The Self-Authority Podcast

Elaine S Belson LCSW, The Self-Authority Coach

The Self-Authority Podcast is a psychology-informed podcast exploring why women overthink, hesitate to speak up, second-guess themselves, and struggle to trust what they know. Hosted by The Self-Authority Coach and psychotherapist, Elaine Belson, each episode features conversations and stories about the emotional patterns that keep women stuck. This isn’t about becoming fearless or perfect. It’s about knowing what you want and trusting what you know.  New episodes weekly.

  1. Oct 25

    Stop Living By Your To-Do List

    Work-Life Harmony: Building a Business Without Burning Out with Amy Pierre-Russo What if the answer to overwhelm isn’t doing more—but doing what matters most? In this episode, Elaine Belson talks with Amy Pierre-Russo, a Work-Life Harmony Coach & Strategist who partners with service-based business owners who are moms. Amy helps women create intentional routines for the lifestyle they actually want, so they can close their laptops at the end of the day confident in what they’ve done and ready to engage in what’s next. Amy’s background spans HR, multiple coaching certifications, and mentoring with the Nasdaq Entrepreneurial Center. She has seen how the weight of personal life can quietly burn out even the most passionate founder—and her work is about changing that. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why working harder is not always the solution to feeling overwhelmedHow small, intentional changes can create more time and energyThe difference between work-life balance and work-life harmonyHow perfectionism and self-criticism keep women stuckWhy rest, support, and asking for help are essential—not optionalHow to build a business that supports your life instead of consuming it Timestamps 00:00 – Introducing Amy and the conversation on work-life harmony 01:19 – Amy’s transition from HR into coaching 04:54 – Internal boundaries and making yourself a priority 06:29 – Starting small when life already feels overwhelming 09:42 – Stop blaming yourself: work smarter, not harder 12:35 – Burnout, sustainable habits, and the ripple effect on family 15:21 – Restorative habits and moving from reactive to proactive 17:49 – Using emotions and facts to make better decisions 20:19 – Why Amy prefers “harmony” over “balance” 23:12 – Reclaiming time through practical support and systems 29:18 – Asking for help, boundaries, and building support systems 35:14 – The value of community for women business owners 38:36 – Why taking a step back can move you forward 41:33 – Letting go of what is familiar but no longer working 44:44 – Amy’s coaching, community, and free guide 46:51 – Amy’s closing reminder: you don’t have to do more 47:23 – Elaine’s reflections on self-authority and work-life harmony Connect with Amy Instagram: @coachingwamy LinkedIn: coachingwamy YouTube: @Hustle-to-Harmony Free Guide: Simple Approaches for Accessing a Simple Lifestyle Connect with Elaine LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.SelfAuthorityCoaching.com

    Stop Living By Your To-Do List
  2. Oct 18

    Stop Carrying What Isn't Yours

    What does it look like to lead without carrying everything yourself? Elaine is joined by Dr. Stephanie Duguid, a Leadership Culture Strategist, keynote speaker, best-selling author, and host of Create Culture on Purpose: The Leadership Impact Podcast. With more than 30 years of experience in education and organizational leadership, including service as a dean and senior leader, Stephanie has guided teams through cultural transformation and organizational change. Together, Elaine and Stephanie explore why so many women feel responsible for holding everything together, and how that pattern can lead to exhaustion and burnout. They discuss practical ways to set boundaries, navigate difficult conversations, communicate with empathy, and stop taking ownership of other people’s emotions.Stephanie also shares her simple framework for responding rather than reacting: +pause, notice, and choose. This conversation is a reminder that leadership isn’t about doing it all. It’s about creating clarity, connection, consistency, and healthier cultures in the small moments.Through Do Good Leadership, Dr. Stephanie partners with organizations to strengthen communication, leadership alignment, and workplace culture so teams feel supported, connected, and motivated to thrive. In this episode, you’ll hear about: Setting boundaries without caring lessSaying no and delegating with intentionHaving difficult conversations with clarity and empathyBuilding trust through communication, connection, and consistencyResponding instead of reacting with “pause, notice, choose”Releasing the responsibility to solve everyone else’s problemsCreating culture on purpose at work, at home, and in relationshipsConnect with Dr. Stephanie Duguid Website: https://www.drstephanieduguid.com/ Podcast: Create Culture on Purpose: The Leadership Impact Show https://www.drstephanieduguid.com/media SKOOL Community: https://www.drstephanieduguid.com/skoolcommunity LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drstephanieduguid/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstephanieduguid/ Books and resources: https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0CNJB8TTK/allbooks?ccs_id=44ead1a5-fe13-48ad-936f-c5f25a1e1813Connect with Elaine LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    Stop Carrying What Isn't Yours
  3. Oct 12

