The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming

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Welcome to The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming. This podcast is for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like it fits. Each week, we'll have honest conversations about boundaries, self-trust, healing, and rebuilding a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. If you're ready to stop shrinking, stop seeking permission, and start creating a life that feels like your own, you're in the right place. I'm Mickey, and I'm so glad you're here.

Episodes

  1. 8h ago

    The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One

    The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One In This Episode Being the strong one may have helped you survive—but what happens when that identity keeps you from receiving the support you need? In this episode, we explore the hidden costs of carrying everything alone and redefine what real strength looks like. You'll learn: • How "being the strong one" can become an identity instead of a choice • Why hiding your needs often leads to loneliness • How vulnerability creates deeper connection • Why receiving help isn't weakness—it's part of emotional health • A healthier definition of strength rooted in honesty rather than self-sacrifice Reflection Questions • Where have I confused being needed with being valuable? • What am I carrying that I no longer have to carry by myself? Key Takeaway Real strength isn't measured by how much you carry. It's measured by your willingness to live honestly, receive support, and let yourself be fully human. About the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

  2. Aug 18

    Creating a Life You Actually Want

    In This Episode Many women spend so much time meeting everyone else's expectations that they lose touch with what they actually want.   In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your own desires, stop waiting for permission, and begin intentionally creating a life that reflects who you truly are.   You'll learn: Why many women stop allowing themselves to dream How your everyday decisions quietly shape your futureWhy you don't have to feel completely ready before taking the next stepHow self-trust grows through action not certainty  Reflection Questions What part of the life you want have you quietly convinced yourself is impossible?If you stopped waiting for permission, what's one small step you could take this week toward the life you actually want?  Key Takeaway The life you want isn't built all at once. It's built one honest decision, one intentional action, and one ordinary day at a time.   🌿 Ready for More Support? If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to stop surviving your relationships and start creating healthier ones, I'd love to support you.   Through one-on-one coaching, we'll work together to help you: • Rebuild self-trust• Strengthen healthy boundaries• Regulate your nervous system• Navigate life's transitions with greater confidence and clarity   ✨ Learn more about coaching:https://empowermentjourneywithmickey.com   Becoming Journeys The Becoming Journeys are where insight becomes practice. They're designed to help you move from simply understanding these concepts to living them, one intentional step at a time.   Welcome to the Becoming Journey - Becoming Journey · Soft but Savage Collective   About the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and theseasons when life no longer feels like they fit.   Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.   🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.   Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com 🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598 ▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod   If this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today.   Until next time... keep becoming.   — Mickey

  3. Aug 11

    The Life You Want Will Probably Disappoint Someone

    In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, we explore why other people's disappointment can feel so overwhelming—and why it isn't reliable evidence that you've made the wrong decision.  You'll learn: Why disappointment often feels like danger to our nervous system.How people pleasing quietly erodes self-trustThe difference between disappointing someone and harming someoneWhy compassion doesn't require abandoning yourselfPractical ways to stay grounded when your decisions aren't understood   Reflection Questions Where have I mistaken someone else's disappointment for proof that I was wrong?What decision have I been delaying because I'm afraid someone else won't approve?  Key Takeaway Someone else's disappointment isn't proof that you've made the wrong decision. You can care deeply about others while still choosing the life that's right for you.

  4. Aug 4

    The Loneliness of Transition

    Leaving behind the life you've always known can feel surprisingly lonely—even when you know you're moving in the right direction.In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, we're exploring why the in-between season of life can feel so unsettling and why loneliness isn't always a sign that you've made the wrong decision.We'll talk about why your nervous system naturally wants to return to what's familiar, how self-trust is built one small decision at a time, and why becoming someone new often means letting go of the identity you've always known.If you've been questioning yourself because your life no longer looks the way it used to—or because the future still feels uncertain—this conversation is for you.In this episode, we'll explore:• Why transition often feels lonely, even when it's healthy. • The difference between unfamiliarity and danger. • How your nervous system responds to change. • Why self-trust isn't built through confidence—it's built through consistency. • How to keep moving forward when you can't yet see the whole path. Reflection Questions• Where in your life are you mistaking unfamiliarity for danger...when it might actually be the beginning of your next chapter? • If loneliness wasn't proof that you were doing something wrong, what would you keep moving toward anyway? If today's conversation resonated with you, I'd love to continue the journey with you.Visit my website to learn more about coaching, explore additional resources, and discover more conversations designed to help you rebuild self-trust, create emotional stability, and build a life that feels like your own.Until next time...Keep becoming.About the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

