Your Best Yes with Claire Dwyer

Claire Dwyer

A podcast to help you discern God's will and make good, confident decisions - with interior freedom for a greater gift of self. "...that you may be able to discern what is best." (Philippians 1:10) yourbestyes.substack.com

  1. 1d ago

    Episode 18: Who’s in the Driver’s Seat? Spiritual Direction and Discernment with Fr. Jeremiah Shryock

    In this episode, I’m joined by Fr. Jeremiah Shryock, CFR, to discuss the role of spiritual direction in growing in holiness and discerning God’s will. Fr. Jeremiah explains what spiritual direction is, what it isn’t, and how it differs from therapy, friendship, and simply seeking advice. He shares two foundational questions that guide his approach to spiritual direction: “What is God like for you?” and “How are you responding to Him?”. We also discuss how a spiritual director can help us recognize God’s work in our lives, examine our motives, and approach decisions with greater clarity. Ultimately, spiritual direction is about deepening our relationship with God and growing in union with Him. Reflection and Discussion Questions: * The vocation to be a spiritual director (his ‘call within a call’) takes many forms in Father Jeremiah’s priesthood: 1:1 direction, leading retreats, and as Claire put it, “distilling the wisdom of spiritual direction into the written form.” Go back and listen and/or reflect on the episodes with Dr. Joshua Miller on personal vocation. Can you see how your personal vocation takes different forms, but fundamentally remains the same? How? * Claire asked Father Jeremiah if spiritual directors should share about their own experiences when a directee is weighing a decision, and he suggested that in some cases that it could be helpful — as long as the directee stays “in the driver’s seat,” that is, makes their decision in full freedom. What is the best advice you’ve gotten from someone when you’ve been uncertain? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer * Use the code Partner2026 for 20% off! * A Spacious Place Daily Prayer Journal * Fr. Jeremiah’s Website * Spiritual Direction Newsletter (scroll to the bottom of the page to sign up!) * Episode 5: There are No “Generic” Relationships with God: Dr. Joshua Miller on Personal Vocation * Episode 6: Discovering a Pattern in our Gifts: Dr. Joshua Miller on Finding and Protecting Our Best Work We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  2. Oct 28

    Episode 17: Flip the Script: Samantha N. Stephenson Interviews Claire on Her New Book

    In this episode, I’m switching things up and having my friend, Samantha N. Stevenson, interview me about my new book, A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with St. Edith Stein. We discuss the unique call of women to spiritual motherhood, the relationship between truth and love, and how God uses even seasons of uncertainty to prepare us for what lies ahead. St. Edith Stein’s life offers so much wisdom for navigating seasons of waiting, discerning our vocation, and trusting God when the next step isn’t clear. If you’d like to pick up a copy of my book, be sure to use the promo code Partner2026 for 20% off! Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Claire shares the story of going on a walk with the philosopher Alice von Hildebrand and receiving what would be the encouragement she needed to start writing publicly. Can you trace an important interaction with someone that would change the trajectory of your life? * The first post Claire wrote was about St. Joseph. Samantha pointed out that from the start, she was writing about the saints. What common threads or patterns do you see running throughout your life that indicate something about your calling? * “You duped me, Lord, and I let myself be duped.” (Jeremiah 20:7) Claire laughs that writing her book, A Spacious Place, felt a little like that, in the sense that she had no idea how hard the “assignment” would turn out to be. Why does God not usually reveal the full extent of the call in its early stages? What do you underestimate more: what is required to complete the project, or your own abilities? * In speaking about seasons of waiting, in the life of St. Edith Stein and in their own lives, Claire and Samantha reflect that “the wait itself is worthy.” Samantha talks about her young pear tree and the important growth happening in the early years that make a future harvest possible. She relates her family’s delight in picking their first pear. What have you waited for? What has it taught you? What fruits came in the wait? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer * Use the code Partner2026 for 20% off! * A Spacious Place Daily Prayer Journal * Samantha’s Website * Choosing Human - Samantha’s Substack * Brave New Us - Samantha’s Podcast We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  3. Oct 21

    Episode 16: Redeemed Motivation: How Spirit-filled Sanguines and Phlegmatics Make Better Decisions with Erin Ingold

