The Motherless Mother

Tishka Moss
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Have you ever wished you could call your mother just to tell her something ordinary? Do you sometimes miss her in ways you never expected, even years after losing her? Or find yourself wondering why certain moments affect you so deeply? Welcome to The Motherless Mother, a storytelling podcast about losing your mother and discovering how mother loss continues to shape everyday life, often in ways you hadn't considered before. I'm Tishka, a daughter, wife, and mother discovering that grief doesn't stay in the moment you lose someone. Life continues, but losing your mom changes how you experience motherhood, marriage, relationships, milestones, and even the most ordinary moments. I began sharing my stories out of obedience to God's calling, hoping they might help another woman while preserving my mother's legacy for future generations. Through honest, personal storytelling and reflection, I share the unexpected ways I still miss my mom, the memories that resurface, and the things I'm learning about myself and my mother. Along the way, you may recognize experiences you've struggled to put into words and discover that you're not as alone in them as you thought. This isn't a podcast about moving on from your mother. It's about continuing to live, grow, laugh, love, and experience life while still missing her. Because sometimes you're the mother, the wife, the responsible adult... and you still want to tell your Mom what happened. If you've ever listened to someone else's story and thought, "I thought it was just me," pull up a chair. You may find more of your own story here than you expected.

  1. 5d ago

    Episode 21: The Christmas Magic Maker: Missing Your Mom During the Holidays

    How do you make Christmas magical for your children when you're missing your own mom? What happens when you're excited about the holidays but also feeling sadness, loneliness, or even resentment because she isn't here to share them with you? In this episode of The Motherless Mother, Tishka shares how hearing her sister's favorite Christmas song transported her back to childhood and got her thinking about the emotional tightrope of being both a mother and a daughter during the holiday season. From creating Christmas traditions for her children to quietly wishing her own mummy were still here, Tishka explores the complicated feelings that can come with mother loss during the holidays, including the ones we don't always admit out loud. In this episode, you'll hear about: How Christmas memories can bring both laughter and heartache.The pressure of creating holiday magic for your children while grieving your mom.Why gratitude, joy, jealousy, and sadness can coexist.Letting go of the expectation that every Christmas moment has to be perfect.Something to carry with you: You don't have to feel magical every day to create meaningful memories for your children. If this episode resonates with you, share it with another daughter who might need to hear it. Follow The Motherless Mother for new episodes every Tuesday. Connect with Tishka: Email: hello@themotherlessmother.com

    Episode 21: The Christmas Magic Maker: Missing Your Mom During the Holidays

  2. Oct 27

    Episode 20: When Someone Still Remembers Your Mom or Dad - Why Hearing Their Names Means So Much

    Have you ever had someone unexpectedly mention your mother or father after they've died? Did hearing their name make you smile, even though you still miss them? Have you ever wondered how many other people are carrying memories of your parents that you've never heard? Sometimes, life after losing your mother or father brings unexpected moments of comfort. In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, we explore how parental loss and grief can show up in everyday life—not only through sadness, but through laughter, curiosity, gratitude, and the joy of discovering that someone else still misses your parent too. When Tishka stops at a store to buy snacks for her children, she learns that the employees have just been talking about her late Daddy, Mr. Scott. That ordinary encounter leads her to reflect on the lives her parents lived beyond being Mummy and Daddy, the people who knew them differently, and the memories that continue to be shared. She also introduces listeners to Dra and Boum—the special names her children used for their grandparents—and reflects on how her faith brings comfort and hope as she remembers both parents. Something to carry this week: The people we love can leave memories in places we'll never see and in people whose stories we'll never fully know. And sometimes, we receive the unexpected gift of hearing about one. If you've ever smiled because someone unexpectedly mentioned a parent you've lost, this conversation is for you. Connect with Tishka: Email: hello@themotherlessmother.comWebsite: TheMotherlessMother.comFollow The Motherless Mother Podcast for new episodes every Tuesday, and share this episode with another daughter who might find herself in the story. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 20: When Someone Still Remembers Your Mom or Dad - Why Hearing Their Names Means So Much

  3. Oct 20

    Episode 19: Still Missing Your Mom Years Later? Why It Doesn't Mean You're Stuck in Grief

    Two people who love me recently wondered whether talking about my Mummy every week on this podcast might actually be keeping me stuck in grief. Their concern came from a place of love, but it raised a question I hadn't really considered before: At what point does remembering someone become being unable to move forward? And who gets to decide? In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, I'm exploring the difference between remembering someone we've lost and being consumed by their absence. We talk about why grief after losing your mother doesn't always look like sadness, what it really means to move forward after mother loss, and how our relationships with those we've lost can continue to have meaning. This conversation is for anyone who still misses their mother, no matter how much time has passed, and for the people who love them but may not always understand. Because moving forward doesn't necessarily mean remembering less. I'm not stuck. I just miss her still. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Connect with me on Instagram at @themotherlessmotherpodcast or email hello@themotherlessmother.com. Visit TheMotherlessMother.com for my free guide, 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy.

