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Honest growth for women in the messy middle of their 20s. Hosted by Kare Shriver. New episodes every Wednesday. Live with Kare.

Episodes

  1. 2d ago

    why you stay up late even when you know better

    you're not tired. you're not done being a person yet. this week is about the thing you did last night and will probably do again tonight. staying up too late, scrolling, one more episode, stealing back an hour you swear you deserve. the internet calls it revenge bedtime procrastination. we get into the real version of it, why willpower at midnight was never the part that broke, and why the hour you lose at night actually got taken from you way earlier in the day. then, like always, your care package. one small piece of your day to take back before you're too tired to want it. live with care 🤎 research credited in this episode:Kroese, F. M., De Ridder, D. T. D., Evers, C., & Adriaanse, M. A. (2014). Bedtime procrastination: introducing a new area of procrastination. Frontiers in Psychology, 5, 611. Kamphorst, B. A., Nauts, S., De Ridder, D., & Anderson, J. H. (2018). Too Depleted to Turn In: The Relevance of End-of-the-Day Resource Depletion for Reducing Bedtime Procrastination. Frontiers in Psychology, 9, 252.

  2. Jul 15

    the real reason you stay in a relationship you don't want

    "i just regret all the time that i lost." i said that sentence out loud, to my friends, to my family, like it was wisdom. it took an embarrassingly long time to notice it wasn't about him and it wasn't even about the past. it was a sentence about the future. this week we're on the sunk cost fallacy. why we stay, why it isn't hope and isn't love, and the reason this one is so hard to catch: it's one of the only ways we destroy ourselves that sounds like being responsible. we get into arkes and blumer's 1985 theater ticket study and the desire not to appear wasteful, and then into christopher olivola's 2018 research showing we honor other people's sunk costs too, even a stranger's. which changes the whole picture of what two people are doing when neither one will say it's over. the care package this week: name the sentence you use when someone asks why you're still in it. run it through the only question that works. then ask them. new episodes every wednesday. live with care 🤎

  3. Jul 8

    that cringe moment from 4 years ago? nobody remembers it but you

    you ever trip walking into a party, or send a text that doesn't get the response you wanted, and then replay that one tiny moment on a loop for the next four years? same. this week is about the audience you invented in your head, the one watching you way closer than any real person ever has. last week we talked about how fast we hand other people a verdict. this week we flip it: "i think everyone is reading me." it's the same ego, just pointed back at yourself. the name for it is the spotlight effect. we get into the actual study behind it (gilovich, medvec and savitsky, 2000, in the journal of personality and social psychology, aka the barry manilow t-shirt experiment), why you're about twice as noticed in your own head as you are in the real room, what social media does to a brain that already assumes there's a hidden camera on it, and the hangxiety spiral that makes all of it ten times worse. and the hard part: nobody is watching you that closely. but that's the part that sets you free, because if we built the spotlight, we get to take it back. homework's at the end, three steps, do it while nobody's watching. the word this week is the spotlight effect. new episodes every wednesday. live with care 🤎 #spotlighteffect #socialanxiety #overthinking #psychology #livewithcare

  4. Jul 1

    you're not a good judge of character, you're just judging

    You decided who she was before she finished handing you your coffee. One short reply, one bad text, one look, and you've got a stranger's whole character written. He's a jerk, she's fake, he's lazy, she's cold. Case closed. The problem is you were never actually reading people. You were casting them. This week we get into the fundamental attribution error: the quiet, flattering habit of explaining other people by their character and yourself by your circumstances. We start on Love Island (light spoilers, you've been warned), where one guy gets branded "lustful" for doing the exact thing a girl three couples over calls "just figuring it out," and we work down to the version you're running on the group chat, the interstate, and your own mother. Fritz Heider laid the groundwork in 1958, Lee Ross named it in 1977, and Jones and Harris proved back in 1967 that we'll judge you for a position we know you were assigned. Then we turn it around, because the real gut-punch isn't how you judge them. It's how much grace you hand yourself for the same thing. No shame, no "everyone's secretly an angel." Just one smaller, harder move: hold the scene open one beat longer before you issue the verdict. You leave with the word, a recast exercise, and one question to ask the next time someone does the annoying thing. The deeper dive on the history and the mechanism is over on YouTube: How to Live with Kare. New episodes every Wednesday. Available anywhere you stream. live with care 🤎

