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To see more episodes, go to https://counselorsonthecouch.buzzsprout.com  Counselors on the Couch presents insider perspectives on a variety of topics to help individuals and couples understand how counseling, coaching, and self help can change your life. Our team and guests speak openly from personal experiences and perspectives, giving you a peak into what counselors see and know that you can use to deepen your awareness and fill your personal toolbox with the answers to your self-help questions.

  1. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 04 | Restoring Your Self Concept and Worth

    Week 4 — Recovering Your Self-Concept and Reclaiming Your Worth This video explores how betrayal trauma affects self-concept, identity, worth, body image, sexual confidence, spiritual peace, and a woman’s ability to trust her own judgment. Betrayal does not only make a woman question her husband. It can make her question herself. Many betrayed women ask painful questions: Should I have seen it? Was I not enough? Did I fail him? Was I too emotional? Was I not attractive enough? Was I not available enough? Can I trust my own judgment? What does this say about me? These questions turn the wound inward. Instead of keeping responsibility where it belongs, the pain begins looking for a place to land. For many betrayed women, that place becomes the self. This video names the whispered lies betrayal often plants: “If I were prettier, he would not have done this.” “If I were more sexual, he would not have betrayed me.” “If I had been a better wife, this would not have happened.” Those thoughts may feel like self-reflection, but underneath they are accusations against worth. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. His choices are not your fault. His betrayal is not your identity. Your worth is not up for debate. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #SelfWorth #ChristianCounseling #InfidelityRecovery #GaslightingRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

  2. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 05 | Relational Distancing After Betrayal Trauma

    Week 5 — Relational Distancing: When the Distance Begins to Swallow You This video explores relational distancing after betrayal trauma. When the person who once felt familiar begins to feel unsafe, the heart pulls back. The body pulls back. The mind pulls back. His voice may not feel safe. His touch may not feel safe. His apologies may not feel safe. His promises may not feel safe. Even his presence may not feel safe. At first, distance may be necessary. It may be the nervous system’s way of saying that the old level of access is no longer safe. A woman may need emotional distance, physical distance, sexual distance, conversational distance, or spiritual distance from the person who wounded her. But over time, distance can spread. A woman may begin distancing not only from the betrayer, but from herself, her emotions, her body, her judgment, her friends, her family, her church, and even God. What began as protection can slowly become isolation. This video explores fear-based beliefs such as “No one is safe,” “If I trust, I will be betrayed,” “I cannot trust myself,” “Hope is dangerous,” or “God will ask me to endure more pain.” These beliefs come from real pain, but a belief can be understandable and still be too absolute. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. Healing does not mean forced closeness. It means careful reconnection, beginning with the self. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #RelationalDistancing #ChristianCounseling #MarriageHealing #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

  3. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 06 | Safety Versus Comfort: Choosing What Heals Over What Feels Good

    Week 6 — Safety Versus Comfort: Choosing What Heals Over What Feels Good This video explores the difference between safety and comfort in betrayal trauma recovery. After betrayal, the desire for immediate relief is powerful. The nervous system wants the pain to stop. The heart wants certainty. The body wants rest. A woman may reach for anything that lowers the anxiety, even briefly. Comfort asks, “How can I feel better right now?” Safety asks, “What actually helps me heal?” Avoiding hard conversations may feel comforting. Checking the phone one more time may feel comforting. Demanding reassurance may feel comforting. Forgiving quickly so the tension goes away may feel comforting. Staying quiet to avoid conflict may feel comforting. But temporary relief is not the same thing as healing. Safety does not mean nothing hurts. Safety is not the absence of grief, fear, triggers, sadness, hard conversations, or discomfort. In this program, safety means not being overwhelmingly wounded again in the same way, to the same degree, without warning and without recourse. This video explores sexual safety, emotional safety, physical safety, and spiritual safety. It also addresses how control can masquerade as safety after betrayal. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. Healing means learning to choose what heals, not only what soothes. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #SafetyAfterBetrayal #ChristianCounseling #MarriageRecovery #Boundaries #HealingAfterBetrayal

