Pursue YOU with Pat Smith

Pat Smith
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Pursue YOU is a faith-centered personal growth podcast for women who feel like they’ve lost themselves in the roles, responsibilities, and expectations of life. If you’ve ever looked up and wondered, How did I get here? — this show is for you. Hosted by Patricia “Pat” Smith, Pursue YOU explores identity, healing, resilience, purpose, and the courage to rebuild from within. Through vulnerable reflections and powerful conversations with leaders and faith voices, Pat creates space for women navigating life transitions, rediscovering themselves, and redefining who they are beyond the labels. If you’re ready to reconnect with your identity, confront fear, and step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence — It’s time to Pursue YOU.

Episodes

  1. Aug 12

    5: The Relationship I Never Built With Myself: Learning to Love All Parts of Me with Ludmila Woodruff (Part 2)

    In PART 2 of this transformative conversation, Pat Smith and relationship coach Ludmila Woodruff move beyond the lessons of marriage and into the relationship that shapes every other one: the relationship with yourself. As Pat courageously confronts the beliefs she's carried for decades, she realizes that the validation, love, and confidence she searched for in others could never replace what she had never learned to give herself. Together, they explore why self-worth affects the love we receive, how childhood wounds become adult relationship patterns, why so many women struggle to receive compliments, advocate for themselves, and feel financially secure, and how healing begins when we stop rejecting the woman staring back at us in the mirror. This episode is a powerful invitation to finally build the relationship you've been missing all along: the one with yourself. KEY POINTS  00:00 – Introduction 01:37 – Why healing starts by building a relationship with yourself.  04:40 – High-achieving women are often the support for everyone else.  09:35 – The healthiest relationships begin when you become securely attached to yourself. 10:16 – Ludmila's powerful mirror exercise for learning to genuinely love yourself. 18:42 –  Why self-worth determines the love you're able to receive. 22:46 – The permission slip to rewrite the stories you've believed about yourself for years. 30:04 – Love is not enough: Women must advocate for themselves emotionally and financially. 36:07 – The realization that changes everything. 42:22 – Pat choosing courage, self-compassion, and a brand new relationship with herself. QUOTES  "I did not love Pat. I didn't see me. I didn't totally receive all of me." – Pat Smith "You haven't built a relationship with yourself yet." – Ludmila Woodruff "I don't think I ever looked at myself as a winner." – Pat Smith "Your husband doesn't see a woman who feels beautiful. He sees a woman who performs." – Ludmila Woodruff GUEST RESOURCES  Ludmila Woodruff ludmilawoodruff.com  IG | @ludmilawoodruff  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  2. Aug 10

    The Childhood Belief That Followed Me Into Marriage | Pat Smith on Pursue You

    Why do so many women lose themselves in relationships? In this powerful conversation, Pat Smith realizes that her need to be perfect wasn't a personality trait—it was a survival strategy. Relationship coach Ludmila Woodruff unpacks how childhood experiences can teach us to earn love through performance, and why that pattern often leads to burnout, resentment, and losing ourselves. GUEST RESOURCES  Ludmila Woodruff ludmilawoodruff.com  IG | @ludmilawoodruff  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  3. Aug 5

    4: What I Learned From My Two Failed Marriages with Ludmila Woodruff (Part 1)

    What if the love you've been searching for can't begin until you stop performing for it? In PART 1 of this deeply personal episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith sits down with relationship coach Ludmila Woodruff to unpack the hidden beliefs that quietly shaped her marriages, her identity, and the way she learned to seek love. Together, they explore how childhood experiences influence adult relationships, why so many women lose themselves trying to be "good enough," and how the need for approval can turn into a lifetime of performing instead of belonging. As Ludmila gently challenges Pat's long-held beliefs, a powerful realization begins to emerge: maybe the relationship that needs the most healing isn't with someone else, it's with yourself. KEY POINTS  00:00 – Introduction 02:49 – Why Pat refused to let divorce become her identity. 05:00 – The relationship lessons most women were never taught. 07:57 – How to raise daughters without passing down shame. 11:43 – The parenting approach that builds emotionally healthy kids. 16:45 – Pat asks the question that changes everything: "What was my part?" 22:19 – Why self-love determines the love you accept. 26:19 – The childhood moment that taught Pat to perform for love. 30:13 – The identity crisis that comes after the roles disappear. 35:00 – Why healthy love feels safe, not exciting. QUOTES  "When women are in a performative state, and they are dating or married, it never works out." – Ludmila Woodruff "I still believe in love... but this time, I want to get it right." – Pat Smith GUEST RESOURCES  Ludmila Woodruff ludmilawoodruff.com  IG | @ludmilawoodruff  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  4. Aug 3

