YKF: Your Kinky Friends w/ Nicholas Tanek

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Nicholas Tanek (Author) and our kinky friends worldwide discuss BDSM, fetishes, music, comedy, lifestyles, romance, and more. Nicholas Tanek is an author, speaker, and podcaster. He is best known for his memoir, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, which chronicles his experiences as a young man in the 90's rave scene and BDSM subcultures. He is the author of the book and podcast, Your Kinky Friends, interviewing people involved in BDSM, kink, and other alternative lifestyles. LIVE interactive Lo-fi Punk Rock Style - No editing.... It's RAW. It is what it is.

  1. Aug 20

    Mischief Matters Radio: Rebecca Blanton (aka Auntie Vice) and Jonnyace

    August 18, 2026 Show Tonight on Mischief Matters Radio Mistress Schari and Catnip will be discussing two very different types of kink with two of the upcoming Presenters at Forbidden Frostland Rebecca Blanton (aka Auntie Vice) is a writer and kink educator. Their work focuses on gender, power, and kink//BDSM. She runs the award-winning blog LoveLettersToAUnicorn.com and has published several books, including The Big Workbook for Submissives, a finalist for the 2018 Golden Flogger Award. In 2026, Jennifer Kingsley Publishing will release their fourth book, Kinky Minds: Navigating BDSM Relationships with Mental Illness or Neurodivergence. She holds a Ph.D. in Political Psychology. Prior to turning her attention to kink education and writing, she served as the Executive Director for the California Commission on the Status of Women and Girls and worked as a Senior Policy Analyst for the California Research Bureau (CRB). While at the CRB, her work on the needs of women veterans gained national attention and is the basis for more than two dozen state and federal laws.They identify as a queer, gender nonconforming, disabled kinkster. Instagram, Fetlife, Facebook, Bluesky, Redditt, TikTok all under @AuntieViceInstagram Podcast under @FatChicksOnTop on Instagram and Tiktok Jonnyace (They/Them) is a queer, non-binary transfemme polyamorous kinkster. They are a certified life coach focusing on gender, sexual, and romantic minorities. Jon leads the Hudson Valley Polyamory Society, as well as being a member of the Ascend Incident Response Team, and the Head DM of Ascend Hudson Valley. They have been in the public kink scene for over a decade, and have been sharing their knowledge with kink communities across the east coast holding classes, demos, and discussion groups on topics including medical play, D/s dynamics, polyamory, and more.  www.gsrmcoaching.com @YourKinkyFriendshttps://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/ YOUR KINKY FRIENDS: http://www.YourKinkyFriends.com

    Mischief Matters Radio: Rebecca Blanton (aka Auntie Vice) and Jonnyace

  2. Aug 14

    YKF Cinema: SPRING BREAKERS (w/ Griselda Venum & Nicholas Tanek)

    "The spring breakers are the scum." Nicholas Tanek sits down with high-protocol dominatrix and one-woman haunted house Griselda Venum to break down Harmony Korine’s cult classic Spring Breakers. We dive deep into the film’s dark underbelly — exploring the BDSM and kink elements, the infamous gun fellatio scene, grooming dynamics, power exchange, and the seductive corruption of youth. Griselda unpacks the twisted masculine/feminine themes, class and race dynamics, poverty vs. hedonistic excess, drugs, crime, and how innocence spirals into chaos. From psychological domination and fear play to real-life parallels with dangerous romance and moral erosion, this is a raw, unfiltered conversation you won’t find anywhere else. If you love Training Day and Pulp Fiction episodes with Griselda, this one goes even harder. "Spring Breakers is a comment on how we live in delusions." Visit: http://www.yourkinkyfriends.com https://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/⁠⁠https://x.com/NicholasTanek⁠ Film Acquisition Consultant: EdWood27 https://fetlife.com/Edwood27 Subscribe to YKF Cinema: @ykfcinema Get 15% OFF at Locked in Lust → Use code: YKF. https://lockedinlust.com/shop/?wpam_id=263 Everything discussed is between consenting adults. Kink is culture. Film is culture. This is where they collide.Spring Breakers | Harmony Korine | James Franco | Kink Analysis | BDSM Movies | Crime Fetish | Psychological Domination

    YKF Cinema: SPRING BREAKERS (w/ Griselda Venum & Nicholas Tanek)

