Unfiltered with Jules

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Welcome to Unfiltered with Jules—the relationship talk you're probably having in the group chat anyway. Dating disasters. Relationship drama. Sex, friendship, red flags, questionable decisions, and all the messy little situations we pretend we have figured out. Jules brings the conversation you'd normally have with your best friend after saying, “Okay, don't judge me, but…” Expect honest opinions, hilarious stories, anonymous listener submissions, uncomfortable questions, and the occasional girl, what the hell were you thinking? No perfect answers. No pretending we've got life figured out.

  1. 5d ago

    Dating Horror Stories: Ghosted, Left on Read & Haunted by the DMs

    Dating is scary enough without adding ghosts, creepy encounters, surprise spouses, and men who apparently need a background check before ordering coffee. 💀🎃 Welcome to the Halloween special of Unfiltered with Jules, where we’re opening the dating graveyard and digging up the stories that should’ve stayed buried. We’re talking about the ghosts who disappear for months (or YEARS) before crawling back into your DMs, first dates that turn into absolute disasters, and red flags so enormous they deserve their own haunted house. And this time? We’re bringing receipts. I took to Reddit’s r/DatingHell and asked people to share their worst dating experiences. Let’s just say the internet did NOT disappoint. In this episode, we’re getting into: 🪦 The Ghosting Graveyard: Why do people disappear and then return like nothing happened? 👻 The DMs That Won’t Die: The exes, situationships, and late-night messages that refuse to stay buried. 🚩 First Dates From Hell: When the person sitting across from you becomes the plot twist you never asked for. ☕ The Green Tea Interrogation: One woman’s drink order somehow turns into a full-blown dating disaster. 📱 The Man Who Didn’t Know Her Name: Because apparently saving someone’s contact as a heart emoji counts as getting acquainted. 💍 The Surprise Husband: Yes. An actual husband. And somehow, that’s not even the most unbelievable part. Plus, we’re reading real dating horror stories submitted by Reddit users, reacting to the chaos, and talking about the difference between an awkward date, a ridiculous red flag, and a situation where you need to trust your instincts and GET OUT. Expect laughter, disbelief, a little spooky atmosphere, and plenty of moments that will have you yelling at your phone. Because sometimes the scariest thing about dating isn’t getting ghosted. It’s finding out the person you’ve been dating has a whole-ass spouse waiting in the driveway. So grab your wine, turn down the lights, and silence those notifications. And if your ex suddenly texts you while you’re listening? Bitch, that’s not a coincidence. That’s a paranormal investigation. 👻 🎧 Unfiltered with Jules | Real conversations about dating, relationships, sex, friendship, and life. No sugarcoating. No judgment. Just the conversations we’re all thinking about. 💋 Have a dating horror story of your own? Submit it anonymously through Unfiltered with Jules: https://unfilteredwithjules.com Explicit content | Adult language and dating discussions.

  2. Oct 20

    Wasn't I Supposed to Have My Shit Together By Now?

    Remember when we thought being a grown-up meant having money, confidence, a perfect relationship, and absolutely everything figured out? Yeah. That’s f*****g hilarious. 😂 This week on Unfiltered with Jules, we’re talking about the millennial midlife crisis nobody warned us about. The pressure to have it all together, the timelines we thought we’d follow, and that uncomfortable moment when you realize adulthood looks NOTHING like you imagined. We’re getting into: 🖤 Feeling behind while everyone else seems to be thriving 💋 Relationships, careers, money, and the pressure to have a five-year plan 🍷 Outgrowing old versions of yourself (and sometimes the people around you) 😂 The ridiculous expectations we had about adulthood ✨ Figuring out what YOU actually want instead of what you thought you were supposed to want Because maybe having your shit together isn’t about checking every box. Maybe it’s about finally deciding which boxes you don’t give a damn about anymore. And in a little plot twist, today’s also the release of my debut novel, I Missed Me Too, by Jules Markley! 📖💋 So grab your coffee, wine, or whatever’s getting you through adulthood, and let’s talk about it. Welcome to Unfiltered with Jules. Real talk. No perfect timelines. Absolutely no filter. Bye, bitch! 💋

  3. Oct 13

    Wait.. We’re Allowed to Have Crushes When We’re Taken?

