The Connected Leadership Podcast

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Speaker and author on professional relationships, Andy Lopata, explores great connections with experts and high achievers worldwide.

  1. What's Your Bad Boss's Currency? with Andrew Bryant

    2D AGO · BONUS

    What's Your Bad Boss's Currency? with Andrew Bryant

    As a leader, your instinct is to be nice. You avoid tough conversations to keep the peace and offer vague praise to maintain morale. But what if this well-intentioned kindness is the single most damaging thing you can do for your team? In this thought provoking episode from the archive, Andy Lopata is joined by self-leadership expert and author of The New Leadership Playbook, Andrew Bryant. Andrew delivers a powerful masterclass on why being "nice" is a trap of inexact communication that prevents growth, and why being "accurate" is the ultimate sign of respect. This is an examination into the psychology of high-performance leadership. Discover the critical difference between values and principles, and why most leaders confuse responsibility with accountability, leading to micromanagement and disengagement. Get the playbook for being a humane leader who successfully delivers accelerated results by choosing clarity over comfort. Key Takeaways  What is the crucial difference between values, principles, and behaviours (and why do most leaders get this disastrously wrong)? Are you responsible for your team or accountable to them? Getting this distinction wrong is the root cause of micromanagement. Why is "being nice" one of the most damaging things you can do for your team's growth and performance? What is your bad boss's "currency," and how can you learn to identify it effectively? Actionable Insights Stop Being Nice, Start Being Accurate: Reframe your approach to feedback. Being "nice" and avoiding difficult truths prevents your team from adjusting their behaviours to meet targets. Instead, be "accurate." Describe the specific, observable behavior and clearly explain how it impacts the goal. This shows you care enough to help them improve. Clarify Responsibility vs. Accountability: Immediately clean up your language. You are responsible for your own thoughts, feelings, and actions. You are accountable to an agreement or a person. By empowering your team to be responsible for themselves while holding them accountable to shared goals, you eliminate micromanagement and foster ownership. Discover and Use "Currency": Every person you work with has "currency"—what truly motivates them (e.g., recognition, security, influence). Instead of retreating from difficult colleagues or bosses, lean in. Observe what drives them and what they fear. Frame your communication in their currency to build influence and create a shared understanding. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website |Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Andrew Bryant: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 155 Featuring Andrew Bryant

    20 min
  2. Erasing the Line Between Personal & Professional Self with Bernard Savage

    JAN 12 · BONUS

    Erasing the Line Between Personal & Professional Self with Bernard Savage

    Is the strict, invisible line between your ‘work self’ and your ‘real self’ the biggest thing holding your career back? In a world obsessed with maintaining a polished, professional veneer, being truly authentic can feel like a massive risk. But what if it’s your greatest asset? In this fascinating episode from the archive, Andy Lopata is joined by Bernard Savage, a business development expert who built a successful company with the unconventional name "Size 10 and a Half Boots." Andy and Bernard look into the power of blurring the lines between the personal and professional to build stronger, more meaningful connections. From the surprising business development power of a weekly music playlist on LinkedIn to a powerful story of how a senior partner's career skyrocketed after sharing a deeply personal secret, this conversation is a masterclass in authentic leadership. Discover why your hobbies are your best networking tool and how being unapologetically yourself is the ultimate client filter. Key Takeaways From This Episode What is the incredible football story behind a company called "Size 10 and a Half Boots" and how does the name itself act as a perfect client filter? How did a senior partner's career transform the moment she was encouraged to stop hiding a core part of her identity from her colleagues? Why is posting a weekly music playlist on LinkedIn a surprisingly powerful strategy for deepening client relationships and generating new business? What can a football stadium teach leaders about building a truly diverse network that transcends job titles and social status? How do you build a connection when you have nothing in common, and when is it right to simply stop trying? 3 Actionable Insights Use Your Personality as a Filter Stop trying to be all things to all people. Be authentically yourself—whether through your company's name, your sense of humour, or your opinions. Share Your Passions Professionally: Don't hide your hobbies. Bernard's weekly music playlist on LinkedIn became a major relationship-building tool. Start sharing something you're passionate about—a book you're reading, a concert you attended, a sport you love. It provides more "hooks" for people to connect with the real you. Seek Connection in Unexpected Places: Actively build a more diverse network by leveraging your personal interests. A shared passion, like sport or music, can be a powerful bridge to connect with people from completely different backgrounds, industries, and levels of seniority, enriching your perspective and expanding your influence. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Bernard Savage: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 152 Featuring Bernard Savage