  4. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 07 | Boundaries Versus Control: Protecting Yourself Without Controlling Others

    Week 7 — Boundaries Versus Control: Protecting Yourself Without Controlling Others This video explores one of the most important distinctions in betrayal trauma recovery: boundaries versus control. After betrayal, a woman needs protection, clarity, truth, accountability, and safety. She cannot simply go back to the old level of access as though nothing happened. But in the fear and pain that follow betrayal, it is easy to confuse boundaries with control. Control says, “You must change so I can be okay.” A boundary says, “This is what I will do in response to what is happening.” Control reaches across the line and tries to manage someone else’s behavior, emotions, thoughts, or choices. A boundary stays on one’s own side of the line. It defines what a woman will accept, refuse, participate in, or remove herself from. This video explains why control cannot heal betrayal. Control may create temporary compliance, but it does not create integrity, repentance, honesty, or true safety. Boundaries are different. Boundaries protect. They create clarity. They help a woman say, “Your choices are yours, but my participation is mine.” This video also addresses justice, consequences, confession, truth, and the danger of weaponizing truth through contempt, sarcasm, shame, or repeated punishment. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. Boundaries are not revenge. They are truth in action. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #Boundaries #ChristianCounseling #MarriageRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

  5. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 08 | Triggers and Core Fears: Understanding What Drives Your Reactions

    Week 8 — Triggers and Core Fears: Understanding What Drives Your Reactions This video explores triggers and core fears in betrayal trauma recovery. A trigger is what touches the wound. A core fear is the wound underneath. After betrayal, ordinary things may stop feeling ordinary. A phone may not feel like a phone. Silence may not feel like silence. A vague answer may not feel like a vague answer. A delayed response may not feel like a delay. Something in the present touches something unresolved, and the body reacts as though danger is near. Triggers are signals, not commands. A trigger says, “Something in you has been activated.” It does not automatically require accusation, checking, control, withdrawal, or shutdown. It simply says, “Pay attention.” This video also explores core fears such as fear of rejection, abandonment, humiliation, deception, being replaced, being trapped, being unsafe, being foolish, being unwanted, or not being enough. Many of these fears existed before betrayal, but betrayal may intensify them and make them feel confirmed. This video helps distinguish discernment from worst-case thinking. Discernment asks, “What do I actually know?” Worst-case thinking says, “The worst possibility must be true.” Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. You cannot manage what you cannot see. Once you can see it, healing can begin moving in a new way. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #Triggers #CoreFears #ChristianCounseling #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

  6. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 09 | When Anger Becomes Bitterness

    Week 9 — When Anger Becomes Bitterness This video explores anger, bitterness, and the danger of allowing betrayal trauma to become the lens through which all of life is seen. Anger after betrayal is not strange. It is not automatically wrong. It is not proof that a woman is failing. Anger is an internal warning system. It says something sacred was violated, something precious was taken, something safe became unsafe, and something needs attention. The question is not whether anger will rise. It will. The question is what happens with it. This video explains the anger chain: trigger, hurt, frustration, anger, fury, and then the possible paths of aggression or bitterness. Anger can lead to clarity, truth, boundaries, wise action, and protection. But unexamined anger can also lead to control, contempt, punishment, aggression, isolation, despair, or bitterness. This video also addresses Post-Traumatic Embitterment Disorder as a warning sign, not a label of shame. When unresolved grief and unsurrendered anger harden, bitterness can become life-organizing. It can affect how a woman sees herself, her husband, relationships, church, God, and the world. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. Your anger makes sense, but your anger does not get to become your identity. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #AngerAfterBetrayal #Bitterness #ChristianCounseling #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

  7. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 10 | Preparing the Heart: When Walls of Anger Give Way to Growth