    Episode 19: Still Missing Your Mom Years Later? Why It Doesn't Mean You're Stuck in Grief

  4. Oct 13

    Episode 18: Who Has Your Back After Losing Your Mom? The Mama Bear I Still Miss

    Six years after losing my Mom, I found myself at a wedding thinking about the kind of mother she was — and the kind of mother I'm becoming. My mother, Lillian Scott, was the ultimate Momma Bear. She loved her children fiercely, but that didn't mean she automatically took our side. If we were wrong, she told us so. Still, we never had to question whether she was in our corner. And she had a very particular warning for anyone preparing to marry one of her children! In this episode, I'm sharing the wedding moments that brought those memories flooding back, the famous “government road” warning my mother gave her future sons- and daughters-in-law, and what it meant to grow up knowing I always had someone looking out for me. Mother loss has a way of revealing itself in unexpected moments, even years later. And one of the things I miss most about my Mummy is the security of knowing that, no matter how old I got, I was still her baby. Now I'm raising two children of my own, trying to give them that same sense of love and protection, while learning to live without the woman who gave it to me. Something to carry: Is there a particular way your mother made you feel that you still miss? Or perhaps a kind of love and protection you wish you'd experienced? I'd love to hear your story. Email me at hello@themotherlessmother.com  Until then, remember—you're still her daughter.

    Episode 18: Who Has Your Back After Losing Your Mom? The Mama Bear I Still Miss

  5. Oct 6

    Episode 17: The Things I Judged My Mother For Before I Had Children

    There were things Mummy did when I was growing up that I was absolutely certain made no sense. Why did my little sister have to come everywhere with me? Why couldn't Mummy just go to sleep when I was out late? Why could everybody sleep at our house when I wasn't allowed to sleep at theirs? And why, from where I stood, did her life seem so... boring? Then I became a mother. In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I'm looking back at some of the things I judged my mother for before I had children—and what I understand differently now that I'm the one making the decisions, worrying about the children and occasionally being the unreasonable mother. Some things make perfect sense to me now. Some I've adopted for my own children. And others have left me with questions I didn't know enough to ask Mummy while she was still here. Because one of the strange things about mother loss is that you can still be getting to know your mother years after she dies. Sometimes life gives you the understanding only after the person you most want to talk to about it is gone. Something to carry: What is one thing you judged your mother for when you were younger that you see differently now? Want to know more about the woman your mother was? Download my free 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy guide at TheMotherlessMother.com. Have something you'd like to share with me? Email hello@themotherlessmother.com. New episodes every Tuesday. The Motherless Mother — exploring the moments that make us miss her all over again.

    Episode 17: The Things I Judged My Mother For Before I Had Children

  6. Sep 29

    Episode 16: When Did I Become The Grown-Up?

    You're the grown-up now. You're the one raising the children, making the decisions, filling out the forms, scheduling the appointments and somehow being expected to know where everybody's missing shoes are. But becoming the grown-up doesn't necessarily mean you stop needing one. In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I'm reflecting on one of the quieter realities of motherhood after losing your mother: being the person your children look to for answers while still wishing you could turn around and ask your own mother, What do you think? My mother had her mother for most of her adult life. I don't have that anymore. But I've also discovered that family hierarchies are funny things—especially when you have aunties who aren't entirely convinced you're grown. This week, one of mine decided I'd been home long enough and needed a job. She found one she thought I should apply for, sent me the email address for my résumé...and then called to tell me to apply. No consultation required. Very much something my mother would have done. 😂 And somewhere in that wildly unsolicited career management was a reminder: we can be somebody's grown-up and still miss our own. In this episode: What it feels like to become the grown-up after losing your motherWhy our children may mistake our decision-making for certaintyMissing the person you still want to ask, “What would you do?”The aunties and older women who remind us we're still somebody's daughterWhy being capable doesn't mean we stop needing careFaith, uncertainty and learning where to take the questionsMaybe being the grown-up isn't the same thing as no longer needing one. And maybe our mothers didn't have everything figured out either. Maybe they simply loved us enough to keep figuring it out. If this episode made you think of another motherless mother, send it to her. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 📱 Instagram/Facebook/YouTube: @themotherlessmotherpodcast Follow or subscribe so a new episode finds you every Tuesday. The Motherless Mother — Because motherhood makes you miss your mother in new ways. You are still her daughter.

