What is Life? With Martina & Tomash

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What Is Life? is Martina talking about all the stuff we're supposed to keep quiet about — the messy emotions, the f**k-ups, the "am I the only one feeling this?" moments. Hi! I'm Martina. I feel like I've lived 330 lives in my 33 years of life, I've moved like 47 times in 6 different countries, I have a golden retriever named Buchta, and I co-built a multi-million dollar couples bracelets business with my boyfriend while simultaneously wondering if we were gonna break up every other week. Plot twist: I created this podcast to be MINE - my solo thing, my space. Episode 1 was just me, finally. Episode 2? Tomash, my boyfriend, crashes it. Every episode since he won't freaking leave! The guy who literally said "I don't do podcasts, do it alone“ is now here. Every. Single. Time. And the universe is laughing because I wanted this for YEARS — us, together, talking. But it only happened when I stopped white-knuckling the dream and let that shit go. That's LIFE: giving you exactly what you want the second you stop being a control freak about it. I started this because I couldn't stop asking "what is life?" after my third breakdown, second country, and approximately 86 moments of thinking "there's something fundamentally wrong with me." There wasn't. I was just a human being having a human experience, which apparently includes: moving to different country every few years, dating the wrong people for the right reasons, building a business while having daily meltdowns, and learning that nothing you plan actually happens the way you plan it. This podcast is chaos. Sometimes solo, sometimes Tomash interrupts with his completely different memory of the same event (we literally live in 2 different relationships, I swear), sometimes our golden retriever Buchta snores so loud you'll think your audio is broken. We record on balconies & streets in Vietnam, we disagree mid-episodes, we forget what we were talking about. I overshare like it's my job (it kind of is now). Don't expect Instagram highlight reel, no "5 steps to fix your life" - this is just two people figuring it out in real-time and saying it out loud. If you've ever felt too much, moved too fast, f****d up too hard, or wondered if everyone else got a manual you didn't — welcome home. Grab a coffee. Buckle up. It's messy… It’s LIFE!

  1. 3d ago

    13. Masterclass On Trusting Life, Letting Go Of Control & Our Thailand Move

    Send us Fan Mail What our move to Thailand taught us about control, surrender, and the strange peace that comes when you finally trust life to take you where you're meant to go. OK so we recorded this one on a Monday morning. 5am dog walk. Ocean swim. Green tea. A few cigarettes (yes, I'm saying it — I'm not hiding anything 😂). Then we came home, put on matching outfits, and sat down in the middle of a road in Vietnam to record a podcast about life. And somehow it became the most honest conversation we've had about control, fear, and what it actually means to stop fighting your own life. This is Episode 13 of What Is Life with Martina and Tomash. WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Monday Morning Gratitude Hit — Before we got into anything heavy, Martina just… stopped. And said: look at our Monday morning. Ocean. Coffee. Each other. Recording a podcast about everything we've learned. This is exactly the life we always wanted. And sometimes you need someone to remind you that you're already living the dream — even when your mind is screaming about visa documents and dog certificates. ✨ The Thailand Problem — We want to go to Thailand. We have a dog. We don't know which airline takes dogs. We don't know what documents we need. We don't know if she must wear a muzzle. The visa rules are changing. There are about 50 ways this could go "wrong". This is what we're talking about when we say: real life. And it became the perfect metaphor for everything in this episode. ✨ The Old Way — Forcing Everything — Martina used to approach uncertainty the way most of us do. One goal. Do everything in your power to make it happen. Push. Control. Stress. Manipulate the universe with your bare hands until it cooperates. It works sometimes. But God, it's exhausting. And lonely. Because when you think you are responsible for everything turning out right — you don't feel held by life. ✨ The New Option — What if it's going to be okay no matter what? Not toxic positivity. Not pretending. But genuinely arriving at the place where whatever happens — Thailand, Vietnam, somewhere else, going home for a while — it's going to be good. Because you trust that. And THAT is where the freedom is. ✨ Two Completely Different Minds, Same Answer — Tomash stays in the present moment. Martina faces the fear head-on. He ignores the "what ifs." She looks at them straight in the eye until they lose their power. Completely different approaches. And somehow — they both arrive at the same place. Same freedom. Same peace. Different road. ✨ What's the Worst Thing That Can Happen? — One of the most useful questions you can ask yourself when the anxiety is spiraling. Your mind will show you what it's afraid of. And then — if you actually look at it — you realize the worst case scenario is bearable. It's not the disaster your brain promised. It's just… fine. That realization changes everything. ✨ Present Moment Is Not as Easy as It Sounds — Tomash makes presence look effortless and it genuinely drives Martina a little crazy. 😂 Because for some of us, the mind is LOUD. There are voices. There are spirals. This episode doesn't pretend presence is simple. It just shows you what it looks like when two people who do it differently both get there. ✨ You Cannot Speed Up Your Own Evolution — Whether it's learning to let go, trusting life, or just chilling the f*ck out — you can't force it. You can't rush it. The evolution happens when it happens. And somehow, that's the most relaxing thing anyone has ever said. THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: ⇰ You're someone who controls everything — every detail, every outcome, every possible disaster — and you're exhausted ⇰ You're going through something uncertain right now and your brain won't stop running worst-case scenarios ⇰ You want to let go but you have no idea how to actually do that ⇰ You've tried to "be present" and it hasn't worked and someone making it sound easy makes you want to throw something ⇰ You know intellectually that things will work out — but your body hasn't gotten the memo yet ⇰ You just want someone to tell you that wherever it goes, it's going to be okay WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ The most real conversation we've had about control, surrender and what happens when you finally stop fighting ✅ Proof that two people can have completely opposite minds and still arrive at the exact same freedom ✅ A Monday morning in Vietnam that somehow turned into a masterclass on trusting life ✅ Tomash and Martina at their most honest — disagreeing, triggering each other, and figuring it out anyway ✅ The kind of episode you think about the next time life doesn't go the way you planned ABOUT US: I'm Martina (34, started the episode crying with gratitude on a beach, ended it a little triggered by how easily Tomash does the presence thing, cried again probably 😂). He's Tomash (36, stayed in the present moment the whole episode, genuinely confused why anyone would do it differently, somehow the most calming person alive). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. We have a golden retriever named Buchta who travels with us around the World. Together 24/7 for 6 years. English is our second language. We swear. We disagree. We always end up in the same place. JOIN THE F**K IT CLUB 🔥 If this episode hit something in you — if you're tired of forcing things and you're ready to actually trust your life for once — this is where we do that together. 👉 https://www.skool.com/new-earth-couples-1744/about Nothing needs to be forced. Including you. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinaandtomash/ Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. If you've ever tried so hard to control how something turns out — and it still didn't go the way you planned — this one is for you. 💕 P.S. — The bracelets click together when you hold hands and Tomash said it brings him into the present moment every time. I cried when he said that. Of course I did. 💕 This is life. Planning, worrying, letting go, trusting. And somehow arriving exactly where you were supposed to be. 🎢

