Psychology of Habits (With Jane Smith)

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The Psychology of Habits (With Jane Smith) — Is a show that hands you the reasons behind what you do and leaves you understanding yourself a little better. Hi, I’m Jane Smith. I keep coming back to one question: why do we build the strange routines that shape the youngest version of us? I wanted a place to untangle that curiosity with you. In each episode, I unpack the science into plain sentences, braid in everyday examples and close with a moment that stays with you. I explore friendships, breakups, work stress, money worries and the small rituals that make up adulthood in your twenties. You know that thing you do without thinking? I’m here because I want to know why you do it. New episodes arrive every Monday, Thursday and Sunday at 4:00 AM — think of each one as a little mirror for how your mind drafts its scripts. This is for the twenty-something who’s juggling first jobs and first loves, the friend who questions every decision, and the one trying to pay rent while figuring out who they are. If you want to name a recurring feeling and see where it comes from, this is the place for that. Follow along and let the explanations sit with you like a quiet, curious companion. #psychology #habits #relationships #mentalhealth #worklife

  1. 1d ago

    Six Beliefs About Friendship Breakups Worth Dropping

    You've probably grieved the end of a friendship in silence, with no ceremony, no script, and no one checking in on you. Friendship breakups are one of the least talked about losses, yet they can sit with you for years. The question at the center of this episode is simple but not easy: if you let go of one belief about how a friendship ending is supposed to feel, which belief goes first? Most people carry a set of assumptions about these endings that quietly turn loss into personal failure. This episode works through six of those beliefs, from the idea that a real friendship never fades to the conviction that an ending says something permanent about you. It explores what researchers studying friendship, social transitions, and grief have found about why these beliefs form and what they actually cost. The goal isn't a tidy resolution, it's a different relationship with the ending you've already lived through. Which belief would you drop first? Follow along so you don't miss what's next. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    Six Beliefs About Friendship Breakups Worth Dropping

  2. 3d ago

    The Myth That Made a Science: What the Bystander Effect Story Gets Wrong

    You've probably heard the story. Dozens of witnesses, a murder, and nobody did anything. It's one of the most repeated facts in psychology, and it's shaped how millions of people think about human nature and crowds. When you find out a famous story is mostly wrong, does it change how you act, or just how you feel about having believed it? The gap between the myth and the real research turns out to be bigger than most textbooks let on. This episode traces how a newspaper story from the sixties became a cornerstone of social psychology, what the actual lab experiments found and under what conditions, how the original account was challenged decades later, and what the corrected version means for how we understand helping behavior. The evidence comes from controlled studies, historical journalism, and a reanalysis that called out one of psychology's most cited examples as a parable adopted without checking the source. What you take away isn't a reason to feel cynical about human nature, it's a clearer and more actionable picture of what actually makes people freeze and what breaks that freeze. When you find out a story you've been telling is wrong, what changes for you? Follow along for more episodes like this one. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    The Myth That Made a Science: What the Bystander Effect Story Gets Wrong

  3. 6d ago

    The Invisible Tax of Playing It Safe

    You've probably told yourself you're just being responsible, practical, realistic. But what if the caution you've built your decisions around is costing you something you can't see on any ledger? This episode is about risk tolerance, not as a personality label but as a psychological mechanism that shapes every choice you make without announcing itself. The central question: if the cost of staying safe is invisible, how do you add it up before it's too late to spend it? And there's a deeper confusion underneath it all, because the safe option doesn't actually feel like a choice. It just feels like not doing anything. The episode explores where risk aversion shows up across work, relationships, and everyday habits, then traces why it forms in the first place, from evolutionary wiring to family environment to a single adolescent failure that recalibrates the whole system. Along the way it looks at what research on loss aversion and long term regret actually reveals about the math our brains are doing quietly in the background. What you take away isn't a framework to memorize but a different way of seeing what staying put is actually costing you in real time. If this episode put words to something you've been circling, share it with someone who might need to hear it, and follow along so you don't miss what comes next. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    The Invisible Tax of Playing It Safe

  4. Oct 23

    First Impressions Are Not Forever

    You've probably replayed a first meeting and wished you could go back and redo the whole thing. First impressions shape how people see us, but the science says they're far less permanent than we act like they are. If the version of you that people first met is not who you are now, what would it take to let them see the update? Most of what we've been told about first impressions turns out to be either incomplete or just wrong. This episode explores why the impression you think you gave almost never matches the one that landed, how anxiety might actually be working in your favor, what it really takes to shift an early read someone has of you, and why the person you wrote off in one meeting might be someone worth knowing. Research on snap judgments, impression updating, and the illusion of transparency shapes the conversation without settling for easy answers. You'll walk away with a different relationship to the rooms you've already walked into and the ones still ahead. If this made you think about a first impression you'd like to revise, share it and follow along for more. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    First Impressions Are Not Forever