    Week 10 — Preparing the Heart: When Walls of Anger Give Way to Growth This video explores the heart work that comes after anger and bitterness. The next step after betrayal trauma is not forced forgiveness, quick reconciliation, or pretending the betrayal was smaller than it was. The next step is preparation. Before healing can take root, the heart must become ready to receive what God wants to do next. This video introduces the anger fortress, the emotional and spiritual structure a woman may build after betrayal to protect herself from being hurt again. At first, anger may feel like safety. It brings clarity, energy, and protection. It says, “This was wrong.” It says, “I will not be fooled again.” But if anger becomes the main way a woman stays safe, it can become a prison. The same walls that keep pain out may also keep love, empathy, faith, connection, gratitude, and joy from getting in. This video also explores lament, gratitude, surrender, and divine redirection. Lament is grief directed toward God. Gratitude is not denial; it is refusing to let betrayal become the only reality. Surrender is not passivity; it is letting God reclaim the heart from anger, control, bitterness, and fear. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. The invitation is not to open the gates to unsafe people. The invitation is to open the drawbridge to God. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #ChristianCounseling #Lament #Forgiveness #MarriageHealing #HealingAfterBetrayal

  8. Jul 7

    Broken by Betrayal 11 | Preparing for Change, Forgiveness, and a New Love Story

    Week 11 — Preparing for Change: Forgiveness and the New Love Story This video explores forgiveness, covenant, healing timelines, and the possibility of a new love story after betrayal trauma. For many betrayed women, the word forgiveness does not feel comforting. It may sound like pressure, silence, trust too soon, reconciliation too soon, or being told to make everyone else comfortable. That is not what forgiveness means here. Forgiveness is not pretending the betrayal was small. It is not excusing sin. It is not removing consequences. It is not forgetting. It is not trusting automatically. It is not reconciliation. It is not staying. It is not leaving. It is not giving the betrayer immediate access to the heart, body, or future again. Forgiveness is surrendering the debt to God. This video also explains why forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thing. Forgiveness can be chosen by one person. Reconciliation requires two people. Forgiveness is spiritual release. Reconciliation is relational restoration. Forgiveness may happen while trust is still broken, but reconciliation requires trust to be rebuilt. This video also explores the two paths forward: staying and rebuilding, or separating and moving forward. Neither path bypasses healing. Staying without healing becomes denial, control, resentment, or fear-based accommodation. Leaving without healing carries the wound forward. Broken by Betrayal is a Christian betrayal trauma recovery program for women healing from infidelity, pornography use, sexual secrecy, emotional betrayal, and broken trust. The live online group begins August 2026. To learn whether the program may be right for you, schedule a free 15-minute discovery call or video chat:  https://intakeq.com/booking/tr4gs1?serviceId=ea03faef-0768-431c-a314-d4d5c50221c9 For more options, call 757-965-5450.  Learn more at https://trccounseling.com/ Registration for the free preview course opens mid-July 2026. You can pre-register by texting your name and email to 757-965-5450, and we will notify you when registration opens. Women who register early for the full subscription program by August 1, 2026, will receive a complimentary printed copy of the Broken by Betrayal workbook/manual by mail, a $49 value. Every participant will also receive the digital workbook inside the online course. Forgiveness is not the end of the story. It is the doorway through which healing continues. #BrokenByBetrayal #BetrayalTrauma #Forgiveness #ChristianCounseling #MarriageRecovery #InfidelityRecovery #HealingAfterBetrayal

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To see more episodes, go to https://counselorsonthecouch.buzzsprout.com  Counselors on the Couch presents insider perspectives on a variety of topics to help individuals and couples understand how counseling, coaching, and self help can change your life. Our team and guests speak openly from personal experiences and perspectives, giving you a peak into what counselors see and know that you can use to deepen your awareness and fill your personal toolbox with the answers to your self-help questions.

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