The Motherless Mother

Tishka Moss
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Your mother died. But you kept living. And somehow, life keeps finding new ways to make you miss her.The Motherless Mother is a reflective storytelling podcast about those moments—the ordinary ones, the milestones, and the ones you never see coming.Hosted by Tishka Moss, each episode begins with an honest story and explores the ways mother loss continues to meet us as we move through motherhood, midlife, family, memory and simply becoming the women we're becoming.Because losing your mother doesn't mean you stop being her daughter.Years later, there are still questions you wish you could ask. Things you understand about her now that you're older. Moments you wish she could see. Days when you're perfectly capable of handling everything yourself—and still just want your Mom.This isn't a podcast about getting over grief or learning how to move on. It's a place to recognize some of the things we feel but don't always know how to name.Some episodes may make you cry. Others may make you laugh, remember something you'd forgotten, or see your own experience a little differently.So take a few quiet minutes.You don't have to be the mother, wife, professional or person holding everything together here.For a little while, you can simply be her daughter.Want to know more about the woman your mother was?Download the free 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy guide at TheMotherlessMother.com. New episodes every Tuesday.Exploring the moments that make us miss her all over again.

  1. 5d ago

    Episode 17: The Things I Judged My Mother For Before I Had Children

    There were things Mummy did when I was growing up that I was absolutely certain made no sense. Why did my little sister have to come everywhere with me? Why couldn't Mummy just go to sleep when I was out late? Why could everybody sleep at our house when I wasn't allowed to sleep at theirs? And why, from where I stood, did her life seem so... boring? Then I became a mother. In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I'm looking back at some of the things I judged my mother for before I had children—and what I understand differently now that I'm the one making the decisions, worrying about the children and occasionally being the unreasonable mother. Some things make perfect sense to me now. Some I've adopted for my own children. And others have left me with questions I didn't know enough to ask Mummy while she was still here. Because one of the strange things about mother loss is that you can still be getting to know your mother years after she dies. Sometimes life gives you the understanding only after the person you most want to talk to about it is gone. Something to carry: What is one thing you judged your mother for when you were younger that you see differently now? Want to know more about the woman your mother was? Download my free 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy guide at TheMotherlessMother.com. Have something you'd like to share with me? Email hello@themotherlessmother.com. New episodes every Tuesday. The Motherless Mother — exploring the moments that make us miss her all over again.

    Episode 17: The Things I Judged My Mother For Before I Had Children

  2. Sep 29

    Episode 16: When Did I Become The Grown-Up?

    You're the grown-up now. You're the one raising the children, making the decisions, filling out the forms, scheduling the appointments and somehow being expected to know where everybody's missing shoes are. But becoming the grown-up doesn't necessarily mean you stop needing one. In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I'm reflecting on one of the quieter realities of motherhood after losing your mother: being the person your children look to for answers while still wishing you could turn around and ask your own mother, What do you think? My mother had her mother for most of her adult life. I don't have that anymore. But I've also discovered that family hierarchies are funny things—especially when you have aunties who aren't entirely convinced you're grown. This week, one of mine decided I'd been home long enough and needed a job. She found one she thought I should apply for, sent me the email address for my résumé...and then called to tell me to apply. No consultation required. Very much something my mother would have done. 😂 And somewhere in that wildly unsolicited career management was a reminder: we can be somebody's grown-up and still miss our own. In this episode: What it feels like to become the grown-up after losing your motherWhy our children may mistake our decision-making for certaintyMissing the person you still want to ask, “What would you do?”The aunties and older women who remind us we're still somebody's daughterWhy being capable doesn't mean we stop needing careFaith, uncertainty and learning where to take the questionsMaybe being the grown-up isn't the same thing as no longer needing one. And maybe our mothers didn't have everything figured out either. Maybe they simply loved us enough to keep figuring it out. If this episode made you think of another motherless mother, send it to her. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast Follow or subscribe so a new episode finds you every Tuesday. The Motherless Mother — Because motherhood makes you miss your mother in new ways. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 16: When Did I Become The Grown-Up?