  3. Aug 12

    YKF Cinema: SHORTBUS (w/ Briska & Nicholas Tanek)

    “Who hasn’t had a threesome that started like this?" Rope goddess, proud fem daddy, and poly household leader Briska returns to The YKF Cinema Show for a raw, joyful, and explicit deep dive into John Cameron Mitchell’s cult classic SHORTBUS — the 2006 NYC erotic masterpiece packed with unsimulated sex, chaotic orgies, queer healing, and post-9/11 messiness. Briska reveals how this film literally changed her life as a young sexual health advocate, why it still hits different 20 years later, and how it mirrors real kink community vibes — the good, the messy, the patriotic ass-singing, and everything in between. Consent is sexy. Trauma dumping at sex parties. Dominatrix real talk. Poly negotiations. Vibrating eggs gone wrong. And why this unapologetically raw indie film remains a gateway AND provocation for the kink & queer community. “Short Bus fundamentally changed my life.” "Most people, especially when they’re in this kind of scene, they want to be their best selves." BRISKA on FETLIFE:  https://fetlife.com/Briska Your Kinky Friends (the book that started it all) https://a.co/d/eyW5oYY YKF Your Kinky Friends on http://www.YourKinkyFriends.com @YourKinkyFriends https://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/

    YKF Cinema: SHORTBUS (w/ Briska & Nicholas Tanek)

  4. Jul 3

    YKF Cinema: VIDEODROME (w/ Mistress Genevieve & Peter Tupper)

    Videodrome: The Ultimate Kinky Mindf()ck | YKF CINEMA SHOW - In this special panel episode of the YKF Cinema Show, host Nicholas Tanek dives deep into David Cronenberg’s 1982 masterpiece Videodrome with two incredible guests: professional dominatrix and dark cinema lover Mistress Genevieve and BDSM historian/author Peter Tupper (A Lover’s Pinch: A Cultural History of Sadomasochism). From body horror and media as a virus to masochistic surrender, erotic transformation, and the seductive power of the signal, this conversation explores how Videodrome fuses sex, pain, control, and technology in one of the most transgressive films ever made. The panel breaks down the film’s dominant/submissive dynamics, the “New Flesh” philosophy, and why Cronenberg’s twisted vision still feels dangerously relevant to kink, desire, and modern media. Everything discussed is between consenting adults. Watch now and Long Live the New Flesh. Subscribe + hit the bell for more kink-friendly film discussions! http://www.yourkinkyfriends.com#Videodrome #Cronenberg #BDSM #Kink #MistressGenevieve #YKF http://www.YourKinkyFriends.comCashApp: $YKFtanek https://buymeacoffee.com/tanek https://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/ Produced by Nicholas Tanek & Sunshine Music Theme song by Dan Kilian & The Million Man Band Film Aquisition Consultant: Edwood27 http://www.YourKinkyFriends.com

    YKF Cinema: VIDEODROME (w/ Mistress Genevieve & Peter Tupper)

  5. Jul 2

    Mischief Matters Radio: Date Night Takes On A Whole New Meaning When You're Kinky

    May 19, 2026 Show Mistress Schari explores how alternative lifestyles, BDSM, and fetishes intersect with modern dating. What's it like to be dating someone who is also selling a product, THEMSELF. Is your partner always "on"? How do you navigate their desire to be the center of attention with your desire for ANY attention. Do you work with them, support them, promote them, ignore them? As a kink personality myself, I am sure catnip has plenty to contribute to this discussion. Joining our discussion tonight will be Sunshine, who dates our very good friend Nick Tanek, author and the host of "Your Kinky Friends" podcast. Tonight's episode demystifies "kink personalities," why we are drawn to them, how we can assist them, and what you're really signing up for when you do. http://www. mischiefmatters.com NEW YOUTUBE CHANNEL: THE YKF CINEMA SHOW "Kinky people talking about films." https://www.youtube.com/@ykfcinema http://www.yourkinkyfriends.com The Coolest Way to... by Nicholas Tanek (book) https://a.co/d/0iAaASpM Your Kinky Friends (the book) https://a.co/d/00SQTGAb https://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/

    Mischief Matters Radio: Date Night Takes On A Whole New Meaning When You're Kinky