  5. Jul 28

    The Difference Between Peace and Avoidance

    What if the peace you've been protecting isn't actually peace at all?Many of us were taught that avoiding conflict was the same thing as keeping the peace. We stayed quiet, swallowed our disappointment, and convinced ourselves that silence would protect our relationships.But avoided conversations don't disappear.They often become resentment, emotional distance, and disconnection—from others and from ourselves.In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, we're exploring the difference between genuine peace and avoidance, and why healthy relationships aren't built on the absence of conflict—they're built on the presence of emotional safety.In this episode, we'll explore:• Why many of us learned to avoid conflict in the first place• The hidden cost of keeping the peace at the expense of your own voice• How small disappointments become resentment when they go unspoken• Why emotional safety—not silence—is the foundation of healthy relationships• How honesty and self-trust create deeper connection with the people we loveIf you've spent years believing that staying quiet was the loving thing to do, this conversation may help you see peace in a completely different way.Because real peace doesn't ask you to disappear.It invites you to show up honestly.Until next time...Keep becoming.Reflection QuestionWhere in your life have you been protecting "peace" by avoiding a conversation that needs to happen?🌿 Ready for More Support?If this episode resonated with you and you're ready to stop surviving your relationships and start creating healthier ones, I'd love to support you.Through one-on-one coaching, we'll work together to help you:• Rebuild self-trust• Strengthen healthy boundaries• Regulate your nervous system• Navigate life's transitions with greater confidence and clarity✨ Learn more about coaching:https://empowermentjourneywithmickey.comAbout the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

  6. Jul 21

    Why People-Pleasing Isn't Kindness

    People-pleasing is often describedas kindness. But what if that's not actuallywhat's happening?   In this episode of The Soft butSavage Method: Conversations in Becoming, we're exploring the differencebetween genuine kindness and self-abandonment.   When you've spent years puttingeveryone else's needs first, it can feel loving to stay quiet, avoid conflict,and keep the peace. But over time, constantly disappearing for other peopledoesn't create healthier relationships – it disconnects you from yourself.   In this episode, we'll explore:   • Why people-pleasing often beginsas a survival strategy• The difference between kindness and self-abandonment• How resentment develops when your own needs continually go unmet• Why caring for yourself isn't selfish—it's necessary• The small daily choices that rebuild self-trust and healthier relationships   If you've ever felt guilty forputting yourself first, this conversation is for you.   Because you don't become moreloving by disappearing. You become more disconnected fromyourself.   About the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method:Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggesttransitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and theseasons when life no longer feels like they fit.   Each week, I share honestconversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuildwith more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.   🎧 New episodes everyTuesday.   Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com 🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598 ▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod   If this conversation resonatedwith you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it withanother woman who may need it today.   Until next time... keep becoming.   — Mickey

  7. Jul 14

    How to Stop Seeking Permission from Everyone Around You

    How to Stop Seeking Permission from Everyone Around YouHave you ever caught yourself asking everyone else what you should do—while quietly ignoring what you already know?In this episode of Conversations in Becoming, we explore why so many women spend years waiting for permission to speak up, make decisions, set boundaries, or simply trust themselves.We'll talk about where that pattern begins, why seeking approval can feel safer than listening to your own voice, and how to begin rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time.If you've ever felt stuck between what you want and what everyone else expects, this conversation is for you.In this episode, we'll explore:• Why many women learn to seek permission instead of trusting themselves. • The connection between approval, safety, and people-pleasing. • How permission-seeking slowly erodes self-trust. • A simple practice to begin strengthening your own inner voice. Reflection Question:Where in your life are you waiting for permission that only you can give yourself?Continue the ConversationIf today's episode resonated with you, my guide, Boundaries Are Beautiful, is a wonderful next step. Inside, you'll learn practical ways to set healthy boundaries with confidence, communicate your needs clearly, and begin trusting yourself without guilt.🌿 Learn more at: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderformAbout the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday.Connect with Mickey 🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=0fd50e9eb71d4389 🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod 💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

  8. Jul 7

    The First Place You Learned Your Needs Didn't Matter | Conversations in Becoming Episode 4

    Episode 4: The First Place You Learned Your Needs Didn't MatterWhat if the patterns that showed up in your marriage didn't actually begin there?In this episode of Conversations in Becoming, we explore one of the most important questions in healing:Where did you first learn that your needs didn't matter?Many of us assume our people-pleasing, difficulty setting boundaries, or constant need for reassurance began in adulthood. But often, those patterns were learned much earlier—through hundreds of ordinary moments that quietly taught us that belonging was more important than being ourselves.This conversation isn't about blame.It's about understanding yourself with compassion so you can begin choosing differently today.In this episode:✨ Why children choose belonging over authenticity—and why that's a normal survival response.✨ How survival strategies become identities that follow us into adulthood.✨ Why healing begins when we replace shame with understanding instead of blaming ourselves or others.✨ A gentle reminder that what you learned as a child doesn't have to define the woman you're becoming.Reflection QuestionsTake a few moments to sit with these questions after today's conversation.• What messages did I receive about having needs? • Which of those messages am I still living by today? • What would change if I truly believed my needs mattered, too? Continue the ConversationBecoming doesn't end when the episode does.If today's conversation sparked something in you, I invite you to explore Boundaries Are Beautiful—a practical guide to understanding why boundaries feel so uncomfortable and how to begin honoring your needs with greater confidence, compassion, and self-trust.📖 Learn more here: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderformConnect with Mickey🌿 Website: https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com🎙️ Listen on Spotify: Pohttps://open.spotify.com/show/033DXZVdgHRCrPCPPVNeHX?si=g8t-R8lLTKyXqQw7byuDAwdcasts: [Show Link]🍎 Listen on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-but-savage-method-conversations-in-becoming/id6785913598▶️ Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@UC4TdLAWkQucCe_8M0aSfQEA 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod💙 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod

  9. Jun 30

    You Don't Need More Confidence. You Need Self Trust. | Conversations in Becoming Episode 3

    You Don't Need More Confidence—You Need Self-Trust | Episode 3Why do so many women wait until they "feel confident" before making a decision, setting a boundary, or starting over?What if confidence isn't the thing you're actually missing?In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I explore why self-trust—not confidence—is the foundation for lasting change. Confidence comes and goes, but self-trust is what allows you to move forward even when you're uncertain.If you've been waiting to feel "ready," this conversation is for you.In this episode:✨ Why confidence is often treated like a prerequisite instead of a byproduct✨ How waiting for certainty keeps us stuck✨ The difference between confidence and self-trust✨ Simple ways to begin rebuilding trust in yourself through everyday choicesReflection QuestionsWhere in your life are you waiting to feel confident before trusting yourself to take the next step?And what would change if you trusted yourself enough to take the next step anyway?About the PodcastThe Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit.Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.Connect with me🌐 Websitehttps://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this episode encouraged you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need this conversation today.Until next time... keep becoming.— Mickey

  10. Jun 30

    Why Boundaries Feel So Uncomfortable | Conversations in Becoming Episode 2

    #Boundaries #PeoplePleasing #SelfTrust #EmotionalHealing #DivorceRecovery #PersonalGrowth #SoftButSavageMethodWhy do boundaries feel so uncomfortable—even when you know they're healthy?If you've ever felt guilty for saying no, worried about disappointing someone, or questioned yourself after setting a boundary, you're not alone. The discomfort isn't a sign you're doing something wrong. More often, it's a sign you're doing something different.In this episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I explore why boundaries can feel so emotionally challenging, how people-pleasing shapes our responses, and why learning to tolerate temporary discomfort is part of building lasting self-trust.In this episode:✨ Why boundaries often feel uncomfortable at first✨ How people-pleasing trains us to prioritize others over ourselves✨ The difference between guilt and growth✨ Why healthy relationships can withstand healthy boundaries✨ A reflection question to help you strengthen your own boundariesReflection Question:Where in your life are you confusing someone else's discomfort with doing something wrong?About the PodcastThe Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit.Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace.Connect with Me🌐 Websitehttps://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethodIf this episode resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need this conversation today.Until next time... keep becoming.— Mickey 🌿 Continue the Conversation If today's episode resonated with you, I've created a companion guide to help you begin putting these ideas into practice. 📖 Boundaries Are BeautifulA practical guide to understanding why boundaries feel so uncomfortable, releasing guilt, and learning to protect your peace with greater confidence and self-trust. Learn more here: https://softbutsavage25.systeme.io/boundariesarebeautifulorderform

  11. Jun 30

    Rebuilding Yourself After Divorce | Conversations In Becoming Episode 1

    What does rebuilding really look like after divorce? When I first left my marriage, I thought rebuilding meant recreating my old life without my ex. What I eventually discovered was that rebuilding isn't about going backward—it's about creating a life that feels aligned with the woman you're becoming. In this first episode of The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming, I share part of my own story and explore why confidence isn't the first step. Self-trust is. This Episode ✨ Why rebuilding isn't the same as starting over ✨ Why confidence isn't a prerequisite for change✨ How self-trust is built one small promise at a time ✨ A reflection to help you reconnect with yourself Reflection Question: What part of your old life are you trying to recreate instead of rebuilding? About the Podcast The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming is a podcast for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like they fit. Each week, I share honest conversations, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help women rebuild with more self-trust, stronger boundaries, and a whole lot more peace. 🎧 New episodes every Tuesday. Connect with Me🌐 Website:https://www.empowermentjourneywithmickey.com📘 Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/softbutsavagemethod📷 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/softbutsavagemethod If this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another woman who may need it today. Until next time... keep becoming. — Mickey

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Welcome to The Soft but Savage Method: Conversations in Becoming. This podcast is for women navigating life's biggest transitions—divorce, empty nest, career changes, identity shifts, and the seasons when life no longer feels like it fits. Each week, we'll have honest conversations about boundaries, self-trust, healing, and rebuilding a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. If you're ready to stop shrinking, stop seeking permission, and start creating a life that feels like your own, you're in the right place. I'm Mickey, and I'm so glad you're here.

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