Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

I have listened to this podcast since I accidentally found it years ago while single and not even planning on having kids. I am now pregnant and feel so much more confident about knowing what to do when the time comes. I love the various scenarios that cover wide variety of topics. Thank you so much!!

To those who say the advice is to “let them”- are not understanding Janets messages. She helps us understand that all children have big feelings and just need our love and help. She explains how to weather the storm of letting them have their dramatic age appropriate feelings when we as parents set reasonable boundaries. The world does not revolve around a child with healthy boundaries and limits - hello an adult who understands and accepts their own feelings because they were listened to and respected as a child. Natural consequences, what is reasonable to expect and empathy towards parents too - a must listen if you want to have a yell and guilt free, respectful loving relationship with your child.

One of the key takeaways from Janet’s show is that the real work is with yourself - what triggers you, what brings up traumatic memories of your own childhood, what makes you unable to hold a boundary, what scares you? These are the deeper questions behind our relationship with our kids because they reflect and magnify all of these insecurities back to us and until we face these hard truths, we will repeat patterns. That’s the core message here and one I resonate with and constantly need reminding. I’m so glad to have Janet on my side during these moments of doubt and cheering me on! We can do this!

The host and guest take too long to discuss solutions and when they do get zip through them and I can't remember what they've said. The podcasts are too long.