  2. Aug 28

    12. From External Validation Addict to Radical Self-Acceptance (Solo Episode)

    Send us Fan Mail What Happens When You Lose Everything You Attached Your Worth To: My Breaking Point I Performed the Perfect Life for 34 Years. Nobody Knew It, Including Me! This episode is different. I recorded it solo without Tomash, no back and forth & no interrupting each other😂 Just me, alone with my phone on a random day when I felt like something needed to come out — and I just let it. And so this is my story: Episode #12 of What Is Life? with Martina. WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Performance — For 34 years I performed a version of myself that would be accepted and loved. The skinny, funny, beautiful, high-achieving Martina. I had no idea I was doing it. ✨ It Started at Age 3 — Sent to a psychiatrist. First of many moments where I learned: as I am, I'm not okay. ✨ Getting Kicked Out of the US at 17 — Exchange student. Closed in a room, 60 seconds to call my mom, put on a plane home. Another lesson: who I am gets punished. ✨ Dubai, Modeling, Events & External Validation as a Drug — If I was beautiful, funny, successful enough — people loved me. I got addicted to that feeling. It was all an illusion. ✨ The Moment the Illusion Cracked — Moving to Bali with Tomash. No friends. No validation. Then came acne, weight gain, fights, business losing money. Everything I attached my worth to was taken away. ✨ My Father's Suicide — November 17th, 2025. His self-rejection led him to reject life completely. This was the final moment I stopped performing. ✨ Why Self-Hate as Motivation Never Works — I tried to fix myself through healing, courses, coaches.. All from "something is wrong with me." It never worked. You cannot heal what you refuse to accept. ✨ How Everything I Created Was Born From Rock Bottom — This podcast, The F**k It Club.. All born from losing everything and having nothing left to perform for. THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You've ever felt like you're performing a version of yourself that isn't really youYou've tried to heal, fix or improve yourself and still feel like something's wrongYou attach your worth to how you look, how much money you make or what people think of youYou've lost someone and don't know how to make sense of itYou're exhausted from trying so hard to be enoughYou just want someone to say — out loud — the thing nobody else is sayingWHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT:   ❌ Polished (my phone looks like it belongs to a homeless person, there's an ant walking over the lens at one point 😂) ❌ Structured (I had zero notes, zero plan, I just talked)  ❌ A healing method or a self help framework (I'm done with those)  ❌ Short (I talked for an hour straight without stopping, classic Martina) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ My full origin story — from age 3 to 34, told for the first time all in one place  ✅ The most honest thing I've ever said out loud  ✅ Proof that self hate as motivation will never get you where you want to go  ✅ Permission to stop performing — for whoever needs to hear that today  ✅ A solo episode — just me, my voice, and whatever needed to come out ABOUT ME: I'm Martina (34, Manifestor, sent to a psychiatrist at 3, kicked out of the US at 17, built a multimillion dollar business while hating myself, lost my dad to suicide, gained weight, got acne, lost almost everything — and somehow ended up talking about it on a broken phone in Vietnam). I am behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets together with my boyfriend Tomash. I started this podcast because speaking is the only thing that has ever actually regulated me. English is my second language. I swear when I'm passionate. This episode has no Tomash, no Buchta, no plan. Just me and the truth. F*****g finally. JOIN THE F**K IT CLUB 🔥 If this episode hit something in you — if you're done trying to fix yourself and ready to actually accept yourself — this is where we do that work together. Weekly calls. Weekly videos. A community of people who are done performing. 👉 https://www.skool.com/new-earth-couples-1744/about Nothing's wrong with you. Never was. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinaandtomash/ If you've ever performed a version of yourself just to feel safe — this one is for you. You're not broken. You never were. 💕 This is LIFE. Performing, crumbling, losing, accepting. And finally — finally — just being. 🎢