    You’re in a relationship. You’re happy. You’re committed. And then someone walks into the room and your brain goes, Well, that’s inconvenient. 😂 WAIT. Are we even allowed to have crushes when we’re in a relationship?! Because apparently, being committed to someone doesn’t mean your eyeballs stop working. This week on Unfiltered with Jules, we’re getting into one of those relationship conversations people have in their heads but don’t always say out loud. We’re talking about: 💋 Why finding someone else attractive doesn’t automatically mean something is wrong with your relationship. 🔥 The difference between a harmless crush and an emotional connection that’s crossing boundaries. 👀 Celebrity crushes, work crushes, and those completely random people who catch you off guard. ❤️ Where attraction ends and disrespect begins. 🚩 When a little crush might actually be telling you something bigger. And the million-dollar question: Is having a crush cheating, or is it just being human? No judgment. No pretending we’re all saints. Just honest conversations, uncomfortable truths, and probably a few things we shouldn’t say out loud. Because this is Unfiltered with Jules, babe. We don’t do perfect. We do real. 🎧 Grab your coffee, pour your wine, and let’s talk about it. Follow Unfiltered with Jules so you never miss a Tuesday episode, and share this one with the friend who’s definitely going to have an opinion. 💋 Find more Unfiltered: https://unfilteredwithjules.com New episodes every Tuesday. xo, Jules 💋

  4. Oct 6

    Is It Actually a Boundary… or Are You Just Being An A*****e

    There’s a huge difference between having boundaries and trying to control someone… but somewhere along the way, we started treating them like the same thing. This week on Unfiltered with Jules, we’re talking about what it actually looks like to communicate what you need in a relationship without apologizing for it. Because loving someone doesn’t mean they magically know what you’re thinking. And expecting someone to figure out what’s wrong while you quietly build resentment? Yeah… we need to talk about that. 😂 We’re getting into boundaries, ultimatums, expectations, consequences, and the uncomfortable question underneath all of it: What happens when you clearly tell someone what you need… and they still choose not to give it to you? In this episode, we’re talking about: 🖤 The difference between a boundary and a threat
🖤 Why ultimatums aren’t automatically toxic
🖤 Saying what you need instead of expecting someone to just know
🖤 What a boundary actually requires from you
🖤 Why repeatedly moving your own line teaches people they don’t have to take it seriously
🖤 When compromise is healthy and when you’re just abandoning yourself
🖤 What someone’s response to your boundary can tell you about the relationship And, obviously, we’re getting into the messy gray area because relationships rarely come with neat little instruction manuals. You’re allowed to have needs.
You’re allowed to communicate them.
And you’re allowed to decide what you will do when those needs continue to go unmet. Grab your coffee, wine, emotional-support water bottle, whatever we’re working with today. We need to talk. 🎙️ Unfiltered with Jules
Relationships. Dating. Sex. Friendship. And the shit nobody wants to say out loud.

  5. Sep 29

    Is It Basic Effort… or Are We Asking Too Much?

    Relationship TikTok has officially convinced us that everything is “the bare minimum.” Planning dates. Buying flowers. Good-morning texts. Sharing your location. Paying for dates. Handing over your phone password. Cutting off exes. Knowing exactly what your partner needs without them ever having to say it. Babe… they cannot ALL be basic relationship requirements. 😂 This week on Unfiltered with Jules, we’re figuring out where the line actually is between having standards, wanting extra effort, and expecting your partner to read your damn mind. And because apparently a normal conversation wasn’t chaotic enough, we’re turning it into a game. 💅 Basic Effort
😌 Nice to Have
🤡 Absolutely Delusional We’re putting relationship expectations into categories and arguing our way through all of them. We’re getting into: 🖤 Who should actually be planning the dates
📱 Phone passwords, location sharing, thirst traps, exes & DMs
🔥 Initiating sex, affection, porn & whether your partner should know how to get you off
💰 Who pays, whether 50/50 is actually fair & what happens when one partner earns more
🚩 The difference between privacy and secrecy
💬 Why “if they really loved me, I wouldn’t have to ask” might be one of the worst pieces of relationship advice on the internet Plus listener questions, some absolutely unhinged relationship expectations, and several moments where Jules realizes she may have created a game she cannot actually win. Because having standards matters. But so does knowing the difference between a standard, an expectation, and an agreement you never actually had. 🎧 Grab your imaginary paddle and play along. Where would YOU draw the line? xo, Jules 💋

  6. Sep 22

    What Am I Actually Supposed to DO During Sex?

