Share the Pants: Dating, Marriage & Everything in Between

Joel Everitt + Nicole Powers
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Married couple, Nicole and Joel, discuss all things love and relationship.

Episodes

  1. 3d ago

    The Insecurities I Had to Face Before Finding My Person

    What did Joel have to overcome before finding his queen? In this deeply personal episode, Joel steps into the spotlight to answer a listener question about the insecurities, struggles, and life experiences that shaped his journey to love. From being the shy kid who got teased at school, to years of self-doubt, partying, failed goals, weight struggles, and believing he had little to offer a partner, Joel shares the honest story of what kept him stuck and what ultimately helped him move forward. Along the way, Nicole and Joel unpack confidence, rejection, self-worth, and the difference between becoming perfect versus becoming ready for a healthy relationship. If you've ever wondered whether your insecurities, past mistakes, or lack of relationship experience are holding you back from finding love, this conversation is for you. In this episode: • The confidence struggles that followed Joel from childhood into adulthood • Why he didn't have a serious relationship until his late 30s • The self-improvement changes that transformed his life • What rejection can do to your sense of self-worth • How the right partner reflects back the best parts of who you already are • Why finding love isn't about becoming perfect Plus, Nicole and Joel share their first predictions for the newest season of Married at First Sight and reveal which couples they're rooting for, which ones they're worried about, and who they think won't make it to Decision Day. Have a question you'd like us to answer on the podcast? Send it our way. We just might feature it in a future episode. Submit your question HERE (the form takes less than 5 minutes to complete and you can remain anonymous if you like) Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  2. Jul 14

    Did The Bachelor Make a Huge Mistake Casting Taylor Frankie Paul?

    Before the season even aired, Taylor Frankie Paul's run as the Bachelorette became one of the most controversial in franchise history. Now that reports suggest the season air soon and we have a lot of feelings about it. Was Taylor unfairly villainized? Did ABC knowingly cast someone who wasn't ready for the role? And has The Bachelor lost sight of what made us fall in love with the franchise in the first place? In this episode, we discuss: Why we're so conflicted about watching Taylor's seasonThe toxic relationship dynamics between Taylor and Dakota and why it's more complicated than "good guy vs. bad guy"Whether ABC bears more responsibility than Taylor herselfWhy emotionally unavailable leads make it harder to believe in the love storyHow reality TV can blur the line between authentic romance and manufactured dramaWhy we believe The Bachelor is at its best when it puts love, not chaos, at the center of the storyWhether you're a longtime Bachelor fan or just fascinated by the psychology of relationships, this conversation goes far beyond reality TV.  It's about what happens when wounded people try to find love under the brightest spotlight imaginable and whether a franchise built on romance can survive if it starts prioritizing drama over genuine connection. Are you worried your relationship might be toxic?  Want our advice on your situation?   Submit a question HERE and we might answer it on air! (you can remain anonymous and the form takes less than 3 minutes to fill out unless you write us a book) Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  3. Jul 7

    We Share the Pants Instead of Fighting Over Who Wears Them

    Hear the story behind the name Share the Pants and what it actually means inside Nicole and Joel's marriage. They talk about wanting a traditional courtship: chivalry, planned dates, clear pursuit, and intentionality without building a marriage around rigid gender roles or power struggles. They also revisit the early dating moments that shaped their dynamic: Nicole breaking her own rules and asking Joel out, Joel telling her he wasn’t dating anyone else, Nicole admitting she still was, and the honest conversation that eventually helped them decide what they were building together. In this episode, they unpack: Why traditional dating and traditional marriage are not the same thingHow they handled different dating styles before becoming exclusiveWhat sharing the pants looks like in real lifeWhy healthy partnership doesn’t always mean 50/50How to build a relationship dynamic that actually fits both peopleIf you’ve ever felt like you don’t fit neatly into one relationship box — too romantic to be fully modern, too independent to be fully traditional — this episode will help you think about love, leadership, partnership, and compatibility in a more honest way. Do you have a dating or relationship question you’d love us to answer on the podcast? Ask your question HERE  (it takes less than 5 minutes...unless you decide to write us a novel 😉)   Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  4. Jul 3

    How Long Is Too Long to Wait for a Proposal?

