Between Pickups

Between Pickups

The 30 minutes between pickups just became the best part of your day. Between Pickups is where maternal wellness meets unfiltered truth — a board-certified pediatrician and your new favorite mom friend finally giving you the science you needed and the tea you didn't know you were missing. New episodes weekly starting on 8/25/26.

  1. 3h ago

    The Holiday Health Guide

    The Holiday Health Hustle: Flu Shots, Airplane Germs, Sugar Meltdowns, and How to Tell Grandma “No Kisses” Without Starting a War Episode Summary Cold bugs, travel chaos, sugar overload, and a kid with a 102 fever at 3 a.m. on Christmas morning. Amanda has lived it, and Dr. Temple’s clinic gets flooded with the same frantic questions every November and December. In this listener-mailbag special, they tackle your biggest holiday health dilemmas: whether it’s too late for a flu shot, what actually belongs in a travel medical kit, how much sugar and late bedtimes really hurt immune systems, and how to protect a newborn from well-meaning relatives without causing family drama. Dr. Temple also settles the great vitamin debate (elderberry, vitamin C, and “emergency” packets included) and shares why a little holiday indulgence is nothing to feel guilty about. In This Episode [0:45] The Cold Open: Amanda’s holiday-health horror stories, and why Dr. Temple’s clinic fills up every winter. [1:53] Mailbag: Flu Shots & Immune Boosters: Why it’s almost never too late for the flu shot, and where vitamin D, vitamin C, elderberry, and hand sanitizer actually stand. [3:59] Mailbag: Flying with a Toddler: Why airplane air is better than you think, which surfaces to avoid, and what to pack in a travel emergency kit. [7:21] Mailbag: Sugar, Sleep & Holiday Meltdowns: How late nights and sugar stack up, why a protein snack before the party works, and which ages need bedtime consistency most. [9:54] Mailbag: Family Pressure & Newborn Germs: How to set boundaries around kissing the baby and sick cousins without holiday drama, and why Tdap matters for everyone around a newborn. [14:02] The Takeaways: Dr. Temple’s one piece of advice for the season, plus the final word on vitamins. Key Takeaways It’s almost never too late for a flu shot, and since COVID, flu circulates year-round, so protection carries into the next season too. Sleep, food, exercise, and avoiding germs beat elderberry or vitamin C; vitamin D is the one supplement worth considering in winter. On planes, the biggest risk isn’t the air, it’s the high-touch surfaces: armrests, tray tables, latches, and overhead bins. A single late night is fine, but a pattern of holiday late nights and sugar compounds, especially for toddlers. Everyone around a baby under six months should be up to date on Tdap, and a covered car seat or baby carrier is a polite way to keep hands and kisses away. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com. Your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~16 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician, and nothing shared on this show constitutes direct medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for your family’s specific needs.