    What are you actually supposed to DO during sex? Seriously. Where do your hands go? How do you tell someone what you actually like? What if you can't orgasm with your partner? What if you want to bring a toy into the bedroom? And what happens when you want sex way more than the person you're with? This week on Unfiltered with Jules, we're going fully Between the Sheets for one of our most honest, adult conversations yet. So pour the wine, put on the headphones, and get comfortable. Because somehowwe're expected to magically know how to be “good in bed” without anyone ever teaching us what good sex actually looks like. Spoiler: it'sprobably a lot less about technique than you think. We're getting into: 🔥 Arousal and why attraction doesn't always meanyou're instantly ready for sex 🔥 Foreplay, anticipation, and why we need to stop treating it like the opening act 🔥 Orgasms, performance anxiety, and the pressure tofinish 🔥 Why people fake orgasms and how that can backfire 🔥 Masturbation, solo pleasure, and actually learning your own body 🔥 Sexual confidence and getting out of your own head 🔥 Why receiving pleasure can sometimes be harder than giving it 🔥 How to tell someone what feels good without making it awkward 🔥 Sex toys, bringing them into a relationship, and why they aren't competition 🔥 Spontaneous vs. responsive desire 🔥 Mismatched sex drives and what happens when one partner wants sex more 🔥 Affection without expectation 🔥 Sexual compatibility in long-term relationships 🔥 Keeping sex interesting without turning your bedroom into Cirque du Soleil 🔥 And the things we seriously need to STOP doing in bed Plus, we'reanswering three listener questions throughout the episode: 💌 “I can orgasm alone, so why can't I finish with my boyfriend?” 💌 “I know what I like, but why am I so embarrassed to tell my partner?” 💌 “I want sex way more than my partner does. How are we supposed to compromise without either of us feeling pressured or rejected?” And because we'reall adults here, I'm opening something new this week: 🧸 THE UNFILTERED TOY BOX I love toys myself, and there is absolutely no judgment around here. So if you've ever opened a toy website, looked at approximately 900 options and thought, “What the F**K am I supposed to buy?”... I did some homework for you. Here are the toys mentioned in this week's episode: THE UNFILTERED TOY BOX — SHOP THE EPISODE • plusOne Vibrating Bullet: https://myplusone.com/products/plusone-vibrating-bullet • Maude Vibe: https://getmaude.com/ • Dame Pom: https://dame.com/collections/external-vibrators • Dame Eva: https://dame.com/collections/external-vibrators • We-Vibe Moxie+: https://www.we-vibe.com/us/moxie-plus • We-Vibe Chorus: https://www.we-vibe.com/us/chorus • We-Vibe Melt 2: https://www.we-vibe.com/us/melt-2 And toward the end, I'm giving you My Unfiltered Take on what being “good in bed” actually means. Because great sexisn't about performing. It isn't about knowing fifty positions. It isn't about magically reading somebody's mind. And an orgasm isn'ta f*****g report card. Great sex is about curiosity, communication, safety, confidence, attention, pleasure, and being willing to actually learn each other. Nobody handed us thefucking instruction manual. Solet's talk about it. 🖤 🎧Unfiltered with Jules New episodes every Tuesday. Have a dating, relationship, sex, friendship, or life question you want me to answer? Submit your story anonymously through Unfiltered with Jules. And for early and ad-free episodes, unedited voice notes, monthly live Q&As, our private community, first access to live tapings, the archive, and conversations that don't always belong on the public internet, come join us inside The Love Lounge.https://discord.gg/yrVAz9TaSV Explicit episode. Listener discretion advised. xo, Jules

