The Women Who Guided Me

Parris

The Women Who Guided Me is an Australian podcast bringing together wise, experienced women in the birth and postpartum space, in one place, so more women can find them.  From doulas and midwives to somatic therapists, bodyworkers and birth educators, women who don't just inform but help you trust yourself. This podcast isn’t just about adding more information but empowering you to own your birth journey. Each episode is a warm, honest conversation with a practitioner whose work genuinely makes a difference, covering everything from birth values and self-advocacy to postpartum healing and recovery. The podcast grew from my own experience — an empowering vaginal breech birth supported by an extraordinary network of women — and my desire to make those wise voices accessible to every woman navigating pregnancy, birth and motherhood.

Episodes

  1. 5d ago

    Episode 11: Honouring the Sacred Postpartum Window with Doula Kellie Hermes

    Kellie Hermes is a Canberra-based birth and postpartum doula, Reiki practitioner and mother of four, and the founder of Adorabirth. Her path into this work began with her own births,  including the loss of her first baby, and the deeply supported water birth of her daughter that followed, guided by a continuity-of-care midwife who believed completely in her body. That experience of being trusted through a hard posterior labour became the blueprint for the doula she is today. In this conversation we talk about what a doula offers beyond the birth room and why the weeks after birth need slowness and structured community rather than isolation. Kellie talks about how she supports both mothers and partners in the postpartum period and the different archetypes doulas move between depending on what a woman needs. We also get into how partners can stay grounded and involved without stepping on the mother's bond with her baby, why Kellie believes families need structured support rather than a vague "just ask if you need anything," and the bigger systemic shifts — from Nordic-style parental leave to models like Seven Sisters for Seven Days — that she thinks would change postpartum for the better. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Reiki: an energy-based healing practice; Kellie is trained in Reiki I & II and used self-Reiki to move through transition during her own labourContinuity of Care Programme: a midwifery care model, such as the one at Canberra Hospital, where a woman is supported by the same known midwife throughout pregnancy, birth and postpartumSeven Sisters for Seven Days by Michelle Peterson: a structured postpartum support model where one person from a woman's circle checks in on an assigned day of the week for six weeks after birthRhea Dempsey: Australian doula, author and birth educator known for her work on labour support and the archetypes doulas and midwives embody (the mother, the sister, the wise woman)Nordic parental leave policies: the extended, family-centred paid parental leave models used in countries like Sweden and Norway, cited as a benchmark for postpartum supportCONNECT WITH KELLIE Adorabirth — Birth & Postpartum Doula, Canberra Book a free chat via her website — https://www.adorabirth-kelliehermesdoula.com Related reading: “Honouring the Sacred Postpartum Window: Why Every Mother Needs Support Beyond Family” — Kellie's blog post on her website.

    Episode 11: Honouring the Sacred Postpartum Window with Doula Kellie Hermes
  2. Aug 9