  3. Aug 18

    11. The Truth About Inner Freedom: Why Achieving Your Goals Still Leaves You Feeling Empty

    Send us Fan Mail How Tomash stopped resisting life and finally felt free without changing a single thing outside of him This is Episode 11 of What Is Life, and oh my god guys. This one hit different. We recorded this on a random street in Nha Trang, Vietnam. No plan. A security guard showed up at some point. We didn't care. Because what came out of Tomash in this episode is something he's been carrying for TEN YEARS and I don't think even HE knew it was ready to come out. 😂 This time? He's talking, I'm listening. And honestly? I cried at some point. WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Freedom Dream — For 10 years Tomash believed money = freedom. Warm weather = freedom. No morning alarm = freedom. He chased all of it. Got it. And STILL felt like something was off. Sound familiar? ✨ Getting Everything You Wanted and Still Feeling Empty Ocean view villa in Bali ✅ Business making real money ✅ No alarm clocks ✅ Total freedom to go wherever ✅ The love of your life by your side ✅ And then the fear started. The wanting more started. The "what if I lose all this" started. We talk about WHY this happens and it will make you look at your own goals very differently. ✨ When the Chase Started Breaking Everything — Three years of pushing harder, trying more, doing everything right — and it just stopped working. The money got less. The stress got more. The resistance was everywhere. And they had no idea why. (Spoiler: I think you will.) ✨ The Real Definition of Freedom — It's not the money. It's not the warm weather. It's not being able to fly home whenever you want. True freedom — as Tomash figured out after a decade — is being okay with what is. Not resisting where you are, what you have, who you are right now. THAT is freedom. And it cannot be bought. ✨ Resistance Is the Opposite of Freedom — Everything you think you want might just be you running FROM something you don't want to feel. We break this down and I swear it will make you question at least one thing you're currently chasing. ✨ The Bungee Jump — How to actually move through resistance instead of fighting it. You know when you bungee jump and you're just… flying and there is literally nothing you can do? That's the whole metaphor. Just bungee jump into the feeling. Let go. Stop trying to control the direction. That's it. THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You've achieved something you really wanted and still felt weirdly empty afterYou feel like you're always chasing the next thing and it never actually feels like enoughYou think freedom is something you'll have once you have more money, more time, or live somewhere warmerYou're going through a really hard time right now and you can't figure out why it's happeningYou're just tired of chasing and you want someone to tell you it's okay to stopWHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT: ❌ A motivational speech (we're not telling you to hustle harder, we're literally saying the opposite)   ❌ Financial advice (we lost a lot of money figuring this out, so maybe don't take notes 😂)  ❌ Short (Tomash talked A LOT this episode and it was honestly so beautiful I didn't want to cut him off)   ❌ Polished (random street, Vietnam, security guard, sweaty, zero plan — the usual) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ Tomash's most open episode yet — a decade of chasing, losing, and finally understanding, all in one conversation ✅ A completely different way to think about freedom, money and what you're actually looking for ✅ Proof that the thing you're chasing might not be the thing you actually need ✅ Two people sitting on a street in Vietnam figuring out life out loud — with zero script and zero filter ✅ The kind of episode you think about after you close the app ABOUT US: I'm Martina (34, asked the questions this time, cried a little listening to him, still talked more than I should have 😂). He's Tomash (36, had the whole episode to himself, surprised himself with what came out, STILL can't believe people actually listen). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We built a business, chased freedom, lost a lot of money trying to get more of it, and ended up on a random street in Vietnam finally understanding what freedom actually is. English is our second language. I swear when I'm excited. Buchta is our golden retriever and she wasn't with us for this one but we missed her the whole time. JOIN THE F**K IT CLUB 🔥 If this episode resonated and you're done trying to fix yourself, heal yourself, improve yourself into someone more acceptable — this is for you. The F**k It Club is our community for people who are ready to stop self-improving and start actually living: 👉 https://www.skool.com/new-earth-couples-1744/about Nothing's wrong with you. Never was. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinaandtomash/ Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. If you've ever felt like you're running toward something but can't figure out why you're still not happy when you get there — oh honey, this one is for you. 💕 P.S. — Freedom is not the money. Freedom is being okay without it. That took us about 10 years to figure out. You're welcome. 😂 P.P.S. — Tomash spilled his whole soul this episode and I was just sitting there like 🥹 please go comment on YouTube and tell him you heard it. He genuinely still cannot believe anyone listens. This is life. Chasing, losing, stopping, accepting. And somehow finding everything you needed right where you already were. 🎢