    23 min
  3. The Art of Ethical Persuasion with Paul du Toit

    JAN 5

    The Art of Ethical Persuasion with Paul du Toit

    How do you change someone's mind without being manipulative? In a world where influence is a key leadership currency, the line between ethical persuasion and unethical manipulation can seem blurry. To navigate this complex territory, Andy Lopata is joined by an expert in the art of communication, Paul du Toit. Paul is a 27-year speaking veteran, Africa’s first Certified speaking professional this century, and the author of three business books, including the timely "The Book of Persuasion." As an inductee into both the Southern African Speakers Hall of Fame and the Southern African Educators Hall of Fame, Paul brings decades of experience to the conversation. Together, Andy and Paul dissect the crucial difference between persuading someone for mutual benefit and coercing them for personal gain. Paul emphasises that true persuasion is an art that strengthens relationships by ensuring decisions are made with free will and are built on a foundation of trust. This conversation is a masterclass in the practical techniques of ethical influence. Discover why "engaged listening" is more powerful than active listening, how to ask questions that build rapport instead of feeling like an interrogation, and the four-step "Agree and Switch" method for overcoming resistance. Paul also shares powerful insights on the role of confidence, the impact of non-verbal cues in a virtual world, and what we can learn from charismatic figures. What we discussed: Persuasion vs. Manipulation: The critical distinction lies in intent and outcome. Persuasion aims to change minds while honouring free will and building long-term trust. Manipulation is coercive and often unethical, prioritising a short-term win over the relationship. The Power of "Engaged Listening": Go beyond simply hearing words. Engaged listening involves focusing on the person, understanding the context behind what they're saying, and making them feel truly heard, which is the foundation of any persuasive conversation. Asking Questions Strategically: The most effective persuasion comes from the information you gather. Learn how to ask for permission to ask questions, creating a dynamic where the other person willingly shares without feeling interrogated. Charisma: Charismatic figures like Steve Jobs, Oprah, and Muhammad Ali weren't just born with it. Their incredible ability to persuade was often forged by overcoming immense adversity, combined with excellent oratory skills and a laser-focused vision. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Paul du Toit: Website |LinkedIn | Instagram | YouTube The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring

    40 min
  4. The Crisis Leader Trap with Heather Wright

    12/29/2025 · BONUS

    The Crisis Leader Trap with Heather Wright

    Is there a time and a place for command and control leadership Absolutely. But what happens when the leaders we promote for their crisis-management skills start treating every single day like an emergency? In this fascinating episode from the archive, Andy Lopata is joined by neuropsychologist and leadership expert Heather Wright to dissect the critical difference between a "crisis leader" and a "daily leader." Drawing on her extensive work with organisations from Coca-Cola to the emergency services, Heather reveals the neurological reasons why top-down authority fails in day-to-day operations, crushing creativity and engagement. This is a deep dive into the science of trust, the leader's own ego, and the emotional habits that dictate our management style. Discover why the most important leadership work you can do is on yourself, and learn how to build a team that will follow you in a crisis because they trust you every other day of the year. Key Takeaways  What is the critical difference between a crisis leader and a daily leader (and why are most organisations promoting the wrong one)? Why is your leadership style not a conscious choice, but a deeply ingrained "emotional habit" (and how can you rewire it)? What are the "rules of engagement" every team must agree on before a conflict arises to ensure trust is maintained? Is your "need to be needed" as a leader secretly preventing your team from taking ownership and growing? What is the psychological trap that makes leaders focus on proving an employee is "wrong" instead of actually changing their behavior? Actionable Insights Lead Yourself First, Then Your Team: Before you can effectively lead others, you must understand yourself. Define your core values, recognise your emotional habits and ego-driven triggers, and get clear on the legacy you want to leave. True leadership starts with personal performance. Establish "Rules of Engagement" in Peacetime: Don't wait for a conflict to figure out how to handle it. Proactively sit down with your team and agree on how you will communicate, give feedback, and handle disagreements. Discussing this when things are calm builds the trust needed to navigate future challenges. Reframe Difficult Conversations Around Solutions: When addressing poor performance, shift your focus from pointing out what's wrong to clarifying what you want instead. Ask yourself: "Could I change this person's behaviour without them ever knowing they were wrong in the first place?" This moves the conversation from accusation to a collaborative focus on future success. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Heather Wright: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 151 Featuring Andy Woodfield and Heather Wright

    20 min
  5. You Don't Have to Be Funny, You Have to Be Likable with Athena Kugblenu