    Episode 10: Allowed to Birth — Filming a Global Midwife with Jacinta Lagos

    Jacinta Lagos is an Argentinian-born filmmaker, birth photographer and videographer now based in the United States. She started out as a wedding videographer, then documented her own two pregnancies and discovered birth photography as its own genre, before training as a doula because she refused to just be “a fly on the wall.” Allowed to Birth: The Journey of a Global Midwife is her debut as a feature filmmaker. It follows midwife Kristine Lauria, who has attended over 5,000 births across more than 25 countries, including war zones and refugee camps, and explores how birth is supported, and sometimes constrained, across very different healthcare systems. This isn't a film that sets out to be anti-hospital or pro-home birth. It's about respectful care, and about the idea that birth can be a magical rite of passage in any setting, including a caesarean, if a woman feels safe, secure and respected. In this conversation, Jacinta talks about what called her to make the film after years spent behind the camera at births, the biggest revelations that came out of filming across such different cultures and healthcare systems, and what she wants women, wherever they're giving birth, to take from it. SHOW NOTES 00:00 - Introduction to Jacinta Lagos and her filmmaking journey00:24 - Jacinta’s transition from wedding videography to birth documentation00:49 - The inspiration behind "Allowed to Birth" and witnessing obstetric violence01:15 - Jacinta’s early work and focus on normalizing birth through media02:34 - Meeting Christine Laurier and the story of creating the documentary03:12 - The global perspective on birth practices and cultural influences03:51 - The meaning behind the film's title and its implications for women’s rights04:21 - How the film aims to change perceptions on individual and systemic levels11:28 - Barriers for first-time mothers engaging with birth knowledge12:55 - Challenging misconceptions about hospital birth and medicalization14:08 - The importance of respecting bodily autonomy and informed consent16:39 - The societal normalization of intervention and trauma in birth systems17:36 - The power of personal stories and first-person experiences in transforming attitudes19:13 - The inclusivity of the film and its non-graphic approach to birth imagery22:26 - The serendipity and harmony observed during Jacinta's filmmaking process27:45 - The transformational power of birth and its significance as a rite of passage28:45 - Reframing birth as a sacred, culturally meaningful experience32:45 - How respectful and safe environments enable women to have positive birth experiences36:38 - Obstetric system challenges: training gaps and misconceptions about risks40:39 - Jacinta's upcoming plans and the film's reception goals41:13 - Engaging audiences, sparking conversations, and promoting birth autonomyCONNECT WITH JACINTA & THE FILM Allowed to Birth: The Journey of a Global Midwife Distributed by Common Ground Film Australia Screening across Australia September–November. Canberra screening: 16 September. Follow Common Ground Film Au, Allowed to Birth, or Jacinta's personal account on Instagram for tickets and details.

    Episode 10: Allowed to Birth — Filming a Global Midwife with Jacinta Lagos
  3. Aug 2

    Episode 9: Pregnancy after Birth Trauma with Rhiannah Pohlman

    Rhiannah Pohlman (rhiannahrose.com.au) is a naturopath and counsellor supporting women navigating pregnancy and birth after a traumatic experience. Trained by Dr Catherine Bell, she is a birth cartographer, helping women map their births, advocate for their choices and build contingency plans, alongside nervous system regulation and birth story integration. She brings all of this together through Flourish, her pregnancy support program. Rhiannah was called to this work after two traumatic births of her own, each one teaching her something different about what she needed to feel safe. She has taken those lived experiences and built a program to support other women planning for birth after trauma. Rhiannah's first birth was a rural hospital induction that stretched over three days, ending in forceps, a vacuum delivery and a fourth-degree tear, with little support or referral afterwards. The second, years later, began as a healing natural labour just days before a scheduled caesarean, before turning into an emergency when her son's heart rate dropped. Two very different experiences. Both, she says, shaped everything she now does with women. In this conversation Rhiannah shares her birth stories, what she learnt and what changed in her as a result. The beauty in it all is that she still believes in birth and its power for transformation. We talk about what birth trauma actually is, how it can show up in your system, the importance of care providers using trauma-informed language, and what it takes to rebuild self-trust before trying again. In this episode: •Rhiannah’s own two birth stories, and what she learned from each •What birth trauma actually is, and why it’s about how you felt, not what happened •How birth trauma can show up in your day-to-day life, sometimes years later •Why she still believes in birth, and its power for transformation •The importance of care providers using trauma-informed language •Rebuilding self-trust before trying again Content note: this episode discusses birth trauma in detail. If that’s not something you’re up for today, look after yourself and come back to this one another time CONNECT WITH RHIANNAH rhiannahrose.com.au Instagram: @rhiannah_rose Flourish is Rhiannah's full pregnancy support offering, blending naturopathy, nervous system work, counselling and birth mapping for women preparing for birth after a traumatic experience. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Birth Map: a structured decision-making and communication tool created by Dr Catherine Bell, birthmap.lifeBirth cartography: mapping the different pathways a birth can take, so decisions can be made from an informed, rather than reactive, placeNervous system regulation: working with the body's threat response, not just talking through what happenedTrauma-informed language: the words and framing used by care providers that can either support or retraumatise a woman