  2. Oct 27

    The Regulation Rescue

    Season Finale: Regulation Rescue — Why Moms Helicopter, Why Mom Rage Isn’t a Character Flaw, and the 60-Second Reset Episode Summary Amanda’s body feels like it’s on high alert 24/7: if her kid is 10 feet too far away at the park, her heart races, and if he struggles with a math problem, she wants to snatch the pencil. In this season finale, she and Dr. Temple explain why. Your amygdala literally grows when you become a mother, and modern moms often get stuck in fight-or-flight even when the kids are just eating cereal. They get into how kids “borrow” a parent’s nervous system, why mom rage is sensory overload (not a bad temper), the difference between mom gut and anxiety, and why today’s too-safe playgrounds may be feeding the anxiety they were meant to prevent. Plus: a listener who panics every time her seven-year-old climbs a tree, and the fastest resets for when you’re about to blow a fuse. In This Episode [0:45] The Cold Open: Amanda’s confession as a vigilant mom, and the diagnosis: dysregulation. [1:46] The Mom Brain on High Alert: How the amygdala grows in motherhood, and why fight-or-flight gets stuck on. [4:07] Borrowed Nervous Systems: What happens to a child’s nervous system when a parent is anxious, and why “a calmer you is a calmer child.” [4:57] Tea or Truth: Five Regulation Myths: Helicoptering as intelligence, mom rage, yelling vs. whispering, deep breathing vs. a vagus nerve reset, and mom gut vs. anxiety. [7:08] Sponsor Break: Season finale thank-you to Lake Travis Christian Academy, plus Bonding Boost with Tammy Afriat. [12:23] Carpool Question of the Day: Elena on freezing up when her seven-year-old climbs a tree, and Dr. Temple’s “name it to tame it.” [13:31] Taking Back the Wheel: The double-inhale reset, mindful breathing, and Amanda’s hands-in-pockets trick. [15:45] The Anxious Generation: Why playgrounds that are too safe may raise more anxious kids. [17:43] The Outro: Regulation is a practice, not a destination. Key Takeaways Mom anxiety has a biological basis (the amygdala grows with motherhood), but staying in constant fight-or-flight isn’t sustainable or helpful for kids. Helicoptering is more about a parent’s lack of anxiety tolerance than what the child actually needs. Mom rage is usually sensory overload (noise, touch, mental load). It’s a signal your battery is at 1%, not proof you’re a bad mom. Quick resets: two inhales through the nose with a long exhale through the mouth (three rounds), box breathing, or a cold-water vagus nerve reset. Mom gut is a quiet knowing; anxiety is loud, repetitive, and frantic. Letting kids take age-appropriate risks builds the resilience anxious parenting can take away. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities — where kids are taught to make decisions, own their learning, and build real independence. Visit www.laketravischristianacademy.com to explore whether it’s the right fit for your family. Be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child.” Also sponsored by Tammy Afriat, women’s identity and energy coach and founder of Bonding Boost. Book a complimentary energy audit at bondingboost.com/energyaudit. Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~18 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your doctor. If you are struggling with chronic anxiety or OCD, please reach out to a mental health professional.

  3. Oct 20

    The Relationship Stress Test

    Ships Passing in the Night: The Logistics Trap, the Six-Second Hug, and Why the Elementary Years Are a Marriage Pressure Cooker Episode Summary Swim team, Boy Scouts, school spirit days — and somewhere in the chaos, Amanda realizes she and her husband have been trading Google Calendar invites instead of "I love you." This week she and Dr. Temple unpack the logistics trap: why cortisol and adrenaline make intimacy nearly impossible when you're in constant survival mode, why the elementary school years and the empty-nest years are statistically the hardest on a marriage, and why most divorces aren't caused by one big event but by a thousand small cuts of poor communication. They tackle five relationship myths, including sleep divorces, date-night guilt, and whether couples should "wait it out" until the kids leave home. Plus: a Houston mom whose family hasn't had a weekend off in three years gets a real prescription for reconnecting. In This Episode [0:44] The Cold Open — Amanda's Google Calendar marriage and the diagnosis: the logistics trap. [1:13] The Biology of the Disconnect — Why cortisol and survival mode make intimacy physically difficult, and why relationships hit danger zones around year 7 and year 20. [3:29] Dr. Temple's Own Story — What the hardest part of the elementary years looked like in his own marriage, and how he and his wife got through it. [6:01] The 75/75 Rule — What's really happening in a couple's nervous systems when they fight over logistics. [6:52] Lightning Round: Five Marriage Myths — Why most divorces aren't about affairs, marriage vs. kids as priority, sleep divorces, waiting until the kids are grown, and whether surviving year seven means you're safe. [8:48] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy. [12:50] Carpool Question of the Day — Claire in Houston on three years without a weekend off, and Dr. Temple's one-sport rule. [14:40] Taking Back the Wheel — The six-second hug and the 9 p.m. logistics ban. [18:10] The Outro — Your marriage is the pilot of this plane. Key Takeaways Cortisol and adrenaline from constant "logistics mode" physiologically compete with the brain's capacity for intimacy — it's not just emotional distance, it's biological. Most divorces result from accumulated small disconnects, not a single dramatic event — unmade eye contact and misaligned schedules add up over years. A stable, happy parental unit benefits kids more than staying together unhappily; kids pick up on unresolved tension regardless of age. A one-sport or one-activity rule per season protects both the marriage and the couple's sanity from total schedule overload. Small, consistent rituals — a six-second hug (long enough to release oxytocin) and a nightly cutoff on logistics talk — do more for connection than an occasional big date night. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities. Acton Academies use a self-directed learning model designed to cultivate curiosity, ownership, and purpose in kids. Curious if it’s the right fit for your family? Visit laketravischristianacademy.com to learn more and be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child .”   Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~19 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your marriage counselor. If you're in a crisis, please seek professional support.