    Stop Hesitating to Speak

    Speaking With Confidence, Clarity, and ConvictionElaine Belson, LCSW, talks with Diane DiResta about self-authority, public speaking, and communication as a leadership skill in presentations, meetings, one-to-one conversations, and online. Drawing on her experience as a speaking coach and author of Knockout Presentations, Diane shares practical ways to reduce fear, build confidence through practice, and speak with greater presence. Key topicsWhy fear of humiliation can hold speakers back—and why it helps to have a plan for recovering from mistakes.How repetition, preparation, and feedback build confidence.Why a clear structure helps speakers avoid rambling and communicate with authority.How public speaking skills apply in everyday conversations, meetings, podcasts, and video.The importance of mindset, audience awareness, and aligning vocal, visual, and verbal communication.Speaking up in male-dominated environments, responding when an idea is overlooked, and adapting to an audience without losing authenticity.Timestamps00:22 - Diane’s freshman-year public speaking story 02:16 - Fear of humiliation and recovery strategies 03:13 - Turning nervous energy into confidence 04:09 - Building confidence through repetition and practice 05:18 - Preparation and delivery 06:04 - Public speaking as everyday communication 07:59 - How structure prevents rambling 10:07 - The mindset: “I have a right to be here” 12:11 - Imposter syndrome and overthinking others’ reactions 14:49 - Adapting to an audience while staying authentic 16:21 - Speaking in male-dominated fields 17:38 - Clear language instead of hedging or apologizing 20:54 - Emotions at work 23:08 - Shifting focus from self to service 24:03 - Situational speaking 28:43 - Timing, bias, and whether ideas land 30:51 - Reading audience body language 33:56 - Embracing mistakes 36:24 - Humor and grace under pressure 39:19 - Being yourself rather than a copy 40:06 - Matching your message to your audience 42:11 - Mindset and skill set 47:39 - Communication as a leadership skill About Diane DiRestaDiane DiResta, Certified Speaking Professional, is Founder and CEO of DiResta Communications, Inc., a New York City consultancy serving business leaders who deliver high-stakes presentations one-to-one, on stage, or virtually. She is the author of Knockout Presentations: How to Deliver Your Message with Power, Punch, and Pizzazz and has spoken on four continents. Diane has been featured on CNN and quoted in The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. ZoneofGenius.com named her to its list of Top 20 Speaker Coaches and Trainers. Thanks for the invite to come ealry, Her LinkedIn Learning course, Speaking Confidently and Effectively, ranked among the Top 20 Most Popular Courses for two consecutive years. Press: https://www.diresta.com/pressLinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/dianedirestaWebsite: http://www.diresta.comYouTube: http://www.youtube.com/dianediresta.comConnect with Elaine!LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcswFree Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15minWebsite: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.comJoin Elaine for a LIVE event to learn how to “Speak Up with Courage & Authority” on October 20, 2026: https://liz-lopez.mykajabi.com/speak-up

    Stop Hesitating to Speak
  4. Oct 7

    Stop Giving Away Your Power

    Claiming Power Without Losing Yourself with Olga Valadon Elaine Belson, LCSW-C, talks with Olga Valadon about career transitions, self-advocacy, emotional intelligence, and how women can claim visibility without losing their values.Olga shares her move from financial services to professional services and the culture shift that made self-promotion feel uncomfortable. She reflects on how a Stanford program helped her rethink power—not as something inherently negative, but as a tool leaders can use to support teams and help others advance. The conversation also explores people pleasing, perfectionism, the qualification trap, and small habits—like repeatedly apologizing—that can undermine authority. Olga and Elaine discuss emotional fluency: naming and understanding emotions so leaders can respond thoughtfully, learn from feedback, and move forward after mistakes. About Olga Valadon Olga Valadon is a strategic advisor, executive education facilitator, and speaker with 30 years of experience in global financial and professional services. She has led teams and advised senior executives, including Boards of Directors. She is the founder of Change Aligned, a leadership advisory and development company that works with executive teams and senior leaders to improve strategy execution by harnessing emotions—the hidden driver of costs, speed, risk, and growth. Website: https://www.olgavaladon.com/ Change Aligned: https://changealigned.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olgavaladon/ Timestamps (00:31) Olga’s career transition (02:08) Self-promotion and workplace culture (05:14) Rethinking power and visibility (09:21) Why self-advocacy can be difficult (16:06) Using power for good (21:22) Language habits and authority (24:09) Perfectionism and the qualification trap (31:21) Emotions as data (37:32) Mistakes, learning, and self-judgment (47:46) What emotional fluency means (50:22) Feedback, posture, and language habits (53:15) Testing assumptions and staying open to learning Connect with Olga! Website: https://www.olgavaladon.com/ Change Aligned: https://changealigned.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olgavaladon/ Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    Stop Giving Away Your Power
  5. Sep 28

