From Sad Pick Me Girl to Alchemist

Denise
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For anyone who’s ever begged to be chosen, ignored their intuition, or tied their worth to someone staying — this is the podcast about finally choosing yourself instead. From Sad Pick Me Girl to Alchemist is about turning heartbreak, attachment wounds, and identity loss into self-awareness, self-trust, and real transformation. Hosted by Denise, it explores what happens when you stop chasing emotionally unavailable love — the situationships, the anxious attachment, the people-pleasing — and start coming home to yourself. Through personal storytelling, spiritual insight, and honest reflection, Denise shares her journey out of codependent patterns and self-abandonment, and invites you to do the same. Healing here isn’t about perfection — it’s about awareness, alchemy, and becoming the version of yourself who no longer abandons you. Expect conversations on relationships, emotional healing, narcissistic and toxic dynamics, spirituality, intuition, and what it actually looks like to rebuild your life from the inside out. Connect with Denise on IG & TikTok: @denisebmiller Email: denisebarbamiller@gmail.com Need more support? Visit https://denisebmiller.com/

  1. 13h ago

    Episode 16 - Human Connection: Why It's Missing in Today's World — A Conversation with Gia Sullivan

    We talk a lot on this show about getting off the apps that keep us chasing — the endless swiping, the performing, the tying our worth to being picked. But there’s a question underneath all of it: once you stop chasing unavailable love and start choosing yourself… how do you actually meet people? From a grounded place, in real life, on purpose? This week I’m joined by Gia Sullivan, founder of Ready to Mingle™, a real-world connection app built to help people meet organically — for dating, friendship, networking, and community. Gia and I get into what’s actually missing from modern dating: how technology has made it easier than ever to find people but harder than ever to truly connect, why chemistry and compatibility can never really be captured in a profile, and what the loneliness so many of us feel tells us about our need for real connection. She shares the idea behind the Ready Light™—a simple way to signal that you’re open to connecting and discover others nearby who are too. At its heart, this conversation is about something this show has always been about: technology should create opportunities for real human connection, not replace it. And meeting people in person — without the mask, without the performance — is its own kind of self-reclamation. Ready to Mingle™ is available now on the Apple App Store and Google Play. Connect: Instagram @readytomingle.app Download the app, turn on your Ready Light™, and help bring back the art of real-world connection.

  2. Aug 13

    Episode 15 - Why Slowing Down Can Change Your Life

    What if the reason you feel disconnected from yourself isn't because you've lost who you are—but because you've been too busy, overstimulated, and distracted to hear yourself? In this episode, I’m joined by Brooke Hunter, who created a unique self-discovery practice inspired by nature, movement, mindfulness, and journaling after realizing she had lost touch with herself during motherhood. But this conversation quickly becomes about so much more than motherhood. We talk about why so many of us are constantly thinking about what happened yesterday or what we need to do tomorrow, but rarely experiencing the moment we're actually in. We explore burnout, intuition, emotional avoidance, boundaries, meditation for people who can't sit still, and why sometimes slowing down is actually the thing that allows us to move forward. Brooke also shares how she uses nature as a mirror for what's happening internally—and why something as simple as noticing beach grass, a water droplet, or a barnacle can become an invitation to understand yourself a little better. Because maybe healing isn't always about finding the next thing to fix. Maybe sometimes it's about getting quiet enough to finally hear yourself. About Brooke: Brooke believes that knowing oneself without judgment, shame or pressure is one of the bravest things a person can do. Her scavenger hunt is a product of her own journey back to herself, using her surroundings as a mirror. She aims to help others begin to connect with themselves in an approachable way with the belief that there is dignity in all stages of life and each phase is important.   Brooke’s work uncovers themes of resilience and strength reflected by the beach; decay and transformation shown through the forest; and standing firm in one’s identity viewed through the city. She offers an alternative approach to meditation and reflection through physical and mental exploration.   Follow Brooke on Instagram at: @TheMindfulScavenger Website: https://themindfulscavenger.etsy.com

  3. Aug 11

    Episode 14 BONUS - You Can't Love Someone Into Changing

    What if the hardest part of letting go isn't losing the person—but accepting that the person you loved may never have been who you thought they were? In this deeply personal episode, I unpack the toxic relationship patterns that kept me going back long after I knew something was wrong—from breadcrumbing and stonewalling to questioning my own intuition. But I also take accountability for my part: the ways I became reactive, tried to force answers, and convinced myself that if I loved someone enough, I could bring out the good in them. I thought I could love the good out of people who were hurting me. What I eventually realized was that I was trying to save people from wounds I hadn't fully learned to heal in myself. If you're still ruminating over a toxic relationship, questioning what happened, or struggling to walk away from someone's potential, this episode is for you. Sometimes heartbreak isn't the end. Sometimes it's where you finally stop abandoning yourself.

