Kesha Speaks Podcast

Kesha Speaks
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Kesha Speaks is a podcast about marriage, emotional labor, identity, and what happens when women stop disappearing inside other people’s needs. Through personal stories and cultural commentary, Kesha Phillips puts language to the patterns women have been living through so they can see them more clearly and decide what comes next. speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com

Episodes

  1. Oct 26

    Why You Can Speak Your Mind Everywhere Except in Your Marriage

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com It’s funny how a woman can be praised for being strong, capable, and clear about what she wants, then get treated like a problem when she wants more from her husband. Now we need to talk about her tone. Somebody wants to know whether she’s asked nicely. She gets reminded to appreciate what he does, or warned not to nag. Meanwhile, I’d like to know what h…

  2. Oct 21

    When Did Partnership Become Too Much to Ask?

    “Communicate your needs” is reasonable advice. But what happens when you’ve been communicating them for years, and somehow the problem is still how you asked? This isn’t just about chores. It’s about wanting somebody to notice when you’re overwhelmed, make plans sometimes, and be interested in you. It’s about sharing responsibility for your life together without having to supervise his participation. And sometimes, when a woman stops asking, it isn’t because things got better. She’s just tired of having the conversation. I’m curious: Have you ever stopped asking for something you still needed? What made you stop? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com/subscribe

    When Did Partnership Become Too Much to Ask?

  3. Oct 19

    I Knew Something Was Wrong In My Marriage. I Just Kept Explaining It Away.

    This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com There’s a very specific kind of confusion that comes with being in a long marriage or relationship and realizing something ain’t right. Not one bad week. Not a rough patch that can be fixed with a date night. I mean that deeper moment when you start wondering if the relationship you’ve spent years explaining to yourself is the same one you’re actually living in. That’s where we’re starting this four-part series. In Part One, we’re talking about the stories we use to make an unequal, lonely, or exhausting relationship feel okay, and what happens when those stories stop working.

  4. Oct 18

    Why Do I Have to Be Perfect to Say My Marriage Hurt Me?

    There’s a funny little requirement some people have for women talking about their difficult marriages: before you explain what hurt you, please establish that you’ve also been a pain in the ass. Friend, I can provide references. Can we get to my point now? What bothers me is how easily the conversation gets stuck there. A woman starts explaining something that took her years to understand, and suddenly she’s defending whether she has the right to be upset at all. By the time she’s finished proving she’s considered everybody’s feelings, we’ve barely talked about hers. I think that lands with a lot of us because we’ve done it privately, too. I’ve caught myself adding so much context about why my husband did something that I practically talked myself out of being hurt by it. Being fair to him mattered to me. But somewhere in all that explaining, I needed to be fair to myself, too. So yes, we can talk about my part. Let’s just make sure we actually get around to the rest of the marriage. Have you ever told someone what was happening in your relationship and ended up defending why you were hurt? What did they say? This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com/subscribe

    Why Do I Have to Be Perfect to Say My Marriage Hurt Me?

  5. Oct 14

    Doing the Dishes Isn’t Foreplay

    Your husband’s finally doing some of the things you’ve been asking for, and now there’s this little expectation that you should be feeling… appreciative. You are appreciative. The kitchen looks great. You still don’t want to have sex. Now what? Are you being unfair? Is your body supposed to have received an update when he unloaded the dishwasher? This is where “but he’s trying” can get complicated. You can notice the effort and still need time. Especially if you’re not sure whether your husband’s taking responsibility for your shared life or just waiting to see whether his new routine produces the results he had in mind. And honestly, it’s hard to relax and enjoy a change when you can feel somebody checking whether it’s working on you yet. I get into this in my Sex and Desire series, because women already have enough on the list without adding “develop renewed sexual enthusiasm by Thursday.” Has your husband ever started doing more, then gotten frustrated because you still didn’t want sex? I want to hear how that conversation went. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com/subscribe

    Doing the Dishes Isn’t Foreplay
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About

Kesha Speaks is a podcast about marriage, emotional labor, identity, and what happens when women stop disappearing inside other people’s needs. Through personal stories and cultural commentary, Kesha Phillips puts language to the patterns women have been living through so they can see them more clearly and decide what comes next. speakeasy.keshaspeaks.com

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  • Creator
    Kesha Speaks
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    5
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kesha Speaks
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