    The Secret To Friendships That Last A Lifetime

    What makes a friendship last for 26 years? Pat Smith sits down with two of her closest friends to reflect on the bond that's carried them through marriage, divorce, career changes, and every season of life. They share why jealousy has no place in real friendship, the importance of creating safe spaces for one another, and the simple habits that have kept their friendship strong for more than two decades. If you've ever wondered why some friendships fade while others become family, this conversation is for you. RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  5. Jul 29

    3: What 26 Years Of Friendship Taught Me About Life, Loss & Loyalty

    What does real friendship look like when life falls apart? In this emotional episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith is joined by her longtime friends Donna and Cara for an unfiltered conversation about sisterhood, resilience, caregiving, grief, and the power of women who show up without judgment. Their friendship spans more than 26 years, carrying them through love, divorce, loss, faith, caregiving, career shifts, and personal reinvention. Together, they reflect on what it means to be a safe place for one another, how true friends step in during the most challenging seasons, and why vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but rather a strength. From hospital rooms to kitchen tables, from grief to laughter, this episode is a reminder that healing often happens in community. If you’ve ever wondered whether real, ride-or-die friendships still exist, this conversation is proof that they do; and that they can carry you through every season of life. KEY POINTS  Real friendships don’t expire. They evolve. Vulnerability is strength, not weakness. You don’t divorce your friends, even when life changes. Safe friendships create space to fall apart and rebuild. Caregiving teaches patience, honor, and humility. Faith deepens when you walk through hard seasons together. Healing often happens around kitchen tables, not stages. You have to be a good friend to have good friends. QUOTES  “We never divorced each other. We’re still here, still showing up for each other.” – Donna “There was never any jealousy amongst us. That’s why it’s lasted.” – Cara “I don’t think we chose each other. I think life chose us, and then God sealed it.” – Donna “I need you two to have your own relationship. That’s how friendships grow.” – Cara “The greatest honor in my life is how we took care of our parents.”  – Donna RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  6. Jul 27

    The Secret Shame I Carried After Divorce | Pat Smith on Pursue YOU

    For years, Pat Smith carried shame over the parts of her story that didn't go according to plan. In this deeply personal conversation, she opens up about divorce, disappointment, faith, and the freedom she found when she stopped defining herself by her mistakes. Pat shares why shame kept her stuck, how God's grace changed her perspective, and the powerful realization that transformed the way she views failure, healing, and second chances. If you've ever felt like your mistakes disqualified you, this conversation is your reminder that you are not broken, you're human. RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  7. Jul 22

    2: Who Are You When Your Roles Are Gone? | Pat Smith on Pursue YOU Podcast

    What happens when the noise stops… and you’re finally left alone with yourself? In this deeply personal solo episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith opens up about identity loss, shame, isolation, faith, and the quiet seasons that force us to confront who we are without our titles. At 54, after decades of motherhood, marriage, ministry, and service, Pat shares what it feels like to reach a moment where everything familiar falls away, and you are invited to meet yourself again. This episode is for the woman who feels stuck, numb, embarrassed by her past, or unsure what comes next. Pat speaks honestly about grief, divorce, faith, healing, and why silence can be both a gift and a thief. She reframes isolation as preparation and reminds listeners that pursuing yourself is not selfish, it is necessary. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s too late, whether you still matter, or whether God can use you in this season, this conversation is your invitation to stop waiting and start pursuing the life that is still unfolding. KEY POINTS  Titles are temporary. Identity is eternal. Feeling empty can be an invitation, not a failure. Silence can heal you or isolate you. Choose how you use it. Pursuing yourself is not selfish. It’s obedience. Shame thrives in secrecy. Healing begins in truth. You are not your mistakes or your past decisions. God speaks loudest when life finally gets quiet. It is never too late to meet the real you. QUOTES  “I thought maybe it was too late. Maybe I had given away most of my life to everybody else.” “I chose to be alone many times because I felt embarrassed by how long I had been grieving.” “It is not selfish to pursue you. Everything you gain from that will bless everyone else.” “Silence can be a gift, or it can be a thief.” “You are not your mistakes. You are not your decisions.” RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  8. Jul 20

    Who You Think I Am Isn’t the Whole Story

    In this powerful segment of Pursue YOU, Pat vulnerably opens up about the weight of public perception, identity loss, and the frustration of being reduced to labels instead of being understood through her full story. As she reflects on motherhood, marriage, career, and personal reinvention, Dr. Delatorro offers a transformative perspective on personal growth, faith, and purpose—reminding her that before the glory comes the story. Together, they explore how identity can become distorted by roles and expectations, why God develops us in hidden seasons, and how reclaiming your narrative is the first step toward true self-discovery. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, mislabeled, or stuck between who you were and who you’re becoming, this conversation will remind you that your roots matter—and your story is still unfolding. GUEST RESOURCES  Dr. Delatorro McNeal Website | www.delatorro.com IG | @drdelatorro RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  9. Jul 15