  3. Sep 22

    Episode 15: I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now

    When I was 19, my mother was 46. Back then, 46 sounded middle-aged to me. Grown grown. Surely by that age, you knew who you were, had life figured out and had done most of the becoming. Now I’m 46. And apparently, 19-year-old me had absolutely no idea what she was talking about. In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, I reflect on midlife, motherhood and mother loss by looking back at the woman my mother, Lillian, was at 46—and at how different my own life looks at the very same age. She had three older children and had been married for 25 years. I have an eight-year-old, a five-year-old, and I'm still figuring out motherhood, marriage, work, purpose and what I want the next part of my life to look like. But this isn't really about comparing our lives. It's about realizing that our mothers were still becoming too. At 46, my mother had no idea that three years later she would become a grandmother or that five years later she would become a mother-in-law. Those versions of herself were still ahead of her. And maybe there are versions of us we haven't met yet either. Whether your mother is still here or you're navigating life after losing your mother, this episode is an invitation to think about the woman your mother was at the age you are now—and what may still be waiting for you beyond the life you can see today. We’re still living forward. 🎧 I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now A New Perspective on Age, Motherhood and What’s Still Possible The Motherless Mother Podcast For the moments you thought were yours alone. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 🌐 TheMotherlessMother.com

    Episode 15: I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now

  4. Sep 16

    Episode 14: I Knew Mummy. But Did I Know Her?

    I knew my mother very well. But after losing her, I’ve found myself wondering about all the versions of her I never got to meet. The tomboy-ish little girl who was mischievous but afraid of getting spanked. The young woman who became Miss Nassau Beach Hotel. The sister who went dancing with my Auntie Wasi and gave men fake names—Linda Pinder and Sandra Fernander—and then switched places when those men called the house. I knew Mummy. But who was Lillian before she was my mother? In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I explore a part of mother loss and grief we don’t always talk about: the questions that come after our mothers are gone. As we grow older, become mothers ourselves and experience more of life, we can become curious about getting to know our mothers as women—not only as “Mummy,” but as the people they were before us. For motherless daughters and women mothering without their mothers, those questions can feel bittersweet. But sometimes pieces of our mothers’ stories are still here—in siblings, relatives, photographs and the memories of people who loved them too. And if your mother is still here, perhaps this episode will leave you thinking about the questions you still have time to ask her. Who was your mother before she was your mother? Want to know more about your mother's story? Download my free guide, 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy. 💌 hello@themotherlessmother.com 🌐 TheMotherlessMother.com The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone.

    Episode 14: I Knew Mummy. But Did I Know Her?

  5. Sep 9

    Episode 13: Who Do I Call Now? Motherhood After Losing Your Mother

    My mother was usually my first call of the morning and my last call at night. Sometimes I needed advice. Sometimes I had news. But most of the time, I called her about absolutely nothing. Nearly six years after losing her, there are still moments when something happens and my first thought is: I need to call Mummy. In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I’m talking about missing your mother after she dies—especially the ordinary phone calls I miss most. I explore the difference between having people who love and support you and still wanting your mother, and the strange reality of mother loss: life keeps giving us new questions long after the person we want to ask is gone. I also share what receiving some very good news this week made me want to do almost immediately—and how being the person my own children call has made me see those ordinary “Mummy!” moments differently. In this episode: Why sometimes I don’t want an answer—I want her answerThe ordinary calls I never knew I would missWhy relationships aren’t interchangeableThe limits of memory when life keeps creating new questionsThe privilege hidden inside being someone’s ordinary phone callIf this episode made you think of another motherless mother, please share it with her. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast Follow or subscribe wherever you listen, and if these conversations have meant something to you, consider leaving a rating or review to help another woman find the show. The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 13: Who Do I Call Now? Motherhood After Losing Your Mother

  6. Sep 1

    Episode 12: The Mother I Thought I’d Be

    Before I became a mother, I had ideas about the kind of mother I would be—and the kind of woman I would remain. Then I actually became one. Motherhood didn't just add children to my life. It changed my priorities, my ambitions, and even my definition of success. And somewhere along the way, I started wondering about something women hear all the time: Don't lose yourself in motherhood. But what if I didn't lose myself? What if motherhood simply introduced me to a version of myself I couldn't have known before? In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I'm reflecting on motherhood and identity—the mother I imagined, the woman I've actually become, and the fear of losing yourself in motherhood. I explore what happens when motherhood changes your ambitions and priorities, and why I'm learning that a changed dream isn't necessarily a smaller one. Because I may not be the mother I thought I'd be. But I think I like her. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast Follow or subscribe wherever you listen, and if these conversations have meant something to you, consider leaving a rating or review to help another woman find the show. The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 12: The Mother I Thought I’d Be

  7. Aug 27

    Episode 11: What Kind of Mother Will They Remember?