    Episode 9: Pregnancy after Birth Trauma with Rhiannah Pohlman
  4. Jul 26

    Episode 8: My Mother's Birth Story

    I'm in Perth at the moment visiting my family, and I thought it would be a good opportunity to sit down with my mum and talk to her about her birth story, so how I was born. In the lead up to my son's birth late last year, my parents came over from Perth, and I remember asking my mum about her birth story. I found it a really empowering thing to listen to, and it gave me a lot of strength going into my own birth, because she went through something that was really hard and got through it. And I thought, that's in me. That birth story is in me. Her mum had five kids, and my mum will tell you more about it, but she got through some really hard things as well. So that was a real sense of strength for me going into my own birth. And I thought, what a cool thing for women to talk to their mums about how they were born. So I thought let's record my mum's birth story, and how I was born, and put it out there. SHOW NOTES What my mum remembers about her own birth, and what she was told growing upThe long road to falling pregnant with me, and the blood tracking that finally got us thereFinding out at nine weeks there were two heartbeats, and what happened at the sixteen week scanA pregnancy with no internet, just thick library books, and not really knowing what was going to happen to her bodyWhat she didn't want, more than anything, going into labourWaters breaking at a wedding, in stockings, with no panic at allA long induced labour, and the moment she was told it was caesarean or epiduralMeeting me for the first time, and the eye contact she still remembersGoing up to the ward the next day in her grandmother's pearls to talk to the women who were about to give birth

    Episode 8: My Mother's Birth Story
  5. Jul 19

    Episode 7: Informed, Supported, Confident with Dr Catherine Bell, Creator of The Birth Map

    Dr Catherine Bell is the creator of the Birth Map, a birth advocate and Managing Director of Maternity Choices Australia. After her own birth experiences left her with questions she didn't have the knowledge to answer, and after listening to countless mothers say they wished they had been better informed, Catherine set out to close that gap. In this episode Catherine walks us through what the Birth Map is and how it differs from a birth plan, what her PhD research found about what women genuinely need to feel prepared for birth, and why the word consent is failing women in the birth room. We also hear stories from her research that bring the findings to life — including a woman who moved to a caesarean pathway with almost joy because the decision was fully hers, and what consistently determined whether women in her study felt at peace with their birth or carried it as trauma. It was not what happened, it was how it happened. Find the Birth Map at birthmap.life. Catherine is also speaking on the panel at the Canberra screening of Allowed to Birth on 16 September at Dendy Cinemas. What's covered in this episode: What the Birth Map is and how it differs from a birth planHow to genuinely prepare for birth in a way that builds confidence rather than anxietyWhy informed consent as it currently operates in the maternity system is failing women and what should replace itHow to make decisions in labour when time is short and the pressure is onWhat your rights are as a woman navigating the Australian maternity systemHow to advocate for yourself with your care providerWhat Catherine's research found about preventing birth trauma before it happensCONNECT WITH CATHERINE birthmap.life Instagram: @birthmapping Maternity Choices Australia: maternitychoices.org.au RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Birth Map: a structured decision-making and communication tool for birth preparation. birthmap.lifeThe Game of Birth: a visual decision-making tool mapping physiological, medical and caesarean pathways using statistics from the Mother Baby ReportRealist Evaluation: a research methodology developed by Pawson and Tilley asking what works for whom, in what circumstances and whySensemaking: the process of building understanding of various options before making a decision, drawn from Karl Weick’s workSupported Maternal Decision Making: Catherine’s preferred term replacing shared decision making, placing responsibility clearly with the womanMatrescence: the developmental and identity transformation of becoming a motherThe BRAIN acronym: Benefits, Risks, Alternatives, Instinct, Nothing — a decision-making framework used in the Birth MapThe Bendigo consent case: a landmark Victorian case in which a woman’s lack of consent to vaginal examination was tested in courtMaternity Choices Australia: working with Catherine to implement the Birth Map approach in Australian maternity servicesAllowed to Birth: The Journey of a Global Midwife — Canberra screening 16 September, Dendy Cinemas. Catherine is on the panel.