  4. Aug 5

    10. I spent 6 years thinking my own boyfriend was against me (HE WASN’T)

    Send us Fan Mail For 6 years I kept hearing criticism from Tomash. No matter what he said, no matter how loving he was — my brain turned it into an attack. Turns out? It was never him. This is Episode 10 of What Is Life, recorded somewhere on a beautiful road near Nha Trang, Vietnam — sweaty, freshly recovered from a bike crash, kidney pain AND slippery stairs — but we showed up anyway. 😂 WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Expansion & Contraction Cycle — Why I go from feeling like a supernatural human to not being able to get out of bed. If you've ever had periods where you feel unstoppable and then suddenly you can't function — this one will finally give you words for it. ✨ When Your Body Forces You to Stop — Bike accident. Kidney pain. Falling down slippery stairs in the rain in Dalat. All in one month. My body was screaming at me to slow down and I was too stubborn to listen — until I had no choice. ✨ The Voice in My Head That Sounded Exactly Like Him — How I realized I was putting my own worst thoughts into Tomash's mouth for 6 years. He wasn't criticizing me. My inner critic was. And I had no idea. ✨ What Is Unconditional Love Actually — Near the end of this episode I go deep on something that hit me hard. I grew up with "I love you IF." Tomash showed me "I love you ANYWAY." There's a huge difference and I don't think I understood it until now. ✨ Tomash Becomes the Interviewer — We tried something completely different this episode. He asked the questions. I answered. No battle for space, no interrupting, no chaos. Just... flow. It felt so different we had to talk about it. 😂 THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: 🌴 You sometimes feel like your partner is always criticizing you — even when they're not 🌴 You go through big high periods and big low periods and wonder if something is wrong with you 🌴 Your body has ever forced you to slow down and you didn't understand why 🌴 You grew up feeling like love was something you had to earn 🌴 You're tired of perfect relationship content and just want someone to say "yeah, me too" WHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT: ❌ Polished (we're sweaty, sitting on a road in Vietnam, still recovering) ❌ A step-by-step guide (we have zero steps, we barely had a plan) ❌ Short (I talk a lot, you know this by now 😂) ❌ Relationship advice (just two people figuring it out and oversharing about it) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ The messy middle of a real breakthrough — not the highlight reel version ✅ Words for something you've probably felt but couldn't explain ✅ Proof that you can change without your partner changing a single thing ✅ A honest look at what unconditional love actually feels like from the inside ✅ The softest, most flowing episode we've recorded so far — and somehow the most honest ABOUT US: I'm Martina (34, manifesor, professional overthinker, had 3 accidents in one month and still showed up to record this). He's Tomash (36, calm AF, became the interviewer this episode, still can't believe people actually listen). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We run a business together. We have a golden retriever named Bukhta. English is our second language. I swear when I'm excited. Tomash is quietly proud of this one. We're both works in progress — and we're okay with that. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinarajcan/ Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. If you've ever turned the person who loves you most into the enemy in your own head — this episode is for you. You're not broken. You're just human. 💕 P.S. — Nothing in his reality changed. I just finally chose to see him differently. That's the whole episode. That's the whole thing. P.P.S. — We recorded this after a bike crash, kidney pain, a fall down the stairs AND my period. If that's not commitment to this podcast I don't know what is. 😂 P.P.P.S. — Tomash wants to know if you actually listened till the end. Drop a comment and let him know. He still can't believe you do. 🌱 This is life. Messy, sweaty, recovering, real. And somehow still beautiful. 🎢