  4. Oct 13

    The Trust Hand-off

    The Awkward Ask: How to Vet a Play Date, Pick the Right Sleepover Age, and Finally Say "Is There a Gun in the House?" Episode Summary Drop off at 2 p.m. Four terrifying words for any parent handing their kid over to people they've only waved at in the parking lot. This week Amanda and Dr. Temple tackle the "safety handoff" — the awkward but essential conversations around pools, firearms, trampolines, and supervision before a play date, carpool, or sleepover. Dr. Temple shares his script for asking the hard questions without sounding like an accusation, breaks down the real ages and stages for sleepovers and sleepaway camp, and makes the case for a reverse play date when your gut says no. Plus: a listener in Bee Cave wonders if she's too strict compared to the "chill" parents down the street. In This Episode [0:44] The Cold Open — Amanda's drop-off dread and the concept of the safety handoff. [1:59] The Big Three — Water safety, firearms, and supervision, and why kids' undeveloped prefrontal cortex makes parents the backup impulse control. [3:46] The Script — How to ask about pools and guns without making the other parent feel judged, by putting the anxiety on yourself. [6:26] Trampolines, Go-Karts & Scooters — Dr. Temple's honest pediatric take on backyard risk equipment, from firsthand ER experience. [9:19] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy and Lice Lifters of Travis County. [10:56] Tea or Truth: Sleepovers & Carpool Rules — The right age for sleepovers and sleepaway camp, checking a car seat install, tablets as a dealbreaker, and the case for a safety word. [17:51] Carpool Question of the Day — Melanie in Bee Cave on feeling "too strict" next to more hands-off neighborhood parents. [20:33] Taking Back the Wheel — The dry-run sleepover, walking to the door for drop-offs, and trusting your gut over politeness. [24:23] The Outro — You're the expert on your child. Key Takeaways The "big three" to ask about before any unsupervised play date: water access, firearm storage, and who's actually supervising. Framing safety questions as your own anxiety ("I'm a nerd about this stuff") makes them easier to ask without putting the other parent on the defensive. Ten years old, roughly 4th grade, is a reasonable starting point for sleepovers and sleepaway camp — younger kids often lack the emotional maturity to assess real risk. A dry run (a night at grandma's) is a low-stakes way to test whether a child is ready for a sleepover or a week at camp. Walking to the door at drop-off, for even 30 seconds, often tells a parent everything they need to know — trust that read over the urge to be polite. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities. Acton Academies use a self-directed learning model designed to cultivate curiosity, ownership, and purpose in kids. Curious if it’s the right fit for your family? Visit laketravischristianacademy.com to learn more and be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child .” Dealing with lice? Lice Lifters of Travis County offers a one-visit, non-toxic solution — no three-hour comb-outs required. Mention Between Pickups at booking for 20% off at licelifterstraviscounty.com.   Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~25 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician, and nothing shared on this show constitutes direct medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for your family's specific safety needs.