    12/22/2025 · BONUS

    You Don't Have to Be Funny, You Have to Be Likable with Athena Kugblenu

    What happens when a leader faces a heckler? In the high-stakes world of stand-up comedy, your reputation is made or broken in the seconds it takes to respond. The same is true in the boardroom. In this special Christmas week episode from the archive, Andy Lopata revisits his interview with rising comedy star Athena Kugblenu (Mock the Week, The News Quiz) to uncover the surprising leadership lessons hidden in the comedian’s playbook. This isn't just about telling jokes; it's a masterclass in resilience, adaptability, and the art of winning over a tough room. Athena shares her journey from a full-time project manager to a celebrated comic, revealing why the single most important skill for success isn't being funny—it's being likable. Discover how to handle difficult audiences with grace, use improvisation to your advantage, and why building a supportive network is the ultimate career hack, even in a fiercely competitive industry. These are the raw, real-world skills every leader needs to command a stage, and a team. Key Takeaways From This Episode What is the #1 skill you need to succeed as a performer that has nothing to do with being funny (and everything to do with leadership)? How do you handle a "heckler" when you realise they aren't trying to be malicious, but are just enjoying your performance too much? What is the simple two-part formula—Acknowledge & Improvise—that can win over any cold or distracted corporate audience? Why is the best feedback you can give not "feedback" at all, but something far more powerful called "feed forward"? What's the hard truth about transitioning to a creative career that the "just believe in yourself" gurus never tell you? 3 Actionable Insights Prioritize Likability Over Everything: Before people will laugh at your jokes or listen to your ideas, they have to like you. In any presentation or meeting, focus first on building genuine rapport and being approachable. Once you’re likable, your message has a much greater chance of landing. Acknowledge the Room, Then Improvise: When facing a tough or disengaged audience (like at a corporate awards dinner), don't ignore the situation. Acknowledge what's happening—the dress code, the food, the energy—to show you're present with them. This builds instant connection and gives you permission to improvise, which audiences reward highly. Give "Feed Forward," Not Just a "Sh*t Sandwich": When mentoring someone, avoid the clichéd praise-criticism-praise model. Instead, focus on encouraging potential. Rather than saying "what you did was wrong," try "what you could be doing is even better; talk more about X." This inspires growth without damaging confidence. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Athena Kugblenu: Website |Facebook | Instagram The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 150 Featuring Athena Kugblenu

    24 min
  6. Is Command & Control Finally Dead? with Myles Downey

    12/15/2025 · BONUS

    Is Command & Control Finally Dead? with Myles Downey

    The age of the top-down, "do as I say" leader is obsolete. We all know it, yet many organisations are still clinging to the old command and control model. Why? Because most leaders are terrified of what comes next. The fear of relinquishing control is real, and a vague "coaching culture" isn't a strong enough replacement. In this powerful episode from the archive, Andy Lopata is joined by globally recognised leadership coach and author of The Enabling Manager, Myles Downey. Myles argues that the solution isn't to abandon control, but to transform it. He unveils his practical and humane "Align and Enable" framework—a model that replaces outdated authority with a dynamic balance of "Will" (clarity, accountability) and "Love" (trust, nurturing). Discover how to lead, manage, and coach effectively to unlock true team engagement and high performance. This is the practical blueprint for the future of leadership you've been waiting for. In this episode you will learn Why is simply creating a "coaching culture" a dangerous trap that leaves many managers feeling fearful and ineffective? What can leaders learn from the US military's "mission command" about empowering teams to make decisions without losing control? How can balancing the two essential human drives of "Love" (enabling) and "Will (accountability) transform you from a boss into a true leader? What are the three simple pillars—the Why, What, and How—that create true team alignment and unlock extraordinary performance? How are Millennials and Gen Z forcing a leadership revolution, and what happens to the leaders who refuse to adapt? 3 Actionable Insights Adopt the Lead, Manage, Coach Framework: Understand that your role is multifaceted. Build a Trust-Based Relationship First: The "Align and Enable" model only works on a foundation of trust. Before you can effectively lead, manage, or coach, you must invest time in understanding your team members. This trust is what gives you the permission to switch between the different modes of leadership. Don't Just Delegate Tasks, Communicate the Mission: Ensure every team member understands the overarching business objective and exactly how their role contributes to it. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Myles Downey: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 149 Featuring Myles Downey

    19 min
  7. The Art of Being Ridiculously Easy to Do Business featuring David Avrin

