Respectfully, You're The Problem

Carolline Jesionowski
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Respectfully, You’re the Problem is a dating, relationships, and healing podcast for women navigating trauma, attachment styles, toxic relationship patterns, hyper-independence, grief, anxiety, and modern dating. Through brutally honest conversations about self-awareness, emotional healing, boundaries, feminine energy, and breaking unhealthy cycles, we’re learning how to build healthier relationships without pretending we have it all figured out. Because sometimes the red flag isn’t them. Sometimes… respectfully, you’re the problem.

Episodes

  1. 2d ago

    Episode 9: How to Get What You Want in Life

    You want the relationship, the opportunity, the money, the peace. But do your daily habits support the life you keep asking for? In Episode 9 of Respectfully, You’re the Problem, we’re talking about how to get what you want—and actually keep it. Because apparently, a vision board does not come with discipline included. We’re getting honest about self-sabotage, emotional capacity, consistency, and the responsibility that comes with “more.” I’m looking at my own life right alongside you: what needs to change, what needs to grow, and what cannot come with me. A little faith, a few uncomfortable truths, and practical steps to start building a life you can sustain—not just fantasize about. Let’s work on our shit, together.

  2. Aug 20

    Episode 8: You're Self Aware, But Still The Problem

    At some point, self-awareness has to become action. You can read every book, listen to every podcast and learn all the therapy language—but if you keep reacting the same way in real life, you’re not growing. You’re memorizing. This episode is about getting out of your head, stepping back into the world and actually using the skills you’ve worked so hard to learn. Because healing isn’t proven by what you know. It’s proven by what you do when life happens.

  3. Aug 13

    Episode 7: Respectfully, You're Exhausting

    Your feelings are valid. But managing them is still your responsibility. In this episode, we break down nervous-system regulation in plain language: what dysregulation actually feels like, why you may constantly need reassurance, and how that pattern can become emotionally exhausting for the people around you. This isn’t about never needing support. It’s about recognizing when you’re asking someone else to repeatedly calm the storm you refuse to learn how to manage yourself. Respectfully, your emotions are real—but they aren’t everyone else’s job.

  4. Aug 6

    Episode 6: Respectfully, Check Your Lens

    Two people can experience the exact same situation and walk away with completely different stories. Why? Because we don’t see things as they are—we see them as we are. In this episode, we’re talking about the invisible lens created by your past, your insecurities, and the parts of yourself you haven’t fully confronted. We’ll break down projection, Carl Jung’s “shadow,” social media assumptions, and how your brain can turn an interpretation into a fact without asking your permission. Because sometimes the situation isn’t the problem. Sometimes, respectfully… you need to check your lens.

  5. Jul 31

    Episode 5: Dating App Survival 101

    The Dating App Survival Guide Dating apps have somehow become the only place where someone can post six photos without their face, write "just ask" as their bio, and still wonder why they're single. In this episode of Respectfully, You're the Problem, we're putting modern dating profiles under the microscope. From bathroom selfies and Snapchat filters to vague bios, group photos, hat collections, and the infamous "I'm fluent in sarcasm," we're breaking down the biggest dating app mistakes people make—and why they matter more than you think. But this isn't just a roast. We'll explore the psychology behind first impressions, attraction, self-awareness, and why the way you present yourself online can either invite connection or unintentionally push people away. You'll learn what actually makes a profile stand out, the subtle mistakes that sabotage your chances, and how to create a dating profile that reflects who you really are. Whether you're swiping on Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, or just here for the entertainment, this episode is equal parts funny, brutally honest, and genuinely useful. Because sometimes... the reason dating feels impossible isn't the apps. Respectfully... it might be your profile. If you want, I can also write a version that's a little more edgy, click-baity, and Spotify algorithm-friendly to help maximize listens.

  6. Jul 23

    Episode 4: Respectfully, Dating Sucks

    Dating sucks… but maybe not for the reasons you think. In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the absolute dumpster fire that is modern dating. From dating apps turning people into online shopping catalogs to ghosting, situationships, terrible first dates, and the completely unhinged dating advice flooding social media, we’re breaking down how we got here—and why dating feels so much harder than it used to. With plenty of laughs, brutally honest stories, and a little psychology, we’ll talk about how technology has changed the way we connect, why endless options aren’t actually helping us, and how to survive modern dating without completely losing your mind. Whether you’re single, dating, or just here for the chaos, this episode will make you laugh, question everything, and maybe even rethink the way you approach relationships. Respectfully… we’re all just trying to survive out here.

  7. Jul 16

    Episode 3: First It Whispers, Then It Screams

    Your body doesn't go from calm to burnout overnight. Relationships don't suddenly fall apart. Life gives you whispers long before it starts screaming—you just have to stop muting them. In this episode, we're talking about the subtle warning signs we ignore in ourselves, our dating lives, and our relationships, why we dismiss our intuition, and how those tiny "beige flags" eventually become the dealbreakers that blindside us. Funny, painfully relatable, and maybe just a little bit of a personal attack.

  8. Jul 11

    Episode 2: Respectfully, You're Not Helping

    You can’t shame someone into becoming a better partner—and you can’t bully yourself into healing either. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between accountability and shame, why criticism often creates defensiveness instead of change, and how the way we communicate can quietly destroy the connection we’re desperately trying to fix. Respectfully… if shame is your strategy, you might be part of the problem.

  9. Jul 9

    Episode 1: Respectfully, You’re the Problem

    Before we talk about dating, relationships, or why you keep choosing the same person in a different body… we have to start with you. In the first episode of Respectfully, You’re the Problem, I’m introducing myself, why I started this podcast, and why self-awareness is the first step to changing your patterns. No shame. No pretending to be perfectly healed. Just uncomfortable honesty, accountability, and figuring out why the hell we do what we do. 🎙️💕

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Respectfully, You’re the Problem is a dating, relationships, and healing podcast for women navigating trauma, attachment styles, toxic relationship patterns, hyper-independence, grief, anxiety, and modern dating. Through brutally honest conversations about self-awareness, emotional healing, boundaries, feminine energy, and breaking unhealthy cycles, we’re learning how to build healthier relationships without pretending we have it all figured out. Because sometimes the red flag isn’t them. Sometimes… respectfully, you’re the problem.

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