    In this episode, I continue my conversation with Erin Ingold and we focus on understanding the sanguine and phlegmatic temperaments. We talk about the strengths and blind spots of each, from the sanguine’s enthusiasm, relational nature, and tendency to say yes too quickly, to the phlegmatic’s desire for peace, stability, and practicality that can sometimes lead to delayed decisions. We also discuss how grace does not change our temperament but redeems and strengthens our natural tendencies, helping us become more responsive to God’s invitations in our lives. Be sure to subscribe to Your Best Yes on Substack so you don’t miss part 4 of the conversation! Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Erin relates that her sanguine temperament moves her to readily say yes if something sounds exciting, relational, or fun. That can be good–or not. She admits that temperaments influence how we decide, not if we decide well. What are the risks your particular temperament poses when decision-making? * Sanguines tend to have an easy time getting other people to buy into their decisions. Consider why that gives them a particular responsibility to discern well. * Erin recognized, after too many years of giving her undiscerned yes in parish work, that we can confuse emotional consolation with God’s will. Why is it important not to base our decisions purely on our emotions or on what seems to be spiritual consolations? * The first question of a phlegmatic temperament is probably, Do I need to decide right now? Erin said that “they will delay decisions because change feels destabilizing.” The danger, though, is choosing comfort over calling. Have you ever defaulted to the familiar instead of faithfully seeking your best yes when it stretches you in uncomfortable ways? * Erin points out that phlegmatics naturally want to conserve energy but may inadvertently spend a lot of energy not making a decision. There’s a cost to having too many open tabs in our brain. Can you relate? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer (Use the code Partner2026 for 20% off!) * Metanoia Catholic * Temperaments Assessment We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  4. Oct 14

    Episode 15: Deliberative or Decisive: The Different Discernment Processes of Melancholics and Cholerics with Erin Ingold

    In this episode, I continue my conversation with Erin Ingold on the four temperaments and we focus on how the melancholic and choleric temperaments can shape the way we discern and make decisions. We explore the strengths and areas for growth of each, from the melancholic’s thoughtful thoroughness and desire to make the right decision to the choleric’s decisiveness, efficiency, and drive towards action. We also share practical ways to recognize when our natural inclinations are helping us discern well and when they might be leading us towards overthinking, urgency, or control. Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Claire admitted that as a melancholic, she can be slower to decide and act. Since it was God who made her that way, she’s wary of opportunities, invitations, or ideas that require a quick response. In her life, she’s noticed that He seems to honor her design and give her the space she needs to ponder, discern, and become ready. How do you think the Lord honors your temperament when He invites you to something? * Some of us process externally - talking, doing. Others process internally–so when they make a decision, it might look to others to come out of nowhere. The reality is, there’s been a lot of thinking and planning going on interiorly. Claire compares it to a teacher who wants students to “show their work” when they’ve done all the computing in their heads. How do you evaluate and make decisions? If you are an internal processor, might it benefit you to “show your work” to those close to you a little earlier in the discernment process? * The 80% rule can help us avoid the perfection trap and finish projects that might otherwise drag on for an inordinate length of time. Basically, when you recognize that something is good “enough” you ship it, publish it, call it good. Usually the only person who knows it could be 20% better is you. Why might the enemy of our souls want us to chase after perfection? Why is this always a losing battle? * For every yes, there’s an opportunity cost. Meaning once we’ve committed, we can’t say yes to any other competing–and possibly better or more important– opportunity. How can knowing and remembering that help us avoid agreeing to fill out time with lesser things? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer (Use the code Partner2026 for 20% off!) * Metanoia Catholic * Temperaments Assessment We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  5. Oct 7

    Episode 14: It’s Not Navel-Gazing: Understanding the Temperaments as the Natural Foundation of Discernment with Erin Ingold

    In this episode, I sit down with Erin Ingold, co-founder of Metanoia Catholic, to begin a four-part conversation on the four temperaments: cholaric, melancholic, sanguine, and phlegmatic. Erin explains where the temperaments come from, how the Catholic tradition understands them, and how they can point us towards our individual strengths, weaknesses, and areas for growth in virtue. Temperaments aren’t meant to put us into a box. Rather they can give us a starting point for recognizing how God may be inviting us to grow and become more fully ourselves in Christ. Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Understanding the foundational, biological part of our personality called our temperament can help us grow in self-knowledge and therefore, hopefully, make better decisions. Not just, as Claire pointed out, “vocational decisions or big life decisions, but even smaller decisions about how to grow in virtue.” What are some examples of decisions we make everyday: what time to get up; how much to eat; how long to pray; whether to stop and talk to our neighbor, for example, that shape the people that we are and that we are becoming? Give personal examples if you can. * Having heard an overview of the four temperaments, can you guess which one best describes you? Or perhaps you’ve taken an assessment and already know. It is possible that the Lord is inviting you to a deeper level of self-understanding? Not necessary that you are different than you originally thought (as Claire shared) but could there be aspects of your personality that you need to explore or develop? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer (Use the code Partner2026 for 20% off!) * Metanoia Catholic * Temperaments Assessment We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  6. Sep 30