    Episode 7: Informed, Supported, Confident with Dr Catherine Bell, Creator of The Birth Map
  6. Jul 12

    Episode 6: 42 Years of Chinese Medicine — Acupuncture, Fertility and Birth with Dr Jan Jamieson

    Dr Jan Jamieson has been practicing acupuncture and Chinese medicine in Canberra for over 42 years. She holds a Masters of Traditional Chinese Medicine from Western Sydney University and is currently a PhD candidate at ANU, where her research sits at the intersection of fertility and ethics in Chinese Medicine. She is AHPRA registered and a member of the Australian Acupuncture and Chinese Medicine Association. Jan did not plan to become an acupuncturist. She was an English teacher when her then-husband enrolled her, without quite asking, in four years of full-time Traditional Chinese Medicine study. That accidental beginning led to one of the most quietly remarkable careers in Canberra's women's health community. For most of those 42 years, Jan has focused almost exclusively on gynaecology and fertility, drawn early to home births and never really looking back. What Jan brings to this conversation is not clinical authority in the conventional sense. It is something rarer: 42 years of sitting with women at the most vulnerable moments of their reproductive lives, watching patterns repeat across generations, and developing a quiet, precise understanding of what the body is actually doing and what it needs. We cover how acupuncture supports women through pregnancy, from first trimester anxiety and nausea to cervical preparation from 36 weeks. We talk about what Chinese medicine sees in conditions like endometriosis that Western medicine has been slow to name, and why Jan was diagnosing it 20 years before it became a mainstream conversation. We talk about fertility and what Jan actually does in her treatment room with women who cannot conceive. Not just the physical interventions, but the emotional weight she holds alongside them. She shares a story about a woman who spent two years in bitterness over her inability to conceive, who one day looked at a friend's baby with nothing but love, and who was pregnant the next morning. We talk about information overload and the tightrope women walk between being informed enough to navigate the system and staying connected to their own instincts. About why partners so often side with doctors over their labouring partner. About what Jan sees in women who come back for a second birth with a fire in them that wasn't there before. What this episode covers: What acupuncture does in pregnancyHow to prepare cervix for birthChinese medicine and endometriosisNatural IVF support VBAC success storiesBirth anxiety during pregnancy

    Episode 6: 42 Years of Chinese Medicine  — Acupuncture, Fertility and Birth with Dr Jan Jamieson
  7. Jul 5

    Episode 5: Birth, the Nervous System and Somatic Healing with Psychotherapist Anna Siebert

