Attune IN

Dr Gauri
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Connection science for parents. Self-paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. Mental wellbeing for the long game.

Episodes

  1. 20h ago

    Community and teaching children to feel with Lara Gregorio

    Therapy is one hour a week. That leaves 167 hours where most people don't get support. I'm joined by ⁠Lara Gregorio⁠, licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years in behavioural health and founder of ⁠4C Mental Health⁠, to talk about why community might be the missing piece in emotional wellbeing and how we teach our children to sit with their feelings rather than rush to fix them. Lara shares how becoming a parent reshaped her understanding of support, and why a quote from a high school English teacher has guided her parenting more than her clinical training. We talk about the difference between allowing emotions and managing them, why children can't process boundaries when they're emotionally flooded, and the simple neurobiological tools that can help the whole family regulate. We also get into: Why your child might have only heard you once, even though you've said it a hundred timesThe 90-second truth about every emotion, and what keeps it alive after thatConnection before correction: why timing changes everythingQuick regulation tools from DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy) that any parent can use"Be the stick": a whitewater rafting metaphor for riding out emotional stormsGo Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self-paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent/practitioner looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

  2. Aug 7

    Limits and standards: the courage of parenting with Dr Florian Ruths

    Under stress, most of us don't parent the way we want to. We parent the way we were parented. I'm joined by ⁠Dr Florian Ruths⁠, consultant psychiatrist and medical psychotherapist, to talk about schema therapy and what parents actually carry from their own childhoods into the moments that test them. Florian is clinical lead of the ⁠Maudsley Medical Psychotherapy Service⁠ and co-leads the Maudsley Schema Therapy Service, where he is an accredited trainer, supervisor and practitioner in schema therapy and cognitive behavioural therapy. He was London principal investigator on the international multicentre trial of group schema therapy published in ⁠JAMA Psychiatry in 2022⁠. We talk about why parenting is an act of courage, the trap of unrelenting standards (what he calls "mission impossible"), and the simple reframe of kind limit setting: treating our children with the respect we'd extend to a neighbour. We also get into: Why our default parenting mode shows up under stress, and how to notice it before it leadsWhy parenting is one thread in a child's story, not the whole storyUnrelenting standards at work plus unrelenting standards at homeHow tone of voice and facial expression shape the inner voice a child carriesSeeing our children as individuals, not extensions of us Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent/practitioner looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

  3. Jul 24

    The iceberg behind your child's behaviour with Dr Abrar Hussain

    Your child does something small and suddenly you're reacting in a voice you barely recognise. What set you off usually isn't what's in front of you. I'm joined by ⁠Dr Abrar Hussain FRCPsych⁠, consultant psychiatrist and accredited cognitive analytical therapist, to talk about the iceberg behind your child's behaviour and how often what sits underneath points back to something in your own childhood. Abrar leads a specialist NHS service for functional neurological disorders, is an EMDR Europe accredited practitioner, and is a co-architect of the model behind ⁠HOSA Institute⁠ (Nervous System Economy). He is course director for the London-based MRCPsych CASC programme and trains psychiatrists across the UK. We talk about reciprocal roles from cognitive analytical therapy (CAT), the moments a parent's own childhood enters the room, and Abrar's framing of parenting as a relational gym: the place your own patterns get a chance to be met differently. We also get into: "Authentic self" versus "defence": Abrar on when a child's anger is one or the other"Core pain" in CAT, and the moment a parent's deeper hurt gets activated by a child's small refusalThe 8 Cs of Self in Internal Family Systems, and why there are "no bad parts"Abrar's pause-and-breathe practice for the moments that catch you off guard at homeWhy the most useful preparation for parenthood starts with you Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent or practitioner looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

  4. Jul 10

    Parenting and your nervous system with Lou Lebentz

    In this episode, I'm joined by ⁠Lou Lebentz⁠, founder of ⁠The Voyage®⁠, to talk about trauma, how it lives in the nervous system, and the impact it can have on the way we connect with our children. Lou breaks down the four aspects of trauma, from the events we can name to the things we absorbed without realising; and explains why almost everyone is carrying some form of stress or trauma. We talk about the different sides of ourselves that show up in new parents and when we're parenting. We cover what it takes to feel regulated alongside your child, and why guilt doesn't belong in the conversation. We also get into: Safety, feeling seen, and feeling soothed: what every child (and adult) needsThe traffic light system: green, amber, red, and what happens to connection in eachWhy your social engagement system switches off when you're activatedBoundaries that land vs boundaries that don'tThe difference between guilt and responsibility Get Connected: ⁠⁠Connect on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠Attune IN⁠®⁠ Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent or practitioner looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