    Move Forward Without Certainty

    Jeanette Deatherage: Confidence, Leadership, and Building a Business Jeanette Deatherage shares how her experience in Mary Kay, military service, and frequent relocations shaped her resilience and leadership. She discusses empowering women, rebuilding through change, adapting to virtual connection, and helping others grow in confidence and business. In this episode Jeanette reflects on the importance of making people feel valued and how that principle informs her work with clients.She shares how military service and life as a military spouse taught her discipline, adaptability, and persistence.After years of having a Mary Kay business without actively building it, a mentor encouraged her to set goals and take action.Jeanette discusses rebuilding her business through multiple moves and adapting to virtual engagement after the pandemic.She talks about supporting and mentoring women, leading a team, and helping others build confidence.The conversation touches on aging, skincare, caregiving, and navigating her husband’s cancer diagnosis with resilience and family support.Timestamps 00:00 - Introducing Jeanette 00:41 - Meeting Mary Kay Ash 03:43 - Jeanette’s Air Force experience 06:41 - Discipline and perseverance 08:41 - Military family life and frequent moves 12:04 - Getting serious about building a business 13:38 - Starting before everything feels ready 15:43 - Encouraging women to invest in themselves 18:56 - Relocations, confidence, and mental health 23:49 - Mentoring and supporting women 24:35 - Leading a Mary Kay team 28:04 - Aging and self-acceptance 34:45 - Helping women learn makeup skills 39:21 - Prostate cancer awareness and caregiving 44:41 - Connecting with clients virtually 45:56 - How to connect with Jeanette Jeanette Deatherage brings over 41 years of entrepreneurial leadership experience as a top Mary Kay sales consultant. Her background includes military discipline, resilience, business rebuilding through multiple relocations, and adapting to virtual engagement post-pandemic. She empowers women and leads a team, demonstrating strong leadership and communication skills in a business context. Connect with Jeanette Website: marykay.com/jeanetted LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/jeanettedeatherage Connect with Elaine LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: Book a 15-minute call Website: TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    Move Forward Without Certainty
  6. Sep 6

    You Don't Have to Do It All

    Self-Awareness and Trust in Healthcare LeadershipElaine Belson, LCSW, speaks with Jess Bunin, MD, about self-awareness, trust, and the inner work required for effective healthcare leadership. Jess shares her experience surviving Hodgkin’s disease during residency. The conversation explores perfectionism, shame, self-compassion, boundaries, values, identity, psychological safety, and communication. Key takeawaysThe difference between adaptive and maladaptive perfectionismHow shame and exhaustion can undermine leadershipWhy self-compassion supports healthier professional growthSetting boundaries without guilt or excessive explanationAligning daily actions with personal and organizational valuesUsing mentors, coaches, peers, and feedback partners for reflectionUnderstanding identity and difference as strengths within teamsCreating psychological safety and sharing powerReplacing assumptions with curiosity and active listeningTimestamps00:00 - Introducing Jess and her book 01:35 - Jess’s illness during residency 05:44 - Adaptive versus maladaptive perfectionism 09:06 - Shame, exhaustion, and patient safety 10:09 - Practicing self-compassion 15:06 - Boundaries and values-based decisions 21:20 - Speaking up and finding a feedback partner 26:24 - Identity, belonging, and team strength 29:44 - Tactical, strategic, and existential pauses 34:25 - Choosing between therapy, coaching, mentorship, and peer support 36:48 - Psychological safety in teams 38:16 - Civil discourse and ethical influence 49:51 - Why inner work comes before effective leadership 50:40 - Rebuilding trust through shared power COL(ret) Jessica Bunin, MD, MHPE is Co-Founder and Chief Architect of All Levels Leadership, Certified Executive Coach, and author of Self-Awareness and Trust: Leading Healthcare Teams from the Inside Out. She is passionate about developing future leaders through faculty development, coaching, and mentorship. A graduate of West Point and Tulane University School of Medicine, Jess completed her residency at Walter Reed Army Medical Center and served as a Psychiatrist at West Point. Jess has since held leadership roles including Program Director and Associate Dean. She retired in 2023 after 23 years in the Military, deploying to Iraq as a Psychiatrist and Afghanistan as an Intensivist. Connect with Jess! Website: www.jessbuninmd.com Podcasts: https://jessbuninmd.com/media#podcasts LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-bunin/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessica.bunin/ Email: jess@jessbuninmd.com Book: www.jessbuninmd.com/book Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    You Don't Have to Do It All
  7. Aug 23