  5. Jul 28

    9. "When Your Ego Says No, But Your Heart Says Yes"

    Send us Fan Mail Tomash said he wouldn't be on the next episode. 24 hours later, here we are. In our last recording, he literally said "I won't be on the next one." Then I had a mental breakdown (one day before my period, perfect timing 😅). We both felt like maybe this podcast wasn't working. Maybe we should stop. Then something shifted. And here we are. Recording. Together. The very next day. This is Part 9 of our completely unfiltered love story, recorded from Vietnam with Buchta snoring, bikes passing by, and minimal editing.  What to expect: An unstructured conversation about ego vs. soul, resistance vs. acceptance, and why trying to force yourself to "be okay" with things actually makes everything worse. We ramble about walking to work without a car for 10 minutes. Tomash says "words are f*****g limiting" and I question if this whole conversation even has a point. But that IS the entire point. WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Magnetic Pull Back - Why Tomash came back even though he swore he wouldn't (and what this says about ego vs. true self) ✨ The Car Analogy That Explains Everything - What happens when your car breaks and you have to walk to work (and why this is actually about your entire life) ✨ Resistance Creates Suffering - We tried SO HARD for 3 years: UGC creators, detailed goals, communities, writing a book... then we gave up and everything worked ✨ The Beach Breakdown in Vietnam - The moment we hit rock bottom, cried on the beach, and surrendered (then everything shifted) ✨ You Are Not Your Ego - The difference between what YOU want vs. what your EGO wants (and why everything you created is exactly what you wanted) ✨ The Acceptance Evolution - Why you can't force acceptance, why trying makes it worse, and how it happens naturally when you stop resisting ✨ Why We Don't Give You 5 Steps - People want solutions, but what worked for someone else will never work for you (you have to find your own way) ✨ Being Optimistic vs. Toxic Positivity - Ask "why is this good for me?" instead of "how do I fix this?" THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You've ever quit something then came back the next dayYou're tired of trying to "fix" yourself with courses and frameworksYou want to accept things but don't know HOW (spoiler: you can't force it)You're in a situation you hate and wonder if you'll ever be okay with itYou believe messy conversations are more real than polished adviceYou've spent thousands on healing and still feel stuckWHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT: ❌ Structured (we had zero plan, Tomash almost didn't show up, we rambled about cars for way too long) ❌ Polished (I interrupt constantly, we lose our train of thought, the AC is too loud) ❌ A 5-step solution (we literally say "you don't have to do anything" which might be the least helpful advice ever) ❌ Short (we talk for 50 minutes about acceptance and somehow it all loops back to walking to work) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ The episode that almost didn't happen - Tomash quit, I cried, we recorded anyway ✅ Permission to stop trying so hard - The more you force acceptance, the more you resist ✅ Proof that surrender works - We gave up in Vietnam, then everything got better ✅ The car-to-work metaphor - You'll either resist walking or accept it, both lead to the same place eventually ✅ Real-time evolution - You can hear us figuring it out AS we speak ✅ No answers, just truth - Life is a question that doesn't need to be answered, just experienced ABOUT US: I'm Martina (33, cried the day before recording, questions if anyone wants to listen to this, says "you know" 52 times). He's Tomash (36, said he wouldn't be here but showed up anyway, explains ego vs. self, literally says "words are f*****g limiting"). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We record with zero plan and somehow people listen. We almost broke up in Vietnam then had our best month ever. English is our second language. I interrupt when passionate. Tomash thinks nobody cares about bikes in the background. Buchta is our golden retriever who survived as the only puppy. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinarajcan/ Have a beautiful day, beautiful night, beautiful morning, beautiful evening, wherever you are in the world. This episode is proof that coming back after you quit is sometimes the most powerful thing you can do. Or at least that's what happened to us. 💕 P.S. - We almost didn't post this because Tomash didn't want people to hear him "not feeling good." Then I reminded him: that's exactly what makes it real. P.P.S. - If you've ever said "I'M DONE" then came back the next day, this is for you. The magnetic pull back to what matters is stronger than any ego resistance. Welcome home. 🌱 P.P.P.S. - Tomash wants you to comment if you actually made it through our 10-minute car analogy (he thinks we lost everyone). I want you to comment: What are you resisting right now that might actually be perfect exactly as it is? 💬 P.P.P.P.S. - "I tried so hard and got so far, in the end it doesn't even matter" - This lyric hits different when you realize trying hard IS the resistance. Thanks Chester. 🤘

  6. Jul 17

    8. ''I'm Not Recording the Next One" — He Said It. I Heard It. We Posted This Anyway.

