Hard to Love

myishathill
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We're all a little hard to love. We get defensive, we go quiet, we protect the soft parts by pushing people away, and then we wonder why the distance grows. Hard to Love is a podcast about what it takes to stay anyway. Each episode is an honest conversation about the messy, tender work of being in relationship, with our people, our communities, and ourselves. We talk about love and conflict and repair not as problems to solve but as a practice to return to, again and again. Because being human with other humans was never meant to be done perfectly. It was meant to be done together. Brought to you by The Heal Your Way Forward Collective, where we believe that healing is relational, that conflict is a teacher, and that the way forward is one we build in collective community.

Episodes

  1. 2d ago

    White People Are Hard To Love

    Whiteness was a trade. The trade was never grieved. And an ungrieved loss cannot imagine, it can only defend or destroy. Quotes: " No one was white before they came here, and becoming white cost people their own history. James Baldwin “We need ritual because it is an expression of the fact that we recognize the difficulty of creating a different and special kind of community. A community that doesn’t have a ritual cannot exist. A corporate community is not a community. It’s a conglomeration of individuals in the service of an insatiable soulless entity.”  Malidoma Patrice Somé  myisha t. hill, Heal Your Way Forward: The Co-Conspirator's Guide to an Antiracist Future - the guidepost of the Heal Your Way Forward Collective  James Baldwin, "On Being White... and Other Lies," Essence (April 1984). The spine of the episode. Malidoma Patrice Somé, Ritual: Power, Healing and Community (Swan/Raven, 1993; reissued by Penguin/Arkana, 1997 Sobonfu Somé, Falling Out of Grace: Meditations on Loss, Healing and Wisdom (North Bay Books, 2003) Noel Ignatiev, How the Irish Became White (1995), and Karen Brodkin, How Jews Became White Folks (1998). Whiteness as an acquisition, with dates. David Roediger, The Wages of Whiteness (1991). What the trade paid. Thandeka, Learning to Be White (1999). How the trade is transmitted inside families. Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother's Hands (2017). The untransformed trauma European peoples carried here before they carried it out on others. adrienne maree brown, Emergent Strategy (2017), and Imarisha & brown, Octavia's Brood (2015). Imagination as political capacity, which is your segment 5 in reverse. If this episode benefitted you consider giving a donation to our collective: https://give.socialgoodfund.org/seedingliberation

  2. Sep 11

    The Art of Staying

    What does it actually take to not walk away? myisha and Jen talk about the difference between rupture and rejection, and the quiet, unglamorous choice to turn back toward someone instead of away.  They get into the stories we tell ourselves when we want to leave, the difference between a boundary and a wall, and what staying asks of our nervous systems. A conversation for anyone who's ever loved someone and wanted to run at the same time. "Relationships are treated like Dixie cups. They are the same. They are disposable. If it does not work, drop it, throw it away, get another." — bell hooks If this episode benefitted you consider giving a donation to our collective: https://give.socialgoodfund.org/seedingliberation

  3. Sep 3

    Why We're All a Little Hard to Love

    We open the season with the premise the whole show is built on: none of us is easy to love, all the time. In this first conversation, myisha and Jen get honest about the ways we guard our softest parts, push people away right when we most want to be held, and mistake self-protection for strength. This isn't a love-is-a-feeling episode. It's the case that love is a practice you return to, on purpose, even when it's hard. Come meet your hosts and the heart of Hard to Love. Consider donation to the HYWF Collective here If this episode benefitted you consider giving a donation to our collective: https://give.socialgoodfund.org/seedingliberation

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We're all a little hard to love. We get defensive, we go quiet, we protect the soft parts by pushing people away, and then we wonder why the distance grows. Hard to Love is a podcast about what it takes to stay anyway. Each episode is an honest conversation about the messy, tender work of being in relationship, with our people, our communities, and ourselves. We talk about love and conflict and repair not as problems to solve but as a practice to return to, again and again. Because being human with other humans was never meant to be done perfectly. It was meant to be done together. Brought to you by The Heal Your Way Forward Collective, where we believe that healing is relational, that conflict is a teacher, and that the way forward is one we build in collective community.

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  • Creator
    myishathill
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    3
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Hard to Love
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