  6. Jul 1

    Mischief Matters Radio: Forbidden Frostland - Mistress Raina and Raina's Slave

    This week on Mischief Matters Radio, we explore a brand-new convention that's bringing together educators, creators, and curious minds from across the spectrum, including yours truly as one of the Chairs. Forbidden Frostland 2027 is a brand new con bringing together workshops and community building to break down stigma and celebrating self-expression. This episode goes beyond the surface and into what these spaces really mean for the people who attend them. Whether you're experienced, curious, or just interested in understanding more about this often-misunderstood world, this conversation is open, thoughtful, and judgment-free. Tune-in and join Mistress Schari, Catnip, and Co-Chairs Mistress Raina and Raina's Slave for a candid and eye-opening discussion of this very exciting and new venture. https://www.mischiefmatters.com/⁠ The Coolest Way to... by Nicholas Tanek (book) https://a.co/d/0iAaASpM Your Kinky Friends (the book) https://a.co/d/00SQTGAb http://www.YourKinkyFriends.com @YourKinkyFriends https://www.instagram.com/nicktanek/

    Mischief Matters Radio: Forbidden Frostland - Mistress Raina and Raina's Slave

  7. Jun 23

    YKF Cinema: TRAINING DAY (w/ Griselda Venum & Nicholas Tanek)

    Griselda Venum and Nicholas Tanek break down Training Day. They explore the film's layered trauma of rape, the corrosive nature of power, chess versus checkers, Denzel Washington's timeless performance, and the smiles-and-cries duality that makes the movie unforgettable. Was Jake Hoyt the shepherd? And does King Kong have shit on Alonzo? "I always wanted to pistol whip somebody." - Griselda VenumIn this episode of YKFCinema, Griselda Venum and Nicholas Tanek dive deep into the twisted world of Training Day (2001) — the legendary crime thriller directed by Antoine Fuqua and written by David Ayer.We break down the darker themes, power dynamics, temptation, manipulation, and the controversial elements hidden beneath the surface of this unforgettable film starring Denzel Washington as Alonzo Harris and Ethan Hawke as Jake Hoyt.Why is Alonzo one of the most fascinating characters in modern crime cinema? What makes Training Day so intense, psychological, and unforgettable decades later? We explore the film’s symbolism, character relationships, and the uncomfortable themes that made this movie a classic.🎬 Topics Covered:• Training Day movie analysis• Denzel Washington’s Oscar-winning performance• Alonzo Harris character breakdown• Ethan Hawke’s Jake Hoyt transformation• Hidden meanings and psychological themes• Crime thriller movie discussion• Film culture, controversy & cinematic storytellingSubscribe to YKFCinema for more deep dives into movies, characters, and the hidden stories behind iconic films.#TrainingDay #DenzelWashington #EthanHawke #MovieAnalysis #FilmReview #CrimeMovies #YKFCinemaProduced by Nicholas Tanek & Sunshine MusicTheme song by Dan Kilian & The Million Man BandFilm Aquisition Consultant: Edwood27http://www.YourKinkyFriends.com

    YKF Cinema: TRAINING DAY (w/ Griselda Venum & Nicholas Tanek)

  8. May 18

    YKF Cinema: "BARBARELLA" w/ Cassidy Cream

    "I can absolutely blow that machine up." Cassidy Cream educates Nicholas Tanek on the film BARBARELLACASSIDY CREAMHttps://Onlyfans.com/cassidycreamhttps://mistresscassidycreamsmusings.blogspot.com/2024/08/for-fear-tonight-is-all.htmlhttps://allmylinks.com/cassidycream YOUR KINKY FRIENDShttps://yourkinkyfriends.com/Your Kinky Friends(the book that started it all)https://a.co/d/eyW5oYY

    YKF Cinema: "BARBARELLA" w/ Cassidy Cream
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Nicholas Tanek (Author) and our kinky friends worldwide discuss BDSM, fetishes, music, comedy, lifestyles, romance, and more. Nicholas Tanek is an author, speaker, and podcaster. He is best known for his memoir, The Coolest Way to Kill Yourself, which chronicles his experiences as a young man in the 90's rave scene and BDSM subcultures. He is the author of the book and podcast, Your Kinky Friends, interviewing people involved in BDSM, kink, and other alternative lifestyles. LIVE interactive Lo-fi Punk Rock Style - No editing.... It's RAW. It is what it is.

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