  5. Oct 6

    The Supplement Science

    Clearing Out the Cabinet: The Supplement Science Moms Actually Need, the Essential Oils Horror Story, and Why Multivitamins Are the Biggest Scam Episode Summary Amanda's kitchen counter looks like a pharmacy — collagen, colostrum, creatine, three probiotics, all bought on the word of a girl in a beige matching set on Instagram. This week she and Dr. Temple clear out the cabinet and separate the medical must-haves from the expensive marketing. They get into why the supplement industry is largely unregulated, why multivitamins are mostly useless if you eat a decent diet, why med spas and essential oils earn a hard pass (including a genuinely alarming clinic story), and which two supplements Dr. Temple actually recommends for moms 35 and up. Plus: real postpartum hair loss and exhaustion advice for a listener tempted by an "adrenal fatigue" supplement. In This Episode [0:43] The Cold Open — Amanda's counter-full-of-supplements confession and the diagnosis: supplement fatigue. [1:28] Why Supplements Are Unregulated — Multivitamins as the biggest scam, the folate vs. methylfolate distinction, and what USP/NSF seals actually mean. [3:36] The Stigma Flip — Why supplements feel safer than prescriptions even though they aren't, and the "Joe Rogan effect" on how people choose their medicine. [6:28] Med Spas & the Essential Oils Story — Why unregulated med spas are a gamble, and the Wilms tumor case that still makes Dr. Temple furious. [9:52] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy and Vitamin Es. [11:28] Tea or Truth: Six Supplement Myths — Gummy prenatals, collagen for skin and hair, creatine for brain health, vitamin D and magnesium, perimenopause supplements vs. HRT, and whether probiotics are mandatory. [17:26] Carpool Question of the Day — Amy in Westlake on postpartum hair loss, exhaustion, and whether to try an adrenal fatigue supplement. [18:32] Taking Back the Wheel — Stacking vitamins with an existing routine, the toothpaste-and-rubber-band trick, and why food comes before pills. [20:20] The Outro — Invest in food first; the pills are just the backup. Key Takeaways Most multivitamins do little if you already eat a reasonably balanced diet — targeted supplementation based on actual bloodwork beats a daily grab-bag. Supplements are largely unregulated in the U.S.; look for USP or NSF seals, and remember "natural" doesn't guarantee safety. Vitamin D and magnesium are two of the most broadly useful, low-risk supplements for moms, especially for mood, sleep, and bone health. Creatine shows promising new research for perimenopausal and menopausal women's brain and muscle health, but remains controversial and higher-risk in kids. Postpartum exhaustion and hair loss are often postnatal depletion, not "adrenal fatigue" — get iron, ferritin, and thyroid levels checked before reaching for a stress supplement. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities — where kids are taught to make decisions, own their learning, and build real independence. Visit www.laketravischristianacademy.com to explore whether it’s the right fit for your family. Be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child.” Also sponsored by Vitaminis, 2-ounce mini drinks made with real fruit juice, essential vitamins, and zero added sugar. Head to vitaminis.com and use code BETWEENPICKUPS for 15% off your first pack. Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~21 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician. Supplements can interfere with medications, so please consult your own healthcare provider for your specific needs.

  6. Sep 29

    The Medication Map

    Discipline Is for Won't, Medicine Is for Can't: Breaking the Stigma Around Mom and Kid Mental Health Medication Episode Summary Moms will drop $200 on supplements, organic grains, and weighted blankets — then feel like a failure the moment a doctor mentions a prescription. This week Amanda and Dr. Temple put the stigma in the backseat and get real about mental health medication, for moms and kids alike. They cover the brain-as-thermostat explanation for anxiety and depression, why untreated ADHD carries more risk than treating it, why supplements move the needle far less than people assume, and Dr. Temple's test for telling a personality trait from a clinical symptom. Amanda gets personal about the night she finally reached for help, and Dr. Temple hands over the line every hesitant parent needs: discipline is for won't, medicine is for can't. In This Episode [0:46] The Cold Open — Amanda on the $200-supplements-vs-shame-at-the-pharmacy double standard. [1:53] The Brain-as-Thermostat — Dr. Temple explains chemical imbalance in plain terms, and why therapy plus medication beats either alone. [3:33] Where the Stigma Came From — Generational silence, real cost, and why white-knuckling anxiety teaches kids the wrong lesson. [6:37] Kid Medication, Explained — Telling a personality trait from a clinical symptom, the ADHD-anxiety overlap, and why rising diagnoses track with screens, not overprescribing. [10:10] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy and Lice Lifters of Travis County. [12:48] Tea or Truth: Five Medication Myths — "Easy way out," substance abuse risk, lifelong dependence, supplements vs. medication, and breastfeeding safety. [18:25] Carpool Question of the Day — Maria on an anxious, sleepless eight-year-old and family pressure to "just discipline him more." [19:19] Taking Back the Wheel — Watching for a shrinking life, finding one safe person to confide in, and Amanda's own story of reaching her breaking point. [24:41] The Outro — Take care of your brain; it's the only one you've got. Key Takeaways A chemical imbalance is treated like any other medical condition — the same way you'd take insulin for high glucose, medication regulates brain chemistry that lifestyle changes alone can't fix. Untreated or undertreated ADHD and anxiety carry real risks — including higher rates of substance abuse — making medication a protective choice, not a shortcut. Supplements aren't FDA-regulated and typically offer a fraction of the benefit of prescribed medication, so "natural" isn't automatically safer. The test for whether a struggling child needs medical support instead of discipline: can they simply not do it, no matter how well they're parented? Talking openly about your own medication with trusted friends reduces shame and often makes it easier to say yes to help for your kids too. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities. Acton Academies use a self-directed learning model designed to cultivate curiosity, ownership, and purpose in kids. Curious if it’s the right fit for your family? Visit laketravischristianacademy.com to learn more and be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child .” Dealing with lice? Lice Lifters of Travis County offers a one-visit, non-toxic solution — no three-hour comb-outs required. Mention Between Pickups at booking for 20% off at licelifterstraviscounty.com.   Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~26 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician, and nothing shared on this show constitutes direct medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for your specific needs.

