Dying To Ask with Christy B.

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Most of us were never taught how to be with death and Christy's voice is just what the (hospice) doctor ordered. Hosted by death doula and end-of-life educator Christy Braun M.S., this podcast pulls back the curtain on all things end-of-life: hospice & palliative care, caregiver fatigue, advance directives, and what actually happens as someone is dying. Every conversation is honest and grounded, with no spiritual bypassing. Whether you are caring for someone you love or carrying grief of your own, you belong here. If there's something you're dying to ask, reach out: christy@christybraun.com

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  1. 19h ago

    5. Congratulations on your diagnosis: As a free bonus, you'll be handling everyone else's feelings about it.

    5. Congratulations on your diagnosis: As a free bonus, you'll be handling everyone else's feelings about it. One of my closest friends called me today because she wasn't sure how to explain what I do to someone who needed help. I could have felt some kind of way about that. Instead it gave me this episode. In this one I talk about the part of my work that almost nobody names. When you get a diagnosis, the people who love you start having their own experience of it, and somewhere along the way you become the person managing the room. You soften the news so your sister can handle it. You reassure everyone that you're fine so they can sleep. You end up carrying your own diagnosis and everyone else's feelings about it at the same time. This is a look at what a death doula actually does in the middle of treatment, long before the very end. Finding your center when a diagnosis has scattered it. Finding the words to ask for what you need. Setting boundaries with the people in your life and having help saying them out loud. Handling the practical paperwork at your pace and nobody else's. And remembering that you are allowed to be in the center of your own experience. If you are in it right now, or you love someone who is, this one is for you. www.christybraun.com Christy@ChristyBraun.com Death Doula Training: https://go.compassdoulaacademy.com/live-online-doula-training-cohort 00:00 Friend Can’t Explain My Work 01:28 Beyond the Medical Room 02:21 Finding Your Center Again 03:06 Carrying Everyone Else’s Feelings 04:31 Boundaries and Real Support 05:04 Outside Person Who Can Hold It 05:33 Paperwork and End-of-Life Planning 06:14 Care Like Birth Support 06:35 Permission to Put You First 07:16 Find a Doula and Next Steps 07:51 Outro and Training Invitation

    8 min

  2. 5d ago

    4. Failure is NOT an Option

    In the latest episode of 'Dying to Ask,' we tackle the profound and often unspoken belief that death equates to failure. Join me as I offer a new perspective that transforms the narrative around life's inevitable completion, encouraging presence, love, and the understanding that death deserves as much care as birth. ChristyBraun.com for more information and resources. 00:00 Welcome and Core Belief 00:53 Death as a Battle 02:39 Where the War Language Came From 04:09 The Hidden Harm of Failure 06:30 Death as Completion 08:32 Presence Over Perfection 09:08 What a Tended Death Looks Like 11:08 Letting Go of Guilt 12:59 www.ChristyBraun.com

    13 min

  3. Jun 1

    3. The Talk You Keep Putting Off

    The Conversation You Keep Avoiding: Asking Your Parents What They Want at the End of Life Christy B. explains why it’s important to talk with parents or caregivers about what they would want at the end of life, sharing how her father was panic-stricken when asked to decide about a feeding tube for his Parkinson’s-affected father without knowing his wishes. She outlines common reasons people avoid the topic—superstition, fear of upsetting them, and assuming there’s more time—and reframes the discussion as learning what matters most to the person and protecting their autonomy. She advises opening the door gradually using a “borrowed story,” asking simple questions, pausing to listen, and not arguing with answers you dislike. She notes that advance directives and professionals can document wishes, but the conversation must come first. https://ChristyBraun.com for more information and resources. 00:00 Introduction 00:58 The Story: My Grandfather's Final Days 03:29 Why We Avoid the Conversation 06:02 Reframing: It's Not About Death 08:22 How to Start the Conversation 11:43 What to Listen For 13:24 Advance Directives 3:58 The Hardest Part: Listening 15:31 Bringing It Home 16:29 Your Assignment - Open the Door!

    17 min

  4. May 27

    2. Keeping Watch: What Sailing Taught Me About Dying

    Christy reflects on nighttime watch at sea and how six years living aboard a sailboat taught her lessons that later shaped her work as a Death Doula sitting with dying people. She contrasts the romantic image of boat life with its realities—constant maintenance, tight quarters, and the ever-present weather concerns and draws bedside wisdom from those memories. Noting that the only true choice is one’s response: keeping watch, staying present, and being a steady presence without trying to change the weather. https://ChristyBraun.com for more information and resources. 00:00 Alone On Night Watch 00:49 Boat Life Reality Check 01:56 Maintenance Over Magic 02:44 Weather Rules Everything 04:22 Dying And Weather Windows 05:20 Heaving To In Storms 06:43 Letting Go Is Skill 08:56 Control Stories And Grief 11:11 Keeping Watch At Bedside1 12:35 Closing And Where To Find Me

    13 min

  5. May 24

    1. I Just Want This to Be Over, and Other Things You're Allowed to Feel

    Death doula, Christy Braun, M.S. introduces her podcast as an honest, untidy space to talk openly about death, dying, caregiving, and grief without platitudes, promising to stay with listeners through the hard parts. She explains that caregivers often seek more information, but what steadies them is practical support and focusing on what matters right now. Suggestions include creating simple daily anchor points (check-ins, medications, eating, resting), keeping all notes and questions in one place, knowing who to call when changes happen, and accepting specific help from others. She emphasizes making the environment physically supportive, normalizes feelings like “I just want this to be over,” encourages small breaks and having one non-entangled support person, and describes a shift from trying to control the process to supporting it while being reminded you’re doing a great job. 00:00 Welcome to the Podcast 00:17 What This Show Is 01:47 Caregiving Info Overload 02:51 Daily Rhythm and Notes 04:08 Know Who to Call 04:30 Let People Help You 05:16 Make Your Space Supportive 06:20 Hard Feelings Are Normal 07:21 Micro Breaks That Work 08:06 One Steady Support Person 08:49 Letting Go of Control 09:21 You Are Doing Great 10:14 Closing and Next Steps

    11 min

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    Dying to Ask with Christy B. is a podcast about death, dying, and what it really means to care for someone at the end of life. Hosted by death doula and end-of-life educator, Christy Braun, each episode opens up honest conversations about hospice care, palliative care, caregiver burnout, anticipatory grief, advance directives, and the dying process itself. Christy brings tender, grounded, practical wisdom to the questions families wrestle with behind closed doors, with no spiritual bypassing and no tidy answers. Whether you are a caregiver, facing a terminal diagnosis, walking through grief, or simply death-curious and ready to live more awake, this show helps you face mortality with less fear and more presence. www.christybraun.com

    1 min

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Most of us were never taught how to be with death and Christy's voice is just what the (hospice) doctor ordered. Hosted by death doula and end-of-life educator Christy Braun M.S., this podcast pulls back the curtain on all things end-of-life: hospice & palliative care, caregiver fatigue, advance directives, and what actually happens as someone is dying. Every conversation is honest and grounded, with no spiritual bypassing. Whether you are caring for someone you love or carrying grief of your own, you belong here. If there's something you're dying to ask, reach out: christy@christybraun.com

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