    Send us Fan Mail Okay, so... this episode? This one almost didn't happen. Actually, scratch that — it DID happen, but it was CHAOS. We recorded for 80 minutes. I cried. Twice. We took 2 breaks. Tomash felt like he had no space. I felt judged. He said he's not recording the next one with me. And honestly? I don't even know if he will. But here's the thing: we posted it anyway. Because THIS — the messy, raw, unfiltered, "oh my god are we really fighting about this right now" moments — THIS is what real love actually looks like. Not the Instagram version. Not the "we're so perfect together" highlight reel. The REAL one. The one where two completely opposite people try to build a life together, record a podcast about their story, and end up fighting mid-episode about who gets to talk. 😂😅 What You'll Hear in This Episode: ✨ The $5,000 airport decision that changed our lives (and almost gave us a heart attack)  ✨ How I almost ended up in a Dubai jail — and why Corona actually SAVED me  ✨ The moment we had 5 minutes to decide: pay an extra $3,500 or give up on our Bali dream  ✨ What happened when Bali was about to close on NYE midnight and we had to pack our entire life in 24 hours  ✨ The raw, honest truth about love and resistance — and why acceptance is the hardest (and most powerful) thing we've ever learned  ✨ Why Tomash said "I'm not recording the next one" — and what that really means for us (spoiler: I don't know yet)  ✨ The real story behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets — how two high school sweethearts reunited after 12 years, started a business, and almost broke up multiple times trying to make it work Why This Episode Is Different: Usually, we don't edit our podcasts. Like, at all. But this one? We had to cut out 35 minutes because we got SO triggered, went off on random rabbit holes, needed actual breaks to breathe, and honestly just went all over the place in a way that didn't make any sense anymore. 😅 You can FEEL it in the episode. You can see where we paused. Where we fought. Where I cried. Where he froze. And honestly? It's the most powerful thing we've ever shared. Because this is what happens when you don't give up on love — even when it's messy, even when it's hard, even when walking away feels easier. This Episode Is For You If: 💔 You've ever felt like you don't belong (even with the person you love most) 💔 You've ever fought with your partner and wondered "is this even worth it?" 💔 You're building something together — a business, a relationship, a life — and it feels HARD 💔 You want to hear the REAL story behind the Instagram posts (the tears, the breakdowns, the "we almost quit" moments) 💔 You believe in love but you're tired of the fake "perfect couple" BS 💔 You're curious about what it ACTUALLY takes to build a multimillion-dollar brand while traveling the world with your soulmate (spoiler: it's not what you think) The Honest Truth: This episode is raw. It's messy. It's chaotic. It's 100% real. And I'm not gonna lie — I almost didn't post it. Because it shows the parts of us we usually hide. The fights. The resistance. The "I don't want to do this anymore" moments. But then I realized: if we only share the good parts, what's the point? If you're looking for a real relationship podcast with honest love stories and unfiltered relationship advice, this is it. We're not your typical couple podcast — we're two digital nomad couples building a business together in Bali, dealing with relationship struggles, opposite personalities in love, and all the messy love stories that come with it. This is raw and real conversations about acceptance in relationships, emotional breakdowns (yes, crying on podcast happens), relationship resistance, and what teamwork in relationships actually looks like when you're trying not to give up on love. Life isn't perfect. Love isn't perfect. Relationships aren't perfect. But they're REAL. And they're worth fighting for. So yeah. We posted it. And Tomash? He said he's not recording the next one. But who knows. Maybe he just needs a break. Maybe this was his last episode. Maybe we'll figure it out together (like we always do). Either way — this is life. Unfiltered. Unedited (okay, heavily edited, but you get it 😂). Unapologetic. Press play. Buckle up. And let us know: should Tomash record the next one? 😂❤️ With all our love (and chaos), Martina & Tomash (and Buchta 🐾) P.S. If you made it to the end of this episode, send us a fan mail on Apple Podcasts and let us know what you think. Seriously. We wanna hear from you. ❤️

  7. Jun 23

    7. We Almost Deleted This Episode (Listening Back to Fights, Ego Puppies, Why You're Not a Bad Person & The Boyfriend Pattern)