  7. Sep 22

    The Science of the Mom-Friend Breakup

    The Mom Friend Breakup: Why Ghosting Hurts Like a Physical Wound, "Drips vs. Drains," and How to Rebuild Your Village After 35 Episode Summary That pit-in-your-stomach feeling after a mom friend goes quiet? It's not in your head — it's your brain's actual pain receptors firing. This week Amanda and Dr. Temple dive into the neurobiology of the mom friend breakup: why social rejection triggers the same brain region as physical pain, why women feel ghosting more acutely than men (or at least admit to it more), and why loneliness is as dangerous for your health as smoking. They rank five friendship myths, unpack the difference between "drip" friends and "drain" friends, and hand you low-effort ways to keep a village alive — no girls'-night-out required. In This Episode [0:46] The Cold Open — Amanda on the pain of a mom-friend read receipt gone cold, and Dr. Temple on why the hurt is real, not oversensitive. [1:59] The Neuroscience of Rejection — How social rejection fires the anterior cingulate cortex, spikes cortisol, and drops oxytocin. [3:15] The Gender Gap — Whether men feel left out of the group photo the way women do, and why proximity-based friendships evaporate. [4:59] Lightning Round: Five Friendship Myths — Making friends after 35, isolation vs. smoking, ghosting as "protecting your peace," playgrounds vs. shared-interest groups, and when it's okay to cut off a toxic friend. [7:12] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy and Hooked on Phonics. [12:59] Carpool Question of the Day — Jen on being the glue of her friend group and getting nothing back, and Dr. Temple's "drips and drains" framework. [14:13] Taking Back the Wheel — The vulnerability text challenge and the "errand date" hack for low-pressure connection. [20:14] The Outro — Your people are part of your prescription. Key Takeaways Social rejection activates the same brain region as physical pain, plus a cortisol spike and oxytocin drop — the hurt of being ghosted is a real physiological response, not an overreaction. Isolation carries real health risk, comparable to smoking roughly 15 cigarettes a day — friendship is a medical necessity, not a luxury. Ghosting is a form of social aggression, even when unintentional; a short "I'm overwhelmed, let's talk soon" text is a healthier move than silence. Meeting the woman first and the mom second — through shared interests, not just school pickup — tends to build friendships that outlast the proximity that started them. Not every friend needs to be a big night out. Errand dates (Target runs, grocery trips) and a weekly vulnerability text to a "drip" friend keep a village alive with far less effort. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities — where kids are taught to make decisions, own their learning, and build real independence. Visit www.laketravischristianacademy.com to explore whether it’s the right fit for your family. Be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child.” Break the bedtime anxiety cycle by giving your child confidence before the lights go out. Hooked on Phonics offers a research-backed foundation that makes reading click at home in a way kids genuinely love. Try your first month for just $1 at hookedonphonics.com! Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~21 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician, and nothing shared on this show constitutes direct medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for your specific needs.