    Show Up Before You Feel Ready

    How to speak pubicly and network with confidenceElaine Belson, LCSW talks with Diane Darling about the real work behind confident speaking and effective networking. We discuss how women can stop over-projecting rejection, make conversations feel relational instead of transactional, and use small, repeatable actions to build resilience and confidence. Timestamps0:00 Welcome & episode overview 1:09 Meet Diane Darling 1:39 Managing public-speaking nerves 5:59 Reframing anxiety as healthy energy 10:28 Imposter syndrome & speaking up 17:45 Resilience and rebuilding confidence 23:32 Networking strategies 30:44 Letting go of assumptions 36:28 Learning through failure 42:13 Confident, caring communication 47:17 Kindness, accountability & self-compassion 50:26 Connect with Diane 51:34 Closing takeaways Diane Darling is a speaker, author, coach and pioneer in social networking. She was commissioned by McGraw-Hill to write the definitive book on networking called The Networking Survival Guide. It went into a 2nd printing just 90 days after the book hit the shelves.  Diane has taught at Harvard Business School, European Cardiology Society, 20th Century Fox, Cisco Systems, Bank of America, University of Texas Law School, InfoSys, American Bar Association, Alumni of London School of Economics to name a few clients.  She has appeared on NBC Nightly News, in The Wall Street Journal, San Francisco Chronicle, and The Boston Globe.  Connect with Diane! http://www.DianeDarling.com http://www.LinkedIn.com/in/DianeDarling Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcswFree Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15minWebsite: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    Show Up Before You Feel Ready
  8. Aug 10

    Assert Yourself Without Apology

    Good Girl Conditioning, Perfectionism, and AssertivenessElaine Belson talks with masters-level psychologist Anita Cavrag about how “good girl” conditioning shapes perfectionism, fear of rejection, people pleasing, and the pressure to earn love through performance. (00:47) Anita’s early life in Croatia and the roots of the “good girl” pattern (07:00) Noticing the inner perfectionist in real time instead of obeying it (08:29) How fear of failure shapes a woman’s sense of self (13:48) Good girl conditioning, patriarchy, and why many women share the same pattern (15:16) Why women fear asking for what they want (17:54) The doormat versus dragon illusion (18:48) What submissive, aggressive, and passive aggressive look like in real life (21:36) Passive aggressive communication and why it leaves both people unmet (23:27) Why “nobody listens unless I yell” often starts with unclear requests (26:26) Assertiveness is not control, manipulation, or trying to force compliance (29:41) Why assertiveness cannot be learned in isolation from real conversations (31:21) Fear of rejection, catastrophizing, and the story people attach to no (35:29) People pleasing as a subtle form of control and the need to be liked (36:33) Needing others to understand your no, and why you do not owe explanations (38:31) Why some people over-manage reactions to protect themselves from consequences (39:34) The cost of boundary-setting, including losing some relationships (43:24) Values become real when you are willing to pay a price for them (46:17) The need to be needed in founders, providers, and caregivers (49:21) How over-functioning creates dependence and resentment at home and at work (50:40) Why resentment grows when requests are not stated clearly (53:30) Practical advice: identify the complaint, uncover the need, and make a specific request (55:58) Asking sooner prevents resentment from building (56:52) Most people like doing things for others when they understand what it means Anita Čavrag is a masters-level psychologist and coach best known for helping brilliant, accomplished women in business manage difficult people — prospects, clients and team members who don't stick to agreements or who cross their boundaries - without damaging relationships or reputation. She's helped 100+ experts and founders step into real authority. Her credentials include a Masters in Psychology and BA in Philosophy, NLP Master Practitioner, and ICF ACC accreditation. Free guide: The Art of Getting What You Want from People: https://www.fireflycareer.com/the-art-of-getting-what-you-want Free 90-minute audit session: tidycal.com/anitacavrag/audit-session Website: fireflycareer.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anita-cavrag-career-coach Connect with Elaine! LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/elainebelsonlcsw Free Discovery Call: https://zcal.co/esbelsonlcswc/15min Website: https://www.TheSelfAuthorityCoach.com

    Assert Yourself Without Apology

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The Self-Authority Podcast is a psychology-informed podcast exploring why women overthink, hesitate to speak up, second-guess themselves, and struggle to trust what they know. Hosted by The Self-Authority Coach and psychotherapist, Elaine Belson, each episode features conversations and stories about the emotional patterns that keep women stuck. This isn’t about becoming fearless or perfect. It’s about knowing what you want and trusting what you know.  New episodes weekly.