    Episode 16: When Did I Become The Grown-Up?

  7. Sep 22

    Episode 15: I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now

    When I was 19, my mother was 46. Back then, 46 sounded middle-aged to me. Grown grown. Surely by that age, you knew who you were, had life figured out and had done most of the becoming. Now I’m 46. And apparently, 19-year-old me had absolutely no idea what she was talking about. In this episode of The Motherless Mother Podcast, I reflect on midlife, motherhood and mother loss by looking back at the woman my mother, Lillian, was at 46—and at how different my own life looks at the very same age. She had three older children and had been married for 25 years. I have an eight-year-old, a five-year-old, and I'm still figuring out motherhood, marriage, work, purpose and what I want the next part of my life to look like. But this isn't really about comparing our lives. It's about realizing that our mothers were still becoming too. At 46, my mother had no idea that three years later she would become a grandmother or that five years later she would become a mother-in-law. Those versions of herself were still ahead of her. And maybe there are versions of us we haven't met yet either. Whether your mother is still here or you're navigating life after losing your mother, this episode is an invitation to think about the woman your mother was at the age you are now—and what may still be waiting for you beyond the life you can see today. We’re still living forward. 🎧 I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now A New Perspective on Age, Motherhood and What’s Still Possible The Motherless Mother Podcast For the moments you thought were yours alone. 📧 hello@themotherlessmother.com 🌐 TheMotherlessMother.com

    Episode 15: I Thought I’d Be Grown by Now

  8. Sep 16

    Episode 14: I Knew Mummy. But Did I Know Her?

    I knew my mother very well. But after losing her, I’ve found myself wondering about all the versions of her I never got to meet. The tomboy-ish little girl who was mischievous but afraid of getting spanked. The young woman who became Miss Nassau Beach Hotel. The sister who went dancing with my Auntie Wasi and gave men fake names—Linda Pinder and Sandra Fernander—and then switched places when those men called the house. I knew Mummy. But who was Lillian before she was my mother? In this episode of The Motherless Mother, I explore a part of mother loss and grief we don’t always talk about: the questions that come after our mothers are gone. As we grow older, become mothers ourselves and experience more of life, we can become curious about getting to know our mothers as women—not only as “Mummy,” but as the people they were before us. For motherless daughters and women mothering without their mothers, those questions can feel bittersweet. But sometimes pieces of our mothers’ stories are still here—in siblings, relatives, photographs and the memories of people who loved them too. And if your mother is still here, perhaps this episode will leave you thinking about the questions you still have time to ask her. Who was your mother before she was your mother? Want to know more about your mother's story? Download my free guide, 10 Questions I Wish I'd Asked Mummy. 💌 hello@themotherlessmother.com 🌐 TheMotherlessMother.com The Motherless Mother — for the moments you thought were yours alone.

    Episode 14: I Knew Mummy. But Did I Know Her?
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Have you ever wished you could call your mother just to tell her something ordinary? Do you sometimes miss her in ways you never expected, even years after losing her? Or find yourself wondering why certain moments affect you so deeply? Welcome to The Motherless Mother, a storytelling podcast about losing your mother and discovering how mother loss continues to shape everyday life, often in ways you hadn't considered before. I'm Tishka, a daughter, wife, and mother discovering that grief doesn't stay in the moment you lose someone. Life continues, but losing your mom changes how you experience motherhood, marriage, relationships, milestones, and even the most ordinary moments. I began sharing my stories out of obedience to God's calling, hoping they might help another woman while preserving my mother's legacy for future generations. Through honest, personal storytelling and reflection, I share the unexpected ways I still miss my mom, the memories that resurface, and the things I'm learning about myself and my mother. Along the way, you may recognize experiences you've struggled to put into words and discover that you're not as alone in them as you thought. This isn't a podcast about moving on from your mother. It's about continuing to live, grow, laugh, love, and experience life while still missing her. Because sometimes you're the mother, the wife, the responsible adult... and you still want to tell your Mom what happened. If you've ever listened to someone else's story and thought, "I thought it was just me," pull up a chair. You may find more of your own story here than you expected.

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  • Creator
    Tishka Moss
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    22
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Motherless Mother
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