    Episode 13: Sink the Ships: Bishop Peter Dai Bui on Escaping Vietnam and Finding the Safe Harbor of God’s Will

    In this episode, I’m joined by Bishop Peter Dai Bui, Auxiliary Bishop of Phoenix, to hear his incredible story of faith, from fleeing Vietnam as a young child to discerning his call to the priesthood. We talk about what it means to trust God when we can’t see where He is leading us and how He can transform our desires into something far greater than we could have imagined. Bishop Bui also shares four ways God may respond to our prayers—yes, no, slow, and grow—and how each one invites us into deeper trust in His love and providence. Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Bishop Bui describes the experience of escaping Vietnam in his father’s small fishing boat. As a very little boy, he was told to swim toward the single light on the boat in the darkness of night. He uses that metaphor now to describe the experience of journeying back to God with the light of Christ, even when everything around you is shrouded in darkness. Are there times in your life when you’ve had to move forward in total trust? * When his family arrived in Thailand, his father sank the boat to avoid being towed back out to sea by the Thai government. Is there an area of your life where you might be called to “sink the ship”? That is, commit to something with your whole heart and not hesitate or look back? * After finding refuge in the United States, Bishop Bui started going to Mass everyday as a boy to pray for an Atari gaming system. Instead, through the graces of the Eucharist, God enlarged his heart, changed his desires, and gave him a clear and distinct call to the priesthood. Have you ever prayed for one thing, only to find that your desires have shifted to something better? * Although he was extremely nervous when the papal nuncio called asking him to accept the appointment of auxiliary bishop of the diocese of Phoenix, the bishop immediately said yes. This was because, as he said, “I found out that every time I said yes to God, only blessings, peace would come from it. So I trusted that right now what God is asking of me is what He wants. So I said yes, even though I don’t know the implications.” Can you look back over your life and see the graces that have come when you’ve said yes to God? Does that increase your confidence and trust? Resources Mentioned: * A Spacious Place: A Spiritual Journey with Saint Edith Stein by Claire Dwyer * “Boat of No Smiles” photographs by Eddie Adams We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

  7. Sep 23

    Episode 12: When You Don’t Have Perfect Clarity: Taking the Next Step Forward with Fr. Will Schmid

    In this episode, I continue my conversation with Fr. Will Schmid to hear more about his own journey of discerning the call to the priesthood and the “calls within the call” that have shaped his vocation. We talk about the role of holy friendship and community in discernment, as well as the importance of consistent prayer and creating space to listen to God. Fr. Will also shares practical wisdom for bringing our questions and decisions into the light with trusted people who can help us discern well. Reflection and Discussion Questions: * Fr. Will found himself daydreaming about giving homilies while listening to others’ preaching. Did your daydreams reveal anything about your future calling? * Another priest told Fr. Will that he’d been praying for him and his vocation even before he was discerning it. Do you know or believe that someone was praying for you and your calling? Are you being called to pray for someone who you believe may have a particular mission? * As he discerned, Father Will got some clarity – not the assurance that he was definitely called to the priesthood, but that he should certainly enter seminary. Often, we get just enough clarity to take one more step forward. Are you waiting for perfect certainty about the big picture before you take the next small step forward? Why might this be a mistake? * Mother Teresa had a “call within a call.” Within his call to the priesthood, Fr. Will found that he was approached by police officers to be their chaplain. This allowed him to be present and accompany them during times of great tragedy and suffering. Within your primary vocation, have you discerned that you’re equipped to serve in an every deeper, more specific way? Resources Mentioned: * Write These Words We’d love to hear from you! If this podcast has encouraged you, consider supporting Your Best Yes on Substack to help us continue creating conversations and resources to help others seek God’s will with greater clarity, confidence, and trust. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit yourbestyes.substack.com/subscribe

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A podcast to help you discern God's will and make good, confident decisions - with interior freedom for a greater gift of self. "...that you may be able to discern what is best." (Philippians 1:10) yourbestyes.substack.com

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