    Send us Fan Mail This could be 4 different episodes tbh. We started recording with no plan and ended up talking for an hour about what I learned listening back to our podcast fights, why I thought I was a "bad person" my whole life, and how I bought a stuffed puppy to represent my inner critic. This is Part 7 of our completely unfiltered love story, recorded from our balcony in Vietnam with Buchta snoring, the fridge humming, and zero editing. What to expect: An unstructured conversation that covers childhood patterns, relationship triggers, ego management, and why accepting things (instead of resisting them) changes your life. We interrupt each other, we go on tangents and Tomash literally says "there's no point to this episode" at the end. But that IS the entire point. WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Listening Back Revelation - I edited our last episode and realized I was reacting to stories in my HEAD, not what was actually SAID ✨ Why I Thought I Was a Bad Person - Kindergarten psychiatrist, tennis rage, kicked out of the US, the pattern of "something's wrong with me" ✨ You're Not Your Emotions - You are not your reactions, your body, your thoughts, your mind. Your core self is unchanging. ✨ The Friday Night Drinking Example - It's not about WHAT your partner does, it's about what you make it MEAN about yourself ✨ Meet Pepo the Ego Puppy - I bought a stuffed golden retriever to represent my ego and now I pet it when negative thoughts come ✨ The Boyfriend Pattern - How I tried to change every ex until I accepted Tomash (then HE started changing by himself) ✨ Resistance → Acceptance → Evolution - The pattern repeats until you accept it, then it disappears from your life THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You feel like a "bad person" because of your big emotionsYou've been told you're "too much" your whole lifeYou fight with your partner and wonder if you're fundamentally brokenYou're tired of Instagram-perfect relationship adviceYou believe messy is more honest than polished WHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT: ❌ Structured (we literally had zero plan and went on massive tangents) ❌ Polished (we interrupt each other constantly, Tomash loses his train of thought, I move locations mid-episode) ❌ A 5-step solution (no frameworks, no formulas, just truth) ❌ Short (we ramble about ego, acceptance, childhood patterns, and Pepo for over an hour) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ The most honest thing ever - We almost didn't post it because it felt too random ✅ Real revelation - Listening back to fights showed me I was reacting to my own filters ✅ Permission to be messy - Big emotions don't make you a bad person ✅ Proof you're not broken - Your core self is separate from your emotions ✅ Practical tool - Meet Pepo, love your ego instead of fighting it ✅ The pattern explained - Why the same thing keeps happening until you accept it ABOUT US: I'm Martina (33, feels everything, talks in tangents, says "you know" 47 times). He's Tomash (36, calm AF, wants structure, literally says "I'm leaving with resistance" at the end, gets triggered when I interrupt). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets. We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We record with zero plan and somehow end up with gold. We have completely different memories of the same events. We choose each other anyway. English is our second language. I swear when passionate. Tomash can't believe people listen to our random yapping. Buchta snores. Our fridge is extra loud. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ Special shoutout to Heather from Langhorn, PA for her Magnetic black and white Leather Bracelets order! 💕 LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinarajcan/ Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. This episode is proof that chaos doesn't need a point to be meaningful. Or at least that's what I tell myself while recording unstructured podcasts. 💕 P.S. - I almost deleted this episode because it felt too random. Then I realized: random IS real.  P.P.S. - If you've ever felt like you're "too emotional" or a "bad person" because of your reactions, this is for you. You're not broken. You're just human. Welcome home. 🌱 P.P.P.S. - Tomash wants you to comment if you actually listened to the end (he can't believe people do). I want you to comment: What story are you making up about something neutral in your life right now? 💬 P.P.P.P.S. - "I tried so hard and got so far, in the end it doesn't even matter" - Thanks Chester. This one's for you. 🤘 This is life. Messy, pointless, beautiful, real. No plan, lots of tangents, exactly as it should be. 🎢