    Anna Siebert (somawomenswellbeing.com.au) is a somatic psychotherapist, former doula and childbirth educator, and the founder of Soma Women’s Wellbeing in Canberra. She has spent decades working at the intersection of trauma, the nervous system and women’s health. Anna is a woman who has sat inside the system, been failed by it in ways that should not happen, and built something extraordinary in response.  Her three births are all incredible and all taught her something deep. The first ended in birth trauma and postpartum psychosis. The second, a planned home birth, ended with a torn pelvis following an intervention she did not consent to. The third, a forty minute labour during COVID lockdown, she caught herself.  We cover a lot of ground in this episode. We talk about what the nervous system actually does during birth, and why the maternity system as it currently exists is fundamentally designed against women’s physiological needs. Bright lights, strangers, direct questions, the smell of a hospital all trigger a threat response that slows labour, diverts blood away from the uterus and puts both mother and baby under physiological stress.  We talk about why women go along with things they did not want, and why they feel shame about it afterwards. Anna explains what actually happens in a female threat response, shaped by estrogen, oxytocin and decades of social conditioning, and why compliance in the birth room is not weakness, it is a nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do when safety feels threatened. We talk about what birth trauma actually is. Not the story your mind tells about what happened, but the incomplete response your body is still trying to finish — sometimes years later. Anna explains why talk therapy has limits when it comes to trauma that lives below the level of language, and what somatic therapy can reach that thinking alone cannot. She describes a concept know  as spontaneous cognitive reappraisal, the shift in meaning that emerges naturally from the body when trauma is resolved rather than talked around. And we talk about why Anna built Soma. A response to something she kept seeing in her therapy room: women who could not get well because what they actually needed was not another one-on-one session. They needed community. Safe ways to move their bodies. A place to land. Soma is that place — a women’s wellbeing centre in Canberra offering yoga, Pilates, somatic therapy, sound healing, acupuncture, massage and women’s circles, with community care places available for women who cannot afford full fees. What this episode covers: What is somatic therapyNervous system and birthWhy women comply in birth Birth trauma in the bodyPostpartum psychosis recoveryPolyvagal theory pregnancyCONNECT WITH ANNA somawomenswellbeing.com.au Instagram: @somawellbeing_cbr Soma Women’s Wellbeing is located in Canberra. Yoga, Pilates, sound healing, somatic therapy, acupuncture, massage and women’s circles. Community care places available for those who cannot afford full fees. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Somatic Experiencing: a body-based trauma therapy developed by Dr Peter LevinePolyvagal Theory: the science of the social engagement system and nervous system regulationEhlers Danlos Syndrome: a connective tissue disorder affecting joints and connective tissueSpontaneous cognitive reappraisal: the meaning-making shift that follows trauma resolution in somatic workSoma Women’s Wellbeing Winter Roots programme: community donations to Beryl House supporting women experiencing housing insecurity

    Episode 5: Birth, the Nervous System and Somatic Healing with Psychotherapist Anna Siebert
  8. Jun 28

    Episode 4: Breech Baby, Understand Your Options with Midwife Sasha Hopkins

    Sasha Hopkins (barefootvibes.com.au) is an endorsed midwife, birth educator and host of The Breech Birth Podcast, based in south east Queensland. She is one of a small but growing number of practitioners in Australia actively working to bring vaginal breech birth back into the conversation. When I found out my son was breech at 38 weeks, Sasha was the first person my doula Kylie told me to call. I had just been told by the hospital in Canberra that I would not be supported there. Sasha was wholeheartedly supportive from the very first conversation. She had a lot of faith in me, and I had never spoken to her before. She also connected me to Breech Without Borders, an organisation founded in 2018 by Dr Rixa Freeze, which became one of the most important resources in my birth preparation. In this conversation we cover what breech actually means, why vaginal breech birth disappeared from Australian hospitals, what your options are if your baby is breech, and the single most important question to ask your care provider. What this episode covers: What to do if baby is breechThe different breech positionsVaginal breech birth AustraliaBreech baby 36 weeks optionsECV success rateBreech birth risks vs caesareanHow to turn breech babyCONNECT WITH SASHA barefootvibes.com.au The Breech Birth Podcast: available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts Instagram: @sasha_barefoot_vibes and @breechbirthpodcast RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Breech Without Borders: breechwithoutborders.org. Founded in 2018 by Dr Rixa FreezeThe Term Breech Trial: landmark study that changed global clinical practice, since redactedThe Promoter Study: more recent research showing better outcomes with trained practitionersBetty Ann Davis: YouTube video demonstrating fundal pressure techniqueWestmead Hospital Breech Clinic: SydneyReclaiming Breech Birth workshop: ACM CPD endorsed, delivered across Australia

    Episode 4: Breech Baby, Understand Your Options with Midwife Sasha Hopkins
  9. Jun 10

    Episode 3: Preparing Your Body For Birth - Pelvic Health with Bodyworker Lo Mathias