  5. Jul 6

    Calm homes and what's under the rush with Natasha Silver Bell

    I'm joined by ⁠Natasha Silver Bell⁠, founder and CEO of SilverBell Global, to talk about creating a calm home and why the work starts with the parent's own rhythm. Natasha is a mother of three and leads SilverBell Global's family-centred care programmes including LifeTeams, Care Navigation Plans, and the annual East Meets West restoration retreat at Castle Ashby. She is co-founder of ⁠Youth Prevention Mentors⁠ and Inservice Foundation, ambassador for Partnership to End Addiction, and Vice President of NCADD/Westchester's board. We talk about "slow down, where's the fire?", the hidden "what about me" that sits under most morning rushes, and why giving a child ownership of their homework belongs in the same practice as giving them a quiet hallway when they come through the door. We also get into: Why the calm in the home starts with the parent who walks in firstChild-led afternoons: when children set the terms of the hour after schoolA memory from her daughter's primary school years that changed how she comes home nowAutonomic wellbeing in the family living room, from ⁠Deb Dana⁠'s workWhy "failure to launch" gets the direction of the problem wrong Go Deeper: Attune In® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune In program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠attunein.co.uk⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify

  6. Jul 5

    What to ask before handing your child a screen with Parven Kaur

    In this episode, I'm joined by ⁠Parven Kaur⁠, founder of Kids N Clicks, to talk about the digital play date and the questions worth asking before you hand your child a screen. Parven holds an MSc in Corporate Governance from the London School of Economics. She founded Kids N Clicks in 2018, and her work has been recognised as a Digital Pioneer by the ⁠Scottish Council for Voluntary Organisations⁠ and as a digital parenting expert by ⁠Internet Matters⁠. Edinburgh-based, she works with schools, charities and families on practical online safety. You'd ask careful questions before sending your child on a play date in someone else's house. Parven Kaur thinks the same questions apply when you hand them a tablet. We talk about the soft-play test for any new app, why the ⁠Internet Watch Foundation⁠ finds most online harm to children happens in their own bedroom, and the two-question filter Parven thinks takes most of the fear out of letting a child online: is there an addictive algorithm, and can strangers chat with them? We also get into: The "soft-play test": when to stay in the app with your child and when to sit on the sideRouter-level parental controls and the UK providers that switch them off by defaultThe question Parven asks her daughter about adults' phone useThe phone box at dinner, and why it matters as much as what's said over the mealWhen screens are how a child explores the world vs when they're how a child escapes it Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent/practitioner looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

    What to ask before handing your child a screen with Parven Kaur

  7. Jul 4

    Childhood, screens and the addictive pull with Dr Danielle Einstein

    Today, I'm joined by ⁠Dr Danielle Einstein⁠, Vice President of ⁠AGASA⁠, clinical psychologist, author of ⁠Raising Anxiety⁠, researcher and founder of ⁠The Dip⁠, to talk about why screens act as an avoid magnet for young people and what parents can do about it at home. Danielle is an adjunct fellow at Macquarie University with three decades of research into how technology shapes emotional wellbeing in young people. She provided critical evidence at the Australian Parliament's Senate Inquiry into social media age legislation and has since briefed members of the UK and New Zealand parliaments. We talk about technoference, why the addictive pull of devices is biological, not a character flaw, why both parents need to agree before making changes, and movements like Smartphone Free Childhood that are helping families make the shift together. We also get into: Why boredom is a good starting point for connection and confidenceThe "avoid magnet" effect: how a phone in the pocket stops a young person from learning they're OKWhy shaming a teenager about screen use backfires, and what to do insteadSmartphone free childhood: why changing norms works better than changing one family at a time Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ for more info. Originally published on Spotify.

    Childhood, screens and the addictive pull with Dr Danielle Einstein

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    About Attune In® the podcast with Dr Gauri Seth

    Originally published on Spotify. It doesn't matter how well-read or well-intentioned we are. Staying attuned and connected with our children, all the time, is surprisingly hard. Welcome to Attune In®, connection science for parents. I'm Gauri, the founder, and in this clip I share my journey from working in psychiatry and psychotherapy to raising 3 children of my own. And why I built Attune In®, a digital platform of videos, coaching tools and exercises, alongside this podcast, to bring evidence-based insights on parent-child connection to every parent. Across the pod series I'm joined by consultant psychiatrists, medical psychotherapists and professors of psychology, who are also parents themselves. We talk about attunement, emotional connection, and the little steps that help children feel they matter. In this trailer: Why staying connected is hard for even the most well-read parentThe "inner scaffolding" children can lean on when times get toughHow parents can feel less alone, and less judgedWhy connection starts with topping up your own emotional reserveWhat it means to attune in, before you can attune to your child Get Connected: ⁠⁠⁠Connect on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Attune IN⁠ Go Deeper: Attune IN® delivers connection science education for busy parents. The Attune IN program provides self paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. If you are a parent looking for the science of connection, or an employer wanting to support working parents in your organisation, visit ⁠⁠⁠attunein.co.uk⁠⁠⁠ for more info.

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Connection science for parents. Self-paced guidance by a psychiatrist turned educator and mum of 3. Mental wellbeing for the long game.

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  • Creator
    Dr Gauri
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
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    © 2026 Dr Gauri
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    Attune IN