  4. Aug 6

    Episode 13 - Your Past Shouldn't Get to Date Your Future

    Heartbreak doesn't end when the relationship does. Sometimes it quietly becomes the story you tell yourself about love, trust, and what's possible for you. In this episode, I share why I no longer believe healing is about "getting over" someone. It's about recognizing the beliefs, fears, and subconscious patterns we carry into every new relationship—and learning how to release them. We talk about: Why betrayal changes the way you see peopleThe hidden stories that keep you stuckWhy letting go doesn't mean you stop loving someoneHow to stop projecting your past onto your futureFinding the balance between healing and putting yourself back out into the worldThe connection between your soul's purpose and the relationships you attract If you've ever wondered whether you'll feel that deeply for someone again, or you've been carrying the weight of a past relationship longer than you'd like, this episode is for you. Healing isn't about forgetting. It's about becoming someone your past no longer controls.

  5. Jul 30

    Episode 12 - The Scariest Part of Healing Is Realizing Everything You Wanted Is Starting to Happen

    What happens when the dream you’ve been asking for finally starts becoming real… and fear shows up? In this episode, I’m sharing the uncomfortable truth about stepping into your purpose: the imposter syndrome, the self-doubt, and the old beliefs that try to keep us small when we’re ready to grow. I talk about what it feels like to leave behind the version of yourself that was built around survival, people-pleasing, and following the path you were told would make you happy — and what it means to start trusting your own voice. Healing isn’t just about releasing the past. Sometimes the next layer is having the courage to become the person you’ve always felt called to be. This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re meant for more but are afraid to take the next step. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to begin. Take the step. Do it scared. Your future self is waiting.

  6. Jul 23

    Episode 11 - The Truth About Casual Sex No One Talks About

    If you had told me a few months ago that I'd choose celibacy, I never would've believed you. In this episode, we explore why casual sex can leave us feeling emptier than we expected, the hidden cost of chasing instant gratification, and why protecting your energy can become one of the most powerful forms of self-love. We talk about energy exchange, self-worth, purpose, and what happens when you stop searching for fulfillment outside of yourself and start building a life that genuinely fulfills you. Whether you're navigating dating, healing from past relationships, or simply craving deeper, more meaningful connections, this conversation will challenge you to rethink what intimacy really means—and whether your choices are aligning with the life you're trying to create. Sometimes the biggest transformations begin with a decision you never imagined you'd make.

  7. Jul 16

    Episode 10 - You Can Understand Your Trauma and Still Feel Stuck. How to Let Go and Move Forward.

    You may not want to hear this, but understanding your trauma won't necessarily heal it. You can know every childhood wound, every attachment style, and every relationship pattern... and still find yourself stuck in the exact same cycle. So what's missing? This week, intuitive healer Melissa Armstrong joins me for a conversation that completely shifted how I think about healing. We explore why your body may be carrying what your mind has already processed—and what it actually takes to move forward. About Melissa: Melissa's work was born from her own profound journey of healing, self-discovery, and learning to trust her intuition. After years of exploring the connection between emotional well-being, energy healing, and personal transformation, she developed a spiritually- guided intuitive approach that helps people release emotional patterns that often remain even after years of inner work. Clients frequently describe leaving sessions with a profound sense of inner peace and clarity — finally feeling able to move forward after feeling stuck for years or even decades. Melissa believes transformational mind+body healing occurs when you release past repressed emotions, uncovering the person you've always been beneath unworthiness, fear conditioning, and emotional overwhelm. Her intuitive approach allows for immediacy in emotional healing and energetic transformation. Contact Melissa at: melissa@enlightenedskincareclinic.com Website: https://enlightenedskincareclinic.com/

  8. Jul 9

    Episode 9 - Why Dating Feels So Hard (And What We Can Do Differently)

    Modern dating can feel discouraging—but does it have to? In this episode, I sit down with men's dating coach Moon to explore why dating feels so hard today and what both men and women can do differently. We discuss dating app fatigue, confidence, self-worth, meeting people in real life, and how building a life you love is one of the best ways to create meaningful relationships. If you're feeling burnt out by dating, this conversation is for you. You can find Moon on IG: @growwithmoon

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For anyone who’s ever begged to be chosen, ignored their intuition, or tied their worth to someone staying — this is the podcast about finally choosing yourself instead. From Sad Pick Me Girl to Alchemist is about turning heartbreak, attachment wounds, and identity loss into self-awareness, self-trust, and real transformation. Hosted by Denise, it explores what happens when you stop chasing emotionally unavailable love — the situationships, the anxious attachment, the people-pleasing — and start coming home to yourself. Through personal storytelling, spiritual insight, and honest reflection, Denise shares her journey out of codependent patterns and self-abandonment, and invites you to do the same. Healing here isn’t about perfection — it’s about awareness, alchemy, and becoming the version of yourself who no longer abandons you. Expect conversations on relationships, emotional healing, narcissistic and toxic dynamics, spirituality, intuition, and what it actually looks like to rebuild your life from the inside out. Connect with Denise on IG & TikTok: @denisebmiller Email: denisebarbamiller@gmail.com Need more support? Visit https://denisebmiller.com/

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