leave? For someone with anxious attachment, that question can become the background noise of an entire relationship. You notice changes in their tone. You reread texts. You worry when they need space. You wonder whether you said too much, needed too much, asked for too much—or somehow pushed them away. And underneath all of it is often an even deeper fear: Who am I if they actually do leave? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, we’re talking about anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, reassurance seeking, relationship overthinking, and the exhausting feeling of always waiting for the person you love to decide they no longer want you. But this conversation doesn’t end with “How do I make them stay?” It goes somewhere more important. Because someone choosing to leave can hurt deeply—but it does not take your identity, your worth, your strength, your future, or everything you were before that relationship. You can love someone with your whole heart and still learn not to abandon yourself in the process. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: Are they pulling away?Did I do something wrong?Am I too much?What if they stop loving me?What will happen to me if they leave? This episode is for you. We’ll talk about why anxious attachment can make relationships feel so frightening, how fear can affect the way we respond to the people we love, and how to begin building a sense of security that doesn’t depend entirely on someone else choosing to stay. Because even if the thing you fear happens… you’ll still be you. Real Talk for Your Overthinking MindRealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.com #AnxiousAttachment #FearOfAbandonment #RelationshipAnxiety #Overthinking #AttachmentStyles #SelfWorth

  2. Aug 3

    Are You Functioning on the Outside, but Anxious on the Inside?

    Do you look calm, capable, and successful on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or exhausted on the inside? High-functioning anxiety often hides behind productivity, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the constant pressure to keep going. Others may see confidence, but they don’t see the racing thoughts, overthinking, self-doubt, or fear of slowing down. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores what high-functioning anxiety really looks like, why so many people don’t realize they’re living with it, and practical ways to begin breaking free from the cycle of chronic stress and overthinking. If you’ve ever felt like you have to keep everything together while quietly struggling inside, this conversation is for you. ✨ In this episode, you’ll discover:• Signs of high-functioning anxiety• Why perfectionism fuels anxiety• How overthinking keeps you emotionally exhausted• Healthy ways to calm your nervous system• Practical strategies for finding more peace without giving up your ambition Remember… just because you’ve learned to function doesn’t mean you have to keep suffering in silence. Free resources, books, coaching, and more:🌐 https://www.RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.com🌐 https://www.LisaTarves.com If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. #HighFunctioningAnxiety #Anxiety #Overthinking #MentalHealth #Stress #Perfectionism #PeoplePleasing #EmotionalWellness #SelfCare #MentalHealthPodcast #LisaTarves #RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind

  3. Jul 30

    Who Takes Care of the Strong One? When Everyone Depends on You

    You’re the one everyone calls. When there’s a crisis, a problem, a family conflict, or someone who needs support, you’re the person who steps in. You hold everything together, keep everyone calm, find the answers, and make sure everyone else is okay. But who takes care of you? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about the hidden exhaustion of being the strong one—the dependable person everyone leans on, but rarely checks on. We’ll explore why strong people often feel guilty asking for help, why constantly carrying other people’s emotions can leave you feeling drained and invisible, and what can happen when the person holding everything together finally has nothing left to give. This episode is for the exhausted strong person who keeps showing up for everyone else, even when they are quietly struggling themselves. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to need support. You are allowed to stop carrying everything alone. Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.comLisaTarves.com

  4. Jul 20

    Angel Numbers - Why They Keep Appearing...and What They May Be Trying to Tell You

    Tonight’s episode is a deeply personal conversation about angel numbers—why they seem to appear at exactly the right moments, what they may be trying to tell us, and why certain number patterns can feel impossible to ignore. I also share a few personal stories from my own life and explain why I do not believe these moments are random. Whether you keep seeing 111, 222, 333, 444, or another repeating number, the real question may not be whether it means something—but whether you are willing to slow down long enough to notice the message. This episode is connected to my new book, Angel Numbers: Why They Keep Appearing… and What They May Be Trying to Tell You, but it is also about something bigger: trust, timing, intuition, and the quiet ways guidance can show up when we need it most. You do not have to understand every sign immediately. Sometimes the first step is simply acknowledging that it caught your attention for a reason. Hosted by Lisa TarvesReal Talk for Your Overthinking MindSeason 2, Episode 7 Learn more at LisaTarves.com and RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.com.

