This Is Not Advice

Kareem and Shannon
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This Is Not Advice is a fun, honest, and unfiltered podcast hosted by Kareem and Shannon, a married couple sharing real conversations about relationships, communication, marriage, dating, parenting, growth, and everything in between. Through personal stories, debates, and lessons learned, Kareem and Shannon explore the moments that can bring couples closer or create unnecessary tension. From petty disagreements and communication breakdowns to love, accountability, and personal growth, each episode offers humor, honesty, and practical takeaways. However, this is not advice!

Episodes

  1. Oct 18

    Can a 21 Day Fast Save Your Relationship?

    Can a 21-Day Fast Save Your Relationship? Shannon had been fasting for years, but Kareem never fully understood the power of fasting until they experienced it together. In November 2025, we completed our first 21-day Daniel Fast as a couple. In this episode, we reflect on how that experience challenged us individually, strengthened our faith, and impacted our marriage. We explore how giving up everyday comforts can create space for God to work in our lives and relationships. But transformation requires intentionality, focused prayer, and a willingness to grow both individually and together. Can fasting really transform your relationship, or is it what you do during the fast that makes the difference?

  2. Oct 13

    Things My Father Never Taught Me

    Things My Father Never Taught Me Pt. 2 (A Wife’s Perspective) How does a woman's relationship with her father influence the way she loves and shows up in her marriage? In Part 2, Shannon reflects on her relationship with her father and how those experiences shaped the woman, wife, and mother she is today. We explore how her upbringing influences the way she loves, supports, and shows up for her husband, Kareem, while recognizing the areas where she continues to learn and grow as a partner. An honest conversation about love, self-awareness, accountability, and the ongoing journey of becoming better for ourselves and each other.

  3. Oct 5

    Episode 7: Things My Father Never Taught Me

    Our fathers didn’t have all the answers and neither do we. In this episode of This Is Not Advice, my wife and I have an honest conversation about mentorship, guidance, and the things I’m still learning as a man and a partner. She asks questions that push my thinking and challenge me to reflect on what I was taught, what I wasn’t taught, and what I now have a responsibility to learn for myself. We also discuss my favorite book, Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates, and what it has taught me about fatherhood, identity, responsibility, and growth. This conversation is about becoming more intentional, developing the tools to show up better in relationships, and giving ourselves grace along the way. #ThisIsNotAdvice #Fatherhood #Marriage #Mentorship #Relationships #BetweenTheWorldAndMe #PersonalGrowth

  4. Oct 5

    Why Did I Get Married 4x?

    We didn’t just get married once… we’ve had to choose each other through every new version of ourselves. 💍Marriage changed us. Then each of our three kids changed us again. New responsibilities. New needs. New priorities. New versions of Kareem and Shannon.The real work has been learning how to love the person your spouse is becoming—not just the person you originally married.🎙️ We Got Married 4x — out now.

  5. Aug 31

    144 Hours: Silence Is OK. Communication Is Golden

    144 hours. That’s how long Shannon once went without speaking to Kareem. She calls cap.. In this episode, they unpack what that silence taught them about communication, conflict, and giving each other space to process. Kareem learned not to rush Shannon when she needs time to process feelings (Kareem is learning to value this more), while Shannon learned that needing space shouldn’t mean completely icing your partner out. They discuss how they communicate their needs more clearly, reconnect after conflict, and use prayer and devotion to help close the distance—or how Kareem tries to use prayer and devotionals to get Shannon to communicate quicker. 😂 Sometimes silence is necessary. But communication is golden.

  6. Aug 23

    Who Should Submit? The Relationship Debate

    What does submission actually mean in a modern relationship? Kareem and Shannon unpack the tension between partnership, leadership, autonomy, and traditional gender roles—and how culture, religion, and personal experience shape those beliefs. Kareem also reflects on masculinity through his lens as a Black man in America in 2026, including how outdated ideas of male leadership can sometimes become controlling, rigid, and limiting to a partner’s voice. This episode asks a bigger question: Can submission exist in a healthy relationship without sacrificing equality, individuality, or mutual respect?

  7. Aug 16

    Episode 3: Is Marriage Worth It? God, Grief & Glory

    Did the pandemic save our marriage? Is marriage worth it?  We believe it is but marriage requires constant updates, sometimes more than an iPhone. In a five-year span, we went from having three children to losing two parents. That emotional roller coaster changed what we needed from each other and forced us to learn how to love one another through grief. Shannon shares how her grief support group helped her heal, while Kareem reflects on the learning curve of supporting a grieving spouse. They also discuss how both partners must communicate their needs during loss, change, and major life transitions. We also share how we grew closer to God after finding a church that welcomed questions, critical thinking, and social justice without feeling judgmental. This Is Not Advice, but our story may make you reflect on grief, growth, and why we still believe marriage is worth it. SB: Kareem discusses going almost a year without getting a haircut during the pandemic. Did Shannon still think he was sexy?

  8. Aug 9

    Episode 2: I Don’t Need Therapy!

    At 29, Kareem was convinced he didn’t need therapy. In his mind, therapy was for “crazy people.” Shannon saw things differently and eventually convinced him to give it a chance. They tried therapy individually and as a couple, hoping it would strengthen their relationship. Instead, therapy forced them to confront uncomfortable truths, better understand themselves, and eventually contributed to a decision neither expected: breaking up. In this honest and vulnerable episode, Kareem and Shannon unpack the stigma surrounding therapy, what counseling revealed about their relationship, and how getting help doesn’t always keep people together—sometimes, it helps you see what needs to change. This Is Not Advice, but their story might challenge how you think about therapy, relationships, breakups, and personal growth. #ThisIsNotAdvicePodcast #CouplesPodcast #RelationshipPodcast #CouplesTherapy #TherapyStigma #MentalHealthMatters #RelationshipGrowth # #MarriageTalk #RealRelationshipTalk #BlackMentalHealth #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #HealthyRelationships #RelationshipLessons #PodcastEpisode #NewPodcast #PodcastRecommendations #BreakupStory #TherapyJourney

  9. Jul 29

    The Petty Files

    What happens when being “right” matters more than being understood? In Episode 1 of This Is Not Advice, Kareem reveals the story behind The Petty Files, a secret photo album filled with “evidence” of everything Shannon supposedly did wrong around the house. 😂📸 It started as a way to win arguments, but years later, they’re unpacking what it really revealed about listening, communication, criticism, ego, and growth in a relationship. Was Kareem being strategic… or just petty? And would you forgive your partner for keeping receipts on you? 🎙️ Listen to The Petty Files now and tell us:Would you ever create a petty file on your partner? #ThisIsNotAdvice #ThePettyFiles #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipPodcast #CouplesPodcast #BlackLove #CommunicationMatters #PodcastEpisode

  • 9 Episodes

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About

This Is Not Advice is a fun, honest, and unfiltered podcast hosted by Kareem and Shannon, a married couple sharing real conversations about relationships, communication, marriage, dating, parenting, growth, and everything in between. Through personal stories, debates, and lessons learned, Kareem and Shannon explore the moments that can bring couples closer or create unnecessary tension. From petty disagreements and communication breakdowns to love, accountability, and personal growth, each episode offers humor, honesty, and practical takeaways. However, this is not advice!

Information

  • Creator
    Kareem and Shannon
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    9
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Kareem and Shannon
  • Show Website
    This Is Not Advice