  8. Jun 12

    6. Why Relationship Conflict Is Actually Good For You (We Fought While Recording This)

    Send us Fan Mail We started recording about why relationship conflict is GOOD... then we literally had a conflict mid-episode. I cried in the bathroom for 35 seconds. We came back. We worked through it on mic. We proved our entire point in real time. The most meta episode ever. 😂 This is Part 5 of our completely unfiltered love story, recorded from our garden in Vietnam with Buchta snoring and a woman learning to drive a motorbike outside (you'll hear it all). If you missed the previous parts: Part 1: Met in high school 2009, dated ONE WEEK, didn't speak for 12 YEARS Part 2: Reconnected 2020, 9 days talking nonstop, Croatia trip, moved in after 3 weeks Part 3: Found the product, launched Magnetic Couples Bracelets in 17 days, hit $10k/month Part 4: His honeymoon phase vs. my mental breakdown—same 5 months, different realities WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT: ✨ The Unpopular Opinion - Why intense, triggering relationships are actually transformational (not toxic) ✨ The Dirty Water Theory - How Tomash poured "clean water" into my "dirty cup" and 28 years of suppressed emotions overflowed ✨ Resistance → Acceptance → Love - My 6-year journey from crying 5 times a day to actually being chill ✨ Why Conflict Increases Your Capacity to Love - How every fight cleared emotional space in my body ✨ The Good Girl Pattern - Suppressing emotions my whole life created a pressure cooker that exploded when I finally felt safe ✨ Then We Literally Proved It - Tomash says "that's not my experience," I get triggered, we have a meta fight about how to do this podcast ✨ The Bathroom Cry Break - 35 seconds of crying, then coming back to work through it in real time ✨ Why We're Different - I speak in labyrinth tangents. He wants structure and bullet points. We make it work anyway. ✨ The Energy Healing Box - Why we spent 3.5 years meditating and "healing" (spoiler: it just created more resistance) ✨ What Actually Helped - My dad dying, stopping all the spiritual stuff, accepting "this is what it is right now" THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF: You fight with your partner A LOT and wonder if that's normalYou've been told your relationship is "too intense" (but it doesn't feel toxic)You get triggered by your partner constantlyYou want to hear conflict resolution in real time, uneditedYou're tired of polished relationship contentYou believe growth is uncomfortable WHAT THIS EPISODE IS NOT: ❌ Polished (we fight, pause, cry, come back, keep recording) ❌ Structured (I tangent for 15 minutes, Tomash gets triggered) ❌ Advice (just our messy story) ❌ Short (over an hour because we got sidetracked by our own conflict) WHAT THIS EPISODE IS: ✅ The most meta thing ever - We proved our point by living it in real time ✅ Brutally honest - You hear the trigger, the conflict, the resolution ✅ Two perspectives - I say "we," he says "that's not my experience" (becomes a whole thing) ✅ Real dynamics - Interrupting, disagreeing, triggering, working through it, loving anyway ✅ Permission to be messy - Intense relationships are transformational, not toxic ✅ Live proof - Resistance → acceptance → love, demonstrated on mic ABOUT US: I'm Martina (33, feels everything, talks in tangents, pee 3 times during episode, says "we" when I mean "I"). He's Tomash (35, calm AF, wants structure, gets triggered by my 47 open boxes). We're the couple behind Magnetic Couples Bracelets . We live in Vietnam. Together 24/7 for 6 years. We fought constantly for years and it made us BETTER. We have completely different memories and communication styles. We choose each other anyway. English is our second language. I swear when passionate. Tomash wants you to comment if you actually listen (he can't believe people do). Buchta snores. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Magnetic Couples Bracelets: https://www.magneticcouplesbracelets.com/ LET'S CONNECT: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/martinarajcan/ Have a beautiful day or night, wherever you are. This episode is proof that conflict isn't the end - it's transformation. Or at least that's what we tell ourselves while crying in bathrooms. 💕 P.S. - We fought about how to podcast WHILE podcasting ABOUT fighting. The irony is not lost on us. 😂 P.P.S. - If your relationship feels "too intense," this is for you. Intensity isn't toxicity. It's evolution. (Unless it actually is toxic—then leave. But if you're just growing and it's uncomfortable... welcome home.) 🌱 This is life. Messy, triggering, transformational, real. Buckle up. 🎢

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What Is Life? is Martina talking about all the stuff we're supposed to keep quiet about — the messy emotions, the f**k-ups, the "am I the only one feeling this?" moments. Hi! I'm Martina. I feel like I've lived 330 lives in my 33 years of life, I've moved like 47 times in 6 different countries, I have a golden retriever named Buchta, and I co-built a multi-million dollar couples bracelets business with my boyfriend while simultaneously wondering if we were gonna break up every other week. Plot twist: I created this podcast to be MINE - my solo thing, my space. Episode 1 was just me, finally. Episode 2? Tomash, my boyfriend, crashes it. Every episode since he won't freaking leave! The guy who literally said "I don't do podcasts, do it alone“ is now here. Every. Single. Time. And the universe is laughing because I wanted this for YEARS — us, together, talking. But it only happened when I stopped white-knuckling the dream and let that shit go. That's LIFE: giving you exactly what you want the second you stop being a control freak about it. I started this because I couldn't stop asking "what is life?" after my third breakdown, second country, and approximately 86 moments of thinking "there's something fundamentally wrong with me." There wasn't. I was just a human being having a human experience, which apparently includes: moving to different country every few years, dating the wrong people for the right reasons, building a business while having daily meltdowns, and learning that nothing you plan actually happens the way you plan it. This podcast is chaos. Sometimes solo, sometimes Tomash interrupts with his completely different memory of the same event (we literally live in 2 different relationships, I swear), sometimes our golden retriever Buchta snores so loud you'll think your audio is broken. We record on balconies & streets in Vietnam, we disagree mid-episodes, we forget what we were talking about. I overshare like it's my job (it kind of is now). Don't expect Instagram highlight reel, no "5 steps to fix your life" - this is just two people figuring it out in real-time and saying it out loud. If you've ever felt too much, moved too fast, f****d up too hard, or wondered if everyone else got a manual you didn't — welcome home. Grab a coffee. Buckle up. It's messy… It’s LIFE!

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