    1: Finding The Courage to Rebuild Yourself From Within | Dr. Delatorro

    In the powerful pilot episode of Pursue YOU, Pat Smith sits down with renowned speaker and author Dr. Delatorro McNeal, II, MS, CSP, CPAE, for a soul-deep conversation about identity, faith, fear, and purpose. This episode marks Pat’s first step into telling her own story and inviting you to do the same. Through raw reflection and spiritual insight, Dr. Delatorro introduces life-changing frameworks from his book Shift Into a Higher Gear, helping Pat unpack grief, loss, labels, and the courage required to pursue the version of herself that exists beyond public perception. Together, they explore why adversity is often intentional, how fear is learned, and faith can be learned too, and why healing is not linear (but necessary) if we want to live fully and freely. This conversation is an invitation for anyone who feels stuck, unseen, or unsure of what comes next to stop waiting and start moving. “I literally thought, who am I? This home, this life, none of it felt like ME anymore.” – Pat Smith If you have ever felt like life stripped everything away so you could finally meet yourself, then this episode is for you. KEY POINTS  You cannot pursue purpose while hiding behind labels. Adversity is not always the enemy.  Fear is a learned behavior.  How healing is required before love, leadership, and clarity can return. Change the identity, change the outcome. Growth often happens underground before it becomes visible. Courage is not the absence of fear, as it is an action despite it. You are allowed to redefine yourself on your own terms. QUOTES  “All of the things were stripped away so that you could focus on you.” – Dr. Delatorro McNeal “Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is the presence of fear and executing anyway.” – Dr. Delatorro McNeal “If we can learn fear, we can learn faith.” – Dr. Delatorro McNeal “Make sure people understand your story before they celebrate your glory.” – Dr. Delatorro McNeal GUEST RESOURCES  Dr. Delatorro McNeal Website | www.delatorro.com IG | @drdelatorro RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  10. Season 1 Trailer

    For the Woman Who Gave Her Life Away | Pursue You Podcast Official Trailer

    What happens when the strength you’re praised for becomes the place you hide? Hosted by Pat Smith, PURSUE YOU is dedicated to women who have spent their lives holding it together while quietly falling apart. This season pulls back the walls that many women keep up, inviting honest conversations about identity, faith, love, friendship, and rediscovering yourself after loss. Through deeply personal reflections, Pat shares her journey: from being the “too much” child to losing herself through motherhood and divorce, and questioning her worth and faith. Along with special guests, each episode explores grace, healing, women showing up for each other, and the courage it takes to redefine who you are and begin. PURSUE YOU  is not about having it all figured out. It is about telling the truth.Giving yourself grace.And choosing yourself, one brave step at a time. Welcome to Season 1: This is your invitation to Pursue YOU.  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network

  11. Season 1 Trailer

    I Sat Dormant for 3 Years... It's Time

    What happens when the strength you’re praised for becomes the place you hide? Hosted by Pat Smith, PURSUE YOU is dedicated to women who have spent their lives holding it together while quietly falling apart. This season pulls back the walls that many women keep up, inviting honest conversations about identity, faith, love, friendship, and rediscovering yourself after loss. Through deeply personal reflections, Pat shares her journey: from being the “too much” child to losing herself through motherhood and divorce, and questioning her worth and faith. Along with special guests, each episode explores grace, healing, women showing up for each other, and the courage it takes to redefine who you are and begin. PURSUE YOU  is not about having it all figured out. It is about telling the truth.Giving yourself grace.And choosing yourself, one brave step at a time. Welcome to Season 1: This is your invitation to Pursue YOU.  [megaphone]  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | @patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network  [youtube]  RESOURCES Pat Smith  IG | https://www.instagram.com/patsmithty  PURSUE YOU is produced by EPYC Media Network (visit at https://www.epyc.co/)

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Pursue YOU is a faith-centered personal growth podcast for women who feel like they’ve lost themselves in the roles, responsibilities, and expectations of life. If you’ve ever looked up and wondered, How did I get here? — this show is for you. Hosted by Patricia “Pat” Smith, Pursue YOU explores identity, healing, resilience, purpose, and the courage to rebuild from within. Through vulnerable reflections and powerful conversations with leaders and faith voices, Pat creates space for women navigating life transitions, rediscovering themselves, and redefining who they are beyond the labels. If you’re ready to reconnect with your identity, confront fear, and step into your next chapter with clarity and confidence — It’s time to Pursue YOU.

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  • Creator
    Pat Smith
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    11
  • Copyright
    © 2026