    One day, our children will tell stories about us. What will they remember? Losing my mother changed the way I think about memories. I don’t remember whether she got motherhood right every time. I remember her—her smile, her laugh, the scents she wore, the meals she made, the softness of her skin, and the way she showed up. And lately, I’ve been wondering: What will my children remember about me? After weeks of traveling together—from watching my son compete for The Bahamas to exploring London and Paris—I’ve been especially aware that we are making their memories right now. But we don’t get to choose which moments become the memories. Maybe they’ll remember the big trips and milestones. Or maybe they’ll remember that we laughed together. That we apologized when we got it wrong. That home felt safe. That they never had to earn our love. In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, I’m reflecting on motherhood, memory and the legacy we leave our children—including the pressure to be a perfect mother and what our children may actually remember about being raised by us. Because perhaps the goal isn’t to raise children who remember a perfect mother. It’s to raise children who never have to question whether they were deeply loved. 💌 This week’s question to carry: How does it feel to be loved by me? If this episode resonates, share it with another mother, follow or subscribe, and consider leaving a rating or review. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 11: What Kind of Mother Will They Remember?

  8. Aug 11

    Episode 10: I Wish My Mother Could See This

    There are moments when the joy is so big — and right alongside it comes the ache. I wish my mother could see this. As I prepare to travel to Trinidad to watch my son represent The Bahamas as part of the national swim team, I've found myself thinking about the person I most wish could be in the stands with me: my mother. But one of the things I've learned about grief after losing my mother is that it doesn't only show up in the big moments. It's there in the funny things our children say. The ordinary Tuesdays. The milestones, struggles and pieces of life we still instinctively want to turn around and share with the woman who knew us first. In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, I'm reflecting on motherhood after losing your mother—and what it means to miss not only the person, but the witness to the life you're now living. We talk about the pieces of our mothers we carry into our own motherhood, the way their absence can find us even in joyful moments, and what it means to hold grief, gratitude and faith at the same time. Because we can trust God and still miss our mothers. We can be deeply grateful for the lives we're living and still wish they were here to see what happened next. In this episode: Missing your mother in life's biggest and smallest momentsMotherhood after losing your motherThe instinct to still want to tell her everythingCarrying your mother's influence into your own motherhoodHolding joy and grief at the same timeFinding hope and faith in the midst of griefIf this episode brings to mind something you wish your mother could see, I'd love to hear about it. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with another motherless mother, follow or subscribe, and consider leaving a rating or review. The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 10: I Wish My Mother Could See This
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Your mother died. But you kept living. And somehow, life keeps finding new ways to make you miss her.The Motherless Mother is a reflective storytelling podcast about those moments—the ordinary ones, the milestones, and the ones you never see coming.Hosted by Tishka Moss, each episode begins with an honest story and explores the ways mother loss continues to meet us as we move through motherhood, midlife, family, memory and simply becoming the women we're becoming.Because losing your mother doesn't mean you stop being her daughter.Years later, there are still questions you wish you could ask. Things you understand about her now that you're older. Moments you wish she could see. Days when you're perfectly capable of handling everything yourself—and still just want your Mom.This isn't a podcast about getting over grief or learning how to move on. It's a place to recognize some of the things we feel but don't always know how to name.Some episodes may make you cry. Others may make you laugh, remember something you'd forgotten, or see your own experience a little differently.So take a few quiet minutes.You don't have to be the mother, wife, professional or person holding everything together here.For a little while, you can simply be her daughter.Want to know more about the woman your mother was?Download the free 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy guide at TheMotherlessMother.com. New episodes every Tuesday.Exploring the moments that make us miss her all over again.

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  • Creator
    Tishka Moss
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    18
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Motherless Mother
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