    Our first listener question comes from a woman who's been with her boyfriend for 9 years and is wondering if she's wasting her twenties waiting for a proposal.  In this episode, Nicole and Joel unpack one of the most common relationship conundrums:  How do you know if you're patiently waiting...or being strung along?  They discuss: Why the length of a relationship isn't always the biggest red flagThe difference between patience and moving the goalpostsWhy bringing up marriage isn't "pressure"How family history can influence someone's views on commitmentWhy love alone isn't enough to build a healthy, lasting marriage If you've ever questioned whether to keep waiting, start the conversation, or finally walk away, this episode will give you a fresh perspective on commitment—and the confidence to trust your own timeline.  Do you have a dating or relationship question you'd like us to tackle on the podcast?  We'd love to hear from you. Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  5. Jul 1

    Love on the Spectrum: The Proposal & Breakups We Can't Forget

    If you think every breakup is a failure, this episode might change your mind. We're diving into season four of Love on the Spectrum:  from Tyler's unforgettable Christmas-in-July proposal that had us both sobbing to the heartbreaking breakups that reminded us why love isn't enough. Along the way, we unpack what these couples can teach us about compatibility, communication, vulnerability, love languages, and why sometimes the healthiest relationship decision is to let each other go. Whether you're dating, engaged, married, or simply obsessed with Love on the Spectrum, this conversation is about much more than reality TV. It's about what healthy love really looks like. Topics we cover: Tyler's proposal and the thoughtful details that made it unforgettableWhat Connor and Georgie's relationship teaches about feeling unseenWhy Abby and David's breakup was the right decisionLove languages, unmet needs, and communicating before resentment buildsWhy ending the wrong relationship is an act of love, not failure Have a dating or relationship question you want us to answer on the podcast?  Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  6. Jun 30

    Dating Apps Aren't Why You're Still Single

    If you've ever said, "The apps are trash," you're not alone. As a dating coach, Nicole hears it every day. And while dating apps can absolutely be frustrating, she and her husband, Joel, met on Bumble.  They believe modern dating gets blamed for the wrong problem. In this episode, they compare the male and female experience of online dating, share what it was really like dating before they met each other, and explain why rejection, unrealistic expectations, and quick assumptions make dating feel harder these days. You'll also hear: Why men and women often think they have it worse on dating appsThe surprising "red flag" Joel got judged forWhy you shouldn't spend weeks messaging before meeting in personHow to build resilience instead of burning outWhy the dating app is just a vehicle to get you on the date, not the place to build the relationshipWhether you're exhausted by modern dating, thinking about deleting the apps, or trying to figure out why finding a healthy relationship feels so difficult, this conversation offers a refreshing perspective and a little hope that your person might still be one swipe away. Want some advice from Nicole + Joel? Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  7. Jun 30

    Why They Call This Dating Coach the "Catfish Coach"

    Welcome to the very first episode of Share the Pants! When dating coach Nicole Powers started swiping and chatting on dating apps for her clients, the internet gave her an unexpected nickname: "The Catfish Coach." In this episode, Nicole and her husband, Joel, explain what she actually does and how a simple idea turned into one of the most unique dating coaching businesses online. But this episode is about more than dating apps. You'll also hear: Why Joel inspired Nicole to become a dating coachHow their relationship changed the direction of her businessWhy Joel has become Nicole's secret weapon when evaluating men and dating situationsWhat makes their perspectives on love, dating, and healthy relationships so different and why that combination is the foundation of this podcastWhether you're single, dating, happily partnered, or just fascinated by relationships, this episode will introduce you to the kind of conversations you can expect every week on Share the Pants. In this episode: Why Nicole gets called the “Catfish Coach”What she actually does when she swipes and chats for clientsHow Joel feels about Nicole swiping for clientsWhy Joel became Nicole’s secret weaponWhat listeners can expect from Share the PantsHave a dating or relationship question you'd like us to answer on a future episode?  Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

  8. Jun 16

    Welcome to Share the Pants

    Hosted by dating coach Nicole Powers and her husband, Joel Everitt. Share the Pants is a podcast about love and relationships. Whether you're happily partnered, single-as-a-pringle, cautiously curious, or somewhere in between, you're welcome here. Subscribe now and join us for honest conversations, plenty of laughs, a few disagreements and our take on this crazy little thing called love. Send us Fan Mail Want more dating advice between episodes? Follow Nicole on social media Facebook & Instagram: @iamnicolepowers TikTok: @datingpowers

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Married couple, Nicole and Joel, discuss all things love and relationship.

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