  8. Sep 15

    Managing the Mental Load

    My Choice-Maker Is Broken: Decision Fatigue, the "Decision Sunset," and Why Moms Need to MD It Episode Summary It's 5 p.m., someone asks Amanda what's for dinner, and she genuinely feels like crying — not from sadness, but from decision fatigue. This week Amanda and Dr. Temple dig into the science of executive function drain: why the prefrontal cortex treats every tiny choice like a 1% battery hit, why moms hit empty faster than dads, and why that overdraft leads straight to impulsivity, irritability, and 10 p.m. Amazon carts. They rank five decision-fatigue myths, unpack the "decision sunset" trick for shutting your brain off at night, and get into the touchy question of whether dads deserve their own version of the mental load. In This Episode [0:43] The Cold Open — Amanda's 5 p.m. dinner-question meltdown and the diagnosis: decision fatigue. [1:47] The Battery Science — Dr. Temple on the prefrontal cortex, why every decision drains it, and why moms feel it more than dads. [4:38] Lightning Round: Five Decision-Fatigue Myths — Stress vs. depletion, the "elite brain" theory, routine as self-care, 10 p.m. Amazon binges, and whether you can train a bigger capacity. [7:26] Sponsor Break — Lake Travis Christian Academy and Bonding Boost with Tammy Afriat. [9:46] Carpool Question of the Day — Julie on the constant bracing for the next choice, and Dr. Temple's "decision sunset" prescription. [11:36] Taking Back the Wheel — Automating low-value choices, default meals and outfits, and why over-explaining every decision doesn't make it easier. [16:36] The Dad Question — Whether fathers experience decision fatigue, and how to split "who's the go-to parent" by topic instead of by default. [19:22] The Outro — Save your energy for the good stuff. Key Takeaways Decision fatigue is biological depletion, not just stress — you can be relaxed and still run out of mental battery from too many small choices. The mental load is a sign of high executive function, not weakness — maternal brains are tracking more variables at once, and that takes real processing power. Routines and defaults (the same Monday dinner, a color-coded scrub schedule) aren't boring — they're decisions you never have to make twice. A "decision sunset" — a fixed nightly cutoff for choices, emails, and planning — protects against the impulsive, low-willpower decisions that show up late at night. Splitting which parent handles which decisions, consistently and by topic, keeps the load a shared one instead of a default-to-mom one. Have a Question for the Show? Send it to hello@betweenpickups.com — your question could be featured in a future Carpool Mailbag segment. Follow Us on Instagram: @betweenpickupspodcast Check Out Our Website: betweenpickups.com   This episode is sponsored by Lake Travis Christian Academy, an Acton Academy serving the Lakeway, Bee Cave, and Spicewood communities — where kids are taught to make decisions, own their learning, and build real independence. Visit www.laketravischristianacademy.com to explore whether it’s the right fit for your family. Be sure to check out their free resource, “ 5 Powerful Steps to Raising a Purpose-Driven Child.” Also sponsored by Tammy Afriat, women's identity and energy coach and founder of Bonding Boost, helping women move from overwhelm toward clarity, boundaries, and calm authority. Book a complimentary energy audit by going to bondingboost.com/energyaudit   Hosts: Amanda Tice & Dr. Brian Temple Editor: Levy Nause Runtime: ~20 min Disclaimer: This show is for educational and entertainment purposes only. Dr. Temple is a pediatrician, but he is not your pediatrician, and nothing shared on this show constitutes direct medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for your specific needs.

4.7
out of 5
30 Ratings

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The 30 minutes between pickups just became the best part of your day. Between Pickups is where maternal wellness meets unfiltered truth — a board-certified pediatrician and your new favorite mom friend finally giving you the science you needed and the tea you didn't know you were missing. New episodes weekly starting on 8/25/26.

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