  5. Jul 13

    Gaslighting: How It Happens, Why It Works, and How to Stop It | Real Talk with Lisa Tarves

    Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you’re the problem… even though you were sure of what happened just moments before? That’s how gaslighting works. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explains what gaslighting really is, why it can be so confusing, and how it slowly causes people to question their own thoughts, memories, and reality. You’ll learn the common tactics gaslighters use, why intelligent and caring people are especially vulnerable, and practical ways to recognize manipulation and begin trusting yourself again. Whether you’ve experienced gaslighting in a relationship, your family, the workplace, or a friendship, this conversation is designed to help you make sense of what you’ve been through—and remind you that your reality matters. If this episode helps you, please subscribe, share it with someone who may need it, and join our growing community. 🌐 https://www.RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.com🌐 https://www.LisaTarves.com #Gaslighting #EmotionalAbuse #NarcissisticAbuse #MentalHealth #Healing #SelfWorth #Boundaries #TrustYourself #Overthinking #RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind

  6. Jul 12

    🚩 Why We Ignore Red Flags in Relationships - S2E5

    Have you ever ignored a red flag because you wanted the relationship to work? Not because you didn’t see it—but because you hoped things would change. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, I explore why intelligent, caring people sometimes overlook warning signs, how hope can override intuition, and how to begin trusting yourself again. 💬 Have you ever looked back and realized the red flags were there all along? #Relationships #RedFlags #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealth #Overthinking #SelfWorth #HealthyRelationships #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney #TrustYourself #Podcast #LisaTarves #RealTalk #Psychology

  7. Jul 6

    There’s Love in Letting Go | Why Some Goodbyes Are the Greatest Act of Love

    Sometimes the greatest act of love isn’t holding on—it’s having the courage to let go. In this heartfelt episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores one of life’s most difficult emotional experiences: letting go. Whether you’re grieving someone who has died, healing after a breakup, watching your children grow up, caring for an aging parent, ending a friendship, or releasing a dream that no longer fits your life, letting go can feel impossible. But what if letting go isn’t the opposite of love? What if it’s one of the deepest expressions of love we can ever offer? In this episode, Lisa discusses why love doesn’t disappear just because circumstances change, why healing isn’t the same as forgetting, and how we can carry love with us while still allowing ourselves to move forward. If you’ve been struggling with grief, change, loss, or the guilt that often comes with moving forward, this conversation will remind you that love can remain—even when life asks you to let go. In this episode: Why letting go isn’t giving upThe connection between love and griefLearning to release without forgettingFinding peace during life’s difficult transitionsWhy healing honors love instead of replacing itHi, I’m Lisa Tarves, and I help people make sense of what they’re feeling so they can actually feel better. Visit: https://www.realtalkforyouroverthinkingmind.com #LoveInLettingGo #LettingGo #Grief #GriefHealing #Love #Loss #HealingJourney #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealth #MentalHealthPodcast #PersonalGrowth #SelfHealing #LifeTransitions #Overthinking #Counseling #Hope #Healing #MovingForward #Relationships #LisaTarves #RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind

  8. Jul 6

    Why Do Narcissists Ignore You but Charm Everyone Else? | Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind

    Have you ever gone out with your spouse, partner, friend, or family member and watched them become the life of the party—laughing, smiling, telling stories, making everyone else feel important—while acting as if you weren’t even there? It’s one of the most confusing and painful experiences for people in relationships with narcissists. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about why this happens, what it feels like to become invisible to someone who seems capable of giving everyone else their attention, and how this dynamic slowly affects your confidence, self-worth, and sense of reality. If you’ve ever left a restaurant, party, family gathering, or social event wondering why strangers received more kindness than you did, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not alone. In this episode we’ll discuss:
• Why narcissists often appear charming in public
• Why the people closest to them often receive the least attention
• The emotional impact of feeling invisible
• Why this pattern can leave you questioning yourself
• How to recognize what’s happening without blaming yourself
• The first steps toward reclaiming your voice and your sense of self Sometimes the deepest hurt isn’t being yelled at.
It’s sitting beside someone who makes everyone else feel seen… while you slowly disappear. Learn more at:
https://www.LisaTarves.com
https://www.RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind.com #Narcissist #NarcissisticAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #Invisible #Relationships #Gaslighting #SelfWorth #Healing #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealth #LisaTarves #RealTalkForYourOverthinkingMind

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Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind is where you come when your brain won’t stop. Hosted by Lisa Tarves, this podcast blends real-life conversations, emotional insight, and a touch of humor to help you make sense of what you’re feeling. From overthinking and anxiety to relationships and self-doubt, each episode is honest, relatable, and grounding. Some will make you laugh, some will go deeper—but all are here to remind you you’re not alone.

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