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Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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Jamilah Lemieux, Zak Rosen, and Elizabeth Newcamp share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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    Supporting Gender Expression and Exploration

    Supporting Gender Expression and Exploration

    On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a parent whose first grader got mad at her for looking up ‘girl sweaters’ online. The first grader has also previously said that they want to be a boy, not a girl. Our letter writer wants to be supportive but doesn’t know if she should go all-in or sit back and let her kid reveal who they are. 

    Additional resources: 
    The Center
    How to Be a Girl 
    Supporting My Nonbinary Teen (Part one of ‘Teen Talk’) 

    We also have an exciting update from the listener who couldn’t handle the seat-belt war and occasionally let them drive unbuckled. 

    Recommendations: 
    Jamilah recommends chicken with miso caramelized apples, based on this pork chop recipe. 
    Elizabeth recommends Dot to Dot In the Sky: Stories of the Aurora by Joan Marie Galat
    Zak recommends this Naomi Fisher Twitter thread on child development

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

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    • 23 min
    Please Stop Shrieking!

    Please Stop Shrieking!

    On this episode, the hosts give advice to a mom whose daughter is having a hard time processing big emotions, which has been leading to frequent meltdowns. They’ve tried pretty much everything she can think of but the shrieking still persists. She’s worried about her daughter being in these prolonged states and, furthermore, they’re concerned that if the screaming continues, a neighbor will call the authorities. It’s a really tricky situation and Jamilah, Zak, and Elizabeth have some suggestions. 

    Then on Slate Plus, they discuss setting boundaries with grandparents.

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    Podcast produced by Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola and Rosemary Belson.
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    • 33 min
    I'm Ashamed Of My Son

    I'm Ashamed Of My Son

    On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a mom who is ashamed of her teenager’s behavior. Her son and a friend were using the word ‘gay’ as an insult when talking about her son’s best friend behind his back. She’s already talked with him but she doesn’t know where to go from there. 

    Recommendations: 
    Jamilah recommends Black Panther: Wakanda Forever. 
    Elizabeth recommends the books Fatty Legs and When I Was Eight. 
    Zak recommends the Arthur podcast. 

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

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    • 24 min
    How To!: Parent Your Depressed Teen With Carvell Wallace

    How To!: Parent Your Depressed Teen With Carvell Wallace

    On this bonus episode from our friends at Slate's How To! podcast: As Kate’s teenage son, Sam, approached college she noticed him withdrawing. He wasn’t excited about his future and started to show symptoms of major depression. It came to a crisis point one summer night before Sam was set to leave for school. In the weeks and months that followed, Sam struggled to navigate the mental health system in search of care. And Kate? Kate was left wondering how she could help her son without being overbearing. On this episode of How To!, guest host Carvell Wallace brings on Dr. Christine Moutier, psychiatrist and the chief medical officer for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. She advises Kate and all of us on how to be appropriately supportive, especially when things get to a scary place. She also reveals how she coped when her own teenager experienced a mental health crisis. 

    Resources:
    If you or anyone you know is in crisis, dial 988 or text TALK to 741741. 
    American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
    AFSP’s Real Conversation Guides

    If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Stop Being Anxious” 

    Do you have a question without an answer? Send us a note at howto@slate.com or leave us a voicemail at 646-495-4001 and we might have you on the show.

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    • 43 min
    Does the Spirit Of the Game Matter?

    Does the Spirit Of the Game Matter?

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak are joined by author and editor, Travis Nichols. He wrote a wonderful piece for Slate all about his son’s strategic, unique approach to youth baseball. He figured out that if he doesn’t swing at pitches, he’s more likely to get on base. It was incredibly effective… but not in the spirit of the game. What’s a parent to do in that situation? 

    Recommendations: 
    Travis recommends voting in the Georgia runoff election. 
    Zak recommends finding some long, thermal underwear.
    Jamilah recommends this chocolate banana cake recipe from Joy of Baking.
    Elizabeth recommends art from Andrea Nelson on Instagram. 

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    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

    Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.
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    • 35 min
    Wrangling Preschool Tornadoes

    Wrangling Preschool Tornadoes

    On this episode: Elizabeth, Jamilah, and Zak help a mom who feels like her house is in chaos. She wants to know what rules and expectations she can have of her kids now they’re approaching preschool. Can they help out with chores? Should they be expected to not fight at the dinner table? What, if any, punishments are acceptable? 

    They talk about Julie Beck’s article, Why Did We All Have the Same Childhood? on Slate Plus. 

    If you enjoy this show, please consider signing up for Slate Plus. Slate Plus members get an ad-free experience across the network and exclusive content on many shows—you’ll also be supporting the work we do here on Mom and Dad are Fighting. Sign up now at slate.com/momanddadplus to help support our work.

    Join us on Facebook and email us at momanddad@slate.com to ask us new questions, tell us what you thought of today’s show, and give us ideas about what we should talk about in future episodes. 

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    • 28 min

Customer Reviews

4.4 out of 5
952 Ratings

952 Ratings

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One of my very favorite podcasts

I love this show so much!

No shade to the current hosts, but I highly recommend going back to early 2017 when Carvell and Rebecca joined the show and listening through all of the episodes those two are on. They have so many incredibly thoughtful, personal, and funny discussions. The conversations from that time are so comforting, I’ve been listening to them lately when I can’t sleep.

There are now more ads and less content, but I still look forward to this show every week and enjoy the current contributors.

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They are called children for a reason

They eat dirt so why would you allow they to choose who they ‘think’ they want to be for the rest of their lives at 5
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