  5. Jun 24

    he's not mysterious, he's avoidant

    It's 11pm and he still hasn't texted back. You've done the math. You know it hasn't actually been that long. And you're still holding your phone like it'll go off if you just believe hard enough. This week we get into the anxious-avoidant loop: the one who chases, the one who pulls away, why they keep finding each other, and why it never feels solvable from the inside. We trace where these patterns actually come from, and then we name the thing keeping you hooked. It's called intermittent reinforcement, the same variable reward schedule B.F. Skinner found inside a slot machine. The inconsistency was never a red flag you kept missing. It's the hook. And here's the part nobody tells you: the spark you've been reading as love might just be anxiety. The calm, consistent person doesn't feel boring because the love is missing. They feel boring because the alarm is. We close with your Care Package, three steps to trace your own chasing back to what you were really asking for, and whether you could give a little of that to yourself first. Want the psychology first? The whiteboard breakdown of all four attachment styles is up now on YouTube. Watch that, then come back here for the personal version. New episodes every Wednesday. Live with care 🤎

  6. Jun 17

    the birthday audit

    it's my birthday. which used to mean cake and now mostly means a performance review nobody scheduled. somewhere along the way birthdays stopped being a celebration and became a deadline, and i show up every year to audit myself against a list i don't even remember writing. this week i get into the "by now i should have" list, why almost all of us keep one, and where the social clock actually comes from. i talk about pressing the pencil too hard, the woman you're losing to who got assembled out of the best parts of five different people and doesn't exist, and the courtroom in my head where i finally noticed there was never a judge. plus the realest stuff: leaving tampa, moving home at 22, walking away from the masters, and learning i'm not measured by what i can check off in a day. you're not behind. being behind would mean there's a front, and there isn't. you're on time because on time is whatever you decide it is. Live with care.

  7. Jun 10

    your inner critic isn't wrong, she's just mean

    There's a voice in your head that gets loud the second you slow down, and she's brutal — but what if she's not actually wrong, just mean about it? This week I get into where your inner critic comes from, how to tell a coach worth listening to from a troll you need to block, and why the move was never to silence her but to translate her. Because "lazy" is usually just "scared" wearing a meaner face. Live with care.

  8. Jun 3

    why your groupchat is making you worse

    When something goes wrong, who do you text first, and is it because they'll help you see it clearly, or because you already know they'll take your side? This episode I get into venting culture and why we go looking for agreement instead of perspective, usually to protect a story we've already decided is true. The friends who never push back might be the ones keeping you stuck.

  9. Jun 3

    how to start something when you've already failed 12 times

    You've started the same thing a dozen times and quit a dozen times, so by now you've decided the problem is you: you're lazy, you have no discipline. But what if it's not a discipline problem at all — it's a bar problem? This episode I get into why we set goals we have no real shot at keeping, how the ego is quietly running the whole thing, and what actually changes when you lower the bar instead of raising the stakes.

  10. Jun 3

    you're more of the problem than you think

    We build the ego young, as armor against a world that didn't feel safe, and then we forget we're still wearing it into rooms that were never dangerous. In the first episode, I get into where that armor comes from, how it gets passed down through a family, and why the thing protecting you is so often the same thing hurting the people you love. This is the foundation for everything this show is about.

  11. Episode 1

    welcome to how to live with kare

    Welcome to How to Live with Kare — a podcast about ego, self-awareness, and the slow, honest work of actually growing. Each week we dig into the stories we tell ourselves and why we tell them. First three episodes drop June 3rd.

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Honest growth for women in the messy middle of their 20s. Hosted by Kare Shriver. New episodes every Wednesday. Live with Kare.

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  • Creator
    Kare
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    11
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Kare