  5. Oct 21

    Discipline Is Not a Personality Trait

    You've probably told yourself you just lack discipline, that some people have it and you don't, and wondered why motivation never seems to stick around when you need it most. This episode untangles two words that get collapsed into one all the time, discipline and motivation, and asks the question that changes everything: what if motivation is the reward for starting, not the reason to start? Most advice on this gets it exactly backwards, and that mistake is costing people more than they realize. Here we look at where this myth comes from, how it gets mistaken for identity, what it quietly costs over time, and four concrete ways to work with how behavior actually changes. The episode draws on decades of research into self regulation, mindset, and behavioral activation to explain why the pattern feels so personal when it isn't. What you walk away with is a different relationship to the moment before you begin. If this episode made you think of something you've been waiting to feel ready for, share your answer to the closing question and follow along so you don't miss what comes next. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    Discipline Is Not a Personality Trait

  6. Oct 19

    Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You Something

    You've probably apologized for your anger more times than you've actually listened to it. Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions we carry, and the way most people learn to handle it, suppress it, perform it, or vent it out, tends to make things worse. What is your anger trying to tell you that you've been too polite to hear? The gap between managing anger and actually reading it turns out to be the difference between exhausting yourself and understanding yourself. This episode works through six things about anger that tend to arrive too late, including why anger is almost never the first emotion in the room, what the body is already signaling before the brain catches up, and why the conventional wisdom about venting, silence, and timing is more complicated than it sounds. The research behind these ideas spans decades of work on emotion, self regulation, and physiological stress. What you take away is a different orientation to anger entirely, one that treats it as information rather than a problem to contain. What is your anger trying to tell you? Share your answer and follow along for more. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    Your Anger Is Trying To Tell You Something

  7. Oct 16

    The Ten Thousand Hour Myth: What the Real Research Says About Mastery

    You've probably heard that it takes ten thousand hours to become truly great at something. Maybe that number has stopped you before you even started. This episode digs into the research behind the most famous rule in self improvement and asks the question the rule never answers: if ten thousand hours isn't the whole story, what does that leave you free to start today? Because the science and the story turn out to be two very different things. The episode explores why the rule spread so fast and what it actually claimed in the original research, how deliberate practice differs from simply logging hours, what later studies found when they tested the rule across chess, sports, music, and professional fields, and why the rule quietly punishes curiosity and late starters. The evidence here comes from decades of expert performance research, a landmark meta analysis across domains, and the researcher who originated the idea spending years trying to correct how it was understood. What you take away is a clearer, more honest way to think about starting something new. What have you been holding off on because the hours ahead felt impossible? Follow the show so you catch what comes next. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

    The Ten Thousand Hour Myth: What the Real Research Says About Mastery

  8. Oct 14

    You're Not a Fraud. Your Brain Just Thinks You Are

    You do the work, you get the results, and still a quiet voice keeps waiting for someone to figure out you don't belong there. Impostor feelings are one of the most common experiences in professional life, and also one of the most misread. If the feeling never fully disappears for genuinely capable people, what does that actually tell us about what it's measuring? The answer might not be what you'd expect. This episode traces the full arc of that feeling, from where it tends to start to how it gets locked in by a cycle that no outcome can break from the inside. It explores what happens when background noise becomes something that slows the work down, what research suggests about the gap between competence and confidence, and whether the feeling is pointing at a flaw or at something else entirely. The evidence here includes decades of psychology, but filtered through real experience rather than a textbook. If this question stayed with you, share it with someone who always explains away their wins. Follow along for more. To listen to this podcast ad-free and access premium episodes, try our subscription with a 14-day free trial at obomedia.com. © 2026 OBOMEDIA. All rights reserved. This episode and its content (audio, text, and related materials) are the exclusive property of OBOMEDIA and are protected by applicable copyright laws. Reproduction, distribution, editing, or commercial use, in whole or in part, without prior written permission from OBOMEDIA is prohibited. For permissions, licensing, and business inquiries: business@obomedia.com. This episode includes AI-generated content.

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The Psychology of Habits (With Jane Smith) — Is a show that hands you the reasons behind what you do and leaves you understanding yourself a little better. Hi, I’m Jane Smith. I keep coming back to one question: why do we build the strange routines that shape the youngest version of us? I wanted a place to untangle that curiosity with you. In each episode, I unpack the science into plain sentences, braid in everyday examples and close with a moment that stays with you. I explore friendships, breakups, work stress, money worries and the small rituals that make up adulthood in your twenties. You know that thing you do without thinking? I’m here because I want to know why you do it. New episodes arrive every Monday, Thursday and Sunday at 4:00 AM — think of each one as a little mirror for how your mind drafts its scripts. This is for the twenty-something who’s juggling first jobs and first loves, the friend who questions every decision, and the one trying to pay rent while figuring out who they are. If you want to name a recurring feeling and see where it comes from, this is the place for that. Follow along and let the explanations sit with you like a quiet, curious companion. #psychology #habits #relationships #mentalhealth #worklife

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