    12/08/2025 · BONUS

    The Art of Being Ridiculously Easy to Do Business featuring David Avrin

    You believe your biggest competitive advantage is the quality of your work. You’re wrong. In today’s fast-paced world, your customers have quietly started to care about something else far more. In this sharp and eye-opening episode from the archive, Andy Lopata revisits his conversation with customer experience expert David Avrin, who drops a bombshell: for the first time in history, convenience has officially supplanted quality as the primary reason customers choose you—or leave you. This isn't just about faster delivery. It's a deep dive into the hidden points of friction—the frustrating websites, the chatbot dead-ends, the rigid policies—that are silently driving your best customers to your competitors. David provides a masterclass on how to stop frustrating your audience and start being ridiculously easy to do business with. This episode is an urgent wake-up call for any leader who thinks "good enough" is still good enough. Key Takeaways  What is the crucial difference between Customer Service and Customer Experience (and why does getting it wrong make your relationships irrelevant)? Why do customers now willingly pay more for the exact same item just to get it one day sooner, even when they don't need it? What is the “voicemail of the internet” that 86% of your potential customers refuse to use (and is it on your website right now)? What is the magic six-word phrase your team can use to turn a frustrating policy-driven "no" into a moment of customer loyalty? How are your automated emails and "please take our survey" requests secretly pushing your most loyal customers away for good? Tune in to learn more and gain more insights from this episode of the Connected Leadership Bytes Actionable Insights Become Ridiculously Easy to Do Business With: Conduct a "friction audit" of your customer's journey. Map every step from initial contact to final follow-up and identify every delay, complicated form, or frustrating process. Challenge your team to cut at least four unnecessary steps this month. Digitise the Process, Personalise the Person: Use automation for routine, one-way communications like billing or newsletters. However, ensure every automated system has a clear, easy-to-find "off-ramp" to a real human. Never automate personal follow-ups where a human touch is expected. Empower Your Team to Say "Yes": Stop neutering your employees with rigid policies. Train them on what a good decision looks like within your business model and give them the authority to be flexible. Equip them with the phrase, "Let me tell you what I can do," to solve problems on the spot. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with David Avrin: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Episode 148 Featuring David Avrin

    19 min
  8. Why 'Man Up' is Bad for Business with Stephen Whitton and Moe Carrick

    12/01/2025

    Why 'Man Up' is Bad for Business with Stephen Whitton and Moe Carrick

    What does masculinity mean in today's workplace? This episode moves beyond outdated stereotypes to explore the powerful dynamic of masculine and feminine energies—and why a healthy balance is crucial for modern leadership. Andy Lopata is joined by Stephen Whitton, a leader from the UK automotive industry, and DEI practitioner Moe Carrick. Together, they redefine masculine energy as the drive for goals and competition, and feminine energy as the capacity for compassion, collaboration, and empathy. The conversation reveals how workplaces have historically over-promoted dysfunctional masculine traits like "rugged individualism" while suppressing essential feminine ones, to the detriment of all genders. Andy, Stephen and Moe discuss the paradox faced by men and women: women who display masculine traits are often labeled "aggressive," while men who show vulnerability are seen as "weak." The guests provide actionable advice for leaders, from fostering curiosity and psychological safety to systemising "connective labour"—the essential work of making employees feel seen and valued. This episode isn't about demonising masculinity. It’s a powerful call to celebrate its positive aspects—like drive and courage—while integrating them with the feminine energies we all possess, allowing everyone to show up as their authentic, whole selves. What We Discussed in the Episode: Energy, Not Gender: Reframing the debate from a binary of men and women to a spectrum of "masculine" (driven, competitive) and "feminine" (collaborative, empathetic) energies that exist in everyone. The Cost of Imbalance: Workplaces have long rewarded dysfunctional masculine traits while penalising feminine ones, leading to burnout, a lack of authenticity, and poor mental well-being for all employees. The Vulnerability Paradox: Vulnerability is a key feminine trait essential for modern leadership, yet men are often punished for showing it, while women are penalised for displaying traditionally "strong" masculine traits. The Leadership Shift: Leaders must actively cultivate environments of curiosity and acceptance. Celebrating Healthy Masculinity: The goal isn't to eliminate masculine energy but to integrate it. Drive, ambition, and strength are vital, but become truly powerful when balanced with compassion and collaboration. SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Moe Carrick: Website |LinkedIn | Connect with Stephen Whitton: Website The Last Human Job by Allison Pugh The Athena Doctrine by John Gerzema and Michael D'Antonio  The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring

    46 min
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Speaker and author on professional relationships, Andy Lopata, explores great connections with experts and high achievers worldwide.

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    2012 - 2026
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