    Lo Mathias (talltreespelviccare.com.au) is an endorsed midwife based in Canberra specialising in internal pelvic release work — a deeply embodied approach to preparing the body for birth and healing postpartum. Lo also offers scar work and closing the bones ceremonies to women preparing for birth and recovering postpartum. A few days before recording this conversation I had my first session with Lo, seven months postpartum. I want to be honest about what that was like , because I think a lot of women will hear the words internal pelvic release and feel exactly what I felt. A combination of curiosity and apprehension. After everything my body had been through in labour and birth, the idea of anyone going near that space again felt confronting. But what Lo does is not what you experience in a standard clinical setting. It is slow. It is guided entirely by you. And for me it was less about fixing something and more about reclaiming something , reconnecting with a space that had been poked and prodded and monitored, on my own terms.  Lo also introduced me to an idea that softness is a skill. That the body’s ability to yield and release tension is something we actually have to learn , because most of us have spent our whole lives being told to be strong, to hold it in, to tighten up. And then we arrive at birth and wonder why we can’t let go. CONNECT WITH LO talltreespelviccare.com.au Lo is also on Instagram. Details on her website. Instagram: @talltreespelviccare RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Fiona Hallinan — Lo’s initial internal pelvic release teacher; her website includes a directory of trained practitionersThe Pelvic Space, Melbourne — Fiona Hallinan  practice; directory of practitioners who have completed her trainingNaomi Vinavar — Mexican midwife and closing the bones teacher; Art of Birth websiteTracy Anderson-Askew, Transform Parenting — mentioned in conversation around nervous system work and outsourcing wisdomDr Rachel Reed — referenced in conversation around mixed messaging women receive from the hospital systemSpinning Babies — mentioned in the context of breech presentation

    Episode 3: Preparing Your Body For Birth - Pelvic Health with Bodyworker Lo Mathias
  10. Jun 10

    Episode 2: Emotional Preparation and the Birth Debrief with Birth Educator Tracey Anderson Askew

    Tracey Anderson Askew (transformparenting.com.au) is a birth educator, coach and parenting specialist with nearly thirty years of experience guiding women through pregnancy, birth and early parenthood. Tracey runs Transform Parenting, a program that takes you all the way from pregnancy through to the first years of raising your child. I first met Tracey about four weeks postpartum, introduced through my doula Kylie. Kylie suggested I share my birth story on Tracey's podcast, and Tracey became one of those women I couldn't let go of. In this conversation we cover what it really means to prepare emotionally for birth, self-advocacy in a hospital setting, how any type of birth can be empowering, and something that doesn't get nearly enough attention: the birth debrief. Why processing your birth story matters, who it's for, and what can happen when that story goes unprocessed. What this episode covers: Emotional preparation for birthHow to prepare emotionally for birthWhat is a birth debriefHow to advocate for yourself in hospital birthLetting go of the birth planBirth trauma recoveryHow to process your birth storyWhat is matrescenceFear of birth anxiety during pregnancy CONNECT WITH TRACEY transformparenting.com.au Tracey's podcast: Transform Your Birth — listen for Parris's birth story episode Instagram: @transform_parenting RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Transform Parenting: birth preparation through to the first seven yearsMatrescence: the neurological and identity transformation of becoming a motherInformed consent: a legal right in Australian maternity careThe birth map: a communication tool for your care team, not a fixed planTransform Your Birth podcast: includes Parris's breech birth story

    Episode 2: Emotional Preparation and the Birth Debrief with Birth Educator Tracey Anderson Askew

About

The Women Who Guided Me is an Australian podcast bringing together wise, experienced women in the birth and postpartum space, in one place, so more women can find them.  From doulas and midwives to somatic therapists, bodyworkers and birth educators, women who don't just inform but help you trust yourself. This podcast isn’t just about adding more information but empowering you to own your birth journey. Each episode is a warm, honest conversation with a practitioner whose work genuinely makes a difference, covering everything from birth values and self-advocacy to postpartum healing and recovery. The podcast grew from my own experience — an empowering vaginal breech birth supported by an extraordinary network of women — and my desire to make those wise voices accessible to every woman navigating pregnancy, birth and motherhood.

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