  7. Sep 15

    He’s Hot, But He’s a Red Flag: When Attraction Makes You Ignore the Obvious

    Have you ever looked at a red flag, acknowledged the red flag, discussed the red flag with your friends… and then decided it wasn’t that serious because the person holding it was ridiculously hot? Yeah. We need to talk. 😂 In this episode of Unfiltered with Jules, we’re getting brutally honest about what happens when attraction starts negotiating our standards. Because sometimes he’s not mysterious. He’s inconsistent. He’s not protective. He’s controlling. He’s not emotionally complicated. He’s emotionally unavailable. And sometimes we’re not missing the red flags at all. We’re seeing them perfectly clearly and then becoming Olympic-level translators trying to explain them away. Jules breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, why jealousy can get mistaken for passion, why possessiveness isn’t automatically protection, and why hot-and-cold behavior can feel so intoxicating even when it’s making you anxious as hell. We’re also talking about the red flag translation dictionary: 🚩 “He’s jealous because he cares.” 🚩 “He’s just complicated.” 🚩 “He needs time.” 🚩 “He’s amazing when it’s just us.” 🚩 “He’ll change when…” And then there’s the big one: potential. Because potential is sexy as hell when it gives you something to wait for. But are you actually dating who someone is, or are you dating the version of them you’ve imagined they’ll eventually become? Jules also gets into the difference between a flaw and a pattern, why your friends might see something you’re refusing to see, and how to tell whether you’re defending your relationship because it’s actually healthy or because you desperately want it to be. Plus, your listener questions: 💌 What’s a red flag you ignored because you were attracted to someone? 💌 What do you do when your friends hate your boyfriend but you don’t see what they see? 💌 How much bad behavior is too much when someone is incredible the rest of the time? And here’s the question I really want you to sit with: If you weren’t attracted to this person, would you still think their behavior was acceptable? Because you don’t have to stop loving someone before you can admit they’re wrong for you. You don’t have to turn someone into a villain to justify walking away. And you definitely don’t have to wait until a red flag comes with a marching band behind it before you take it seriously. So grab your coffee, your wine, or whatever questionable decision-making beverage you’re currently holding… and let’s talk about why sometimes a pretty face gets way too much negotiating power. Follow Unfiltered with Jules, share this episode with the friend who’s currently dating a walking red flag and insisting he’s just misunderstood, and send me your stories and questions through the website. Because apparently none of us are running out of questionable relationship decisions anytime soon. 😂 Trust your gut. Pay attention to patterns. And for the love of God, stop letting a pretty face negotiate your standards. Bye, bitch. 💋

  8. Sep 8

    When You Love Someone But Don’t Like Them Anymore

    Can you love someone deeply… and still not actually like being around them anymore? Not because they cheated. Not because they’re a terrible person. Not because there’s some giant, obvious reason everyone can point to and say, “Yep, that’s why you should leave.” Maybe they’re a good person. Maybe you’ve built a life together. Maybe everything is technically fine. And somehow… you’re still unhappy. In this episode of Unfiltered with Jules, we’re getting brutally honest about what happens when love and compatibility stop feeling like the same thing. We’re talking about: 🖤 The difference between loving your partner and actually liking them
🖤 When a relationship starts feeling more like a roommate situation
🖤 How to tell the difference between a rough patch and something deeper
🖤 Resentment, emotional disconnection, and losing curiosity about each other
🖤 Whether you actually miss your partner… or just miss who you used to be together
🖤 What happens when you realize you don’t like the person you’ve become inside the relationship
🖤 The uncomfortable five-year question: If nothing changed, would you still choose this life?
🖤 What it means when imagining life without your partner feels more like relief than fear
🖤 Whether a relationship can be rebuilt when the connection is gone
🖤 And the hardest question of all: Do I actually want this relationship anymore? Plus, we’re answering listener questions about loving someone you no longer enjoy being around, figuring out whether you’ve fallen out of love, and leaving a genuinely good person when you’re simply no longer happy. Because sometimes you don’t need a villain. Sometimes you need honesty. So grab your headphones, get comfortable, and ask yourself the question we’re starting with today: Do you actually like your partner? Welcome back, bitch. 🖤

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Welcome to Unfiltered with Jules—the relationship talk you're probably having in the group chat anyway. Dating disasters. Relationship drama. Sex, friendship, red flags, questionable decisions, and all the messy little situations we pretend we have figured out. Jules brings the conversation you'd normally have with your best friend after saying, “Okay, don't judge me, but…” Expect honest opinions, hilarious stories, anonymous listener submissions, uncomfortable questions, and the occasional girl, what the hell were you thinking? No perfect answers. No pretending we've got life figured out.

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  • Creator
    Jules Markley
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    21
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jules Markley
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    Unfiltered with Jules