Toxic Relationship Podcast

Shannon Alder

Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by  Pastor Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left. Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom.

  1. Oct 29

    10 Signs a Narcissist is Testing Your Loyalty and What God Has To Say About This!

    Send us Fan Mail Is your narcissist testing your loyalty? Is he or she just waiting to see how you will react? Let's dive in.  Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

    10 Signs a Narcissist is Testing Your Loyalty and What God Has To Say About This!
  2. Oct 26

    5 Ways Narcissists Use Selective Memory to Deny the Harmed They Caused- God's input on this!

    Send us Fan Mail Is it gaslighting or selective memory? Let's dive into how narcissists deny the harm they caused you.    Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ.  The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027.  Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse.  You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027  Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom.  Support the show

    5 Ways Narcissists Use Selective Memory to Deny the Harmed They Caused- God's input on this!
  3. Oct 22

    10 Signs Your Mistaking a Trauma Bond as Chemistry- How God Can Help!

    Send us Fan Mail Is it a trauma bond or real love? Are you sure it is not insecurity, and you feel like you invested so much you don't want to let go? Let's explore narcissism and trauma bonds with God's Help! Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

  4. Oct 21

    10 Signs You are Caught In a Trauma Bond With a Narcissist and How God Can Help

    Send us Fan Mail Trauma Bonds. What is it? How to avoid being bonded for years. Let's see what God can do to help you. Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

  5. Oct 21

    Why Do I Miss the Narcissist Who Hurt Me? Heal With God's Help.

    Send us Fan Mail Long after the break up you can hurt. It could have been 5 years after the break up and your still hurt from the narcissistic and emotional abuse. Let God help you heal. Let's Dive In! Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

  6. Oct 20

    10 Signs Gaslighting is Rewriting Your Reality and What God Thinks About This!

    Send us Fan Mail You could be in the dark because of gaslighting. Do you know what that means? Here are 10 signs you're being gaslit and what God thinks about it? Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder host the podcast. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

  7. Oct 19

    5 Ways to Release Self Blame for Not Seeing the Abuse Sooner- How God Can Help

    Send us Fan Mail Stop feeling awful for not seeing your ex-narcissist or emotional abuser for who they really are. However, let's not walk into another relationship making the same mistake. Let's see how God can help you out of your self-blame.  trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom. Support the show

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Welcome to The Toxic Relationship Podcast, a Christian-centered channel helping women and men recognize toxic relationship patterns, recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, break trauma bonds, rebuild healthy boundaries, and rediscover their identity in Christ. The podcast is hosted by  Pastor Jake O’Connell and bestselling author and Relationship Life Coach Shannon L. Alder. Shannon is best known for The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Bible, a Christian guide to healing from narcissistic abuse. The book appeared on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and spent several weeks at number one in its Amazon category. Shannon’s next book is The Narcissistic Abuse Bible Companion: I Left. Now What? Life After Narcissism, will be out next year.  We discuss all types of relationship topics. Next year, Shannon’s other book, Christian Daughters of Borderline Personality Mothers, will be out. We'll discuss that in March 2027. Subscribe to The Toxic Relationship Podcast for honest conversations, Christian encouragement, practical relationship guidance, and hope for life after abuse. You can also join our Facebook community, Staying Positive University, for uplifting quotes, helpful articles, and encouragement for survivors. Visit ShannonAlder.com to learn about upcoming books on toxic relationships and abuse, subscribe to our newsletter, and receive 20% off our next book on narcissism, due out in July 2027 Subscribe today and begin your journey from surviving to healing—and from healing to freedom.